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Everyone Needs Someone who can Handle their Darker Sides.
Anything short of this is just playing a role
The Equalitarian Dominant
The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction. Usually just a mention or short learning situation is necessary to obtain a certain interaction. Both the Dominant and the submissive get it, need very little, so called training and naturally know what the other needs after interaction. This Dominant does not like the situation of constantly repeating and forcing a particular behavior (submission) to occur. It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the ive and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These are the more intellectual, into the philosophypsychology mechanism of this lifestyle. They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many rules like the Democratic type , nor do they like the heavy SM activities preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. She wants to as a result of the Dominants knowledge and skill at Dominating. Sensuousness is the rule and pain is given and received as a of sensuous stimulation. Light pain as opposed to severe. Sensuous torture is a popular activity in this area. Both the Dominant and the submissive must be naturally this way. These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way. They fully understand the concept of Ds - it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the dominant is communicating and be able to translate that into the right thing to do. The doing or saying without having to be told type. The submissives beg easily and surrender sweetly. They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning with little or no additional instructions. They embrace the surrender gratefully and lovingly. These individuals usually the most intimate of relationships, the closest. There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts, but can make it happen too and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode. The fact that these things come forth naturally and without the need for orders or rules are a great affirmation and source of pride, satisfaction and loving. Just as the strictness and forbearance without the need for orders or rules of the AuthoritarianTotalitarian situation affirms pride, satisfaction and loving.
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