This is copied from my previous profile from when I was in a lifestyle D/s relationship:
Tips For Submissives (and Dominants too):
1. The dominant is in charge because the submissive says so. My Girl follows my lead because it is in her nature and because she trusts me. What I say goes, as long as I meet my responsibilities and take care of her mentally, emotionally, and physically.
2. About Safewords: safewords are USEFUL. I like them because as a dominant I do not want to make a mistake and hurt my Girl. She uses safewords to let me know that there is something wrong when I might not realize it. Maybe a wrist has gone dangerously numb, or I have touched an emotional nerve she didn't know about.
3. Be willing to say, "This isn't working for me". Then you can talk about it. It might be that a small change will address your concern and enable your dominant to have what he/she wants.
4. Be willing to say, "I really don't like this but I am OK with it if you want to do it". There have been times when I started doing something because I though she would enjoy it, not because it was something I enjoyed. It would have been a waste if I had kept doing it and neither of us enjoyed it much! On the other hand, there are things I enjoy that she really dislikes, but she has told me I can do them if I want to.
5. Be willing to make mistakes...then learn from them.
I can't consider myself an "Experienced Dominant" since I have only been in a D/s relationship for about 6 years. In a way I think that gives me an advantage. I KNOW I don't know everything, not even close. |