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| -- NOT CURRENTLY LOOKING-- Catching up with old friends--
You:
You are self-aware. You know you have a controlling nature and you accept that. Maybe you've even been to therapy for it. (That's actually a plus.) Somewhere along the way, you caught yourself making a bad situation worse because you could, you caught yourself rejecting a good situation because you could, and you realized that it didn't really mean you were in control of it all. You realized you were being an ass, and so [pause] you stopped. (That part's important.) Perhaps this realization came with maturity or via a moment of transcendental clarity. Perhaps there was tragedy and it humbled you. In any case, you accept the good that comes to you now. You let it flow, and amplify. Whether it's a perfect avocado, or the woman you've been waiting for, you love and cherish every second of the good times.
When the bad times come, you recognize them for the test that are. You understand that they have little to do with what you deserve, beyond being an opportunity to demonstrate your resolve. You double-down. You work harder to stay focused and bring in all the good that you can to actively keep the balance.
You've heard the saying, if it's not easy, it's not meant to be and thought it was the dumbest fucking thing you've ever heard. -Ever- (and you once heard someone say their favorite color was clear). There's a fine line between letting go, and giving up. Not being one of those people who expects that life owes them something, you let go of what's bad, and never quit on what's good. In other words, you don't define good or bad by how hard you have to work for it.
When it comes to us, you make it easy, by letting it be easy.
I make it easy, because I'm grateful for the gift that you are.
The self-awareness described above is the prerequisite, and now you're ready to take care of someone else.
If that someone else is me, you're so self-aware that you're even aware that some of your habits and motivations are- well - beyond your awareness. You're always listening, so I can point it out in my tender way, with barely a whisper. You trust me to fill in the blanks, as I trust you. I trust you because you've never taken advantage. You've never tried to skew my sense of reality to keep me looking to you for guidance, and you've even read up on the fact that this is something controlling types tend to do. You understand your tendancies. You know your triggers. I rarely have to call you out on them. That's not the role we want for me.
You're self-monitoring and consistent,so when you speak, I listen.
There will be the challenges that life will bring, but we will not bring unnecessary pain to each other, emotionally.
Physically, I'm the outlet that you need when you crave dominance.You pin me down when you push inside me. You bruise me where no one can see. You crave perfect silence in the wake of your clear instructions, and I give it all to you.
I don't expect that many of you have read this far, and that's by design.
It's not a numbers game. I want few messages, and fewer dates. Ultimately, there's only one I want. The one who has worked so hard to become the man he is today. Your journey started a lifetime ago, and it's led you right to me.
Me:
I like day to day vanilla-ish with rules and hands-on punishment and being tied up. I like when you hit me because you can, too. I have limits. Tons of them, and I hope they're things you have no interest in. I'm on here to find someone I like, who is into bdsm. I'm not on here to find someone who is into bdsm and then try to like them. Strangers who ask endless fetish questions creep me out. If your love life is defined by your need to p!ss on someone, I'm not your girl. I don't like to feel like I'm holding you back from what you truly desire. I pair best with a man whose desire to nurture is stronger than his desire to cause pain. Afterall, it's for my own good. ;) More to come.
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There are not many 6ft Asians in real life. |
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I've dated some very real doms. WE MEET (in person, never on video). They inspire a desire to please. They take time to build trust. I don't have a desire to please people on the internet that I've never met (not even when your texts are very witty and your picture makes you appear to be good-looking).
Cart before the horse kind of thing in my eyes... Im surprised I even need to explain this, but some of you want that. No hard feelings and let me save us both the time.
Some of you are chuckling. I like you.
Can I call you Chuckles? |
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Hodge-podge of things that I took out of my profile:
Or not- There I go again, tapering what I want to what's readily available. Sometimes I don't ask enough. It's the kind of thing I need you to help me with. Perhaps this time I'll want more than what fits neatly. My want will spill over the sides and the world will have to handle overflow. Let it open up wider to take me...
Age- Over 46 going to bulk filter
You are: Single. Want kids. Living in NY or frequently traveling here with solid plans to move.
As a matter of fact, if you feel comfortable being uber-critical and slathering bullshit all over a nice day, it probably has something to do with the boredom you experience as a result of your characteristically blessed life, and you're going to stop reading now because what I'm saying is confusing your brain, and insulting your ego and we've already discussed the fact that your prone to giving up. So...
Toodaloo!
If this all makes perfect sense to you, you're probably a little fucked up- or once were- and you've since put some effort into unfucking youself. That's all I'm looking for really - the effort. Perhaps you have been through more than your share and you still have a hard time relating to those who haven't. That's OK. I have trouble relating too, and if you're like me you know that watching others have fortune that their too spoiled to see doesn't make you jealous, it makes you lonely.
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| Age: 45 |
| Dayton,
Ohio |
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