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I am here to find my slave, someone whose nature is or needs the reality of being a slave, owned property, even a prisoner. {Or a couple, f\m or f\f}
Strict structured life of captivity, work and service. This is about my nature, needing to control my slave's life. It begins with Power Exchange, you entrusting me with direction of your life so we can both live our true selves.
I value intelligence and good character, among other things. This is not about a vanilla romance with kinky bedroom fun. I can teach, I am flexible, but this requires commitment and a more intense intention than many here seek.
We will communicate via CS private mail, then IM and then on to Cam and Phone. Intelligent, meaningful communication is required; it should be desired by all genuine and sincere people who seek any kind of positive relationship.
I have been forewarned that Most here are liars and useless. Bullshit and brevity will cause an end to contact.
[NO----- my messages to you are not copy/paste, but written to you individually; As I am the same person with the same perspective, intentions, nature and needs, I may use similar phrases and thoughts, but I write each one new.]
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This reflects the truth of my perspective, it came to me as I was writing someone this morning:
I am a man who seeks a female who recognizes and accepts the natural order. For me it is not role play or sessions or about sex-- it is about the way life should be lived, Master and slave, Owner and owned, Male Superiority -female inferiority <which has nothing to do with intrinsic value or worth; there are lots of inferior, useless and even evil males>.
"prison" is not about lifelong time in a cell (though for some it can be.) It is the slave being bound to my will, needs and pleasure. It is not prison for a female whose nature is to be owned by and in service to a man. Time confined is understood to be part of that whole life.
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I genuinely feel bad for those who are here with shallow, hateful and/or deceitful intentions. They obviously have severe insecurities and problems that they need to derive pleasure from trying to upset someone. It is truly sad.
Good luck to you. I hope your life gets better. |
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I wrote this to someone today, it may give you a better sense of me as a serious man who is also sane, responsible and realistic.
I live for control. you are aware that you need to be controlled and respond best when a responsible, reasonable person assumes that control of your life. Control is not about the physical aspects; it is emotional and psychological; the more you feel safe and cared about, the more you feel you can trust your master, the easier living your slave nature becomes, the deeper you can go for Him.
The long-term unequal power dynamic I intend has a superior/inferior aspect to it. Slaves are essential to masters, they enable us to live our natures as we enable them to live theirs. There is a very pronounced difference in us, not referring to gender, but our true natures and what we each need to feel whole.
I hope you are genuine and prepared for meaningful conversation. |
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I am looking for someone who intuitively understands the value and need of excellent communication. A woman who is Honest and Honorable; rare among the "female slaves" here.
Not a difficult concept.
I intend a relationship, not play sessions or part-time, a shared life in which we can live our natures. Sex is not the central focus of my life.
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Someone commented in her profile that she is always wanting to understand, asking questions. Such a habit stops the flow of communication and may actually hinder understanding.
The need to "understand" is generally more than curiosity or a thirst for knowledge; it is about control- if I know enough, understand enough, I will be better protected from whatever (often nameless) terror or threat might approach me or invade my life.
Letting go, just following and entrusting another with your life, learning to stop challenging and resisting, if harder than receiving lashes.
That inner peace comes not from rigid understanding nor rational explanations but letting go and accepting, surrendering to another, to life, to the energies and reality instead of attempting to control with your rational mind.
The mind is awesome. It can also be limiting, focused on material world aspects and ignoring the non-tangible facets of life it can be an anchor that prevents one from a fluid voyage.
Listen with what lives within you. You do not Need to know how electricity works or what diameter wires are run from light fixture to switch or the manufacturer of the switch in order to turn the light on.
If you require that a master describes everything in exact detail, including why he choose that interaction or technique of another one, or what he intends to do, in precise detail, you will lose some of the essence you could learn from and be nourished by.
Of course, one must be wise and discern who can be trusted; knowledge is useful and important, I am not advocating that anyone should close her eyes and mind- being observant and open to receive all kinds of wisdom and energy is good.
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~~~copied, with permission, from SapiosexualGirl
For all those people who seem to think that a sub and a slave are one and the same, they are NOT.
A submissive renews the choice to submit, every time a demand is levied upon her.
A slave makes a one time choice to submit, up front, and thereafter it is incumbent upon her to obey. To elaborate, then....
SUBMISSIVE:
At the heart of submission is both the choice to submit, and the option to say "No". The submissive decides how much authority she will cede to another, how much control she will bow to, and what aspects of her life she will surrender to His command. The submissive power exchange is about choice. She has the option to decide how she feels about a demand, and what she is going to do about it. At any point that the sub is not comfortable with this arrangement, it is within her rights to say "No, I'm not going to do that". This becomes a signal to the couple that they need to renegotiate something. It does not completely derail the power dynamic between them, though she does have the option, at any point, to leave the relationship and not return. A submissive who is controlled in large tracts of her life (her sexuality, work, dress, social habits, etc), may fall into a space of obedience where orders in those arenas are never mulled over or reassessed (in the sense of "renewing the choice to submit every time a demand is levied upon her"). This is not counter to the definition I offer above, but a special subset thereof. Even for such a closely-controlled submissive, there remains some areas of her life, or aspect of her person, where she retains autonomy, or where it is her option to decide if she wishes to submit in the moment. In short: a submissive chooses to submit, and has the option to say "no" to a Dominant's command. How, then, does consensual slavery differ from submission?
SLAVE:
*First and foremost, M/s slavery hinges upon a commitment to obedience. The slave does not revisit issues such as "should I submit?" or "How do I feel about that? Will I say yes or no?" When an order is issued, whether or not the slave agrees with it, she is obedient in the same manner that a soldier is who has enlisted in the military.
*Secondly, in consensual slavery, a slave gives herself over to the control of her Owner as completely as is humanly possible. This means not only a high degree of obedience, but that there is actually a chattel property context to the relationship. It is a mutual understanding of Ownership and property status that arises between the parties. While both slaves and submissives are often fondly referred to as "property", in the sense of consensual slavery the slave becomes literally (by mutual agreement) the property of the Owner. Unlike a submissive, a slave does not have the right to remove her collar, end her service to her Master, or leave the dynamic. Period. It is not unheard of for slaves to be sold or given away by their Owner, should He become terminally ill, and for the slave to go willingly to a new Owner of His choosing, for the remainder of her life.
*Thirdly, a slave cannot say "No" without completely abrogating the very basis of the Master/slave agreement. A "No" from a slave is a terminal deal-breaker in a way that it is not such for a submissive.
IT IS NOT A SPECTRUM: D/s Submissives are commonly viewed as falling upon a spectrum. At one end is one who submits very little, or only in a scene-delimited context. At the other, is one who submits as a constant in a lifestyle context and is very controlled, and everyone else falls somewhere in between. The big error occurs when people assume that a slave is simply another point on that spectrum. That she is a more extreme form of submissive than is found in the ordinary range of submission. To think this is to fundamentally misunderstand the internal dynamics of slavery. A slave is not an uber-sub...someone "more" submissive than the "ordinary" submissive.
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I asked someone today:
Just what is it you seek, need, have to offer and intend?
My own response:
I seek an honest female whose nature is to Live as a slave; I need someone who understands the Owner/owned power dynamic and that she will not be the free woman she always has been, center of attention, making choices, her preferences mattering, manipulating the world. I have intelligent, responsible, caring ownership to offer. I guide as well as force, I am aware both of my rights-prerogatives over the slave and my responsibility to control her life wisely and for her benefit as well as mine. I intend to share life with one or more sincere people, a life in which all can live their natures freely, in an Owner and owned relationship.
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The Victorian Household was based on the Knowledge that men are superior in most ways, and definitely better qualified to make decisions and lead, that everyone in the household Belonged to the Man.
The 1950s household was founded on the idea of equal gender importance but that a male-led household was natural and essential for everyone's benefit and that the male's concerns and perspective were paramount.
Lifestyle BDSM [my opinion] is based on a tpe- Master/slave relationship in which the mental and emotional connections are supported and re-enforced by intense, even challenging physical-sexual interactions in which the male controls, uses, enjoys the female. Her place in life is to fulfill his will. She relinquishes control of her life to Him, entrusting Him to ensure her well-being on every level, but knowing her own comfort, pleasure and preferences are not priorities.
[ Yes, I Know that power dynamics other than male-dom/fem-sub can have a similar structure. ] |
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I am someone who does not fit in the norms of society. I live for control- the full spectrum, from teaching to humiliation, bondage, discipline and more.
If you were my slave you can expect daily inspections, discipline and forced servitude.
I love a wide spectrum of BDSM, but this life is about a power dynamic in which one is in charge of the other(s). I also like sensuality, walks by my creek and other vanilla things.
One can share dark energy and still have intelligent conversation, enjoy sensuality and cooking together.
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Two questions in a profile today:
Are slave women 'weak' women? Only in the way the conformist world sees them-
It requires much for an intelligent, capable woman with inner strength to channel her energies into belonging to, obeying, pleasing, serving her master and enduring whatever is required of her. The best slaves are strong, without being strong they would neither be as capable of serving well nor be as desirable.
Can there be romance in a 24/7 TPE-BDSM relationship? Of course.
Not everyone wants love, not every Master/slave couple shares that kind of relationship. But one can be a true slave woman, owned and controlled by her owner and still share an affectionate, loving, positive relationship. People all over the world do so. The vanilla-conformist-normal world does not understand, one's own conditioning and upbringing might cause inner conflict and confusion at times. Neither daily humiliation and discipline nor being forced to obey and please your owner prevents there being a loving foundation too. It is unlikely to be the romantic expectations of the vanilla world but actually deeper connections and more complete intimacy is possible.
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I seek an honest female whose nature compels her to be a true slave, as mine compels me to be a master. We have different natures with different rights and responsibilities and manner of expressing those natures. Intrinsic equality is not sameness of how we live.
I am an emotional, intense, forceful man, also intelligent, responsible, observant and deliberate. I am flexible, don't use a playbook with ed interactions; how I interact with a person varies, as each slave is different. I am human, not some character out of a book or movie.
I Live for Control; the life I offer is 24/7, live-in, total power exchange, includes bdsm. My slave will give me obedience, pleasures, service-oriented submission and endure whatever I require of her. I will give her the structure, security of being controlled and assurance that she is wanted and appreciated. We will share life. She will always be my slave, whatever others might perceive.
This life is much more than kinky sex and BDSM; it is built on Total Power Exchange, which requires truth, trust, vulnerability and trustworthiness of both Master and slave.
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Hey, are you genuine, honest, sincere, truly seeking relationship, connection and a shared reality that allows both of us to live our different but complementary natures?
Then don't let doubt creep into the relationship. Nothing spoils potential worst that mistrust, doubt and behaviors that are similar to those who are not honest and sincere. So often people here are not consistent, do not follow through, their words and actions contradictory that even when honest people inadvertently do likewise the other person gets wary, cautious, wondering about the truth of the person.
If you are interested, then show it, live it, don't take the other's interest for granted. Live your words, be consistent and always Honest, always communicating.
Treat others as you would be treated. Should I write one thing and then do another?
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The best iron and steel is forged under high heat and pressure, beaten constantly, folded over on itself, beaten more, heated more and then plunged into cooling water.... then more intense heat, more beating, more pressure, more heat, folded over, beaten down, heated and cooled.... until in the end it is hard, can be sharpened, polished to a magnificence shine. A prized sword or set of manacles or suit of armor; distinctive, strong, beautiful and useful.
Similarly a slave. The point is not to damage or destroy you, but make you strong, more brilliant, practical, useful, pleasing and beautiful. This is what I offer.
I love these words:
"My dream is real slavery, means 24/7-TPE. I hope to find a very strikt and stern but also empathetic master to setup a real D/s life."
"My desire is a life where i will be solely a slave. A life where my solely reason to stay alive is to serve my Master and Owner, to fullfill his desires and suffer for him."
This is how it ought to be. Too few, slave or master, understand this. |
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copied from YourShadowGirl
There is a lot of confusion between the concepts of being a slave and being a submissive. A submissive is involved in BDSM scenes and plays the submissive one. Furthermore a submissive usually wants to have things done to her to give her pleasure.
On the other hand a slave has once and for all given away all freedom and all rights to her Master. Her purpose is solely to focus on her Master and do as she is told by him. A slave is always 24/7 as it is not possible to be a part time slave.
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Both require honesty, vulnerability, trustworthiness and trust.... but for the slave the Master-Owner being trustworthy, observant and responsible, having the well-being of the slave in his heart and mind, is critical.
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Hello
It is all about the slave relinquishing control, entrusting control of her life, her future, her growth and balance to the Owner she chooses.
That is the essence... Total Power Exchange, formed of honesty, vulnerability, and Trust. |
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