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I enjoy the mental aspect of BDSM. The physical aspects simply send signals to the brain, and its how the brain then interprets those signals I find fascinating. Its not about the king, or having a nipple grabbed and twisted, its how those activities under certain circumstances result in that need to submit being fulfilled.



I enjoy training. I believe that positive reinforcement is the ideal training method. A submissiveslave has to be sure of herself. She needs the reassurance that the person she is, deep down inside, wont be rejected. She needs a place where she can stop pretending to be what those in her vanilla life expect her to be, and simply be her true self, without the fear of rejection, or that something must be wrong with her.



I understand that a dominant has to first look at himself if a girl fails in a task, because its the roll of the dominant to give her the ability and tools to not fail. The dominant has to understand the submissiveslave, and should help her better understand herself. He has to understand what her real needs are, even if she doesnt understand them herself. This is done by asking the right questions.



The submissiveslave has to be able to trust her dommaster to decide when and how those needs she has, will be fulfilled. She needs to trust that he has her best interest in mind. She needs to trust him enough to be open and honest about those aspects of herself that she has kept hidden, so he can best understand her needs.



A dominant has to understand that when she does this, she leaves herself open and defenseless against him, and know that she is trusting him with everything she is.



Dominating someone isnt about constantly barking orders or seeing how far you can push them. Its also not about forcing someone to submit. Submission can not be forced. It has to come from within the other person, when they chose to submit. This of course goes back to my first statement about enjoying the mental aspects.



That is my thinking about the life.



As for the type of person I am... I am rather analytical. I like scifi and fantasy. I enjoy talking to people who are new, and trying to figure things out.



I am not interested in men or trans at all. Its just me, its how I am wired. When I was in college, i shared a 2 bedroom condo with a roommate who was gay. He had some fun parties, and so I had opportunities, but there was never any interest, and I can honestly say nothing has changed since then in that respect. So I am looking for a submissive women or those that would identify as slaves. If would be nice if they were somewhat local as well.



I like to be vanilla in public. There are discrete ways to play in public. I expect them to keep the aspects of their vanilla lives they deem important. A red flag for anyone should be a dominant that tries to isolate a submissiveslave from her vanilla friends or family.



What I am looking for in a subslave... My main interests revolve around pet play with humiliation and ification. Owning someone as a pet is of great interest to me. Watching them as they become aroused while being humiliated and degraded is a big turn on. Mind you, its the humiliation itself causing the arousal in the pet, that I find so appealing. I like to be strict, while being kind with a gentle voice, unless harsher tones are needed in a particular instance. If someone is interested in being a pet, and want to see how far they can go with it, then say hello and admit the best pet one could ever own would be a penguin.


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DemonicDomina666
 
 Age: 29
 Utica, New York