When I am trolling through the site here and I come across someone who interests me, whether it's their appearance or their name or whatever, I read every single word of his profile before I attempt to contact him. I know there are certain things that are deal-makers and certain things that are deal-breakers for me. If, for instance, he says he is totally against anal sex then he would not be a match for me and I would like to know something like that ASAP.

I assume that those looking for a poly-type situation probably feel the same way. It's important and a deal-breaker for them if the prospective person is against that. So please, someone please tell me why on earth wouldn't you read the profile to make sure they don't have something like "I have no interest in poly" in it?

Three times in one week I have replayed exactly the same scenario. Man messages me. Man seems very interesting. We exchange a few messages, flirt a little and then "Are you interested in poly?" or "Do you do poly?" or just plain old "Oopsie! Didn't see that you don't want poly!" (Not one of them had a word about poly in their profiles. I read them so I know this for a fact.)

Why not read the profile? Do they think people fill out these stupid things just to practice their typing skills? If these three men, all three quite literate and capable of reading a few paragraphs with needing an interpreter, had simply read my profile they wouldn't have wasted their time or mine. Instead, they saw a couple of nice pics and fired off some messages and now I'm ready to toss my comp and my CM membership out the f'ing window.

Read the profile first. Just read it. For the love of Christ, how f'ing long could it possibly take? If you truly want to impress me with your intellect, a great way to start is to JUST READ THE PROFILE.

For future reference: I don't give a flying rat's ass what you think of who I fuck, how I fuck or how many at one time I fuck. If I'm not fucking you, then it's none of your fucking business. Therefore racist, judgmental or just plain obnoxious comments will be met with a very simple "Go fuck yourself".

“When you come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on, or you will learn how to fly.”

If one more person tells me "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" I'm going to... well, I don't know what I'm going to do. Really? Do I look like I am weak or falling apart?

Besides, if that's true I should be able to bench press a Buick by now.

"If you want to be in my life, come in. If you don't, leave. But don't stand in the door, you're blocking traffic."

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The next person who calls me a "Jersey Girl" should probably duck. Just because I live here doesn't mean I'm from here. No offense intended to the beautiful women who actually are Jersey Girls, but I'm a Carolina Girl and I'm pretty proud of that!

A customer and I were talking the other day about online dating and he asked me if I knew about the "Bottomless Pit". I asked him what he meant and he said "Meeting people online is great, but you have know when to stop. There's always going to be someone better, hotter, funnier, etc. You're never going to find anyone, online or otherwise, who's absolutely perfect for you. So you have to know when you've met the one closest to it."

Interesting.