A couple of notes about my profile

You may have seen some of my pics before. I made a new, more accurate profile. My former profile incorrectly listed me as a dominant. I am definitely not. Could I play one on TV? Probably. But I am definitely submissive.

Also, I have nearly every box checked in the seeking area because for friendship, which is primarily what I am seeking, it does not matter what your role is. Friends are friends. You could be a Purple People Eater for all I care. 

Now onto my actual profile.

What a long, winding road it has been these last 20 or so years. The last three years have been really eye-opening. It is very interesting what changes occurred when estrogen began coursing through my body. 

The largest change, apart from the most obvious one, is the change to my orientation. I used to be attracted solely to women. Now I am attracted to men. Not long after that flip came the realization I am submissive.

Another change pertains to my social abilities. I used to have bad social anxiety. I was an outcast. I had few close friends and that was it. Now? I’m the total opposite. “When I walk in the room, I can still make the whole place shimmer,” — Taylor Swift, “Bejeweled.” Such confidence may seem to suggest dominance. But I assure you, I am not. I just know who I am.

One holdover from my former life is I do not care what other people think. They will either like me or they won’t. Those who like me will be my friends. Those who don’t really don’t matter. 

A friend once described me as someone who will light herself on fire to warm others, only to be consumed by the flames. Luckily, other friends describe me as a phoenix. So I guess I’ll just keep rising from my own ashes.

Friendship is always welcome. As I said before, that is my primary reason for being here. Friendship has to be the basis for a BDSM relationship even more so than a regular one, at least in my opinion. If there is not a solid foundation of compatibility and friendship, anything romantic is doomed to fail. If you cannot enjoy each other's company when the ropes come off, what's the point? Not to mention the fact that in our current society, entering into any S and M activity without a baseline of trust is just incredibly careless. And I can’t afford to be careless. Having recently realized I am a masochist, carelessness would be very bad.

If you come to me expecting instant submission, you will be disappointed. I am a lady first, submissive second. Both make up the core of who I am, but if you cannot respect the lady, you will not earn her submission. And she will never wear your marks.

Feel free to say hi or ask me questions. I will try to answer all messages. Just be sure you want to know whatever answer you are looking for. I do not hold back.

“We live as though the world is as it should be, to show it what it can be,” — Angel, from the TV series of the same name.