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| Please pardon my bluntness, but if you are not local, please do not waste either of our time.
I've been on/off this site for years. Met a few interesting men, but we were not a fit. I got burned out - dealing with men who could not take a polite rejection with class, men who were deceptive, manipulative, or downright liars. I learned early on that honesty is the crux of a successful D/s dynamic.
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Sometimes, that means vulnerability. And sometimes that vulnerability is taken advantage of. You lick your wounds, step back and take however long that is needed to make that a "learning experience". Quite frankly, I've had way too many "learning experiences" and took a complete dating hiatus. Not a single date in more than 2yrs. (Not that I haven't been approached, I took some time for me and then felt I lost my mojo... I have encountered no one that captivated me enough to try again.)
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I've had successes professionally & accomplished a lot personally. Thing is, none of them really meant anything to me. I hate the clich?I feel incomplete", but without someone significant, things seem muted. The one thing deep in my heart is - I long to serve, to belong - to one man. Many see me as strong, independent, and guarded. I am those things because I have to be at times. But I yearn to yield that to a man who wants to earn it. I am not a woman who submits to just any man who declares himself Dominant. I have been told I am not a "true submissive" by men whom I did not respond to submissively. I would never make such a judgment about another's heart. I know myself well enough to know it is part of my very core.
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Submission is something I give gradually - no matter how deep or intense desires may be - I'm looking for a man who wants to take time to cultivate a relationship. I'm by no means a piece of cake - I'm intelligent, passionate, fiercely loyal, creative, and funny. I need a cathartic release at times - I crave that intensity with someone I can trust completely. My life gives me some flexibility right now and I'm not sure what is ahead for me. I'm figuring that out along the way.
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THINGS THAT MATTER TO ME:
Not married or involved with another.
Straight. Not Bi. Not heteroflexible (whatever that means).
Looking for an exclusive / monogamous relationship. Not poly.
Non-smoker. No drugs.
Passionate. Intelligent. Creative. Funny.
Balanced. D/s is a part, not ALL of who I am.
Chivalry. In my world, it's not dead. In return, I treat the man in my life with the loyalty, devotion & adoration of a king.
Confident, not arrogant.
Effective communicator. Able to discuss bumps in the road rather than shirk away. This also means listening.
Private: I don't do clubs, munches, or share face pics. What goes on between myself & the man in my life is between us exclusively.
Knows when to treat a woman like a lady & when not to.
Adventurous. I love spending time outdoors - hiking, whitewater kayaking & rafting, backpacking, camping... I'm not into hunting or fishing.
Me: no kids, no desire to have them. Much better with animals (I love animals, but I don't "love" animals. This site requires that differentiation!).
When not in "outdoors mode", I prefer stilettos & a dress. I enjoy being feminine and being appreciated for it but I am not fussy. I miss having a man to dress up for, knowing he will be undressing me later.
I don't play games. I don't lie - honesty is black/white - I have no problem with someone saying "not comfortable talking about that" than lying.
I like the simple things - hate crowds but love people-watching - prefer a remote place where we can lay in a field staring at the stars, sipping wine, dancing under the moonlight, having crickets & creeks as our soundtrack. Or a dinner prepared at home, board games, a movie, or snuggling by a fire.
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I'm here for one reason - to initiate the search. I don't need pen pals or endless banter. If there is mutual interest, let's meet. I have enough friends. I don't need a "mentor" or protector. If you're across the country or the world, it's not particularly practical. And if you are here on business or travel through Atlanta regularly, move along. (I guess I should change to Jaded&PragmaticRomantic?)
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As for intimate proclivities... I have many but I prefer not to share them here. I've found discussing them prematurely shifts the focus from developing a solid foundation. Since so many men I have encountered profess to want much more than just a casual hook-up, the kinky checklist can wait. I would not be here if I was not a minx of many desires and needs. And my primary need is to find a quality man who I can serve, please, and evolve.
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The ball is in your court. I was raised as a proper Southern girl, I do *not* approach men. Ditto if you are interested in a trans "woman". No switch men - I am a strong personality who demands a man who is 100% Dominant.
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And, to make sure you aren't just spamming every female in the city - share with me something on your bucket list if you are so inclined to message me.?
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And the profile pic is of me in the Grand Canyon at Red Wall Canyon - I was reading General Powell's account of it sitting on the rock, awestruck that I was there.?
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Gentlemen,
I would encourage you to view your own profile as others see it - when it lists interests in poly or trans women, I'm assuming those boxes don't check themselves. If that is what you are looking for, groovy, but I want NO part of a man who does.
If you aren't local, I don't bother to look at your profile. And no written profile = no interest. If you aren't clear in what you seek and haven't invested the effort in writing one, I'm not the girl for you.
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I realize my profile is detailed... apparently too detailed for some, who overlook that I am *only* interested in a local Dominant man. Long-distance/online doesn't work for me. I need to spend my free time with the man, not commuting. Yep, I realize that it greatly reduces the options, but I am only interested in one exceptional man.
And if you are into strap-ons, queening, poly, swinging, subTrans, or rotate your profile btwn Dom/Switch/sub, move along.
Regardless, I hope you find that special one you seek.
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If there is mutual interest - meet, otherwise, time to move on. I want a real man, not an endless online distraction.
Add to my "Operations Manual" - if there is interest, make time to grab a quick coffee. After a couple of msgs/text - the girl wants to meet! Instead I chalk it off that he is too busy for any sort of engagement, or I am not a priority to get to be knowm. Girl dusts herself off and moves on.
If only it was as simple as Dom meets sub, they talk, discover a spark and begin that adventurous journey. Instead,I think this is not in the cards and I should just quit bothering to look for that special connection... I tried more mainstream avenues but I knew there was no way I could be content with a man who did not understand my need to serve, to belong, to be lead. At times I still feel so lost, but I have managed to "get by" on my own. I manage - depending on how one defines that. I don't let people see my struggles. I have been gradually letting go "of that dream" - I think the time to close the book on this aspect of my life has come. |
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I find it amusing how complete strangers offer unsolicited insight about my search - involving how I set my standards too high. My standards revolve about character, values, and passions - based on my own life experience.
If you would rather spend a weekend on the computer, awesome, but I am not the woman for you. If you need multiple women in your life, then I am not a woman for you. If you are looking for play partners and to see what develops, I am not the woman for you.
Life is too precious to waste time with people who are not compatible with my core values. I would love to share experiences with a man who "gets" me, but I am not waiting to live my life until he comes along.
So if you are a couple, married, bi, looking for a hook-up, poly, switch, submissive, live far away, wanting online romance, or looking for a slave - do us both a favor and, respectfully, move on. I am here for one reason, anything else is a distraction. |
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