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You know it. That voice that sounds like a little girl..."Dadddddddyyy..."
The one who lives deep inside you, who is always whispering naughty things or making erotic suggestions. Most women have one, a part of themselves that centuries of evolution, societal restriction & ever changing cultural identity have all but rendered mute. But it's still there, trapped inside the day to day life they all live. School, work, bills, homework, maybe even a spouse and kids.
But yet it whispers to you, and you are confused. Images of being cradled in strong arms, being able to let go of the restraints of what it's like to be an "adult". A yearning for that feeling of being coddled, protected, but also disciplined for naughty behavior. A desire to revisit the carefree days of youth, but with very grown up desires. Some help organizing your day to day life, perhaps becoming that woman you see in your mind's eye, although to her she desires to be Daddy's angel, thrills to be called a "good girl"...and neither of "you" do not know why.
Now imagine if that voice, the one who makes you fantasize about taking some initial steps into those strange desires, the ones that make you feel like perhaps something is wrong….belonged to someone else.
 That you allow someone to actually answer when you say "Daddy....". That you open the basement door to your secrets and let a courteous, thoughtful, educated, well spoken, funny gentleman downstairs to play. That his creative imagination provided you with the submission, structure and release you secretly crave. That suddenly your life was enhanced with play, structure & erotic tension. That you had a Daddy who adored you.
Curious? If you've read this far, I'd say you are.
So now do you go back to your plain ol' vanilla existence, haunted by that voice, wondering what it would be like to become someone's little girl...or do you see how far the rabbit hole goes, Alice? Wonderland is a click away.
My specialty, if you will, are women new to all of this, particularly you younger ones, who possibly feel lost, naive, a lil' scared, intimidated, who are looking for a Daddy to help them become the best lil' girl they can be. I can provide a safe, caring, respectful opportunity to explore yourself. Allow that whisper to bloom into a dirty little secret. You will never be placed in harm's way, your real life will always take precedent, and your limits always respected. Enhance your life, not become it.
I am interested in female submissives confused about these unresolved little girl desires, and are looking for a positive, online only DD/lg relationship. I will not come after you. It's your choice, your decision. Is it time to listen to that shy, quiet voice and allow it to come to life? If so, please feel free to contact me under no obligation.
- TheQuiet1

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4/10/2017 12:13:24 PM
     It's not tribute, it's a rate, a payment for service rendered. And if the service is not what the "tributer" (who by the rules of commerce is the customer and, as such, the powerholder in the transaction) they will just go elsewhere. No different than hiring someone to mow the lawn.

4/8/2017 3:12:50 PM
     Doms that post large pics in their Journals must be overcompensating for the tiny things others can't see  ;)

3/28/2017 9:02:59 AM
     That awkward moment when you confront an 18 year old female submissive who said her profile image is what she looks like now, but was posted five years ago online ;)

3/20/2017 12:31:48 PM
     You know you've been on CS for a while (as in years) when, at a glance, you can recognize the cropped breasts & ass cheeks in a profile image as belonging to an older, larger stolen image. In a couple more years there will be just a nipple left ;)

3/8/2017 12:11:33 PM
     Paragraph breaks, people...paragraph breaks.

3/8/2017 12:08:59 PM
     That *eyeroll* when you read a female submissive's profile that, in essence, is seeking an online D/s dynamic where they are "forced" to do all manner of real life perversions (gang bangs, bareback, glory holes, forced exhibitionism, slut training, etc, etc)....yet all interaction with said Dom will be text only O.o

2/20/2017 6:39:51 AM
     There is something very Zenlike about a hot mug of coffee on a cold winters day. The way the steam rises and dances serpentine, almost erotically. The wind kicking up snow devils of flakes with every audible gust, the twisted branches on the poplars that look like a an old ladies' tired fingers, knuckles rattling tympanic for it to lyrically dance across the drifts. How the sun beats in an large picture window all warm and bright, a magnet for a sleepy cat all curled up in a ball on a old couch.

     I swear all of the above makes the coffee taste better than usual *sip*

2/16/2017 2:25:16 PM
    I am fairly certain the demure Asian woman in the advertisement to the right of my screen (you know, the one duct taped to a wall) does not, as stated, live in the same town I do....

2/14/2017 1:06:07 PM
"Of all sad words of tongue or pen,
the saddest are these,
It might have been.”

- John Greenleaf Whittier, Maud Muller

2/14/2017 6:23:09 AM
     Ahhhh St. Valentine's Day, or as it's called on CS Findomme Begging Day ;)

2/13/2017 11:58:38 AM
"And I raise my head and stare
Into the eyes of a stranger
I've always known that the mirror never lies
People always turn away
From the eyes of a stranger
Afraid to know what
Lies behind the stare"

Eyes Of A Stranger - Queensryche

     I often find myself in the middle of random circumstances in which kink (defined as the abnorm for the participants) is being discussed, often jokingly. I smile, nod, listen, but very rarely contribute in that it's just assumed that the topic is something I wouldn't be well versed in.

     *sly evil grin*

     Listen up kids - it's not the leather clad, multi pierced, collar adorned, triskele displaying ones. It's one of the main reasons behind my screen name. It's always the quiet ones that you should be on lookout for, the ones hiding in plain sight. The coaches of your kid's teams, the guy mowing his lawn every Sunday. The woman who kisses her kids good bye at the bus stop, their hands gripping the lunch she made. The pale skinned, reserved nerd, regardless of gender.

     Oh, we are out here, hiding in plain view, kinky as fuck. You have no idea what else we have, and do, and practice, behind a closed door. Loud may be proud, but anyone versed in the intricacies of power knows that a forced silent orgasm is much, much more intense than a screaming one.

    Now hush, little one ;)

1/22/2017 9:14:29 AM
     Over the knee socks & pigtails... what can't they fix? ;)

1/21/2017 3:38:28 PM
    Upon further review, I am definitely a thrill of the chase vs the kill ;)

12/30/2016 6:16:56 AM
      Love the profiles of caucasian girls who read like Yoda...

12/29/2016 3:38:14 PM
      So if I were to say that I could turn you, the shy, naive, curious female submissive, into a sodden mess of arousal that could possibly come hands free...in public...without anyone knowing...all with something you likely have in your purse right now....would you believe me? Many others have been reduced to pools of puddling juices. So.....curious?

12/29/2016 6:28:01 AM
      Good ol' Tineye. What a timesaver...

11/28/2016 1:15:44 PM
     “The rabbit-hole went straight on like a tunnel for some way, and then dipped suddenly down, so suddenly that Alice had not a moment to think about stopping herself before she found herself falling down a very deep well.”
     So Alice (or specifically Not Sure I Am Alice) are you curious as to how far down that rabbit hole goes into the deepest, darkest corners of your psyche, the one that whispers to you "
     Maybe..."? Perhaps we should talk..

5/10/2016 9:23:59 AM
     I am beginning to think I have a naivety fetish...
     No, not for the obvious, more chauvinistic/hedonistic aspects a comment like that would imply. This is simply craving, almost feeding off that *lightbulb* moment when it first clicks (bad joke, sorry) in a little's eyes, words or voice. That sense of pride seeing, reading or hearing them "get "it" (I give up...) when they learn something either about themselves, something you knew was there all along, or else simply learn something new, period. Like coming on command, or why they like certain things, why particular practices or fetishes arouse them.
     Yes, naivety is very, very satisfying to (consensually) consume ;)

5/4/2016 8:29:48 AM
     Not that this should bear repeating, but for any new submissives please keep in the back of your minds that Daddy or Sir should make the organ between your ears wet and dripping with far more focus and interest than on the one between your legs. The dominant that is genitalia obsessed is one to run far away from, not towards.

2/15/2016 8:23:00 PM
     I am completely under the deliciously naughty spell of this tumblr:

     http://girlshumpingthings.tumblr.com/

     Pretty much what it sounds like. So so fucking naughty. I imagine every woman on this site has a story about, at a very early age, discovering that humping some object felt "funny"....but so confusingly good.

2/6/2016 6:59:39 AM
     There is something very Zen about morning sunlight streaming low through picture windows onto a curled up cat in the midst of his second nap of the morning, all framed by the steam seductively rising off a well worn coffee mug filled with the day's second cup *sip*

2/1/2016 8:29:34 AM
Collarspace's Naughty Lil' Secret

     I'm not one given to making generalities or embracing stereotypes. I prefer that someone prove to me who & what they are as far as a person rather than assign characteristics based on assumption.
     That said, there seems to be such regarding "fake" accounts. You can't scroll more than a few pages in the Journals without some some form of commentary regarding this.
     But invariably, and almost to a fault, almost every instance of this behavior is attributed to men. I will not make any attempt to defend my gender in this sorry regard. 
     No, what I want to unveil is the truth about fake accounts on Collarspace:

     There are a LOT of married moms on Collarspace posing as single female submisisves.

    Perhaps it is my specified style of online D/s and being a Daddy that draws them to a "safe" outlet to explore, but I have been on this site long enough to compile a more than random sampling. Profile views begat messages into emails and chatting and, if the chemistry is right, more adult activities and even formal dynamics.
    More often that not, MUCH more often as a matter of fact in the process of getting to know one another I will receive a message to the effect of "I have a secret" or "I need to tell you something", at which point the inevitable "I am married and a mom" will be shared.
     I do not judge, have never done so and will not do so. The old "what is good for the goose is good for the gander.' Their prince has now become a toad, or does not want to engage in kink. Maybe they added a few pounds, the gravity of childbirth a tattoo of sorts. The communication has dissolved, sex is not just blah but tepid vanilla pudding with a skin and only two spoonfuls. So I offer an alternative that allows them to have their cake and begrudgingly eat their pudding too.
     So yes Virginia, there are married moms all over Collarsapce whose profiles read single. And it is about time someone acknowledged this publicly. 
     One time, in the midst of chatting with a curious female submissive who, you guessed it, had just come clean about the ring on her finger and child in the next bedroom asked me to describe the typical Collarspace female submissive in just one sentence.
     So I typed and typed, using every run on punctuation I could to make it one sentence. Adjectives oozed like honey. Type type type. Took minutes. Finally, after rereading it I deleted all of it & replied:

     "The typical female submissive on here is lonely"

     
My amazingly complex, beautiful, erotic, funny, witty, sexy chat companion sadly agreed.

1/17/2016 9:41:46 AM
     A problem with littles is that, well, for as adorable as they are they also are prone to an adult version of a hissy fit. It's not *grr* bratty behavior, but rather a pouting fest. Usually what that means is that their big girl lives have certain baggage. And when Daddies dole out warranted advice & rebuke as they should because, well, that's what Daddies do, it is often met with whining, pouting and almost always silence. They run to their little to escape, to their Daddy for confirmation, adoration, inspiration and manipulation, but when it's condemnation? *crickets* Which, irony, circles back to Daddy having to tell a grown woman to grow up.
     It's not fucking easy, nor enjoyable. This is why I always say it's 80% Daddy, 20% Dom.

1/15/2016 7:07:42 PM
    There is cool, very cool, seriously cool, and then there is Rat Pack era Frank Sinatra cool...

1/14/2016 10:11:18 AM
     I've Journaled about this before, but with winter's advent and the chill of crystal clear nights bring it bears repeating:
     There is an upside to living where ambient light is not an issue. Where if you choose to dim your own lights the only illumination is courtesy of the residents of the January sky. How the moon looks bigger, brighter, silhouetted between the gnarled maple branches bare as old bones. And the stars...
     ....well, it still blows my mind that the light I'm seeing as I look upward. feeling very insignificant and grounded in all of this, left that star millions of years ago. How awe inspiring it all is, and how I feel guilty for not looking longer because, not even seconds after I head back inside to the warmth of the comfy couch, that the very starlight now raining down from the heavens will never know my gaze and die a quiet death among the frozen maples.

1/13/2016 7:39:32 PM
     A tip of my faded ballcap (& scritch between the ears) to feralstar for her outstanding Journal entry on pet play

. Highly recommended.

1/12/2016 6:41:56 PM
     Wow, apparently I'm irresistible to Bisexual Female Switches. They can't leave my profile alone...
     /sarcasm

1/9/2016 10:25:58 AM
     A special sub-fetish of the "from the kneecaps down" Dommes are the same bathing. You know, the image of some glistening shins in the bathtub, often surrounded by bubbles in some sort of sudsy burlesque of the lower leg. And undoubtedly there are many male submissives (aka the carp of the kink community) who grow erect at the sight of these bubble encrusted patellas and foot tendons...

1/8/2016 7:49:56 AM
*exhale* For the record:

your - shows possession, ownership ("Your pussy now belongs to Daddy, understood?")
you're - contraction of you are, a directive ('You're not going to put anything in it without permission, little girl.")
yore - referring to time long ago, ancient past ("In days of yore men would lock that hole up while away!")

where - a location, place ("Where do you think I am going to put this, dear?")
wear - to have or place on as clothing/garments ("Wear the mid thigh plaid skirt...or else.")
ware - an item/object, often hand made ("At the munch a leather artist displayed her kinky wares.")

1/3/2016 7:18:08 AM
     The guys who have a kneecaps & shins fetish must love the dommes here...

1/2/2016 10:34:39 PM
Life's Greatest Unappreciated Joys:
• An arm massage
• The perfect piece of Italian bread toast
• That moment when you roll over in bed...and hit the perfect comfy
• Reflexology
• Really good cheese
• Flipping the radio channel in the car & catching the start of a favorite jam
• The aroma of an old school Italian market
• The midnight stars when it's bitterly crisp out
• Your feet on a splitting stump as a wood fire crackles & spits

12/31/2015 7:04:17 AM
     There is something soothing about the only sounds in your world being the hum of the furnace, the purr of a very sleepy cat atop his pillow and the second hand on the old clock tick tick ticking off the last minutes of the year, all while ice crystals blow against the windows to sound like the snap of a wood fire. It makes the hot coffee taste that much better.

12/29/2015 6:18:10 PM
     Upon further review, the music of the classic Rat Pack still kicks fucking ass. Oh, to be that cool....

12/29/2015 5:48:12 PM
? ? ?That O.o moment when a female switch views your profile, adds herself as an Admirer of it, but when you send a simple "thank you" message it gets deleted unread?

12/25/2015 9:59:07 PM
     Actually found some Xmas spirit....

12/22/2015 7:45:51 PM
     That awkward moment when, while buying size C batteries for the faux candles (don't judge, I don't want my cat to become a Molotov cattail), the checkout girl gives you that silly "I know what these go in" grin...

12/19/2015 8:22:55 PM
     The account WannabeSlut18 is a revenge account that, while more than willing to have their face featuring profile pic altered to make it nude & humiliating, will not submit a verifying G rated pic (with perimeters) to prove it's actually them and not someone looking to humiliate an innocent. Please report them at your leisure.

12/14/2015 8:50:13 PM
     The female submissives of Collarspace have spoken clearly and loudly. When presented with the following question:

Your Sir/Dom/Daddy/etc wants to teach you a lesson about control & your place in the dynamic. There are two options:
     1) No orgasms for 14 days, regardless of what is asked of you, even if edged non stop.
     2) No contact with your Sir/Dom/Daddy for 7 days. Absolute indifference, like you do not even fucking exist.
     Which one is crueler and would make you less likely to act out again?

    It was a landslide. Of seventeen (very impressed with the voter turnout) who answered, all of them said being ignored was far crueler & would make them think twice about misbehaving ever again.
     
Remember, "discipline is something you do for someone, not to them."

12/14/2015 8:57:05 AM
For the record:

to - used to describe direction or movement ("Get your ankles to your ears NOW!")
too - in addition, as well as ("I'll secure your wrists there too.")
two - one more than one ("Two hours of edging should suffice for being so naughty.")

there - a location, place ("Are you all wet & puffy down there between your legs? Awwww...")
they're - contraction of the words they are ("Oooh, they're soooo swollen & sensitive. Let's beat them some more.")
their - to show possession, ownership ("Thrust firm, taut and high, their nipples were ripe for biting")

Get it? Got it? Good...

12/11/2015 8:46:52 AM
     A question to female submissives (please feel free to answer via message):

     Your Sir/Dom/Daddy/etc wants to teach you a lesson (keep you in line per se) about control & your place in the dynamic. There are two options:
     1) No orgasms for 14 days, regardless of what is asked of you, even if edged non stop.
     2) No contact with your Sir/Dom/Daddy for 7 days. Absolute indifference, like you do not even fucking exist.

     Which one is crueler and would make you less likely to act out again?
     

12/9/2015 9:12:25 AM
     That chuckle when someone blocks you because, while calling you immature, childishly run into your message box with "the last word", then *ppppbbbhhtt* nanny nanny boo boo "blocks" themselves in their room, covering their ears all grown up like. *still chuckling*

12/8/2015 5:53:24 AM
     Show of hands for all those, regardless of orientation, who willingly and eagerly submit to coffee every morning? * raises sleepy arm while sipping the black nectar of the gods*

12/7/2015 7:49:45 PM
     I've said this before, but it bears repeating:
     If the Tasks you are, well, tasked with are nothing more than than the dare portion of Truth or Dare on steroids....what exactly does that prove? They should challenge you as a submissive, your self, your person, who you think you are. Not just your blind ability to endure pain. You can do that on your own.
     If they are to the effect of "Do this, then that, for this long, then go do this to those & put that in there until I say so" yada yada yada you have a bully, not a Top.

12/2/2015 7:20:57 AM
     Did you ever notice those submissives whose screen names are along the lines of "ownerless(noun)" who Journal that they are now the property of whomever? Guess that choice is now like a tattoo of your ex's name, huh?

12/1/2015 7:27:18 PM
     The worst part of being a Daddy Dom is the worrying. The flip side of the unique D/s coin that we are to the doting, nurturing, caring Daddy side all littles love. It sucks, but it is what it is. So we wait...and worry.

11/24/2015 6:36:50 PM
     That O.o moment when the female submissive "looking for someone well versed in Photoshop" (I am...very) to do embarrassing and humiliating photo manipulations quickly replies to your message with 10 images of "herself", many showing her face...yet when asked for a G rated selfie to verify that, yes, it is really her and not, oh say, just pics of an unsuspecting former girlfriend or bestie that they want to harass....well....suddenly "they don't do photo requests" when they are requesting you do photos of them.

11/23/2015 10:35:43 PM
     Well, I see Collarspace finally put more antifreeze in their servers *eyeroll*

11/11/2015 10:24:24 AM
Random Musing:
     Would an app that prevents being contacted by men who enjoy watching their wives get fucked by other guys be called a cuck block? :D

11/9/2015 12:28:54 PM
     Profiles along the lines of...
     "Hi! I'm only (some number between 18 & 22), yada so I am new to this yada yada always knew I was yada yada yada curious yada yada yada yada no limits slavery."
     ...have no clue. Period.
     No, no you don't want to be a no limits slave. You think you may, but you don't. The no limits part has (surprise) no limits. No, really, it does. Not just Mr. Grey Wannabes making your shexy choices for you. Grow up, try being just submissive for a while, then see if you really want to cease existing for no other reason than whatever (and I mean whatever) strikes your "owner's" whim and fancy. Geeze...

11/6/2015 7:08:15 AM
     I should change my screen name to Consideration so all these female submissives would be under me ;)

11/6/2015 6:54:58 AM
     I'm sorry, and what is there is probably interesting, but every time I see & read something in German all I can think is that they are calling for a Panzer strike on the sleepy village in the valley below O.o

11/3/2015 10:33:01 AM
     Was out this weekend and the waterhole I was at was featuring a winter ale. As much as I like them, I am just not ready for those yet :/

10/30/2015 10:27:11 AM
     Reading the Journals has incidentally reminded me of not just how I discovered the power of words, but also the day that lead to today in my love, use and satisfaction derived from exchanging them with the fairer sex. 
     *cue dream sequence segue with voice over where everything gets hazy*
     At a very, very young age I discovered my father's stash of Playboy magazines. I was hooked on the imagery. It did something to me when there was no biological or chemical reason it should have. Call me a sexual savant, I guess. A neighbor who was, how shall we say, less than thorough burning his trash provided years worth of brittle, sooty pages to hide in a "fort" for my daily enjoyment and self pleasing.
    This continued through puberty. If any of my male relatives had dirty magazines, I knew about it. Where they were, which ones, how best to sneak peeks or even "borrow" (okay, steal) them. Finding an uncle's Penthouse collection, which I had never seen before, was a watershed event. This...this was new. Sexier, even though I did not know what the hell that meant. Dirtier, which I had an idea as to what it was even though I could not define it. Posed sex hinting at interactions, especially between two women, which really aroused me.
    Then I stumbled onto the Forum letters...and pictures forever ceased to be the main source of my self pleasure then and now *sigh* The impact those "Dear Penthouse, I always thought your letters were bullshit but one day..." had on me was catastrophic to my sexuality. It started me on the path to sapiosexuality, a path I'm still on today. And for the better.

10/28/2015 8:46:23 PM
     Wow, that last Journal entry touched a nerve. Profile views way up. Had no idea y'all were so serious about onion rings... ;)

10/28/2015 8:55:30 AM
     I read the Journals a lot, mostly the entries by female submissives because, well, that is the niche I am most drawn to. And while each is unique and in their own way beautiful, there are patterns, threads that weave through most of their entries.
     To touch on one, to a fault the praises and worship piled upon their Dominant are almost always of the sexual or protocol kind. It's like reading a theologic text with naughty words. But what I rarely, if ever, read about are the simple things that any Dominant worth their time should be able to answer:
     Which does he/she know - the way you like, or hate, having your clit abused...or which sized onion rings of the batch (big outer ones or tiny inner ones) you prefer?
     Does she/he expect you to remember all the little things they prefer, yet can they tell me the name of your first pet?
     Is their a garment you should have on (barely), if any or all that they prefer, yet they cannot tell me how you take your coffee or what tea blend you enjoy?
     Hitting a nerve? Good. Don't give me all that "But I'm the fucking Dominant! I make her, not her me!" crap. Equals. 50/50. One gives, one takes. Everything in balance, you onion ring ignorant fucks.

10/25/2015 7:29:05 PM
"Ain't it funny how the night moves
When you just don't seem to have as much to lose
Strange how the night moves
With autumn closing in"

Night Moves - Bob Seger

10/23/2015 9:12:31 PM
     That O.o moment when you read about someone getting owned...um....

10/23/2015 8:49:25 AM
     As a Dominant, the most powerful tool or toy at your disposal should not be a cane, or some narrow braided tails. Nor should it be a technique like SDS or involve insertion or striking of any kind.
     No, the two toys your submissive should fear more than anything else are far simpler.
     The word "disappointed" and your stone cold, apathetic indifference to their fucking existence.
     If a submissive in your care does not get physically nauseous at the mention of, let alone use of, either of those... you're doing them a great disservice. It's not how much physical pain they can absorb and withstand, but how much mental and spiritual anguish they do not want to as a result of one word & no deeds from you.
     That is helping them find more of that part of themselves they gave to you as a gift.

10/21/2015 7:32:33 PM
     If a Daddy Dom had difficulties focusing on his little, would that be ADD/lg? :D

10/21/2015 10:21:27 AM
     A suggestion for all you Dom/Dommes who think Journal entries in 24pt bolded ALL CAPS makes you more of an overly powerful, all knowing presence of Dominating awesomeness:
     It does not. Really.
     What it makes you come across as is a grandmother who uses "the Google" to find "the Facebook" and post embarrassing, 24pt point bolded ALL CAPS public comments about the cat puking on the devenport and there are no paper towels, all while their cell phone rings on volume 10 with the rotary phone "RRRRRRIINNGGGGGG" tone cause', well, that is what phones sound like.
     Grow up...

10/20/2015 9:20:46 PM
"Like sugar and cyanide
Our worlds are meant to collide
I'm gonna yell it from the rooftops down
Till it's over, and we're older"
- Seether, Tonight

That verse, to me, sums up D/s perfectly. Sweet innocence meets deadly poison in a collision of two unique views. The Top bringing intensity from above to the prone street below until it ends, each walking away wiser.

10/20/2015 8:00:41 PM
     Collarspace - where reading "Coming in March 2016" could mean all sorts of things :D

10/19/2015 8:04:04 PM
     In that the last one was so well received, how about another go round of screen names for everyone's least favorite spammer TS1958 and the aliases that thrill all of us all caps, bold, red and even pink spam posts. Perhaps his next -TS1958 profiles could be:

LIVESWITH40CATS1958
BLOCKEDAGAINOHDRATS1958
CHEESEFARTS1958
BUYSUNDIESATKMARTS1958
IMNOTVERYSMARTS1958

10/19/2015 10:39:40 AM
     A tip of my cap to the lovely BlackOrchid for brightening up the Journals with recollections of failed wooings so surreal in their epic epicness of hapless Dominess by the male species. Y'all are at least making me look better and better with every O.o entry she shares.

10/18/2015 8:22:20 PM
     Is there anything more unintentionally erotic than a undone sweater button revealing glimpses of what should be buttoned? 

10/17/2015 7:49:33 PM
     Autumn is in full bloom now. The trees ablaze in all manner of red, gold and all shades in between. Driving for the next few weeks will be a constant invitation to wonder at the awe of nature's palette. That sensation of warm sun beguiling crisp temperatures, the need to force the sleeves of a hooded sweatshirt down to the wrist from their position further up my arms. How the stars are so fucking crystal clear night after night. Apple cider, all manner of pumpkin whatever, gourds and root vegetables replacing stemmed items at the farmer's markets. Friday nights bring the glow of stadium lights and high school marching bands, Saturdays the same at the colleges.
     I do love autumn...

10/13/2015 8:46:42 PM
     That wry smirk when you read a submissive's cocky, whiny, preachy diatribe and practically every sentence either starts with, contains and/or uses multiple examples of I, I'm, my & mine...and yet they wonder why no one wants them *eyeroll, or should it be I-roll* ;)

10/12/2015 9:19:27 PM
     Gary Moore...gone way too fucking soon. Damn he could play...

10/12/2015 6:43:53 PM
    In that Halloween approaches, it occurred to me that it was a scary memory that, for me, was not only the first time I had contact with the fairer sex but also the power of fear as far as lowering inhibition.
    At one time in American history the ubiquitous haunted house were not common. So when the local Kiwanis started one it was a big deal. Cheesy by anyone's standards, it was for a small town convincing and did a very good job scaring the hell out of kids for charity.
    Probably ten at the time, my mother took us and a bunch of neighbor kids one evening. Scary sounds permeated the chilly night air as well as the muffled screams and cries of those already taking the tour, all of which had us wide eyed and searching for bravado.
     Entering the house I was bringing up the rear of our bunch. Dark. Black. No light save for sporadic glimpses. A trigger switch set off a scene replete with trap door actors, loud noise and strobe lights. Before I could make my own fear known audibly I felt my right hand grabbed by someone...or thing.
     Faster than flesh should be able to turn I spun to to find myself face to face with a beautiful girl about my age, a total stranger to me who must have been part of another group.
     Our eyes locked in what can best be described as shared chaotic silence.
     I had never held a girl's hand before. This....this was new. Warm. Soft. Comforting.
     For the remainder of the passage through all the rooms she maintained a death grip on my hand. I would turn occasionally to her between scenes when I knew my own safety was assured for at least a few seconds.
     Exiting the haunted house I exhaled in strong relief that, yes, I was still alive. And my hand was still not alone.
    One last time out eyes met. She smiled as if to say "Thank you for saving me"....and then my mystery hand holder walked away from our gang and out of my life forever, save for the memory of that evening.
     Looking back now through much older and experienced eyes, it strikes me that what we employ as regular aspects of SSC BDSM play share a lot of similarities with that haunted house. A scene, fear of the unknown, being safe yet dying to feel or call red, every nerve alive, restrained by one's own choice and at the mercy of the pace and skill of others....
     ... and that, like then, the same stimuli still cause the girl to grasp your hand for safety and assurance :)

10/11/2015 8:03:01 PM
     Some of these fin Dommes could benefit from finding a calorie Dom....just sayin'

10/9/2015 10:46:49 AM
     What defines rural? When the loudest noise is the cat snoring, you are rural :)

10/8/2015 9:26:04 PM
     Wonders if those into puppet play can have no strings attached relationships? :D

10/7/2015 9:30:04 PM
"I’m wilted and faded after all
Too strung out and burnt out to be half the man that I could be
I’ll never belong inside your world
So black out the sun and leave me to play out the same old tragedy"
Seether - Here And Now

10/7/2015 9:33:05 AM
     Some humble suggestions for aspiring writers of Journal erotica:

     Read through your masterpiece and count how many times a sentence starts with I. Delete 2/3s of those pronouns.
     There is showing, and there is telling. Big, big fucking difference. Show me, don't tell me. I don't want to know there was a full moon, I want how it's luster glistened off sweaty skin.
     Paragraphs are your friends. Really. Use them. A 1000 word story with three paragraphs?
     Be prudent with proper nouns. If your story sounds like Dick and Jane are getting kinky no one is going to take it seriously.
     Find the adverbs. Kill them.
     Don't use the same words over and over. By the third time something is throbbing it could have been pulsing and engorged.
     If you want to guarantee no one reads it, use a colored font and background. If you want us to read it, there is a reason books are black text on white pages.

10/7/2015 9:10:19 AM
     That O.o moment when you read a male Dominant rant in all bold caps that he DEMANDS his male submissives be in their "undies"
     *imagines "undies" being bellowed & roared all Alpha like...can't stop grinning & laughing*

10/7/2015 9:02:46 AM
     Holy shit my Journal is almost 100 pages! When the hell did that happen???

10/6/2015 7:28:54 PM

     If it's eroticism you crave, close your eyes and open your ears. Think I'm a fool? Think about these scenarios, both happening at some hotel you just happen to be staying at.
     Scene 1 - Glancing out the large picture window of your room, you notice a flash of flesh across the courtyard. There, in full view in their own room, is a very attractive couple engaged in any & all forms of sexual depravity. You have your own private peep show. You can watch them do any & all kinds of sexual perversions...but only watch. You cannot hear one single gasp or moan. Its the kinkiest silent movie ever.
     Scene 2 - Same hotel room later that night. As you lie in bed, you pause as you think you heard what sounded like a woman moan. Then another moan. Louder. It becomes clear to you that, probably not even 5 or 10 feet from where you lie, a couple are sharing some incredibly hot, passionate activities. You hear every gasp, moan, comment, directive, bodies slapping, head board banging...but what they look like...who knows? You cannot see anything expect the faint glow filtering through the drawn shades.  
     So, ask yourself...which scene would you rather be privy to being a voyeur to - the silent visual or the noisy blank screen? Which would get you off? I thought so...


10/5/2015 7:15:09 AM
      If you would rather stare into the depths of your submissive's splayed pussy then her aroused eyes, you probably don't know your ass from a hole in the ground either. One is a sensitive, wet portal to her most private, sensitive sexual secrets, the other is examined yearly by her OBGYN.

10/2/2015 9:26:16 AM
     Every time I read about someone being owned I can not help but think of Charleston Chiefs goalie Denis Lemieux..."ooowwwnnzzzzz" :D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5Xp9hvTvPk

10/2/2015 6:40:48 AM
     Never ceases to amaze me how many "masters" cannot master a simple paragraph indent & hard return in the Journals.
     Like this. See that? In front of "Like"? Those five little spaces that started on the very next line, not double spaced that makes every fucking Journal entry 18 page scrolls long with as much empty space as content.
     Look! I did it again! It's like magic. Seriously, how do you expect a submissive to offer their body and soul to you when you can't even master a QWERTY keyboard?

10/2/2015 6:04:25 AM
A further elaboration on online D/s:
     D/s has nothing to do with chains or rope or floggers or paddles or....well you get the idea. It has everything to do with belief. The power of suggestion, a will to do a bidding or command. No red rooms or the like, just a simply "You will..." and they do, or try to their best.
     Canes and the like can leave brutally vicious reminders of their impact. Welts and bruises linger for days, weeks even, a souvenir many submissives relish. But any real Dominant knows that, for all the extremes of physical abuses (consensual, always) they can deliver, that the real pain a submissive will remember and carry a scar from forever comes only from the most sadistic tool in their arsenal:
     Words.
     A simple "I am very disappointed...." can completely shatter a submissive, reducing them to a pile of unconsolable flesh. That sting hurts where toys will never reach, where cuffs and restraints become self imposed, not imposed on. Mental bondage is far, far more delicious and impactful than the more obvious kind.
     And all one needs for that are words, which online D/s abounds in. By focusing all the attention deep inside the submissive's psyche through their own volition, it allows them to explore, learn and know more about themselves as a direct result. No beating until begging, no flogging until calling red, no spanking until tears. A few simple words....just words....and they arrive at the same destination others do, just from the opposite direction. 


9/30/2015 10:46:03 AM

     To those of you who mock, laugh, sneer & turn your nose up at online D/s, a simple test:

- Do you utilize, employ or depend on texting, emails, messaging, etc as part of your D/s dynamic?
- Do you send or receive electronic demands, etc?
- Do you exchange digital images?

     If you said "Yes" to any of the aforementioned, or use a cell phone, laptop, tablet and the Internet as "tool/toy" just like you might a flogger or paddle...congratulations! You just validated online (digital) D/s.
     One torments the body external to get to the mind, spirit & soul. We do the same...but from the other direction. It's one thing to physically restrain open thighs to open a mind, it's another altogether to coax open a mind with just words to where they spread their legs wide for Daddy without a rope in sight ;)


9/30/2015 10:37:25 AM
     In case there was any doubt as to which organ is more important as far as sexuality, the phrase "Fuck my brains out" pretty mush answers that question, hmmm?

9/30/2015 8:02:17 AM
     After seeing these charts ranking erect penis sizes by country, it gives a whole new meaning to being big in Japan :D

9/29/2015 7:37:26 PM
     Wonder if they make a Fleshmedium or Fleshheavy for us gifted fellows? :D LOL

9/26/2015 6:15:30 PM
     That O.o moment when you read a submissive is looking for a Dominant "ages 28 and 35 only", and you're not sure if they don't know how to properly connect nouns or are really, really specific about how old their Dom to be must be...

9/23/2015 11:49:43 AM
      Some of the things "dominants" have their submissives do as bidding, tasks, demands, etc are nothing short of adult versions of very childish Truth or Dare games that have about as much thought behind them as those "Oh yeah, well...." moments when it was your turn.
     If the primary objective is to see how much pain you can stand from a very simple act done to ridiculous extremes, perhaps you should ask yourself why? It's not a test of how much you care for a Dominant, it's their being simplistic, childish, egotistical bullies. Find someone who, with simple requests & demands, fucks the lovely organ between your ears as opposed to damages nerve endings and orifices.

9/19/2015 7:17:25 PM
     When a Daddy Dom says "This is going to hurt me more than it does you" it's not bullshit or posturing. It does hurt. A lot. Many will never understand that it's far more Daddy than Dom. Far more.

9/17/2015 7:27:12 PM
Random Thought:
     When you go outside at night, keep in mind that the nearest stars in the sky are about 4.22 light years away, or 24,807,799,784,068 miles from the cornea of your eye. And that the light your retinas are absorbing left that star millions of years ago....and if you don't take a second to appreciate it, it's gone.
     That the star itself could have imploded a million years ago, but the light from that explosion won't be visible for a few million more years. That you're actually looking into the very, very, very distant past when you gaze upward into the heavens and marvel at how fucking beautiful it is, and also how fucking insignificant we all are.

9/14/2015 8:42:41 PM
     Shyness becoming confidence is like watching her blouse being unbuttoned so so slowly, or should I say unbuttoning her blouse? Regardless, it's erotic as fuck. There is nothing like witnessing those hesitant nerves relax and give way, just like the contents of that blouse coming into view button....by.....button....by.....button.

9/13/2015 5:34:41 PM
     Collarspace - Where the opening line "So, come here often?" takes on a whole new meaning....

9/12/2015 7:30:13 PM

In honor of TS1958, the most pathetic, sad, desperate, repetitive member of Collarspace, I offer a few more aliases he can create more -TS1958 accounts with:

ALONEAGAINOHDRATS1958
IWEARSPATS1958
IMREALLYFATS1958
HALLANDOATS1958
IHAVE42CATS1958
THROWSSISSYFITS1958
EASYTOFORGETS1958
BENNYANDTHEJETS1958
MYSEXPARTNERBLEATS1958
FAVORITENICKSHOWISRUGRATS1958

….and that's enough for now


9/12/2015 6:02:11 PM
     That :) moment when, out of the blue, you receive a message full of kindness from one you respect....

9/7/2015 6:58:34 PM
     I've said this before, but it bears repeating:
     My experience with littles is that they all are of above average intelligence, articulate, educated and have bright careers and/or futures. They have great senses of humor, and are confidant enough in themselves to allow that inner child to come out and play, which can mix with very adult desires and needs. Not in the oft assumed and incredibly incorrect incestuous or pedophilic way, but just wanting desperately to please their Daddy. 
     It's not the kinkiest kink, but it may be the naughtiest....

9/4/2015 5:41:57 AM
     I keep reading in Journal entries about people taking "brakes" from this site. Y'all need to slow down ;)

9/3/2015 9:29:07 PM
     That O.o moment when Googling "daddy dom" returns a Spanish couple's birthing blog...

9/3/2015 9:16:11 PM
     A humble suggestion to female submissives who spend an inordinate amount of their time Journaling about everything wrong with, well, everyone:

     Read your Journal and replace every instance of the word Dom/Domme/Sir/etc with submissive/etc and see, after reading a few pages, if those entries would be from a Dominant you would want to try to connect with. For if you find yourself not attracted to your own self, why would you expect anyone else to be?

8/30/2015 6:36:46 PM
? ? ?Had a most interesting experience while at the grocers today:
? ? ?While approaching the check out, I had the opportunity to do just that to a very well rounded woman. She was curvy with plenty to spare, but the best thing about this vision?
? ? ?She was confident. Crazy confident. It poured from her. The way she was dressed, her body language, that smile, how her eyes danced. It was awesome to see and experience. She was so comfortable in herself that it was extremely attracting, arousing even. Confidence is sexy, and she oozed it.
? ? ?Sadly, most woman of any size lack what she had in spades.

8/28/2015 8:06:48 PM
     I've made mention of this before, but it bears repeating:

     If, while reading a "female" submissive's profile, you notice that "she" focuses very heavily on oral and anal sex, and only refers to parts of "her" anatomy as a (arousing adjective) hole, but never by it's anatomical name or slang.....well, connect the dots, Einstein ;)

8/28/2015 7:12:47 PM
     It's surprising (actually, it's not) how many of these "Dommes" who demand tribute, respect and worship invite everyone to watch them on some cam site whore themselves for .05 tips from fat guys with screen names like donkeybong418...

8/27/2015 7:36:07 AM
     So how do we know that these accounts who out fakes & scammers are really who they say they are? O.o

8/24/2015 8:51:51 AM
     It's amazing how much of a being a Daddy Dom is being the former much more so than the latter. I've gone on record that, to me, it's no where near 50/50 between the two, but more 80% Daddy and 20% Dom.
     And not even when in a formal dynamic, but merely talking with (I LOATHE the whole aspect & thought of "under consideration") a little, or simply reading about one in pain. Sending a message just because. No ulterior motives, just to let them know someone hears them and cares.
     It's being empathic to a heightened degree, and you can't turn it off. It took me forever to understand & grasp the concept that I was a Daddy Dom all this time & never knew it.

8/23/2015 7:06:27 AM
     Collarspace....where licking the beaters does not necessarily involve cake frosting...

8/22/2015 8:08:58 PM
     Collarspace....where receiving a come on takes on a whole new meaning ;)  

8/22/2015 7:33:13 PM
     It's an enigma...

     I constantly read in either Journals or profiles how much female submissives loathe being mistreated in messaging. How they are subject to the most asinine, profane, vulgar expectations and demands within the first lines of a first message. How they wish to be, rightfully, treated with respect, courtesy, as equals, hell as people. 

     But yet, time and time again, messages sent being polite, respectful, light hearted, even humorous to the same often go unreplied to or, worse yet, deleted unread. 

     I understand and know that nothing brings out the crazies like the sight of that pink typeface, and that you receive pages upon pages of messages, many of which fit my aforementioned criteria of being not even delete worthy. But do not wonder why you are alone and venting laments over being viewed as nothing more than some wet holes when you do not even have the courtesy of a simple reply in you.

     Somewhere out there is a shy, lonely, naive little looking for some guidance, care, adoration and, in time, very naughty endeavors to embark on a journey deep inside herself. Hopefully she will not just be nonchalant when a gentleman comes calling...

8/19/2015 9:09:03 PM
     Octoberfest beers? Why yes...

8/19/2015 7:27:02 AM
     That O.o moment when you read a Journal entry that a Domme is planning to give her male sub an ice enigma. So apparently no one is going to know what it is & where it is going... ;)

8/10/2015 7:15:26 PM
     I still do not understand the "Select All" mentality many have as far as situational preference. When you do an "All Of The Above" in an effort to show up in any search, it tells me not that you're incredibly open minded but either a fraud or just lazy.

8/10/2015 8:52:36 AM
     A sincere thank you to those who have replied to my previous entry RE sites focused on tasks, dares, etc. i believe there is one that has "word" in the title, one I chanced across in the past where there is more emphasis on the individual as far as profile pages, etc. that I have not been able to rediscover. But please, any suggestions welcome :)

8/7/2015 9:21:18 PM
     I am looking for sites where one offers tasks, etc for others to undertake, in the hopes of finding a little who would benefit from some experience, tutelage and an ear to bend. Ideally it would allow the creation of a profile page. If you know of any, messages appreciated :)

5/25/2015 7:40:52 PM
     The longer I am on this site & get to interact with female submissives of all kinds, shapes, sizes, states of availability, married, separated for all intents & purpose aside from actually being such, younger, older, naive, experienced....a few patterns have emerged as far as character traits. If I may...
     1) Typically they are all rather lonely, some more so than others, but in general there is a pronounced sense of being alone, even if they're married.
     2) They all desperately want to be wooed, chased, courted, pursued to become someone's submissive. This, admittedly, confuses me to no end. So many wait to be the one, ready to submit if asked, yet will stubbornly not offer the same to someone they very much want to. Is it foolish pride, or simply the zeal to satisfy my first point is so great that, ironically, they will not submit their submission? It makes no sense.
     3) Very sadly there is usually some sort of traumatic event in their past. I'm not sure if this is unique to these women or, horribly, it's just a hard truth in today's morally free world that, at some point in their lives, someone(s) did something horrible to them, or something terrible has happened.
     I am sure all of this is not true for all, but I can testify that a number of submissive women on here share all of these traits.

5/22/2015 7:33:31 PM
     Depending on which search site you use, there are anywhere from 75-200 women in the United States actually named Ashley Madison. I bet the all the snickering and jokes the husbands & boyfriends hear on a daily basis must be a blast...

5/7/2015 8:10:37 PM
     'Under Consideration" = "You'll do...unless I can find somewhere better before last call at 2am"

5/4/2015 6:46:06 AM
     I read with amusement a female submissive's Journal entry regarding a certain Dominant's lack of patience. This is why I have long preached that kitchen techniques very often preclude skills in a more intimate, closed door setting. The ability to coax mouthwatering flavors from the simplest, plain, often overlooked ingredients and cuts of meat via hours and hours of braising at a mere simmer, bubbling slowly in it's own oozing juices, growing more and more tender with each minute.
     Or kneading a bread dough that has been nurtured and proofing for days, allowing it to rise and fall, then expertly shape it with delicate, yet firm hands. Finally allowing it to explode in a screaming hot oven to reach it's full potential as something knee bendingly delicious from the most humble, mundane ingredients.
     That is what a proper Dominant should do with a submissive, and have the skill and patience for. If their idea of meal prep involves peeling back the tinfoil to reveal the tater tots, well....

5/1/2015 8:13:53 AM
     It never ceases to amaze me how often submissives fall into the trap of public displays of servitude. Be it photos online, exhibitionism, or outright pimping & whoring, you as the submissive really need to ask yourself a simple question : what are they most concerned about - your submission or their ego?
     If their demands constantly focus on your submission having not just witnesses or even multiple participants, to me it's all about their power trip, not your power exchange. They don't give a sloppy fuck about you & your submission. All they care about is stroking their tiny, flacid, limp egos for others to see how "big" it is ;)

4/30/2015 8:31:58 PM
"I remember Paris in '49.
The Champs Elysee, San Michelle
And old Beaujolais wine.
And I recall that you were mine
In those Parisienne days.

Looking back at the photographs.
Those summer days spent outside corner cafes.
Oh, I could write you paragraphs,
About my old Parisienne days."

"Parisienne Walkways" - Gary Moore

4/29/2015 8:15:28 PM
     While kneading some pasta dough today, it occurred to me that the act of properly preparing gluten to develop shares a lot in common with what it takes to execute an amazing hand job. Not that I've ever given one other than to myself, but allow me to explain:
     It's not a wrestling match or a race, nor is it a show of strength. It is all about technique, rhythm, patience and the ability to repeat the same motion deliberately, gently, exacting and with passion over & over & over. Find a woman who makes amazing yeast breads or pappardelle and you've found one who can make you grab the headboard in a futile act to remain sane while your eyes roll back in your skull from her expert, oily hands ;)

4/27/2015 7:30:19 PM
How To Test Your Proposed Dominant:

    It's simple, really. As part of getting to know one another better, ask him/her to make a dinner.
    That's it.
    Of course be careful to phrase the request in a way that does not come across as you, the submissive, *gasp* telling a yet to be determined dominant what to do. You know how to get things done for you without telling or asking, if you will. But yes, get them to cook for you.
     By all means offer to help. It could even be a chance to flirt, play. But in actuality what it is a test.
     Watch how they act in the kitchen:

     Are they organized or helter skelter?
     Did they get everything needed or will that recipe be missing an ingredient or two?
     Is their mies en place (prep work) done properly?
     Do they show you or tell you what to do?
     Is their workspace a disaster area or neat?
     Do they clean as they go along, or pile used items in the sink?
     Did they buy the freshest, best ingredients, or just some cheap, plastic wrapped stuff on discount?
     Was the timing of everything planned so it was all done at once, or are you eating warm salad and cold entrees?
     Was there wine, and if so was it a decent one or *ugh* cheap shit like Barefoot?

     Take mental notes on how things like recipes, ingredients, techniques, utensils, directions are employed. Were they calm & in control, or flustered and cursing? 
     Once dinner is over, you should know everything you need to as to whether or not you want to be nude, gagged, bound with your naughty bits vulnerable with the same person who couldn't even master cracking eggs ;)

4/26/2015 9:19:14 AM
     So if a sugar daddy got his baby girl a pizza, would that make him a Papa John? :D

4/24/2015 8:47:30 AM
     A word of caution to those female submissives who darken or use filters on profile imagery in an attempt to retain some anonymity:
     it is very easy to minimize, or in some cases completely reverse, these simplistic attempts. I recall one woman in particular. She was very brazen in her words, smug behind a profile image that had been polarized (IE like a color X-ray negative), not knowing that if you apply the same filter she used it restores the now negative image to its full color, detailed original...with her face. I presented her with said reversal as a cautionary tale.
     Her account disappeared later that day ;)

4/22/2015 7:53:52 PM
     In anatomical terms it's the surface depression caused along the ridge defined by the ilium & pubis bones of the human pelvis. In erotic terms, it's that sweet as fuck valley where thigh meets hip. Often delineated by no more than a subtle indent, it is truly one of the most majestic, innocently naughty and underrated erogenous zones a woman has.
     What makes it so amazing is that, even almost nude, this delicious area is hidden from view for the simple fact it is where it is. Be it panties or a bikini bottom, it is still relatively obscured from one's gaze. Hemlines may offer peeks and hints, but unless it's owner wants you to see it odds are it will be right up there with the more obvious erotic areas as far as staying well hidden from view until it's time to, well....
     Smooth as silk, it trails to paradise if you follow. Very often a woman, even if not ticklish, will lurch and spasm when she is caressed, kissed and explored there. And how it changes depending on the position she is in! That exaggeration when her torso is taut and twisted, her one hip seductively rising above the other. Ironically, as her last inhibitions fall and her legs spread wide, this beautiful shadow disappears for the most part. Perhaps to not compete with the headliner, it's role as a opening act *bad joke* now come to an end to a standing *heh* ovation from the admirer.
     It's a foolish man, or woman, that ignores this delightful curve. Relish in it's magnificence if you are lucky enough to find your eyes, fingers and mouth on it's trail. Take your time. Smell the roses, per se, because attention to it will most certainly cause another bloom to appear.

4/22/2015 12:16:44 PM
     I just love to read a Dominant (typically a Domme) get all Alpha in a journal entry. They start cursing and YELLING WITH CAPITAL LETTERS, like it makes them more, well, dominant, when in actuality it makes them so damn......cute *giggle*

4/21/2015 12:35:24 PM
"Hello, let me introduce you to
The characters in the show
One says yes, one says no
Decide - which voice in your head you can keep alive

Even in madness, I know you still believe
Paint me on canvas so I become
What you could never be"

Shindedown - I Dare You

4/20/2015 7:14:33 PM
     Did you ever stop to consider that all the strangers you see in your dreams are simply other dreamers, and that you are the stranger in their dream? O.o

4/19/2015 9:33:23 AM
     You know it's time for more coffee when you misread "muffled" as "muffins". Given the context it was used in, it made for a most O.o moment, which was actually a lot kinkier than the original.

4/18/2015 8:10:31 PM
Random Musing:
Somewhere there is a couple in an open relationship with a parrot named Polly :D

4/17/2015 10:00:29 AM
Ode To Alabaster

blessed are those whose
skin cool as milk curves soft
as my eyes upon the hills and
valleys lush with morning dew
you have any idea how truly
rare like a diamond twice as
pure raw sex oozes from
your pale velvet my hot gaze
into me through me onto
the cliffs of Dover crash white
hot waves of what you and
I collapse into your porcelain
doll like grace a gift to
all enjoyed by few
shared secret moments in
the night so black
you glow candle hot
bright dripping pearls of
opalescent memories

A small psalm in praise of those rare ladies blessed with flesh as white as milk

4/16/2015 7:43:38 PM
     While out enjoying that strange, warm yellow orb in the sky today I was privy to a most delicious stolen moment, or should I say moments. Allow me to set the scene:
     As I prepared to drive off from the cafe at which I had enjoyed breakfast, my eyes caught glimpse of a woman in the adjacent property. Probably 30something, she was an attractive, yet demure vision, the kind that really has no concept of how pretty they are.
     She was in the process of loading her flatbed cab with pile upon pile of flattened cardboard boxes for recycling. She was dressed appropriately for the occasion in faded denims with a few actual wear spots (not those fake TJ Maxx ones) as well as a worn white T shirt that just came to below her belt line. Add in some leather gloves and the stage is set.
     I turned over the ignition of my truck and, just as I was preparing to back out, she went to place a unwieldy pile of cardboard in the back of hers. That's when it happened.
     As she leaned into the truck bed her shirt rode up significantly, an act which was exaggerated even more when she bent at the waist, in essence folding herself in half.
    The view was spectacular.
     My eyes were treated to a fair deal of her exposed torso. That sweet arch at the base of the spine was accentuated by her bent posture, her very spankable ass cheeks taut from the angle and bend. 
     I sat there, drinking in this unexpected vision. It's always so naughty to sneek a glimpse of something you are not supposed to, regardless of how erogenous the display area is. I'm a sucker for soft curves and she had them in spades. I could almost feel her pale, velvety skin right above her hips.
     The best part? This went on for minutes. Again and again stacks of pressed cardboard yielded eyefuls of her midsection as well as a taut, bent over ass. The fact the upper half of her kept disappearing from view as she reached into the truck bed made it even more erotic.
     With one final, extended effort and show the call of my day trumped my mini voyeuristic reprieve and I drove off. But with a smile ;)

4/15/2015 7:56:56 PM
     While perusing the Journals I chanced across one which used the word "denizen". It occurred to me, based on the sad state of grammar I have seen in far too many entries, that a number of people on this site would think denizen is used to keep false teeth from falling out...

4/15/2015 7:01:24 AM
     If you are patient, and sift through all the flotsam that the Journals typically abound in, occassionaly one is rewarded with a lovely read, an opportunity to get to know someone erudite, perhaps chat with them and if the stars align.....well, a gentleman never scenes and tells.

4/13/2015 7:23:03 PM
     It occurred to me this morning that so much what BDSM is & pertains to are merely very adult manifestations of childhood experiences, games & play. Think about it:
     - Tie up games like Cowboys & Indians, Cops & Robbers often included crude bondage meant to keep one against one's will from being free to play as they wished. Sometimes the tie upped were tickled, an early form of physical duress applied to a bound subject.
     - Spanking, in all its forms, is pretty self explanatory. If in front of others the aspect of humiliation was added. It was also very likely the first time someone other that yourself addressed an, to an adult, erogenous/sexual zone of the body with intent, as well as Discipline 101.
     - Role play in all its forms. House, Doctor, the aforementioned "Good Guys/Bad Guys" scenarios. House could add age play even at a very young age! And Doctor was likely the first time a peer of the (usually) opposite sex saw, touched & did other things to private sexual organs & areas of your body.
     So while much of SSC play is very adult with the emotions, needs, wants, desires & perversions that come with sexual identity, much of the acts are, in hind site (bad spanking pun), nothing more than continuations of games most have played at one point very early in their lives. No wonder various acts are often described as ______ play ;)


4/12/2015 9:44:23 PM
     There is just something absolutely delicious about being privy to a perverted secret that, now shared, is no longer but is now a confession, admission or simply one less skeleton. It really, really speaks to the sapiosexual inside me.

4/7/2015 11:24:50 AM
     Wow....I guess y'all like erotica. Quite the flood of messages regarding my previous Journal entry. Guess female submissives enjoy reading about cock play from the male POV? And that is only the tip *heh* of the proverbial iceberg as far as that storyline.

4/6/2015 12:02:32 PM
     In times past I have engaged in online D/s where the main focus of the dynamic existed in the guise of shared writing. I would pen, er, type 1000 or so words to a storyline, at which time my submissive would stroke *heh* the next 1000, and so on. The resultant stories were toe curlingly erotic, like dancing. Where one would lead the other followed, etc. The electric sexual tension would often spill over into real life. 
     It is difficult to find submissive lady wordsmiths who are talented enough to match pace, tense, creativity, not rush or dawdle, but just let the words flow, the fire building with each exchange.
     More often than not it is in the form of a shared access Google Doc, which can lead to some naughty side notes, even naughtier replies and by then, well....
     As an example a passage I wrote while engaged in such a dynamic. *fade stage lights*

The scene - my imagination as my submissive innocently knelt in front of my character.

     "Silence can be and often is far more deafening than chaos. There was never a moment in my life, to that point, where that was more true than when our eyes met while she knelt in front of me. Any man with a ounce of testosterone in their flesh would have thought the exact same thing I was at that moment. How could I not? Here was this raw beauty with her face crotch level to me, on her knees, gazing upward not so much at me as through me. In me.
     Fuck yeah I imagined how her eyes would burn, still locked on mine as she undid my belt, dragging her nails over the rapidly growing bulge just below there. Teasing my distress to its fullest, my cock hard with pain from captive engorgement, dying to be freed and given more direct attention. That she would slide the zipper down with the urgency of January molasses, delighting in the way the contents inside almost leapt out, hungry and mad. How that little gasp of wide eyed amazement slid from her hot lips, making my cock twitch even more.
     She would take her sweet time petting my throbbing member through the boxer briefs, tracing the outline of its bulbous, sensitive head. Teasing the underside of the glans with a solitary fingernail, breathing in deeply as the musky scent of a man in heat permeated the night air. Celebrating how I fidgeted, my legs steel beams held still by jellied knees. She’d squeeze my balls softly, rolling them between thumb and palm, delighting like a child on Christmas morning at the way it forced even more blood up my painfully thick shaft.
     She’d tease my cock with everything she had - eyes, fingers, sounds, hands, her hot breath - using her entire self but only allowing the most minimal of actual contact. And I would be helpless against it.
     A girl goes for a erection with the fervor of a puppy on a bone, but a woman knows that the kiss of a butterfly’s wings is far more effective. Instead of tearing my briefs down my thighs and throwing herself at the enraged serpent, she would trace a solitary finger along the edge of the fly opening, snaking a fingernail under its hem. Slowly, slowly she’d advance it, my world now reduced to nothing more than craving the moment her flesh met mine.
     And, knowing how deliciously distressing it is as well as, depending on your outlook making my situation either far better or worse, gently fishing out my screaming cock through that snug opening. Allowing the testicles to, with care and warmth, join it outside that black cotton prison. The pressure would squeeze the base of my cock like an impromptu ring, every vein exaggerated, its surface purple with anger and lust. Pulsing. Throbbing. Oozing.
     The night air would crackle with erotic tension as a loud moan escaped my throat, relieved I had finally been touched, yet also worse off than I was not a minute prior. A prisoner of my own doing at her expert hands.
     She’d oooohhh and purr and make sweet dirty talk. “Oh my, that looks almost painful.” And so on.
     Both her hands would stroke its length, their fingertips no more than a whisper. Up and down the thick shaft, teasing, caressing, her eyes locked into mine. My breathing would resemble a race horse put to stall wet, hot and fresh from the track, my eyes screaming for more and more ministrations.
     How her ample cleavage, firm and proud, would frame the entire scene majestically. And that she would almost sense the same, allowing one hand to continue torturing me while the other slid to her dress. She’d stroke her breasts through the flimsy material with the same urgency she was giving to my cock, eventually undoing a button, then another, another….all the while never breaking her death grip of a gaze into my soul.
     I’d have said fuck softly about a hundred times by then, and needed the cool support of the Italian marble mantle to prevent me from collapsing. The irony of something meant to be hot being so cold near something so fucking scalding a cruel irony.
     I would moan loudly as she brought me nearer and, with a sudden viselike grip, squeezed the base of my cock so hard its head would surge with fresh blood. Then take that and use it to tease her breasts. Soft, soft, oh so fucking soft. Heaven.

     Around and around, over, between her green silk clad globes, again and again she’d stroke herself with my cock head. A new aroma would fill the night. Sweet. Pungent. Musky. Thick. The unmistakable perfume that is a pussy dripping honey, oozing out around and through her panties, leaving a trail down her exposed thighs. She’d fidget, herself a prisoner of her own doing as well.
     The scent was just too much, too much….
     ...of burning cheese.
     *ding*
     The oven’s timer slammed me back into reality, that dinner was hopefully done, and that it had not fallen like I just did."

4/6/2015 11:41:42 AM
     Some advice to those submissives new to this site:

     If you see a submissive either recommending or endorsing "their" Dominant, tread carefully into that scenario, for often it is nothing more than what is called "shilling" in the auction world, where one person is both the seller and bidder of the same item. They bid on their own stuff to artificially inflate their value when no one else gives a damn about their crap. 

4/5/2015 8:55:28 PM
     I can see & understand a submissive taking this BDSM test that seems to be almost viral on this site now, but I admit to being a bit suspicious of any Dominant who does the same. If you need a test to tell you how dominant you are, or worse yet are not, perhaps you should change your text color... ;)

4/2/2015 8:42:30 PM
      "...A lot of seminal British vampire literature emphasized vampires as alien - vampires weren't just undead who threatened people's lives, they were also foreigners who threatened their way of life. The aspect of vampiric mythology that said you had to invite a vampire into your home reflected this. It said that you were safe as long as you kept the foreigner/vampire outside, but you were in danger if you let one in.
     The myth predates Dracula and British vampire stories. It's not so much that vampires are foreigners who threaten people's way of life. Vampires are demons, evil creatures, and as such you're only subject to them if you give into their temptations...
      .....if you speak to them...
      .....if you invite them in."
- Anon web find

4/2/2015 6:59:45 PM
"Like sugar and cyanide,
These worlds are gonna collide"
Seether - Tonight

3/31/2015 7:31:49 PM
     While conversing with a lovely, bright female submissive the other evening, she asked me if I could, in one non run-on sentence, summarize the majority of women on CS.
     As I pondered, my fingers taptaptaptapped across the keys, doing my best to be inclusive and utilizing as much punctuation as I could without becoming breathless from reading.
     It was taking minutes of our chat. Finally, with a sudden realization, it hit me. So with a single click I deleted all that I had written and replied:

"In general, the majority of women on Collarspace are lonely."

     She agreed...

3/30/2015 10:54:33 AM
     "Vampires can live a very long time, theoretically forever, which means their idea of getting down to business can be damn leisurely."
     Laurell K. Hamilton - Obsidian Butterfly

3/29/2015 6:25:03 PM
      Submissives - when you review a Dominant's Journal & it's the same Journal entry over...and over...and over....and over....well, I think you get the idea said "Dominant" is a sad, pathetic, one trick pony casting a line (the same line) repeatedily trying to desperately catch a pretty fish....any fish...cause he has no bait.

3/27/2015 3:27:39 PM
     It matters not how many toys a Dom owns if they are deficient in using the most lethal one. You know, the one located between the ears ;) I've reduced a number of submissive ladies to dysfunctional, creamy, frantic, come thirsty shells with nothing more than an item most carry in their purse. 

3/26/2015 7:34:15 AM
     So when the cashier said "Strip down facing me" how was I to know she meant my debit card?

3/23/2015 8:34:46 AM
     I've Journaled about this before, but I feel it bears repeating:

     When you see that profile of the very attractive, young "female" whose fantasy(s) only involve being violently used, violated, even raped anally and orally (but not vaginally)... well, you may want to really think about the actual gender behind that profile ;)

3/23/2015 7:22:39 AM
     That :/ when a well crafted Profile & images that do not come up on Tineye yields an econversation where their grasp of the English language is stereotypical of cinematic bloken Engrish in no more than five word fragments *eyeroll*

3/21/2015 9:23:42 PM
     I must admit I am confused by the idea of a submissive couple. For it to truly work wouldn't a switch couple be more accurate? Although the thought is quite intriguing...

3/20/2015 12:07:37 PM
"The only difference between cold blooded fear and hot blooded excitement is your attitude"

3/20/2015 12:05:11 PM
     When you use as bait an image of your, so to say, "barn door" wide open like you're ready for an annual PAP smear, don't be upset or stunned when all your profile attracts is flies and maggots...just sayin'

3/19/2015 8:35:38 PM
     It becomes so fucking obvious when someone with a well written, articulate, grammar correct, lengthy profile messages with a few words, all lower case, often abbreviated and the grammar of a toddler that they are not who they portray themselves as. It's like the Collarspace version of the carpet not matching the drapes, if you know what I mean.

3/19/2015 7:53:42 AM
So exactly how many deaths are you going to let those tiny, naughty whispers in the darkest corners of your mind die before you do something about it & allow them to come to life?

Curious?

3/15/2015 8:11:32 AM
     This GIF beautifully & elegantly summarizes what it is like to offer one's submission to an online Dominant like myself...

http://tinyurl.com/lz2scd4

3/14/2015 9:04:54 PM
     Journal Entry Of The Day - reading that a female submissive wanted to explore an online 50s style homelife O.o I am very open minded, but that is a first for me.

3/14/2015 8:54:15 PM
     Every time I read that some submissive is going on X hours or X days of anal stretching with a plug "...because my Dom said to..." I cringe. There is a thing called muscle tone, and the anal sphincter's is very, very, very important for one major reason.
     That tiny muscle can be abused to a point where it loses tone, IE it don't slam shut no more. Google it if you wish.
     So when your Dom leaves you for some other tight assed submissive & you're buying Depends because, well, shit happens (literally) without your ability to do anything about it short of surgery to repair it, I hope it was worth it.

3/14/2015 12:36:06 PM
      Maybe it's just me, but having as your profile picture on your Dominant account a photo of your late model, unmarked van is probably not the right image to convey trust...

3/13/2015 8:55:29 PM
     So if a person of Romanian descent was in gender conflict & having problems with the gear shift in their late model Pontiac sports car, and to fix it needed to have the parts shipped from overseas, then from one coast to the other, would that be a Transylvanian transexual transcontinental Trans-Am transmission transit transfer? O.O

3/12/2015 8:47:07 PM
     Because nothing says "Look at me! I am a Dominant!" more than Journal entries using 24pt bold type in all caps. Given their preoccupation with the size of the font they use, if I were a submissive reading their entry I would think twice about what they must be trying to over compensate for behind the zipper ;)

3/11/2015 7:24:00 PM
     I read, with much amusement, that submission is not a gift. That it must be taken, seized. That a true Dominant simply does that. This is total & utter bullshit. Seething right now at my assertion? Allow me to explain:
     If submission is truly not given but taken, I would ask any Dominant finding issue with that to simply go demand submission somewhere. Could be a bar, a nightspot, laundromat, supermarket, daycare center, etc. See how that "On your knees now, bitch" works for you. My guess is, even in light of all the 50 Shades Mommies adrift, that you would likely end up, at best, laughed at. Worse case scenario is wiping a drink off your face or the slap mark from  it.
     Make no mistake about it - submission is & always will be gifted by the submissive. Always. Keep in mind that when a Dominant says this to someone who is submissive they very well may drop to their knees. That has zero to do with the Dominant & everything to do with who they are talking to/at. A submissive is already in a mindset of offering, sharing, giving of themselves. They want someone to take their Trust and use it as they see fit, however perverted that may be. So while yes, you may be able to simply Dominant someone, it would be the equivalent of walking up on someone's lawn next to the pile of stuff next to the 'FREE" sign along the curb & demanding the owner give it to them...now. 
     For you submissives reading this, always remember you have ALL the power in the D/s dynamic. This is what Dominants crave, thirst for. That's why it's a power exchange. But it all starts with your saying "yes", not their saying "Now!"

3/3/2015 8:22:20 PM
That *eyeroll* moment when the sign the cute female submissive is holding displaying her name & date reveals that, upon a closer look, all the various repeated upper & lower case letters in the "handwritten" font match 100% identically.....

3/2/2015 10:05:54 AM
I always cringe when I read of the female submissive who has had a profile of less than a hour and has received 10+ pages of emails. I'd think very, very, very carefully about that if I were them. Carpet bombing the pink Helvetica Newest Users repeatedly & often is not a quality to admire in a Dominant. 

2/28/2015 8:49:34 PM
When that curious female submissive desiring an online D/s dynamic can only manage 9 words over three messages in replies, well....let's just say it does not bode well for appealing to a sapiosexual as far as desirability.

2/26/2015 5:45:51 AM
Really? Of all the pics online you could have chose to "be you" in your scammer profile...you picked a bunch of Kim Kardasian? Really???

1/13/2015 11:50:35 AM
Gotta give the scammers credit for figuring out that Bisexual Female Switch pretty much covers everything and anyone....

1/10/2015 8:45:56 PM
Had the most delightfully erotic experience today at, of all places, a book store coffee shop. Allow me to set the scene:

A very pale (think alabaster) and trim 20something emo, complete with off the shoulder black top over what appeared to be a string bikini (in this crazy weather, I know, I know). While taking the order of the woman in front of me, she had to retrieve a cup from below the counter. Given her state of dress any movement as of such would easily give someone standing in front of her a lovely view right down her shirt. Obliviously she was aware of this in that she placed her arm across her bosom, keeping the excuse of a top snug and gap free. I :( at this, obviously.

Now it is my turn to order. A sandwich, coffee and muffin for here. While she took my order she made some small talk, then returned to her below counter bend to retrieve my cup...

...without using her arm to keep that top close to the vest, if you will.

The view down her shirt of her just delicious cleavage was breathtaking. A small B cup at best, but full, easily passing the pencil test. Firm, ripe and, for the 2 or 3 seconds she was down there, the center of my universe.

With a wry smile she stood, handed me the cup and, with that, our very brief dalliance ended.

It was a very good sandwich...

1/7/2015 11:01:43 AM
Oh sure, when Miley Cyrus is licking a sledgehammer while nude it's considered "art" and "music", but when I do I'm "wasted" and "have to leave Home Depot"...

1/5/2015 8:39:45 PM
Collarspace Journals - where reading "It Came!" can take on a variety of meanings :D

1/5/2015 8:30:12 PM
     Recently I have been most fortunate to have had the distinct pleasure to interact on a variety of levels with some amazing female submissives. All of them were extremely well spoken, educated, witty, successful. They range in age from college coed to almost half a Benjamin.
     Some of these simply went no further than simple messages, occasionally evolving into an econversation. A few went to private email, which led to chatting. And when the stars aligned a select few shared some extremely erotic adventures with me, either in the form of the written word or Tasks. To a T all went well...
     ..... then to the same letter they just *poof*. Fade away like a whisper on the wind. Upon review I found an common thread.
     Women, especially an older submissive, want to be wooed. Seduced. Chased. The object of relentless pursuit. To have that which their real lives either is void of or never had. As I have often said, the one thing submissives loathe and fear more than anything is to be ignored, yet they use the same as a tool to get their attention fix. When that did not come forthright, they became echoes. Why? What is the infatuation with being chased? So often one reads about so called Doms bulling their way in, being total assholes, rude and vulgar. Demanding to a fault from the get go. But yet the vampire, for as charming as he is, must be invited in before he can cast his spell.
     It just surprises me that what is wanted and what is not shared in regards to that lust are two different things. Think about that when you expect a Dominant to, in essence, submit to your desire to be pursued...

1/1/2015 8:28:40 AM
A lil' advice to all the resolutionists:

"Everything in moderation, including moderation" ;)

12/24/2014 7:01:49 AM
Suffice to say, all the littles will be handfuls of wide eyed energy & wonder today... ;)

12/21/2014 8:51:57 PM
To you, yes you the 18/19 year old fin domme, a humble suggestion:

No one wants to be a pay piggie to a Instagram duckface domme. Exude a lil' class.

12/18/2014 5:34:21 AM
Sexual Definition Of The Day:
Sabertooth - A cougar's mother :D

12/18/2014 4:44:10 AM
Collarspace should create a new sexuality identification - buysexual *sigh*

12/15/2014 12:06:46 PM
An unresolved fantasy that combines about all of my kinks & personal interests:

To bind a woman nude to a chair, blindfold her, then by candlelight & soft music feed her an amazing multi course gourmet dinner that I had prepared just for her... all the while edging, teasing, abusing & mind fucking her to the point of multiple, frantically begged, coordinated orgasm after orgasm after orgasm with each course, each of which increased in intensity.

Sigh...

12/12/2014 12:04:54 PM
It is a very, very sad commentary on the state of contemporary literacy that receiving messages or emails from female submissives that properly use capitalization, punctuation and grammar actually begin to arouse me slightly :/

12/12/2014 11:46:04 AM
Upon further review, I still appreciate those women who are all about that bass...

12/11/2014 6:50:06 AM
     Flour. Water. Yeast. Salt.
     That's it as far as the ingredients in real bread. So simple, yet so complex. Hundreds if not thousands of variations on a theme. The aroma of it freshly baked, how the steam rises from its crevices, the way the crust snaps, so crisp. How it tastes so much better than that mass produced, pre packaged & sliced crap. Butter melting seductively into its pores. People spend their entire lives in pursuit of the art of making a good loaf of bread.
     Four simple, rudimentary elements, yet so difficult to master. 
     Of course there are other ingredients, if you will. Time. Patience. Knowledge. Heat. Those right there are the main reason that what was once a given in any home is now a pricey luxury. No one is willing to spend those anymore. Not even a century ago the daily bread was, indeed, just that. And tomorrow's bread was started from the scraps of today's.
     Four basic ingredients. No magic, no special machines or tools. But also one more thing....
     Love (or passion, desire, etc)
     That's what it takes to turn the simplest of ingredients into something ethereal, magical, capable of eliciting strong emotions and memories. Water into wine, if you will.
     Somewhere out there is a female submissive who is not the fancy dessert in the case, or perhaps even visually all that stunning. Just someone simple, plain, demure, who is just some flour, yeast, water & salt. And with the right Dom can be made into something amazing with time, patience, knowledge....and heat ;)

12/10/2014 11:55:15 AM
     While every woman is beautiful in her own unique way, they are all subject to standardization by which one of the 3 Ss she is - a Squealer, a Screamer or a Squirmer. Regardless of pedigree, education, social status, race, sexual identity, age, some other term/adjective you are particularly fond of...all are sexually one of the 3s or a combination of any two. You cannot have a 3S woman. Is not possible.
     My personal favorite is the rare Squirming Squealer. Screamers are fun places to visit for a long weekend, but eventually the decibels get on my nerves. However, the natural desire to fidget uncontrollably and make those cock hardening lil' sounds? Sign me up.

12/9/2014 8:48:12 PM
There have been some outstanding, well worded & thoughtful Journal entries lately by littles on exactly what is & is not DD/lg. It's comforting and heartening to see and read these, especially from the perspective of the little. Almost all my experiences with littles have validated that they, most often, are very intelligent, well spoken, educated and not afraid to let that tiny voice live.

12/9/2014 11:58:42 AM
The female vagina, where men spend nine months desperately trying to get out, then the rest of their lives desperately trying to get back in :D

12/8/2014 7:46:22 AM
If you think about it, reading in someone's Profile something to the effect of "I don't know why I keep coming here" can mean a multitude of things :D

12/8/2014 7:40:54 AM
Dear Female Submissive who is only looking for a Domme,

     There is this thing called "Sexuality" in the Collarspace profile generator. It allows you to identify the preferred sexual orientation of your partner in kink.
     For example, Straight means you are seeking a male. I know, heady stuff, stay with me.
      Now Lesbian means you want another female as a partner. It comes from the Greek island Lesbos, which loosely translates to "muncher of carpet."
     Then there is Bisexual, which means you do not care if your dominant has a penis or a vagina. This is not to be confused with a Trysexual, who will drop panties for, well, about anything.
     I think it's great you are looking for another woman. More power to you & good luck in your search. But if you want a carpet to munch (or linoleum to lick for you shavers) please indicate so in your Profile, mkay?

12/7/2014 12:49:57 PM
     It's biting cold with the wind today, well below freezing. After a number of driving errands I'm at one of my favorite cafes. A real fire crackles in a huge fieldstone fireplace, central to the dining area. Xmas carols waft from some Sirius station. The steam from my coffee feels good, the huge slice of pumpkin bread a welcome treat.
     An assumed college coed is working on a Macbook while texting. An older couple sit alone together, each with their faces buried in a book mere feet from one other. Either a pair of old friends, or silver lesbians from their shared butch cuts, sip, gossip and laugh. One has on a black lace blouse over a silk halter. It's fucking freezing & she is baring a lot of muffin top and rolls under a lacy veil.
     A couple way too young to have a child as old as the one with them reclines on the comfy couch in front of the fireplace, echoes of some backseat romp one teen night now scampering around under constant super vision of breaking something.
     My coffee has been sitting for well over five minutes and it's still almost too hot to sip, but the mug feels good on my thawing fingers. At this rate I'll have an excuse to get another treat. My favorite part of the weekend. To just be.

12/4/2014 9:59:37 AM
Wonders if there are any dommes named Cissy? :D

12/3/2014 9:18:22 PM
Undecided on what to name your hipster themed business? Worry no more!

http://www.hipsterbusiness.name/

Now excuse me please, I need to go register the Carrot & Plum...

12/3/2014 11:33:15 AM
I honestly had no idea there were still phone sex businesses, let alone web based ones *hhmph*

12/3/2014 9:33:12 AM
A thank you to those who messaged me regarding my previous Journal entry about what DD/lg is & is not. It's always nice to be complemented, as well as talk with like minded others.

12/1/2014 8:47:22 AM
There seems to be a lot of not just confusion but downright misinformation being assumed about the DD/lg dynamic on this site. If I may:

A DD/lg is not about age play, incest or pedophilic fantasies at all. So many get hung up on the term "daddy" and tune out right then & there, making their minds up about what either wants from the dynamic. If you have ever heard someone refer to another person who was/is not their biological father as having a parental role in impacting their lives, congratulations! You just figured out the underlying current of DD/lg.

And if you have ever enjoyed casting aside all that which comes with being an adult and relished in the opportunity to be a "child" for a little while, say at an amusement park, coloring a book with a nephew or niece, being on the floor playing with them, pulling the covers back over your head and hiding from the demands of the day, maybe sitting down and watching How The Grinch Stole Christmas...then you have been "little." 

It does not mean you are sick & perverted. To me, quite the opposite. By acknowledging that a part of you yearns for the simplistic, care free days of childhood you allow that part of you to never die. The part of you that remembers Xmas Eve as the longest night of the year. Remember that sensation of time standing still in wide eyed wonder? It's still there. Some women embrace that, and yearn to be with someone who understands. With who they can be a child, allowing that inner little girl to live again. To be silly, curious, innocent, naive, and the apple of their "daddy's" eye. To be nurtured, adored, yet also disciplined and even punished.

But also with very adult desires, feelings, yearnings. That is where it gets naughty. Very naughty.

You never hear anything negative about a woman wanting a sugar daddy. Daddy is as daddy does. So why all the taboo about DD/lg? It's no different.

11/25/2014 6:12:36 AM
Does anyone else notice that an alarming number of male dominants on this site could easily pass for a typical Amish man? O.o

11/24/2014 10:37:27 AM
All these people who, in their journals, mention "If you are a (whatever) and even view my profile you will be blocked!" must have been the same ones who as children held their pointed finger millimeters from their sibling in the back seat singing "I'm not touchinggggggg..."

11/22/2014 6:30:14 AM
If you list erudite in your profile, either via seeking others or in descibing yourself, perhaps we should talk...

11/18/2014 7:03:46 PM
Random Musing - So if vanilla is the flavor of non kink, what flavor is kinky? O.o

11/12/2014 8:45:09 AM
Perfection... http://i62.tinypic.com/21c8h8p.jpg

11/10/2014 9:41:46 PM
My, oh my, you sure know how to arrange things
You set it up so well, so carefully
Ain't it funny how your new life didn't change things
You're still the same old girl you used to be
- Don Henley & Glenn Frey

11/5/2014 7:19:00 AM
It's always fun to view the "Newest Users" and see which celebrities and/or porn stars have just recently joined CM *eyeroll*

11/5/2014 7:12:47 AM
     Straight Male Submissives/Slaves have got to be the bottom dwellers of CS, the lowest of the low when it comes to hard limits. Apparently they have none in that, time after time, my Straight Male Dominant profile is viewed by them. I would think the words 'Straight Male" in both profiles would be a rather significant hard limit.

     This behavior completely explains pay piggies....and lemmings.

11/4/2014 6:20:42 AM
Apparently, from all the Who's Viewing Me's, I'm big in in the former Soviet bloc countries....who knew?

10/21/2014 8:17:47 PM
Would an all fin domme rock group be considered a tribute band? :D

10/18/2014 8:15:32 AM
It is true, the pen is mightier than the sword, or in contemporary terms the digital touchpad is.

Words, in all their guises, are so powerful. Various toys may break your resolve with brute force and physical trauma, but carefully chosen, crafted & shared words can do 2x the work from the inside out without so much as a fingertip being laid upon flesh. The scars from those fucking bruises, welts & cuts are there forever and need no photos to remind the wearer of what they went through to earn them.

It's one thing to wringe and force orgasm after orgasm from a wet slit, but real power is achieving the same result with just one single word...

10/16/2014 7:54:36 AM
Very often, when a particular Journal entry catches my eye for any number of reasons (a question, its humor, thought provoking, erotic, etc) I'll send a brief message to the author either answering their inquiry, complimenting them, or simply expressing my appreciation for a good LOL.

Sadly, very often those messages, sent with no malicious intent, or as bait if you will, and with zero expectations of any sort of protocol or decorum because it does not exist, go either unread, deleted as such, or the worst to me - read with no reply. Not even a simple "Thank you." It's like holding a door open for a stranger, and having them walk right in without so much as a single acknowledgment you exist, let alone did someone kind with no expectation of anything in return.

Keep that in mind when y'all wonder why you're all alone...

10/15/2014 10:48:06 AM
Passion knows no boundaries. You have it or you do not. It is a part of you, just like any other aspect of your persona. Find someone who is passionate in the kitchen & 99 times out of 100 they are as equally passionate, if not more so, in the bedroom.

Give someone passionate about cooking some good ingredients, the right equipment, some time and their hands, hearts and soul can bleed out some amazing meals where others only saw leftovers. Give someone passionate about kink some good ingredients, the right equipment, some time and their hands, hearts and soul can bleed out some amazing things where others only saw sex.

You do not need grass fed filet mignon or Maine lobster to make an amazing entree. Same with kink. The most plain wrapper of a female, in the right hands, can become a erotic goddess that makes women perceived as far sexier no more enticing than a drive thru bag lunch.

10/14/2014 8:49:55 PM
It never ceases to amaze me how many female dominant profile images are of themselves in very submissive postures, positions, etc. 

10/13/2014 9:27:47 PM
I can bake so good you'd slap your nana....or at least call her & express your displeasure. You pick one.

10/11/2014 8:21:09 PM
After 3 days of straight out, balls to the wall effort at work this couch feels like 3 feet of feathers, the beer colder and my joints going aaaaaahhhhhhhhh

10/11/2014 9:05:03 AM
"Power is...holding someone else's fear in your hand and showing it to them."
- Amy Tan

10/10/2014 7:30:13 AM
It is oh, so so nice to share one's secret passions and kinks with a likeminded sapiosexual where, between the two of you, over 11,000 words have been shared...and no one has actually touched anyone else, let alone gotten nasty.

There is a reason that a sauce slowly simmered for a week on the back burner tastes so much better than one hastily thrown together. You cannot fake time or experience as an ingredient in any endeavor, be it cooking or sex.

10/8/2014 8:26:47 PM
Somewhere, right this very second, some delicate fingers are anointing themselves in their owner's honey that, drip by drip, has been pooling sticky sweetness for almost a day. A fidgety imp is about to be released in his favorite playground...and this makes me smile.

10/7/2014 8:29:50 PM
Because copying & pasting the same few Journal entries over & over & over in BOLD print makes you more dominant....rightttttttt

10/7/2014 7:23:01 AM
There are a number of very valid & realistic reasons why a select few female submissives on this site have, are and will continue to fill their days & Journals with snark & loneliness.

A great number do not, and are alone for reasons beyond their control, unfortunately. Some amazing women who are rose buds waiting to bloom.

But a few are genuinely not happy unless they wallow in their solitary world by focusing all of their self brought, pent up emotions outwardly upon others to rationalize their patheticness. Enjoy the sound of the faucet dripping dear, you two are kindred spirits - broken, obnoxious, repetitive and barely wet.

10/5/2014 6:53:40 PM
Anyone can scramble eggs, not everyone has the patience, skill & desire to make a souffle.

Those who know...know.

9/30/2014 9:14:16 AM
That O.o moment when you read that a Domme is looking for a buy male and you realize that may, indeed, not be a typo...

9/29/2014 10:04:09 PM
Oh, to be able to scene to this...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRN2REfnuaM

9/26/2014 9:42:43 PM
Damn, but I do adore a female submissive that gives great grey matter...

9/26/2014 6:49:03 AM
The past week or so has restored my faith in sapiosexuality on this site. To the lovely, charming, witty, educated & even flirtateous female submissives who I have & are exchanging messages with, a thank you and *mwah* on the hand, my ladies.

9/25/2014 6:57:59 AM
Upon further review, there is no manly, machismo way to order a pumpkin muffin *nom*

9/24/2014 8:01:55 PM
There is nothing as erotic as the sounds of sex, especially if she is a squealer. The sighs, coos, gasps, pleas, whimpers.....sigh.

9/24/2014 7:18:03 AM
The soft, thin skinned underside of the forearm may be the most under appreciated & utilized part of the female anatomy. I have yet to meet a woman whose thighs did not melt into July butter when fingers dance across them for minutes and minutes on end, accentuated with a good helping of hot breath, soft kisses & dry nibbles.

9/24/2014 7:08:54 AM
"Assumptions are dangerous things to make, and like all dangerous things to make -- bombs, for instance, or strawberry shortcake -- if you make even the tiniest mistake you can find yourself in terrible trouble."
- Lemony Snicket, The Austere Academy

9/23/2014 9:41:22 AM
I have a rare hour or so to simply keep this corner rocker warm with a cold beer, so if any female submissives want to ask me anything I will answer it & provide the cumulative Q&A as a Journal entry. Hard limit is anything that may appear on the typical resume :) Think trivial stuff, etc.

9/23/2014 8:49:49 AM
If you really appreciate having the space between your ears stimulated more than the space between your thighs, I cannot recommend this Youtube channel enough (link is the 1st in a playlist):

http://tinyurl.com/pyegpsd

9/23/2014 8:45:17 AM
Does anyone else find The Beautiful Agony videos as arousing as I do? To see the slow build up of sexual tension to volcanic release only through the faces of those masturbating is intoxicating. We all know what is happening, but you only get to see the facial expressions, hear the breathing, muscles tense, squirming, and oh! the sounds. The eyes are my favorite aspect. To see the storm of orgasm build from a small gasp to a howling hurricane in their gaze?
Sigh...

9/21/2014 7:15:00 AM
A selfish day, seizing time by ironically not paying any attention to it. Not its bitch today. And the glorious part? I plan to do nothing, as in no plans. I will do a lot, but what that entails and means have yet to be determined and discovered. To get in the car, drive, listen to music loudly, enjoy real food, some coffee, solitude, the thrill of chance discovery and be a leaf on the winds of time while keeping firm roots in reality. Fucking with time by ignoring it. I wish you all some selfish moments today.

9/20/2014 5:18:01 PM
While beer is a great social drink, wine is more initimate. Lamenting that, as nice as this malbec is, I am enjoying it alone. Oh well...

9/17/2014 8:27:25 PM
It makes me :) and feel good when female submissives take the time to send me a short note saying how they enjoy my Journal, or that I made them laugh with the same. So thank you to those who did & have. It means a lot.

9/17/2014 10:19:39 AM
Seeing journal entries consisting of all caps, in bold, with red as emphasis from so called dominants reminds me of the story of two bulls on a hilltop gazing down upon a herd of heifers. The all caps, bold, red dominant screams "I'M GONNA RUN DOWN AND FUCK ONE OF EM'!" ...whereas someone like myself would just stroll down quietly and fuck them all ;)

9/17/2014 7:04:31 AM
There is vanilla, sexy, erotic, naughty, kinky & perverted. Most, if not all forms of human sexuality can be adequately defined with one of these terms. That being said, I have come to the conclusion that the DD/lg dynamic can be the perfect mix of all of them. I know its naughty factor for kink is unparalleled, but it also encompasses all of the aforementioned at any one time. No other fetish, if you will, can so eloquently make that claim.

9/16/2014 8:38:52 PM
Had the most lovely chat with a stunning little earlier, someone who appreciates having the organ between their ears stimulated as if it was located between their thighs.

9/15/2014 8:44:39 AM
I do not find arousing or enticing in the least pictures on female submissive's profiles that can best be described as a view that their OBGYN is accustomed to seeing. When you leave the barn doors wide open from the get go, don't be upset when you attract a lot of flies to your Inbox.

9/14/2014 6:51:56 PM
Funny how time spent in a hammock with a few beers and a new book is so freeing when you realize the vessel you are reclined in is, in reality, a large net :)

9/11/2014 8:23:19 AM
Shaking my head at how many times I see a new submissive profile (say a week or so old) post "Now owned by.....". Really? You have been here not even a lunar cycle and yet someone now "owns" you to do as they wish/desire/etc to/with/on/in you? Damn...

9/10/2014 9:03:39 PM
Upon further review I would still, instead of being a fin domme, be a German chocolate cake domme...

9/9/2014 10:45:31 AM
I do not understand in the least the fascination with body graffiti. Not tattoos, but the writing of names or vulgarities. Are you that insecure with yourself that you need to actually see your name, profanities, etc on a submissive's skin via a marker or lipstick? The marks I prefer are the ones no one, even their owner, will ever see unless they look deeply inside themselves.

9/8/2014 9:23:57 AM
Reading some of these sad Journal entries by newbie submissive women has me convinced that, indeed, men have two heads but only enough blood to use one at any given moment...

9/6/2014 9:18:16 PM
I swear, with the number of times that a Straight Male Submissive has viewed my Straight Male Dominant profile, it makes me embarrassed to be a penis owner...

9/6/2014 7:35:59 PM
I do not understand that "Under Consideration" thing at all. You talk, discuss, joke, share, tease, flirt, and see if you both wish to take the same to a far more adult level...as equal partners. No playing Nero with tests or thumb's up/down.

9/6/2014 7:22:49 PM
Yes, it is true. I have helped a young woman to achieve the ability to not just come on command in about half a year's time, but also mutliple to the tune to 70+ orgasms at a scene/play, to where she begged me to stop cumming.
Curious?

9/4/2014 6:50:53 AM
You know that naughty lil' voice that is always whispering the most perverted desires to your sub conscious? The fleeting fantasies that invade your day to day life, teasing you at the most inopportune moments, leaving you wistful and wet?
Imagine, for a second, if that voice belonged to someone else.... Curious?

9/3/2014 8:17:11 PM
So many submissive women looking externally for something, or more accurately someone, to set them free by restricting them...when where they should really be looking is deep inside themselves for what they seek.

9/2/2014 9:27:20 AM
It appears that Bisexual Female Slave is the new submissive on here, and almost always someone whose profile starts "I am new to all of this yada yada yada...". If you are just realizing you have submissive and/or kinky desires, why jump in to slavery to anyone?

8/26/2014 6:27:43 AM
Sometimes the Daddy part of being a Daddy Dom sucks. The concern & worrying about the issues & lives of a little girl can get to you. One part of you wants to wrap yourself around her, the other half just wants to put her over a knee & blister her ass cherry red....sigh

8/24/2014 8:09:58 PM
A thank you to the wayward & neophyte littles who accepted my offer to just ask away, or simply talk, about whatever was on their minds. I have & do enjoy helping those who are confused or just want to ask (in their minds) a stupid question, when the only stupid question is the one that is not asked :)

8/22/2014 6:39:50 AM
If you are, or think you may be a little (especially if just becoming involved with this community) and are confused or simply scared about these feelings, please feel free to message me with no obligation, protocol, expectations, etc. to just....talk.

8/22/2014 6:35:19 AM
Upon further review, I still do not feel like playing a little dangerously today...

8/19/2014 11:08:35 AM
Was at a home improvement store the other day perusing the various chains & connectors when, over the PA system, an announcement rang:

"ASSISTANCE NEEDED IN THE BLIND CUTTING AREA"

This is an horrible accident just waiting to happen :D

8/19/2014 11:04:52 AM
From the quality, grammar and overall tone of the Journals lately it appears that sapiosexuality is endangered on this site. Not that it was ever rife with it to begin, sadly :/

8/18/2014 8:00:50 AM
Having now achieved this level with another submissive, I am convinced all women can, with time, patience & the correct teaching methods, be taught to come on command. And not just during play, but actually on command. As in "At 11:00 you will have an orgasm" and she did. Not earthquaking or mind blowing, but simply sitting at work, at a desk, without edging, no touching, or even verbalization. She had an orgasm...while talking with a co worker who chanced into her office at 10:59 ;)

8/14/2014 8:22:47 PM
From the volume of profile views today after my previous Journal entry (which are always appreciated & humbling) it appears that the curiosity about the Vilena Pose posture is very strong among female submissives. I find it erotic as fuck.

8/14/2014 9:43:49 AM
For you lovely, bored female submissives: Google "Vilena Pose". Want to take a Dom's breath away? (especially this one) Yeah...

8/11/2014 12:00:53 PM
Just a FWIW: spamming female submissives, then calling them out by screen name for not replying is not very gentlemanly & a sad excuse of a so called Dominant male. Grow a pair, show some tact and class and simply accept they are creeped out by your epic patheticness.

7/18/2014 7:11:01 AM
That beautiful moment when after half a year of training your little can now, literally, come on command. As in no foreplay, edging, anything. Either a simple word prompt or command to via a certain hallmark (example - having an orgasm at work at exactly 11:00:00)....so proud of her. She has come (heh) so far from the naive little coed she once was, or is that never really was to begin with. I saw her potential all along, and now she is a rare gem among woman with the power to make herself climax simply because she was told to. What a good, good girl.

7/4/2014 7:23:29 AM
It's hysterical how many littles want someone no more than 10 years their senior for a Daddy. That's a Brother Dom, dears...

6/24/2014 9:43:44 AM
     Because it's not about how severe or intense or painful, but simply how. A few fingers moving at the same excruciatingly slow pace of 3 seconds in, then curling upwards in a come hither motion to caress that lovely lil' spot women have hiding under their pubic mounds, then withdrawing almost all the way out at the same leisurely pace....
     ...for 45 minutes...nonstop...
     ...has the most amazing effect on the female psyche & resolve....as well as produces a series of mind numbing orgasms when Daddy says you can come, but doesn't change his pace. Slow, relentless, patient = reduced to tears.
Daddy knows...

6/7/2014 9:03:41 PM

Would no commitment BDSM sex, instead of NSA, be NRA (No Ropes Attached)? :D


6/5/2014 5:58:39 AM

I wonder if submissives with an Animal House fetish get put on double secret consideration? O.o


5/22/2014 8:21:08 PM

Wow...my previous Journal entry regarding submissives who misbehave on purpose in order to get punished touched a nerve with the female submissive community. A number of them messaged me...and every single one agreed with me :) Nice to know there are female submissives who don't resort to brattiness to get their way from their Dom/Domme.


5/20/2014 8:08:05 PM

Time & time again I read journal entries by submissives where they admit they play with themselves & were severely punished as a result. Time & time again I shake my head that their bratty, topping from the bottom behavior worked. It was no accident they played, nor was their admission to their Dom/Domme. They knew exactly what they wanted (to be disciplined painfully) and exactly how to get that. Love me, hate me, but submissives as a whole loathe, even fear, being ignored. The stone cold indifference and apathy from their top is more punishment than many can handle, yet it seems most dominants end up becoming the bitch by administering the opposite - undivided, brutal, focused attention. Want to teach your submissive a very painful lesson about breaking the rules? Ignore them for a week. Like they don't even fucking exist. The mental & spiritual anguish of ceasing to be is far more intense than anything one could do physically.


5/17/2014 10:00:29 PM

Ask A Daddy Dom A Question: If you are a little, or a female submissive, maybe new to all of this and are either curious about something, are hesitant to ask about a topic, or just want a peek into what a Daddy Dom might have to say, please feel free to message away. All polite & sincere questions answered the same with zero expectations, obligations or protocols.


5/17/2014 9:54:59 PM

I've mentioned this before, but it seems worthy of repeating: female submissives looking for a Daddy Dom close to their own age....that's not a Daddy Dom dear, that's a Brother Dom.


5/16/2014 7:47:36 PM

My kitten experienced true forced orgasm for the first time. 36 hours of edging every waking hour, plus hourly reports on it, led to a very intense scene of about 45 minutes of bound masturbation with 2 vibrators, slowly bringing up the intensity until, without permission and fighting thru tears and frantic pleas, she came not once but twice as she tried her best to resist the inevitable. I was not mad or upset in the least. We both knew her body would eventually betray her will & spirit, and it did. The resultant emotional dam burst of raw, pure emotion, not sad nor happy, was my gift to her, as was the 36 hours in subspace after. She now knows true surrender, total failure...and is a far better person for the experience. It was fucking beautiful to see, hear & witness.


5/9/2014 7:44:42 AM

From The My Mind Works In Mysterious Ways Department: Admit it, how many of you would watch a porn parody of the Jake from State Farm ad?


5/9/2014 7:37:49 AM

Random Journal Observation: I wonder if all the upside down profile images look right side up to the kinksters in Australia? O.o


5/9/2014 7:35:55 AM

Just because you choose to identify as a female in your profile, yet still have all the factory original parts of a male, does not make you female. Even with all the hormone supplements. Get over it. Just cause you call it a Mustang or Cobra does not change the fact it's actually a Corolla or Focus :D


5/4/2014 7:49:04 PM

While I appreciate & respect the dedication of those who travel and devote so much time, energy, money & passion to this lifestyle, I have to admit that photos of a bound submissive in what is obviously a Motel 6 bathroom really leaves a lot to be desired as far as erotic.


5/2/2014 12:16:47 PM

     Earlier today I spent about 90 minutes with my little girl. Was it sexual? No, although good natured flirting ensued. Was it punishment for a misdeed of some Rule? No, although what we did was in line with her Rules. Did we simply chat? In a way we did, but we were both focused hard at the matter at hand, if you will.
     I read so, oh so many Journal entries to the effect of "Daddy did this to me" or "I had to be a certain way when Daddy got there" or "Daddy made me (insert sexual, perverted, kinky or otherwise degrading act) and was so proud of me for (said act)!" That she could come as a reward. Really? That's what a Daddy does???
     So what did we do? We edited her final story for her Creative Writing elective. A 15 page short she wrote, version by version. Together, in a shared Google Doc, we spit and shined her umpteeth draft til' it shone like a diamond. More than once we had the same idea for the same sentence, tense, paragraph. Two cursors dancing around a screen in real time 100s of miles apart, yet completely in sync, thought for thought.
     To see how far she has come using that part of her pretty lil' brain (she's crazy intelligent) was so satisfying. The nurturer in me beamed. She even worked in a 40something, grey haired fox of a handsome stranger as an homage to Daddy. It's a damn good short, especially given it's her idea 100%, and also how far she has come in a semester.
     Her poetry is damn good as well, and I know a few things about that. We also spent many hours editing, revising, starting over. All worth it.
     She is so proud of herself, and she should be. I know I am.
     Which brings me back to what I read from littles in their Journals. I never hear about being nurtured, or being taught anything aside from how to be a proper slut. That is not what being a Daddy is. Just because you call him that, and he allows it, does not make it a DD/lg dynamic. If there is more sadism and kink than talking and developing....well.....maybe you really aren't in a DD/lg at all. Call it what you want, but it's not being very Daddy if you ask me. It's not just being naughty. If anything, it's so, so, so much more Daddy than Dom.


5/2/2014 7:27:59 AM

A fair number of these fin dommes could seriously use a calorie dom...


5/1/2014 8:04:19 AM

In Praise Of The Sexiest Part Of The Female Anatomy (besides eyes)

There is something particularly erotic about the curve and flow of a woman's back. It just oozes sensuality. Without question the most erotic, beautiful curve in all of nature.

Most men don't know why they find a woman's back sexy until, well, they see her bare back. We fantasize about what a woman looks like naked all the time. But, hardly do you ever hear a man say 'damn I wish I knew what her back looked like naked'. The back is an understated part of the body that isn't given much thought. But think of it this way:

You may see her eyes sparkle, breasts jiggle, ass cheeks shift left right left right, hands caress, legs for miles in a skirt, a glimpse of stomach if she lets you or does something that allows it. If you really have her attention, you can see all of these more intimately. But her back...this is what men usually see last. The only other time the back is really bare is when they are nude. Usually a man only sees a woman's back when they are intimate (before, during and after) or when she is in her underwear or bathing suit. In that sense, the back is one of the most intimate parts of a woman because it's when she is at her most vulnerable that she is exposing this part of herself.

The back is a curving, swaying, undulating highway that takes the eye to every major point on a woman's body. Her neck, around to her breasts, down to her ass and legs. The back is not a focal point, but it is also not meant to be. It's a rare treat, and the most under appreciated erogenous zone she owns. And when it is arched taut, or curved seductively, especially when she is on all fours? Nirvanna.


4/30/2014 11:09:45 AM

That aha moment when you realize it's the Daddy in you that makes you reach out to that somber little whose Journal entry filled you with sadness, just to send her a message to the effect of "It will be okay, etc". Because the nurturer and empath that makes you a Daddy Dom hurts to read such despair or disregard for the feelings of a little. You want to wrap yourself around them for a brief moment in time, hug them with some kind words, then let go and hopefully they feel a lil' better about themselves, their kink, and those around them.


4/30/2014 9:07:35 AM

Does anyone else find it ironic that fin domme's screen names are always in red, which probably reflects their checking account balances, which is why they are fin dommes? :D


4/30/2014 9:01:40 AM

It just occurred to me that the same genetic disposition that makes submissives photo document welts, red asses, purple breasts & all other physical manifestations of BDSM play is the exact same one that propels people to take pictures of all of their meals....


4/29/2014 6:50:56 AM

Random Journal Observation: I find it amusing that so many female dominants use, as profile images, pictures of themselves with the camera held high...so that they are below the viewer, on their knees, submissive to them & not the other way around. Of course they could take the selfie from the submissive's lower, inferior vantage point, but that would also not be anywhere as flattering to their physical appearance now, would it? Guess it just proves that those female dominants are vanity's bitches.


4/28/2014 8:16:41 PM

...because, if you are creative, you can edge a female submissive to the point of outright frantic, creamy distraction with nothing but something she likely has in her purse, some time & a lil' imagination on the part of her Daddy Dom...


4/28/2014 9:11:45 AM

That aha moment when the preachy female submissive lectures on and on about who people are and are not, all while using a badly cropped & pixelated web find photo of someone obviously at least 30+ years "her" junior...


4/28/2014 8:50:06 AM

I have come to the conclusion that, based on the number of them viewing my straight male dominant Daddy Dom profile, male submissives are as a group largely trysexual, shameless whores, as in they will try anything regardless of the announced sexual identity of a top if it means someone will give them a shred of attention. Female submissives are, by far, stronger and prouder of themselves and who they are.


4/26/2014 9:35:55 PM

So if a trans sent you a message, would that be considered shemail? :D


4/26/2014 12:26:51 PM

It is said that a picture is worth a thousand words. If that is so, this one whispers so eloquently as to what it is like for that special little girl in this Daddy's arms:

http://tinyurl.com/lz2scd4


4/25/2014 8:10:37 AM

Sadly, it appears that the arts of conversation, flirtation, seduction and general mind fuckery are commodities not valued in the least on here. So many submissives lament in their Journals how rude many dominants are, that respect and total submission are demanded immediately in vulgar terms, often with poor grammar. How sad to think that so much bandwidth is wasted on telling everyone the same as opposed to what could be. 


4/25/2014 7:55:03 AM

Random Journal Observation: If the Actively Seeking is basically an All Of The Above of every option available, odds are they are not really actively seeking anything except scamming...


4/24/2014 8:00:48 AM

You have absolutely, positively, GOT to be kidding me...yes, it's exactly what it sounds like.
     http://www.rent-a-dildo.com/
All I would able to think about is that this monstrous rented dildo was lodged in the ass of a large, hairy dude named Glenn last Tuesday...ew


4/22/2014 7:29:34 PM

It is a power exchange, not a power demand. Dominants who fail to grasp this simple concept are bullies not worthy of a submissive's gift to participate in a dynamic. Remember submissives, it is you who has the ultimate power in any D/s dynamic. A good dominant knows & respects that. Egotistical, spineless, cowardly bullies who demand instead of earn do not.


4/22/2014 7:40:32 AM

If the sight, feel & sound of a cast iron skillet sizzling makes you rock hard or dripping wet, does that mean you're a pansexual? :D


4/21/2014 10:57:40 AM

Does anyone else click on profile thumbnails because you seriously have no idea what part of the human anatomy is or is not being depicted? o.O


4/21/2014 10:35:48 AM

It's not that I get upset reading over and over that story about bacon & eggs, how the chicken is simply involved in the breakfast while the pig is committed to the meal...but that some people have the fucking nerve & audacity to even dare compare themselves to bacon... :D


4/19/2014 7:35:11 AM

That sense of utter :( when you compliment a female submissive on how lovely her profile or journal entries are, each rife with beautiful & thought provoking prose, that how nice it is to read the same being expressed with correct grammar, punctuation, capitalization, etc. ... only to get an all lower case, vowelless, void of any punctuation or capital letters, less than ten word reply that has the grammar of a below average 7 year old. *sigh*


4/19/2014 7:20:45 AM

Things That Make You Go Hmmmm: Female submissive profiles who, while recounting trysts with men in their Journals, profess to only doing oral & anal. Think about that one carefully, kids...


4/18/2014 5:15:32 PM

To any female submissives, especially the younger, naive, inexperienced ones, or any who identify as a sapiosexual. If you simply want or are looking for someone to just talk with/to, feel free to email me with any questions or topics. I enjoy talking with those who give great grey matter, or are simply naive through no fault of their own :)


4/17/2014 5:32:34 PM

Gotta love those preachy, condescending lectures on what people are or are not from a profile whose avatar is a toy...oh, the irony.


4/17/2014 12:32:18 PM

     So many times submissives crave discipline via pain and/or sexual frustration, to be teased, edged, toyed with. Their minds a playground for someone to run through, screaming at the shadows hiding in the corners, spooking them like so many ravens to take flight and blot out the light with their wings. Or their bodies simply conduits for access to the same, no different than the toys or tools a dominant may, or may not, use on them to his/her perverted whims and fancies.
     But, and this never ceases to amaze me, confront a submissive with not your selfish desires, but theirs, and they freak. Force them to be good to themselves? Deer in the headlights fare better than they do. Take some time to just be. Notice that sunset. Listen to those night sounds, and not the erotic ones. A fire crackling, or the crackle of bubbles in a scalding hot bath, all while the crackle from a champagne flute reveals it's chilled contents. Go enjoy a cup of coffee and something sticky sweet, or even just making the time to read a fucking book.
     In their zeal to be subservient, they almost always hard limit at the suggestion of dominating themselves with the gift of time. How sad...very, very sad.


4/17/2014 12:13:54 PM

Random Journal Lament: Reading some of the things either written (and I use that term loosely) by so called male dominants, or worse yet demanded by them in emails to female submissives? It makes me embarrassed to be a penis owner.


4/17/2014 11:55:15 AM

Random Journal Observation: When a dominant is admittedly submissive to his own desires to the point of not acting on them, who is who's bitch then?


4/17/2014 10:32:24 AM

Would a submissive serving on a submarine just be called a missive? O.o


4/17/2014 10:26:54 AM

If a female dominant wanted financial tributes so she could augment her collection of doo wop music & poodle skirts, would that make her a Rama Lama Ding Domme? :D


4/17/2014 8:27:16 AM

You know you are synchronized & in harmony with your little girl when her monthly visitor shows up and, since it's a hard limit for her, there will be no play for about a week... and the oddest sensation of just knowing you will not service or pleasure yourself in the interim sweeps over you....weird.


4/16/2014 8:00:53 AM

Random Journal Thought: It just occurred to me that the Headless Horseman of Sleepy Hollow fame could have a profile on CM & his picture would look identical to just about everyone else's :D


4/16/2014 7:49:23 AM

     A suggestion for all the submissives (especially the females) being harassed, mistreated, cyber bullied & threatened with being reported by so called "dominants":
     - At the top of your profile, indicate you use the CM bulk mail filter, so if you do not reply to an email, that means it went straight to bulk. Now you do not actually need to use this feature, but just say you do. Be polite about it.
     - When you get an email, do NOT open it immediately. Allow your cursor to hover over the sender's name & a pop up window will preview the text of the email without it being shown as "read" to the sender. If that preview shows it's some asshole dominant wannabe being a dick, don't click on it.


4/15/2014 8:43:15 PM

Is it just me, or do those lil' dimples in the small of a woman's back drive anyone else crazy too?


4/15/2014 8:39:40 PM

It does appear that the number of littles seeking a Daddy Dom is increasing, or it could simply be that I now notice & pay more credence to them.


4/15/2014 12:57:39 PM

It is truly gratifying when one who was once your submissive comes (heh) to you for advice as she takes neophyte steps into the world of domination. To be thought of enough to be sought out as such for opinion, experience and ideas is extremely humbling.


4/15/2014 10:44:19 AM

That awkward moment when you see a photo of a major female country music star as a profile image...


4/14/2014 8:37:06 AM

I always find it interesting to read that a submissive is "under consideration" when in fact it's they who have the ultimate power in any D/s dynamic, not the dominant.


4/13/2014 4:44:55 PM

That awkward moment when you read that a 23 year old submissive has been an active & participating member of the BDSM community for 10 years...


4/13/2014 8:54:12 AM

That sense of fulfillment when, after a long week, you tuck in your little girl's orgasm on command ravaged body, almost lifeless she is floating so high on a come drunk, the echoes of her begging & pleading "Daddy! Daddy! Please can I come?" over and over and over, edging her slowly, building her, playing her pussy and clit like a symphony to multiple crescendos...then the bliss on her face and dull fire in her eyes as she floats off to Nod, her clit pulsing so hard she comes without any physical stimulation, only that magic word...and only from her Daddy.


4/12/2014 7:43:51 PM

After a day of dragging multi 100lb tree limbs with nothing but a tow rope & stubborn determination, all that maple, poplar & pine that fell to the ravages of this winter's ice is demanding its due to be paid in soreness. This Daddy Dom aches, and not in the fun way...


4/12/2014 7:33:02 AM

Sorry, I apparently did not get the memo about today being ALL CAPS AND RANDOM WORDS IN BOLD DAY in the Journals...


4/12/2014 7:17:51 AM

To those random and rare wild roses growing among all these weeds, a humble and heartfelt thank you. You know who you are. Your refreshingly honest Journal entries & pleasant emails are a welcome oasis in what has become a vacant lot overrun with indifference.


4/11/2014 3:53:52 PM

I swear people hand out & accept collars on here like supermarket cheese spread samples...


4/10/2014 6:12:12 PM

That quiet, Zen like state when your little girl becomes your muse and Daddy writes her a poem...


4/10/2014 9:55:27 AM

That awkward moment when you read yet another submissive rant in the Journals filled with demands punctuated by WORDS IN ALL CAPS, yet rife with so many misspelled words and a total lack of simple grammar that a 6th grader would be embarrassed to own it.


4/10/2014 7:27:27 AM

Random Eyeroll Moment: When your default search perimeters, regardless of day or hour, always display the same submissives as the most recently online...and that they have posted the ubiquitous "I am outta here" Journal entry, aka the "I am an attention whore & not receiving enough pity so message me" bait post.


4/9/2014 7:23:41 PM

Random Daddy Dom Thought: In my newfound Daddy Domness, its recently occurred to me that I am not sure if I could be such to a little who I actually could not literally be one to chronologically. I admit that is a less than admirable revelation, but it's an honest one. The ability to really & truly nurture is more, I guess, fathomable and believable to me if there is genuine naivety and innocence primarily based on an absence of life experiences.


4/9/2014 7:06:22 PM

So, based on the number of Journal entries to the effect, I guess Wednesdays are Release Your Submissive Day...


4/9/2014 5:20:02 PM

In case anyone is wondering, I am not feeling like playing a little dangerously today...


4/9/2014 8:53:58 AM

Random Journal Observation: When your entire Journal entry is just a single word, and you misspell that word, and it was just a single syllable word to begin with...well, you may want to really reconsider exactly why no one is contacting you.


4/8/2014 9:55:41 AM

I once had a submissive (English lass) in which our main expression of an online dynamic was co-authoring erotic stories/vignettes. I would write 1000 or so words, send what I had been transcribed to her, at which point she would write the next 1000, resubmit (heh) to me, and so on.

The erotic tension was unreal. Building oh, so slow, email by email, we turned up the heat. It allowed both of us to really explore the darkest corners of each other's minds. Of course emails and chats occurred in the meantime, but the story was a hard limit (no discussion as to not lead the other), which made those exchanges even more intense. Having just read something that made your zipper bulge or panties soak, then just chat was a most delicious form of edging for both. Suffice to say the amperage in the novellas spilled over as outlets would be negotiated, begged for, given, chosen, allowed. No better foreplay than the thought of what might be as a result of what you think you know...or don't.

But sadly wordsmiths like she are rare. To find someone who can match your pacing, sense of tension, not get ahead of the plot and "come prematurely" if you will. The clever use of foreshadowing, a solid grasp of grammar. It may be a lot easier to put some toy in someone than a comma or period where it's needed and works. And in the end, we both had something we could tuck away, like so many magazine clippings, into a digital scrapbook to open whenever we wished and relive not just the story but the behind the pages secrets that helped forge their very existence.


4/7/2014 12:20:42 PM

Apparently it's Vowels Are Optional Hour in the Journals... *sigh*


4/6/2014 7:29:57 PM

Had some wonderful email & chat conversations recently with a number of charming, intelligent, witty & flirtateous submissives. Restores my faith in this site. Nice to know sapiosexuality is not dead, but just wounded.


4/5/2014 7:14:59 AM

A Simple .02 On Anonymity:

     It never ceases to amaze me to read about how many submissives yearn, even crave, to be no more than a convenient network of wet orifices to be used by anyone. That if their Top said so, they would willingly allow themselves to become exactly that. The knowledge of who is doing what to them insignificant in their quest to serve, let go, no hard limits. The excitement of being placed in situations where strangers receive any & kinds of pleasures, ranging from simple voyeurism to rape fantasies, and everything in between.

     But yet, for almost all, the mere thought of interacting with someone online anonymously is a hard limit. They'll call "red" immediately. Why? How are words on a screen any different from the most basic, rudimentary, beginner level toy of a blindfold?

     Anonymity is no more than a digital blindfold. If a simple blindfold is too extreme for you, perhaps you should reconsider exactly how submissive you really are.


4/4/2014 7:17:58 PM

     Random Daddy Dom Rant: I do not understand this "pic collector" thing. So you have some forced/demanded images of a nude woman doing who knows what, or worse yet took them without her knowledge or consent. Why? I don't get it. It's creepy and pathetic, if you ask me. If the memories of the experiences are not enough, that is a sad, lonely comment on you as a supposed Daddy Dom. Shame on you for abusing that trust. 

     Now, if your little offers a pic unsolicited, that is a truly humbling gift and one to be treasured as much as the trust that accompanied it.


4/4/2014 12:06:17 PM

The Profiles & Journals must be a masturbatory gold mine for knee & ankle fetishists...


4/4/2014 11:07:11 AM

I'd bet that, if most submissives had to choose which was the cruelest demand - either allow full, unabated access to any & all of their orifices on a 24/7 basis, or use correct grammar in correspondence (Upper case letters where warranted, punctuation where needed and full words spelled out instead of textspeak) - that the majority of submissives would say the latter is far, far more sadistic...sad.


4/4/2014 10:40:55 AM

A favor/question to any female submissives who have experience with water balloon play - The use of a water balloon as a way to completely fill a vaginal cavity intrigues me greatly, but the resources available online to learn more about the best ways to go about this are few. I would be extremely appreciative to hear from any of you who have used this as to what to & not to do, your thoughts/concerns, how it felt, safety issues, etc. Dominants need not reply in that I value the opinion of those who have actually experienced it as opposed to those who have just directed it use.


4/3/2014 7:40:47 PM

It's too bad you can't sort the Journals to view like you can the Profiles. It would be nice to be able to just, for example, see the submissive female Journals.


4/3/2014 11:53:09 AM

Random Daddy Dom Observation: That look a little gives when she has a pout. How her lower lip bends and quivers. How her eyes well up, not tears but glistening, all the while teasing her pigtailed locks with nervous energy she can't hide. Then the inevitable "But whhhhyyyyyyyyyyy Daddy"???? Intoxicating....


4/3/2014 7:29:33 AM

It would be most interesting to see a "homework slave" keep records of all the communications, requests, etc involved in such a dynamic, then right at the end of semester turn the tables on their Domme (it's almost always Dommes) by threatening to expose the fact, with detailed documentation of chats & emails, to the university and/or the appropriate professor, which would also out the Domme by default.

Be it humiliation, sexual perversion, or even financial...or all three... the homework sub could very easily make their Domme their complete & total bitch in every sense of the word. Keep this in mind Dommes that the hunter could become not just the hunted, but the outright prey so, so easily.


4/2/2014 7:04:05 PM

Random Musing On Exactly How Far You Submissives Would Go For Your Dominant:

I wonder if a submissive, in their professed zeal and passion to do their Dominant's every whim and be their property, would allow their submission to be Dominated? Confused? Allow me to explain.

Submissives in a relationship like this will do, within pre-determined hard limits and the content of their verbal, oral or written contract, anything to please their Top.

Anything.

They crave discipline. Often times desire humiliation. Definitely enjoy being reprimanded for “bratty” or unsubmissive behavior. The ritual of presentation and protocol is practically a cult of two, ruled by one.

We’ll imagine a Dominant in such a relationship talking to their submissive:

If said Dominant in the dynamic directed their submissive to not be so submissive all the time, would they?

In other words, would they allow their submission to be Dominated by their Dominant?

If I told you it would please me if you weren’t always my slave, wouldn’t honoring my wish, in fact, be doing exactly as I want?

It’s like the joke where a sultry, sexy, provocatively dressed woman saunters up to a man in a bar and coos in his ear “I’ll do anything…anything…you want for $500.” To which the man puts his beer down, looks her in the eye and says “Paint my fucking house.”

Would you, the submissive one, offer your submission for Domination?

In your contract you stated a unconditional service to them. That you would do your best to please them. That as long as hard limits weren’t broken, you were theirs to do with as they pleased for their pleasure.

What if that included "painting my house", if you will? Not literally, but figuratively. If commanded to honor your contract by not submitting, what would you do?

I imagine a number in D/s relationships reading this might be seething right now. Not my intent, honestly. It’s just how my mind, which is a dark, twisted theater of the imagination, works.

Is it a damned if you do, damned if you don’t scenario? Likely. But it would greatly please your Dominant to see you twist, suffer, agonize. They love to be pushed to their limits…and beyond. They know, crave & want that.

But not like this, right? Wouldn’t that make them unsubmissive?


4/2/2014 6:45:31 PM

It is a nice feeling to have messages to catch up on :)


4/2/2014 6:52:04 AM

Littles are so special. They want as much to be coddled and doted on as they desire to be disciplined and ravaged sexually. The dichotomy is intoxicating. On one hand is their desire for the caregiver, the Daddy, the one who they share secrets with, expose far more precious parts of themselves than any physical beauty they possess. They are drawn to that nurturing, craving it, wanting Daddy to kiss the booboos of everyday life and make it all better. Then there is the lust of the Dom spanking them, taking them, providing them with kinky Tasks to carry out, edging them for eternity as they *hhhmppf* and pout, making them a mess of sexual release on a variety of levels....then cradling them during aftercare. It's the epitome of naughty, plain and simple. Nothing else even comes close to how deliciously erotic the naughty factor is in the DD/lg dynamic.


4/1/2014 10:12:33 PM

Daddy Doms listen. A lot. They make time for it. And it feeds a part of them that nothing kinky or sexual can ever come close to. Caus' they're Daddy, that's why.


4/1/2014 9:56:06 AM

Random Thought: If a female Dominant's kink was getting off on the navigational appendages of fish, would that make her a fin Domme? :D


4/1/2014 8:10:50 AM

     In the course of a message conversation with a lovely submissive woman, a few topics came up. I'd thought I'd share them:
     "You mention "fighting battles no one else knows about." Please keep that in mind when talking with someone who makes no pretense that they are only interested in online. We all have our reasons for what we seek, and why. I prefer to think of it as a "digital blindfold". Obscuring one's sense of sight is probably the simplest form of kink. Very often it is the initial foray into using toys, but still by anyone's standards a entry level tool. Yet employ it with text on a LCD screen instead of a silk scarf over eyes and even the most hard core kinksters often call "red".
      It's that sweet spot right there - the mind fuck - that interests me.
      I once had a lovely submissive who lived in Europe (note - inter-continental D/s fucks up your sleep patterns bad :) ). We never saw each other, with the exception of a few anonymous images she shared. The D/s dynamic existed entirely via emails & chat. And it was intense. Oh, the prose we would share. It was so erotic. The art of the well crafted correspondence is truly a dying one.
     It just occurred to me how amazing such a relationship would be if, in today's age of immediate gratification and instant messaging, a D/s dynamic existed solely via handwritten, mailed letters. Imagine the wait, the suspense, seeing real words penned on paper. Scenes could take weeks, if not longer.
     So please keep an open mind for those of us who prefer to live in the shadows and whisper. At least we're upfront about it."


3/31/2014 7:37:25 PM

     On a lighter note, this fascination some have with day-glo text on neon hued backgrounds pretty much saves a number of us the time and effort to ever read what you are trying to scream, er, say. We get it - you want attention. LOOK AT MEEEEEEE!!!! There are better ways to achieve this than 24pt fushcia over a Mountain Dew green field. Show some style, as well as common sense.


3/31/2014 7:26:50 PM

Being a Daddy Dom requires two things - passion & time. You have to care past the obvious, be concerned about the trivial, and be willing to invest all of that. Not just fiercely demanding respect immediately from the initial communications, but rather develop that over time, lots of it to be precise. It is not primarily sexual, it is nurturing at its most basic. And it will always be that, even as time progresses, respect grows, communication flows and each understands the other better.


3/31/2014 6:09:15 AM

What Daddy Doms Do: Sit in that comfortable, just broken in right, could possibly use reupholstered chair in the corner of the living room, sip on their second cup of black coffee as sunlight fills the room with a pale glow...and worry about their little girl and what issues she is facing...


3/30/2014 7:32:59 PM

Granted I am rather new to the DD/lg dynamic, as well as my own revelation that I best identify as a Daddy Dom, but I tilt my head & wonder about littles searching for a Daddy stating as a requirement that they be their own age or no more than a few years their senior. That would be a Brother Dom, not a Daddy...


3/30/2014 3:32:52 PM

Anyone else find a well crafted, thought provoking, witty, grammatically correct profile more arrousing than any of the accompanying images on the same?


3/30/2014 3:26:00 PM

There is something almost Zenlike about the sound of ice cream being spun :)


3/30/2014 8:36:53 AM

If you are not prepared to, or think you can, worry about your little, odds are you are not nor will ever be a Daddy Dom. It's a dynamic unlike any other, which adds to the overall naughtiness of it all. Straight D/s or outright BDSM, etc, while having more of a unadulterated kink & perversion inherent, has no where the "naughty" factor that a DD/lg does. If I have to explain the difference, you would never understand.


3/29/2014 6:07:49 PM

It's my limited experience that littles are very often extremely intelligent, well educated, witty, sarcastic in a humorous way, innocently sexy, and as a result have a vulnerably soft, baby doll side that hides underneath the 21st century woman exterior. They want Daddy to cuddle, listen, discipline, care, use, laugh, play, teach as well as explore every hole they own with the same passion of probing every corner of their secrets. Which is fun and very satisfying on a variety of levels.


3/28/2014 8:33:21 PM

Apparently the Daddy in me is > the Dom that lies within. All these avatars of women shoving their breasts into a cam, or bound and bent, or engaged in some perverted act...all leave me meh. Don't get me wrong - I enjoy the nude female form very much, but not as a business card to attract a Dominant. It's the simple image, the subtle hint, the suggestion of what may or may not be seen...that is erotic.


3/28/2014 8:52:44 AM

Being a Daddy Dom is not an even split. It's not 50% Daddy, 50% Dom. More like 75-80% Daddy. If you think about it, aspects of being a Daddy are, by nature, Dom like. Not in the sense or way that term is viewed in BDSM or on here, but definitely a lot of overlap & similarity. Much more listening, talking, encouraging, nurturing than anything kinky or sexual. It's not as easy as it sounds, trust me, to walk that line and be both to your little girl. To cradle her when she needs it, discipline when she deserves it, reward her when it's merited, and make her beg to stop orgasming about 5 of so before you allow it.


3/27/2014 10:07:25 AM

So apparently today is Whine & Bitch Day in the journals...


3/26/2014 10:05:07 AM

...when you reward your little girl, who studied 5 hours for an exam, with an equal amount of coached orgasms, each one slightly more perverted in exactly what was being stimulated at the moment you said the magic word...


3/23/2014 7:08:08 AM

Pigtails + an old belt crafted into her one of a kind collar = breathtaking...plus the length of cut belt is now a lovely paddle. 


3/17/2014 11:31:30 AM

     That magical moment when, of her own volition, she lifts a old nightshirt to reveal that pair of breathtaking, champagne glass, coed breasts, not a whole lot more than buds, and coos "Daadddyy, aren't they so pretty???" Yes kitten, yes they are...


3/12/2014 11:28:05 AM

Random Observation: While the internet & this site are rife with Daddy Doms & little girls, it appears that when the genders are reversed it's almost always a Mommy Domme and a guy into infantilism. You rarely, if ever, hear or see the MD/lb (Mommy Dom/little boy) dynamic. I'm sure it exist, but it's just interesting that, based on gender, what age/maturity the submissive/little in the dynamic typically identifies with.


3/12/2014 5:09:17 AM

Cosplay as a nun can be habit forming...


3/11/2014 5:21:11 PM

There is something unusually erotic about writing poetry with one's kitten via a Google Doc. The dual cursors, typing in real time, often dueling, butting heads, exchanging ideas, comments via chat, being silly, watching an idea come to life, the nurturing aspect of the DD/lg being more than fulfilled, all while being flirtatious...it's like a LCD version of the pottery scene from Ghost.


3/10/2014 8:19:10 PM

It is extremely interesting, and even admittedly a tiny bit unsettling, to balance the Daddy and the Dom as One. To go from worrying & being concerned about my little, offering advice, suggestions to seeing my baby girl discover her inner slut under my direct command, tutelage and eye. The satisfaction gained on so many levels has been a joy.


3/8/2014 3:08:13 PM

I had no idea being called Daddy would be so intoxicating...


3/4/2014 12:01:54 PM

I will never, ever look at a candy cane the same way ever again...


3/3/2014 5:39:50 AM

A very special little girl has asked me to be her Daddy Dom in act and title, to which I humbly offered her my acceptance of both. And so it begins...


3/3/2014 5:28:58 AM

That :) moment when someone who is obviously used to running verbal circles around people paints themselves in a corner and, in an effort to save face, simply jumps out the window rather than admit they jumped to a conclusion that was in error...


3/2/2014 7:41:54 PM

"Sometimes a pervert is just a pervert"
- Sigmund Freud (kinda...)


3/2/2014 8:21:37 AM

It's frustrating to set search perimeters that yield results that are not conducive with one's identity (Daddy Dom) when those who identify as slaves show up in search results for submissives. I doubt very seriously that lgs see themselves as slaves.


3/2/2014 6:19:20 AM

I do not understand men's fascination with genital closeups. Yes, its a vagina. Look, something is going in...no, wait....back out agai...no, now back in...out....can you move the cam closer so the only thing I can see is this?
Really???? Why????


3/1/2014 6:07:02 PM

Brunello....what can't it fix?


2/26/2014 9:19:57 AM

Of all the wondrous curves to be found in nature, none compare in pure beauty or power to those found in the swoop of the female spine. No other curve evokes such admiration, such erotic tension. The way it rises and falls, dips in at the right places only to rise again onto the sweep of her ass. It's breathtaking, spellbinding. And when properly displayed is jaw droppingly beautiful. The cabriole leg in furniture was inspired by it. Fashions long to feature it. Men long to feel its firm curves & bask in it's splendor. Aside from the eyes it is, without question, my favorite feature of the female anatomy.


2/26/2014 4:36:12 AM

That awkward moment when 2 unique & separate accounts post the identical (letter for letter) Journal entry within 60 seconds of one another....hhmmmm.


2/25/2014 11:18:33 AM

Random Musing III: So if a person in gender conflict has problems with the gear shift in their late model Pontiac sports car, and to fix it needs to have the parts shipped from overseas from one coast to the other, would that be a transexual transcontinental Trans-Am transmission transit transfer? O.O


2/25/2014 9:54:44 AM

A PSA (Pervert Safety Announcement):
When doing an image search to verify if a picture has been "borrowed" from somewhere online, beside Google Image also use tineye.com. Many times one will catch what the other misses & vice versa.


2/25/2014 9:41:07 AM

Still find it interesting that, when doing a search & using submissive as a qualifier, that the results are submissives AND slaves. Yes, I know and understand that all slaves are submissive, but the two are most certainly not the same by any stretch of the imagination.


2/24/2014 11:31:56 AM

CollarMe....where saying you were on the TV takes on a whole new meaning...


2/24/2014 11:28:06 AM

That Huffington Post article on the BDSM study was a fascinating read. To actually see the science, in medical/anatomical terms, of what we all have known all along is happening and occurs during WIITWD was cool as hell. It's also comforting to see that someone took the time to do so & that, upon review, it's not a case of deviancy or something genetically gone wrong. It just is :)


2/24/2014 10:24:51 AM

That sensation when you can feel It Which Lives Inside You peeking out and the two of you are disagreeing on the best course of action, because you know what He is like and will do, given an appropriate outlet and a recipient for His perversions...


2/24/2014 5:35:49 AM

*wonders if anyone has ever called one of those "Orgasm Denial Phone Sex" ads and blown a load within those first 180 seconds that are free?* :D


2/24/2014 4:58:31 AM

“It's hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That's part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are hers. When she can't refuse anything and can't even move, those voices in her head go silent. All she can do, and all she is permitted to do, is feel.”
― Cherise Sinclair, Dark Citadel (paraphrased)


2/23/2014 9:39:28 PM

     I'm pretty much convinced that, of the Seven Deadly Sins (Wrath, Greed, Sloth, Pride, Lust, Envy, and Gluttony) that, without question, a submissive will easily succumb to Lust, delve in perverted Gluttony, get Greedy with their Dominant's attention, fall victim to Envy if they don't get enough of it, wallow in Sloth when they don't and willingly suffer Their Wrath for misbehaving.
     But, when it comes right down to it, they will protect their Pride like a mother bear her cub. Seven doors, but the one that opens onto the path is always locked tight.


2/23/2014 9:10:01 PM

     It occurred to me, while reading this evening, that online D/s is, in essence, a book coming alive. One that is co-authored, with plot twists, black moments, sex scenes, dialogue that makes you weep from both laughter and sadness. The words are not static. There is no next chapter, only a next sentence.
     To those who love to lose themselves in words it can be intoxicating to have them come to life & take you by the hand, leading you down the rabbit hole, further and further away from reality and into that dark, twisted, perverted part of your psyche that, otherwise, you run past for no real reason than the fear of the unknown...


2/23/2014 2:39:29 PM

The Most Powerful Toy A Dominant Can Use To Control A Submissive
     You never read or hear much about it, but there is one toy at a Dominant's disposal that, without question, is feared the most by submissives. They would likely take the most violent caning repeatedly, to the point of bleeding and unconsciousness, rather than feel the sting of this toy. Nothing else a Dominant can wield in a D/s and/or BDSM dynamic even comes close to the pain this causes. And yet, so many never even consider it as an option.
     So what is this toy that leaves submissives shaken to their core, often in tears, begging for it to stop?

Apathy...

    The total, absolute, stone cold ignorance of a submissive, as if they do not even fucking exist, is the one thing all submissives loathe. Truly a case of where less is oh, so much more. Silence that is deafening in the way it reverberates through a submissive's core like glass shattering over and over and over.
     Love me, hate me, but please, PLEASE, PLEASE don't ignore me. Yet so many simply choose to take the easy way out & administer physical pain and torment, which secretly most submissives crave like street corner meth. But ignore their pleas altogether? Oh no....please Daddy, anything but that!


2/23/2014 8:03:46 AM

I think I may make a CM Journal's BINGO card. This way, when I read the Journals, I could play along at home and cross off a square with every cliché Journal entry. Examples of the individual squares would be:
- The "Under Consideration" entry
- The "This place is a joke I'm outta here for the 7th time" lament
- The "So & So is a fake" PSA
- The "2000 word, 17 screen lengths, no commas or capital letters with huge ass paragraph breaks" timesuck
- The "neon pink text on magenta background in 32 point type" billboard
- The "DON'T BLAH BLAH BLAH OR ELSE!!!" hissy fit
- The "same color text on same color background!" James Bond invisible ink message
- The "xhamster movie link I wish I was in" copy/paste
- The "I've only been on site 18 minutes & got 321 messages from losers" squeal
- The "So this slut I...." brag, otherwise known as a lie
- The "Who wants to tribute me" sales pitch
BINGO!!!


2/22/2014 6:07:41 PM

I had (and have) always found the imagery & idea of women being naughty with their plushies to be admittedly very arousing, a niche fetish I often hid from even those closest to me. With my recent revelation to identify as a Daddy Dom, that fetish has suddenly not just become a whole lot clearer and blindly obvious, but also yet another in plain sight clue I should have seen long ago.


2/22/2014 12:07:05 PM

How many other people click on someone's profile image for no other reason than, from the thumbnail, you have no idea exactly what part of the human anatomy that is? O.o


2/22/2014 11:41:47 AM

It really is mind boggling how many Dominants want to completely dominate a submissive's orifices, lives and sexuality, yet can't even dominate 26 letters & where to put all those funny looking things called commas and periods. How can you expect a submissive to respect you when don't even know how to start and end a fucking sentence?


2/21/2014 8:45:47 PM

This just slays me. Oh, to be able to scene to this...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRN2REfnuaM


2/21/2014 8:39:52 PM

Completely Random Musing: I believe in Fate, not free will. Regardless of Who/what you may believe in as far as any sort of worship, if you do embrace a belief system in which some deity/entity/force is absolute, all powerful & all knowing, by default "they" would already know what is going to happen. Our knowledge, or more specifically the lack, of what will happen is not at issue. It is a known quantity by that which you place your faith in. Therefore, since it is a known, it is Fate. There is no free will. There just is.


2/21/2014 12:31:24 PM

I truly feel bad for those who will never know the joys of sapiosexuality...


2/21/2014 7:45:09 AM

Updated my profile to reflect my new found identity as a Daddy Dom. Uncharted waters. Nothing has changed, yet everything has. I need more coffee...


2/20/2014 12:41:52 PM

From my profile (which will be getting a serious overhaul soon):
     "My specialty, if you will, are younger women new to all of this, who possibly feel lost, naive, a lil' scared, intimidated. I can provide you with a safe, caring, respectful opportunity to explore yourself. Allow that voice to bloom into a dirty little secret. You will never be placed in harm's way, your real life will always take precedent over WIITWD, and your limits always respected. Enhance a life, not become it."
     I was a Daddy Dom all along & just never knew...but it was right there. Still learning what this all means. On a masochistic level I'm enjoy the screwing it's doing to my psyche, the student in me is loving the learning, the analyst the why & how it all fits. The empath was trying to tell me all along...shouda listened.


2/20/2014 7:53:47 AM

I read some of these screen names and they sound like kinky versions of Native American ones. A noun, an adverb/adjective & a verb, usually in some "What the hell were you thinking when you named yourself, oh Drinks Cum Buckets?"


2/19/2014 5:34:50 PM

It's been a most interesting and, in a grounding, subdued way, intense 24 hours since the discovery that I am a Daddy Dom. It still feels odd to say it. Nothing has changed except a descriptive title, yet it all feels very different. I'd simply assumed I was just too nice to be the sadistic bastard Dominant. Don't get me wrong, I can dish out the punishment and pain well, but there was always that empath in me that wanted things not typically associated with BDSM. The fact I adore aftercare should have been a hint. But now I know and, continuing to learn, press forward learning more about DD/lg and myself.


2/19/2014 7:29:25 AM

     Upon further review & reading up on the sub-genre, it appears that I am and have been a Daddy Dom all along...and never realized it. Nothing really changes, but it is kind of a "whoa..." moment to suddenly have all the puzzle pieces SNAP into place simultaneously. Including that odd shaped piece that resembles Belgium having intercourse with a one tusked walrus.
     So I have been spending the past 24 hours reading many blogs, etc and getting used to the idea of identifying more with DD/lg than straight D/s. In that I enjoy mind fucking immensely, the irony of my own forced masturbatory braingasm is not lost on me :)


2/18/2014 7:24:53 AM

That awkward moment when you receive yet another "introductory" message from a submissive who has previously sent you very similarly phrased/worded messages...all of which while stoned O.o


2/17/2014 10:23:05 AM

That *smirk* moment when, while reviewing the "Who's Viewing Me?" part of your profile, you notice that those few cocky, arrogant, better than Thou submissives (who proved that per their "insightful" messages) no longer have accounts on CM...hhmmm


2/17/2014 10:10:29 AM

While I know it's very often the nature of the beast we all serve, and while I do have mad admiration & respect for those who travel to feed that beast, I have to say that there is something lost in translation when you see a picture of someone in full latex or securely bound in what is obviously an Econo Lodge or Motel 6...


2/16/2014 5:33:05 PM

If you ever wondered which one was more sensitive and precious - the organ between the ears or the one between the thighs - I do believe the generally accepted phase is "Fuck my brains out!" ;)


2/16/2014 5:09:11 PM

For those into "knife play" a humble suggestion:
    Fill a small, flat cooking sheet with just enough water to cover the bottom. Allow it to freeze solid, then shatter into shards. Choose a large one. Then, when the submissive, who has been eyeing up the large knives all evening as foreplay, is bound, blindfolded and not thinking straight from having been very aroused from play and edging...slowly drag the largest shard across their throat so that some melt water drips down their skin. You're welcome...


2/16/2014 4:56:06 PM

So I went to an "Oldies Night" at a local nightspot. They played "The Twist" so I twisted. I hustled when they played "The Hustle." Then they threw me out on my ass after they played "Come On Eileen"...


2/15/2014 1:50:39 PM

     While I appreciate lingerie as much as any man, I often feel that it's more for the wearer to feel special than for the one seeing her in it. Very often it does not stay on very long, discarded to the floor within minutes of its being modeled, which is fine if that was the intended end to the means.
     That said, I still find there is really nothing as sexy as a woman in her man's shirt. Maybe an old T shirt that, with arms down, just comes below the cleft of her ass cheeks. Thin with wear and toil, the shadows of her hard nipples proudly protruding underneath as she reaches to streeeettttch...and the hemline rides wayyyyy up. :)
     Or *swoon* a long sleeve button down dress shirt with enough buttons undone to let the lucky audience know there is nothing else under it. That loose tie around the collar has plenty of potential in the immediate future.
     Hell, that comfy hoodie he always has on that she just grabbed off the bed & tossed over her barely clad form, perhaps some socks and grin to finish the ensemble.
     Women are at the utmost sexiest then they are almost nude, and very often at the times they least feel or think they are, which is precisely why it's then that zippers strain, eyes smolder and bedroom doors *click* shut...


2/14/2014 6:42:47 PM

Snow, aka "frozen water", abounds here. You know, that white stuff that accumulates all winter, then melts during the spring, allowing us Easterners to have water year round, unlike some parched Western states ;)


2/13/2014 9:04:07 PM

Random Journal Observation: It appears, from the reaction and comments posted by them, that if you want to turn a male Dominant into an idiot just have nothing else but your name in pink 12pt Helvetica type...


2/13/2014 12:21:07 PM

That awkward moment when you read in a trans' Journal that they're hangin' out at a local club O.O


2/11/2014 7:46:02 PM

If I was female, I wouldn't be a Fin Domme. I'd be a German Chocolate Cake Domme. "GIVE ME ALL YOUR COCONUT PECAN PRALINE!!!"


2/10/2014 11:18:15 AM

Random Profile Commentary: Is it oxymoronic to say that a Lesbian Male Submissive has some stones to set up such an account? O.o


2/9/2014 10:16:36 AM

     It has occurred to me that there may be a form of financial domination not being truly exploited - that of enabling submissives (primarily female) to reward themselves, not their Dominant. Allow me to elaborate:
     It's always fascinated me that so many women have little to no issue subjecting themselves to the cruelest, vilest, most perverted whims of another, yet they often seem to have great difficulty being good to themselves. Like they are not worth it, that it's too expensive, I don't need that, I can get by, etc. They settle for that TJ Maxx second instead of something nice. A hot shower instead of a 90 minute massage. That $10 bottle of chardonnay instead of the $40 90pt varietal. A checkout line candy bar instead of a designer 70% dark chocolate with sea salt one. Why? Coffins have no pockets.
     So while reading Journal entry after entry of fin Dommes demanding tribute, I wondered why you never read about a submissive being commanded to spend money on themselves, not Who they serve/belong to? An entire genre of perversion - financial domination - should not be so one sided. Yet, sadly, so many actually have difficulty being good to themselves as a form of expressing their submission.
     D/s has little to nothing to do with sex. Yet they won't submit to themselves...sad.


2/9/2014 10:00:54 AM

"The tigers of wrath are wiser than the horses of instruction."
- William Blake


2/8/2014 9:40:06 AM

Random Journal Observation:
     Reading everyone's screen names & Journals, it's amazing how many project some kind of animal into/onto their CM personas. There are litters of kittens & puppies abounding, a barnyard full of oinking, mooing, neighing and snorting, a veritable zoo of tigers, snakes, bears, lions, panthers, cougars, etc. I never realized how much the kink community uses this form of non-human projection.

     Perhaps it allows them/us to rationalize what they desire, or maybe it's an attempt to revert back to the play filled, carefree days of youth with very twisted, adult desires? Could be some kind of animal spirit manifestation, which abound in many cultures. Regardless, it's interesting.


2/7/2014 9:32:53 PM

Where & What Is Subspace?
     During an intense BDSM scene there will come a point where the self’s fight or flight mechanism kicks in. This is the body’s breaker box or surge protector. It acts as a fail safe for protecting the body and all its various components during situations of extreme duress. The central nervous system, when sensing situations that it perceives as a legitimate threat to the body, frantically starts sending “STOP” impulses, aka flight. Most people’s experiences with this likely come from intense exercise and/or physical exertion, which if you think about it is like intense BDSM. But one can “fight” this reflex and push the “self” past an internal red line to new heights. Or, in the case of BDSM, trust another to do the same.
     So a submissive decides to not flee (flight) but rather fight. Odds are they really don't have a choice if they are bound, etc. but I digress. So now what?
     The machine that is the human body is a masterpiece of engineering, mind boggling in complexity. In its design is the ability to protect the machine at all costs. It will decide what is and is not necessary at any given moment in order to keep the machine in a state of balance. Ever hear “scared shitless” or “frightened the piss out of?” That’s cold fact. Your body will do just that when prompted with a situation that it deems so intense that social decorum is not a issue. You don't need a bladder full of urine or colon full of feces taking up valuable resources right then. It gets rid of it so you can focus more energy at the cause of the stress. Vomiting after an intense exercise session is a prime example of allocation of resources involuntarily.
     The same holds true for the non-physical aspects of the “self”. When faced with an all-out assault on one’s body, mind, spirit and soul during, say, some bound flogging, the physical body cannot escape. Fight or flight scream at each other inside. Doubt and Trust commence to fight. All the while the flogger connects again…again…again…again. Endorphins and dopamine surge thru veins like cheap street corner meth fix, giving the physical self a main line of pain relief.
     But the “self”(soul/spirit) cannot escape.
     Where can “you” go? What can the submissive do to protect the “self” as they float higher and higher inside their own perceived reality?
     “You” need a safe haven. So, just like the body physical, their inner self starts to get rid of aspects of its “self” that it deems unnecessary at the given moment. Think of it as being on a lifeboat that’s sinking fast in a violent ocean of chaotic waves of stimuli. You must start throwing shit overboard that’s not absolutely necessary.
     So Logic goes. Reason is tossed, Resolve along with it. Pride? Who needs that? Fuck Pride! Its gone. Modesty was one of the first things to go. Ego? Really?
     One by one aspects of what makes a submissive who they are get thrown away. Or, more specifically, they are offered for safe keeping to the one person they trust will care for them – their Dominant. Who, ironically, is the same one causing the storm. They exchange control, or in other words the power to do so. A….
     …power exchange.
     Now, with all these aspects of the “self” in the possession of another, its simple logic that a void was created in their absence inside the submissive, a safe refuge that is free of almost all that they know to be themselves, where gravity does not exist…a space for the sub to flee to.
     A subspace.
     To truly enter the deep, dark chasm that is subspace the submissive must take a leap of faith into the abyss that is themselves. And they fly, float, whatever away, leaving their body behind in the real world where their trust in their Dominant is revealed as to how they manage all of what I just mentioned.
     And that, kids, is where subspace comes from...


2/7/2014 6:43:31 PM

“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.”
― Anaïs Nin


2/7/2014 5:50:04 AM

It's fascinating to watch the Domme's Journals light up with posts of demanded gifts for Valentine's Day, which if received as a result of a command, carry no more value than the same insisted, bought & sold respect on any other day, which equates to being pathetic.


2/6/2014 7:27:00 PM

In a discussion with a bright, lovely submissive, it occurred to me that the Seven Deadly Sins (wrath, greed, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and gluttony) could be some of the currency that is bartered between Top & bottom in the process of exchanging power. Power is what is exchanged, but not without a price. Perhaps these are some of the coins that get cast into the kinky fountain?


2/6/2014 6:48:58 PM

I've read this three keys story a number of times and, while I agree and like it, I offer a more direct approach for the ladies, minus a key:

Men are simple fucking creatures. We're either horny or hungry. If we are not obviously aroused, make us a sandwich. It really is that easy.


2/5/2014 10:28:41 AM

Random Thought Of The Day: All play & no work makes Jill lonely, eventually*
*Jack can be substituted for Jill where applicable. Your mileage may vary. See your Dom/Domme for details. Some restrictions (heh) may be applied.


2/4/2014 12:28:45 PM

Random Mindfuck Of The Day II: Some say that those unknown, random faces & strangers in your dreams are actually the spirits/souls of the dead passing through on their way to their eternal destination...and that they're merely standing/walking next to you as you lie there in your bed dreaming...


2/4/2014 10:12:30 AM

Anyone else find a Dom/Domme demanding some kind of Valentine's Day acknowledgment/gift to be oxymoronic? O.o


2/3/2014 4:53:54 PM

Random Mindfuck Of The Day: Did you ever consider that the unknown, random faces & strangers in your dreams are actually the spirits/souls of other dreamers, and that you are the stranger to them in their dream?


2/2/2014 8:19:16 PM

It never crossed my mind that the Puppy Bowl would actually be more competitive than this year's Super Bowl...


2/2/2014 8:45:43 AM

It appears the sapiosexuals are out in force & armed to the teeth with comments and caffeine :)


2/2/2014 8:16:51 AM

Irony (as defined by the CM dictionary): Receiving a preaching message that online D/s is all about hiding things, but by someone with a hidden online account & who hides their online identity by blocking replies. 


2/1/2014 4:31:50 PM

To those who discard online D/s like so much flotsam & jetsam, just an observation:
     You are always quick to point out the obvious as far as the physical. You will let another inside any orifice you own to do with as their whims & perversions desire. You will allow them to torment, abuse, spank, pierce, flog, whip and generally torment your velvet skin to resembling the survivor of a serious accident.
     But I never hear mention of allowing them inside your head, whispering to your inner slut, or under your skin to become that itch you can't reach. Hard limits, perhaps? The power of anonymity reduces & terrifies even the toughest submissive. Apparently a virtual blindfold is too intense. Such a shame that the simplest bondage toy there is - the removal of "sight" - makes them cower. So to you I offer a simple thought:
     You know it. That voice....
     The one who lives deep inside you, who is always whispering naughty things or making erotic suggestions. We all have one, a part of our DNA that centuries of evolution and social restriction have all but rendered impotent and mute. But it's still there, trapped inside the day to day life we all live. School, work, bills, homework, errands, maybe even a spouse and kids. But yet it is there, whispering the most vile, perverted things, constantly planting seeds of "What if..." or "Maybe..." in the craggy, dry, unfulfilled dust of a daily life of safety, of same old, same old. Hoping that one day, a drop of curiosity will find its way through all the chaos and that seed will take root.
     Now, imagine if that voice, the one who makes you wet, dream, fantasize about stepping into the darkness that are the sexual perversions in your soul....belonged to someone else.
     That you allowed someone to become "that voice". That you open the door to your secrets and let a courteous, thoughtful, educated, well spoken, humorous man become your inner voice. That his creative imagination provided you with the submission, structure and release you secretly crave. That suddenly your life was enhanced with erotic tension.
     Do you think the most erogenous part of the human anatomy is located between your ears & not your thighs, and that power exchange has very little to do with sex, but more about surrendering trust, about pushing mental, spiritual & physical limits to their extremes....and then a step further?
     Curious? If you've read this far, I'd say you are. So now do you go back to your plain ol' vanilla existence...or do you see how far the rabbit hole goes, Alice?


1/31/2014 3:45:51 PM

It occurred to me that women, in general, for as much time as they spend concerned with how they look, never really look at themselves. They will spend years of their lives staring into a mirror, but probably no more than a day or two looking at themselves. Why? What is the obsession with the reflection of what you perceive as reality? The shoes you have on? You bought them after seeing their reflection, didn't you? And even then, you only saw what you wanted to. Reality is glass deep, sadly, to so many. Men go to their graves lamenting that women obsess with She Who Looks Back instead of She Who Is.


1/30/2014 12:04:01 PM

There is a saying to the effect of "A tiger doesn't lose sleep over the opinion of sheep", to which I amend slightly to "A Tiger doesn't lose sleep over the opinion of Sheep", with the emphasis on the "S". Read into that what you might ;)


1/30/2014 7:53:14 AM

What The Journal Entry Says: Things to the effect of "I'm debating leaving..." or "I can't take any more of this...". Perhaps a "I'm giving this one last try & that's it!". Maybe even a "I'm done...good bye."
What The Journal Owner Means: "Message me PLEASE!!!!!"
      A lil' tidbit - When you cry wolf often enough, the wolves know better & go find a more interesting lamb and leave the whiny mutton alone.


1/29/2014 6:45:57 PM

I read some of the things passing as Journal entries from Dominants that are so full of typos, grammatical errors, lack of punctuation & case letters, etc. and I wonder to myself "This poor fool is so fucking inept I could hand them a flogger...and they still couldn't hit water if they fell overboard"...


1/29/2014 5:45:30 PM

     I was privy to a revelation today while corresponding with aftercare concerns to a lovely submissive:
     A submissive in an online D/s dynamic has the unique position and ability to experience both subspace AND Topspace simultaneously. The requirements expected of a submissive in such a relationship demands that they, in the act of submitting to their online Dom/Domme, carry out many acts of self Dominance in their zest to be submissive. They feel the sweet sting of pain as well as the rush of administration. The flood of endorphins, dopamine & adrenaline that create the flight into subspace are accompanied by the feast of emotions that fuel Topspace.
     It was always there, in hindsight, but I never quite put the obvious together.


1/29/2014 1:59:06 PM

Having just read a most lengthy, almost scholarly thesis on the definition of power within the BDSM dynamic, I humbly offer the following, more concise definition as to what I believe it is:
"Power is holding someone else's fear in your hand and showing it to them" - Amy Tan


1/29/2014 10:13:56 AM

This is erotic as fuck...or at least I think so:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEo3lf0-nxY


1/28/2014 9:37:49 AM

Sooner or later, some tech savvy submissive is going to hack someone's identity, hand over the information to a fin Domme & watch with glee as she mindlessly commits & is arrested for the crime, the irony of becoming someone else's bitch appropriate justice...


1/27/2014 8:29:44 PM

A walrus, a rabbi & Justin Bieber walk into a bar. The bartender looks up & says "What is this, a bad joke?" :D


1/27/2014 7:08:17 PM

A rut is a grave with the ends kicked out....


1/27/2014 10:09:32 AM

Does it seem ironic to anyone else that all these service/fin/tribute Doms ASK when they need a ride somewhere, or their homework done, or want to have something bought for them, instead of telling or demanding? Who is who's bitch then?


1/27/2014 7:36:28 AM

     For all the submissives/etc being image blackmailed, had images stolen by a fraud account, and/or harassed by cowards:
     This site enables you to, for free, watermark pictures. Simply upload an image, choose some text or a watermarking image, then save back to you. Voila...your pictures now have a watermark that, not only prevents these tiny, limp dicked cowards from harassing you, but also makes them basically unusable by any other account except yours.

http://picmarkr.com/


1/27/2014 7:11:25 AM

Topspace is different than subspace on a variety of levels, primarily the lack of being chemically induced. A body ripe with endorphins, dopamine & adrenaline, all being simultaneously pumped throughout a submissive's limp form in massive quantities feels one way. No, Topspace is more a clarity, energy, vision, focus. Food tastes better, work easier, the day more enjoyable. It's as if the same wind that is carrying your submissive higher and higher also catches your wings, but instead of floating away, you soar with the purpose of a bird of prey. The irony is that, unlike raptor birds such as eagles, hawks, falcons, etc. the soaring, crystalline vision, unlimited energy and overall voracity for the moment is post "kill", not pre. It comes (heh) after the submissive has, in a small way, "died" a beautiful lil' death. To leave reality so intensely does that. And a Dominant feeds off that, like a vampire. Again. And again. And soars.


1/26/2014 7:54:45 PM

That awkward moment when you read an 19 year old female submissive wanting a daddy Dom that is not older than 29 O.o


1/26/2014 10:04:40 AM

Being a dyslexic pervert must suck. Imagine what BDSM, D/s, S&M, B&D, WIITWD, OTK, CBT, RACK, SSC, etc must look like? O.o


1/26/2014 9:57:08 AM

That *chuckle* when you read a Dominant's "rant" Journal entry, their operatic attempt at being all Alpha rife with typos & grammar worthy of the youngest viewers of Nickelodeon...


1/26/2014 7:13:20 AM

It is mind boggling how many treat or view Journals like Profiles or the Yellow Pages. A 1000+ word well structured, articulate, grammatically correct, descriptive narrative is lovely, but still makes you look like the idiot who is driving the wrong way on the exit ramp when it's in a Journal & not your Profile.


1/25/2014 8:23:47 PM

Oh, to be able to scene to this & the remainder of the album it lives on:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRN2REfnuaM


1/25/2014 8:11:46 PM

If my current avatar peeked your curiosity, after you view my Profile & Journal Google "John Tisbury". His fetish photography is simply breathtaking.


1/25/2014 7:57:21 PM

It's amazing how, on here, collars get handed out like credit card offers....


1/25/2014 7:34:59 AM

     On a lighter note, it's interesting & humorous to see how many people on here are looking to either take control of, or offer the same, to another....
     ...yet none of them can master/Master the simple paragraph hard return without huge fucking spaces between each one. Think of that when they have a flogger & you're tied helpless. They can't even Master text formatting.
     See? No big ass space between this line break & the end of that last paragraph, you know, the ones that end up taking 17 screen scrolls worth of time to read their diatribe.
     To paraphrase Jerry Seinfeld to Art Vandelay - "And you want to be my Dominant...."


1/25/2014 7:17:39 AM

     It's fascinating, yet also sad simultaneously, to read Journal entry after entry from female submissives lamenting the lack of "real" Dominants on CM. That they all are assholes interested in just sex, that they're crude, abusive, demanding respect from the initial contact, etc.
     What they usually mean is that they haven't found a piece of man candy yet. They are not interested in being challenged mentally, spiritually, having an inner voice guide them to deep, dark places inside themselves & allowing them the opportunities to explore, grow....and come like never before. It's not about the Journey, but rather the curb appeal of the hand guiding or spanking them.
     Actually, on second thought (and fourth cup of coffee) this is Darwinism at its finest. The shallowest shall remove themselves from the D/s gene pool simply by being themselves. *sip*


1/24/2014 2:43:14 PM

Two mirrors face one another...what do they see in their counterpart? Do they see themselves, or simply what they want to? Or do they see the other in their gaze? Now imagine if one is shattered. What would the other see? And would the broken one see themselves for what they are, or would they see in themselves the mirror yet to be splintered...that is the other, or is it?


1/24/2014 9:36:31 AM

That awkward moment when you found you've lost 7 minutes of your life being wistful in the rope & chain aisle at Dom, er, Home Depot...


1/23/2014 5:04:58 PM

    In that I am in a particularly good mood, I will offer a small peek behind the curtain as to what a submissive in my stead has come to expect as far as a Task. This one involves nothing more than a simple mirror:
     She would be directed to take a nice, long, hot Hollywood shower. Let her mind and hands wander. Indulge. Enjoy. Pamper. Maybe a bubblebath by candlelight, with some soft music playing? Then put on something sexy, stuff she wears to have someone see (or remove). Silky, lacy. Perhaps a squirt of a favorite perfume. The right mood music. Do her hair. Definitely do her eyes. Candles would be nice as well if in the evening or a dimly lit room.
     She'd look at herself in that full length mirror. Check out how hot that woman looking back looks. How she would totally hit that give the chance. Well, this is her chance.
     It always pains me to see those I care about not see what I do. They always see the negative, the half empty glass, or too often a glass spilling over (if you know what I mean) They just don't "get it" as far as their sex appeal, their erotic charms.
     So, as a way to force them to see what I do, they will flirt with, seduce, undress, and make love to another woman until she comes over and over...
     ...her own self. Or, more specifically, that woman in the mirror.
     She will whisper to her. Make her know how special she is. Reach out and touch. Tease. Play with her hair. A simple caress. Be more bold. Make eye contact. Look thru her.
And then seduce her.
     Garment by garment, taking as long as she wants, render her nude, willing and quivering at the advances. She will seduce the woman in the mirror and make her come as many times as she can, however she wishes.
     She MUST focus on her. Not her "own" self. This is not about her. Or is it? Regardless, her gaze will NOT be down at her own body, but must be on the woman looking back thru the glass. She will not take her eyes off her once, the entire time flirting, seducing, undressing & fucking her.
     She'll set a mood ripe for this dance. Then go take her. She will likely resist at first. Persistence. Not giving up. Chase her. I bet she likes to be chased. Most submissives do.
     The only other rule? When she comes, it must be in absolute silence. Make sure she lets her know that. Tell her. Take control. She likes to be dominated. But make sure each & every orgasm she has is perfectly silent. And watch her the whole time. Not look away. Watch her with wide eyes amazement & awe have each and every orgasm.
     Get as close to her as she wishes. Touch if she must. Upon completion, hold her. She loves to be held. Takes her to her bed & drift off. If, during the night she wakes and feel the urge to take her again in bed, she has my permission to as many times as she can get her to climax....in complete silence.
      The next day she'll recount the evening in great detail via a Journaled email. Exactly who seduced who? Who was the submissive? Who Dominated the Task - her or the woman in the mirror? And maybe see something she's never seen before.


1/23/2014 4:06:47 PM

A horse walks into a bar. The bartender looks up & says "Why the long face?" :D


1/23/2014 6:13:12 AM

     A humble suggestion to both submissives & Dominants alike:
     Within the initial processes of discovery, learning, sharing, getting to know one another (I believe many refer to this as "under consideration", which is a two way street for the record) it's been my experience that, while not ironclad, this random fact often translates well to what else happens between consenting adults:
     Is the one/One you are considering good in the kitchen?
     Passion in that room = passion in the bedroom, or dungeon, etc. Find someone/One who can make a really good soufflé instead of going "Fuck it, I'll make sweet scrambled eggs" and you have found one/One. Skilled with a whisk? The feathery touch to make ethereal biscuits? The determination to hand knead dough to elastic heights? Thinks nothing of using the best ingredients instead of cheap shit? Will spend days coaxing flavors out of the most simple things to create an eye rolling moment? Keep all of that in mind when you want to do things of a kinkier nature if they are a gourmet or have a car filled with empty drive thru bags.


1/20/2014 9:24:10 PM

That awkward moment when that submissive from Pittsburgh moves to Illinois between messages...


1/20/2014 8:39:47 PM

*wonders what a submissive serving on a submarine would be called?* O.o


1/20/2014 10:11:59 AM

It's amazing how the most perverted, open minded, slutty, kinky, vulgar, safe words are for wimps submissives cower in stone cold fear at anonymity, or being asked to face something like a karaoke night, etc. Fear is a great motivator, especially when it comes not just from within but also from the unknown. Really puts all of this into perspective, doesn't it?


1/20/2014 7:20:47 AM

What They Say: "I'm disillusioned with this place" or "I have given up", maybe "I can't take this anymore!" etc
What They Mean:
"I want pity, sympathy & lots of messages in my Inbox"


1/19/2014 6:02:32 PM

The CM Definition of Irony - The mind boggling comprehension of the overwhelming amount of time people spend in these Journals telling others what a waste of time this site is.


1/19/2014 9:31:35 AM

You must crawl before you can walk,
You must walk before you can run,
You must run before you can leap,
You must leap before you can fly

Dominants who insist on your falling into the abyss from that very first contact, with wings you haven't yet grown, on a leap of faith into their winds of "Trust", are not even worth the time it took to learn this simple, common sense lesson.


1/18/2014 7:26:46 PM

"Close your eyes and surrender to your darkest dreams!
Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before!
Close your eyes, let your spirit start to soar!
And you'll live as you've never lived before..."

Music Of The Night - Sir Andrew Lloyd Webber


1/18/2014 12:25:37 PM

Bleed
One drop was too many
times I have made you cry out
of the dark into your light
a candle for me please now
come to me for me by my
words of steel cold hard softly
your body my mind our secrets
shared given stolen taken by
the fact it was I who cut you
bled out by the stabbing
in my chest blood frozen
in time the dull dark empty
eyes that haunted my nights
and days ago that I let
ghosts roam their halls to
the cellar where we play
as few but many dream
was it real or did my
heart your tears did break
away run hide but I cannot change
the fact I held the knife to your
trust me you did I failed so
now its my turn to bleed out
of my mind


1/18/2014 9:42:59 AM

The triskele & its spelled variations are a commonly accepted symbol of BDSM. Three parts to a whole, each in a circular vortex. One equal chasing the other, which in turn is being pursued as closely by the same. Both of which are either chasing or being chased by the power exchange that fuels the fire. The Dominant, the submissive & the power exchange. A trinity, and don't think that is by accident. All in harmony, all in balance. No one greater or less than the other.

There are a lot of people on CM (Dominants & submissives alike) who would really benefit from noting the parts of the triskele are equals. One is not more powerful or possesses more control than the other. Both parties equal in a dance, with the "music" (power exchange) an equal conduit - the give and Take all in balance. Remember that.


1/18/2014 7:42:58 AM

The definition of old c. 2014:
- You can remember when vodka came in one flavor.....vodka


1/17/2014 1:28:58 PM

Darwinism (as it pertains to Journals):Those who spend the better part of a hour pouring their heart & souls into an multi-thousand word entry that will fill multiple screen scrolls with wrought passion, lust, perversion, raw emotions bared to the world to witness as the pledging of their very existence to their Other/other...then lose all of it in a single *click* when they forgot to save a copy in case the Verification String doesn't match...


1/17/2014 9:01:19 AM

I am beginning to believe that sapiosexuality, if not dead, is mortality wounded...very sad.


1/16/2014 7:34:26 PM

Is it just me, or does it seem like there are an overwhelming number of Profile pictures that look as if they were taken inside an Econo Lodge double twin?


1/16/2014 7:05:43 PM

I always find it odd that men are usually asked if they are either a T or A man. Now don't get me wrong, I adore the south end of a north bound soccer mom as much as any guy, but truth be told there are two other aspects of the female anatomy I find much more arousing & appealing than a nice pair of breasts or a heart shaped ass.

Eyes - It pretty much starts & ends here. No other part of the female form makes me weak in the knees than a set of eyes that, once in their gaze, you would gladly fall into and drown a happy death, never desiring to see the light of day ever again. *sigh*

The small of the female back - To. Die. For. The most perfect, beautiful, erotic curve in all of nature is a woman's back, especially that sweet spot right around her belt line. The cabriole leg in furniture design is an homage to the female spine. And when arched? *swoon*


1/16/2014 9:48:05 AM

I will say this again:

To those of you who lambast & turn your nose up at online D/s, a simple test: do you utilize, employ or depend on texting, emails, messaging, even video chat as part of your dynamic? Do you send or receive electronic demands, etc? Exchange images as attachments? If you said "Yes" to any of the aforementioned, or use a cell phone, laptop, tablet and the Internet as a toy...congratulations, you just validated online (digital) D/s. It's no game, nor merely a passing fancy. One torments the body external (and internal I guess) to get to the mind, spirit & soul. We do the same...but in the other direction ;)


1/15/2014 3:03:00 PM

It would almost be worth the coin to call one of these phone Dommes and do the following:

Her - "What is your name, you worthless, pathetic excuse of a man?"

Me - "Um......Jake."

Her - "What a sorry ass name! Where are you calling me from, Jake?"

Me - "State Farm."

Her - "So you're a hick! What are you wearing right now, bib overalls?"

Me - "Um.........khakis."

Her - *pause* "You sound hideous..."


1/15/2014 2:09:16 PM

It is truly mind boggling how many view a Journal as advertising either what they want or, more often, don't. That's what Profiles are for, kids. It's like opening someone's diary & reading page after page of Help Wanted & For Sale ads...


1/15/2014 9:19:33 AM

Have just read, in a few page scrolls, a number of well thought out, realistic, common sense, practical & interesting Journal entries. With grammar. And punctuation. Even *gasp* capital letters...in the right places! And not on pink backgrounds!

I believe this is one of the signs of the Apocalypse, or else the ground is freezing below my feet as I type...


1/15/2014 9:06:55 AM

Given my choice between the two, I will always & would much rather tease, edge & violate the space between one's ears instead of their thighs. It's so much more delicious & satisfying. Not even the wettest pussy can compare to creative juices overflowing into the deepest, darkest corners of the cellar of imagination, flooding it in the process.

I mean, you never hear someone say "Fuck my vagina out", it's "Fuck my brains out." Anyone can violate a pussy, but a mind? Not so many. ;)


1/14/2014 11:45:27 AM

The irony of so many whining about fake this or pretend that, yet they still come back again & again. It's as if CM was a restaurant that had horrible food & lousy service, but they go there day after day. Keep that in mind if you are considering "dining" with any of them, per se. 


1/14/2014 7:39:01 AM

It was, via conversation, a true *lightbulb* moment.

This will likely only apply to those of you 40 & over, but a question if you are and enjoy online D/s:

Think back to the days of pre-internet, where porn meant "tearing your parent's bedroom apart to find where the magazines were hidden". That first time you stopped looking at the Pets & Playmates and read the Forum letters. I now know it was right then & there that the erotic power of mere words was not only discovered, but quickly became a preference to any images. That I preferred the tale, the story, the journey inside my sexuality and perversions via the written transcriptions of another. Chatting & sexting are merely the interactive pages of a Forum letter come to life. Now I know....so, for those who enjoy online/virtual D/s, per chance do you have a similar tale to tell?


1/13/2014 6:06:06 PM

I swear, with all these pink backgrounds, the Journals read like a demented Baskins Robbins menu...


1/13/2014 8:25:12 AM

Many on here, in a community where respect is not just a valued commodity but should be a standard practice between all parties, would do well to remember this simple acronym:

TETO - To Each Their Own


1/13/2014 8:12:26 AM

"When you feel my heat
Look into my eyes
It’s where my demons hide
It’s where my demons hide
Don’t get too close
It’s dark inside
It’s where my demons hide
It’s where my demons hide"

- Imagine Dragons, Demons


1/12/2014 4:09:40 PM

If Journals were vibrators, the majority would be out of batteries...


1/12/2014 8:35:40 AM

"Hello, let me introduce you to
The characters in the show
One says yes, one says no
Decide - which voice in your head you can keep alive"

Shinedown - I Dare You


1/12/2014 8:27:38 AM

     A totally random, caffeine fueled musing:
     A woman is at her absolutely sexiest when she is almost nude. That hint, anticipation, suggestion of more visceral pleasures is far more erotic than the female form completely nude. Maybe it's her in a undone button down blouse, changing either into or out of, and not much else. Or catching her in knee high socks and, to her, a less than compromised position. That perfection that is the man's T shirt riding up, up, up as she reaches to a top shelf or stretches in the pale blue, early light of lazy weekend mornings & your cheeky *gasp*. Or, if she is mischievous, modeling something as innocent as a hat or a necklace....and a grin
     That's why the stolen glance down the soccer mom's sweatshirt as she leans into the produce at the groceries is so jaw dropping. That slice of time, unknown to her when she feels about as undesirable as last week's leftovers...but so delicious to the hungry eye.


1/11/2014 9:47:55 PM

     Power is not steel, leather, rope, commands, demands. No, power is the ability to take another's fear from them, hold it in your hands...and show it to them. Which is why, in any D/s dynamic, the submissive has the ultimate power. They hold in their hands the one thing Dominants fear the most - the safe word.
     And to those who forbid their use I would ask - what are you afraid of? You're the Dominant, the Master, a Domme, Sir, Madam. No fear, right? You instill it, not possess it. If you are fearless, why not allow a safe word?
     Many argue that, with safe words, there cannot be total submission, to which I offer you cannot be a true Dominant if you fear one little word so much you forbid it.


1/11/2014 10:50:49 AM

     If a Transformer had a gender identity issue, what would that/they be called?  O.o


1/11/2014 9:53:35 AM

     A thought:
     Anonymity = virtual blindfold. Simple as that. The curtain on the theatre of imagination. A leap of faith. So simple, easy. Kindergarten level play. BDSM 101. Probably the first thing vanillas wanting to be kinkier try. 
     If you can't handle a simple "blindfold", you probably shouldn't be here.


1/10/2014 6:39:10 PM

     Always remember that long after that initial spark created a blaze that burned bright as the sun, an inferno roaring with life into the night, that as the flames subsided from view and all that appeared to remain was cold, grey ash....that one little breath can stir that buried ember, hidden yet still warm, into red hot life once again.


1/10/2014 11:47:24 AM

     Of the non tactile senses, none is as erotic as hearing. None of the others excite the body to the degree that sound does. Given this is a BDSM community I offer the following:
     Find any video perversion online & do the following (and NO touching one's self) Watch the first half of it with video on, yet sound off. Then switch *heh* & enjoy the remain half with the screen minimized so you can't see it, but have your sound at full volume. The bulge or wetness in your crotch proves my hypothesis valid and true.


1/9/2014 2:48:49 PM

So apparently most on CM think "New Journal Entry" is French for "Tell everyone about your email woes"...


1/9/2014 8:39:01 AM

I find the fascination most submissives have with photo documentation of skin trauma from play/scenes interesting. It's like a kinky example of photos of vacation, or that amazing entree from that incredible restaurant. But, in a sadder sense, they are also trophies of the most macabre. Look what I was able to withstand! Proof of the saddest kind, if you ask me. Serial killers collect mementos of their victims for the same reason - to relive the rush long past.

I prefer the pages of memory to JPEGs of what was. Perhaps this is why I gravitate to online/virtual. Do not take me wrong - I absolutely enjoy the visceral of real life play. But having one's grey matter masturbated with no more than suggestions while another's is a sea of torment as a result of the same? No photo can compare.


1/8/2014 7:48:03 PM

I keep seeing these Journals entries shouting "WARNING!" or "I AM WARNING...." and I'm like....what? Really? These have to be same people who, as kids in the back seat, had their pointed finger an inch from their sibling yelling "I'M NOT TOUCHING!!!"


1/8/2014 12:12:55 PM

*that awkward moment when, just like with those pieces of boxed, frozen fried chicken that don't really look like anything recognizable as chicken, you click on someone's CM avatar for the same reason..."What the hell is that???"*


1/7/2014 8:51:22 PM

A follow-up to my previous post regarding online D/s:

If you, as a Dominant, use a cell phone, texts, email, chat, etc as a tool to establish any semblance of Dominance or control over a submissive, in any way, shape, manner, form....congratulations! You justified virtual/online D/s!


1/7/2014 7:21:51 AM

It seems many are quick to dismiss online D/s. That's it's fool's gold, etc. To that I offer the following:

Many aspects of BDSM involve denying or restricting aspects of the submissive to place them in a state of conflict. Blindfolds remove sight, bondage secures the body so the mind & spirit cannot flee but must fight. Gags eliminate the ability to freely converse, restrict breathing, etc. So Dominants, one by one, isolate the submissive's inner self, placing it in a state of supreme distress, which submissives love and crave.

Online D/s is the opposite in reverse, meaning it's very similar. Yes, aspects of what I mentioned can be utilized (although blindfolds really lose something in translation LOL) to achieve the same result. Instead of one by one closing all the escape routes, they are all wide open. The submissive can, at any time, simply chose to *click* and disappear. Instead of taking power from them, they have all of it. And what do they do when faced with this?

Whatever I ask of them. I've been privy to a submissive who will come when I say "come". Like...now. And again. And again. None of the classic BDSM tools, etc. Just words. I'm inside their mind, whispering to them, placing them in the same position they are if they were bound, gagged & blindfolded. Only they are doing the blindfolding, gagging & binding, but to that inner submissive. And doing it themselves. Well, not really. A voice is telling them to. And they listen with baited breathe & dripping pussys. While a real time Dom (and oh HELL yes I enjoy that play) attacks them from the outside in, I fuck with them from the inside out. The best part? They do it all willingly in a desire to please me.

Just something to think about...


1/6/2014 9:28:02 AM

"The only journey is the one within"

- Rainer Maria Wilke

And with that a step...


1/5/2014 9:45:14 AM

"Only a few find the way, some don't recognize it when they do - some... don't ever want to.” 
― The Cheshire Cat


1/5/2014 9:39:58 AM

I'm still pondering the whole notion of transexual preference identity. I mean, if they say they are straight, are they into the gender they physically are not or the one they identify as? And if they say they're gay, well, isn't that the same in reverse? And please don't get me going on bi-curious.

I need more coffee...


1/5/2014 9:32:48 AM

It's so nice & refreshing to have made the acquaintance of a few on here that give great grey matter ;) Restores my faith.


1/4/2014 6:59:01 PM

It just occurred to me that transexuals on CM choose an identity as far as preference. Do you see the paradox there?


1/4/2014 6:31:52 PM

I loathe any scene music that has words/lyrics/verse. It's not easy to find. I would be curious & appreciative if you (Dom or sub) have any that fits my description that you enjoy and would be willing to share.


1/4/2014 4:20:15 PM

Finding it a bit odd that so many female submissive Profiles & Journal entries desire, crave, seek, thirst for being used, abused, scorned, chastised, basically treated worse than anyone would a dog. You have to use this site to find this? If you can't obtain this level of use at your local nightspot on your own, you really are a pathetic excuse of a submissive.


1/3/2014 6:03:27 PM

Read a Journal entry by a submissive whose Sir "gets it." No floggings, candle wax, bondage, anal, etc. Nothing that easy. No, she had to confront her biggest fear & was being forced to sing at a nightclub's karaoke night in front of people.

THAT...is Domination & submission at its best - having a sub so on edge that her uttering a safe word is a real possibility...and he laid not one, single fucking finger on her, or even disturbed a single hair. Well played...


1/3/2014 11:58:29 AM

Remember those new female submissives of a month or so ago, the ones who were always on the search result first page, the ones responding to 100s of emails, etc, etc, etc?

Yeah, no one else does either...


1/3/2014 11:54:28 AM

Experienced kitten play for the first time last night. Surprised at how much I enjoyed my kitten & how arousing it was. Much purrrrrrring......


1/3/2014 5:45:05 AM

It seems that, for a lot of Dommes on CM, the acronym BDSM means Broke Dumbasses Sending Money :D


1/2/2014 6:45:20 PM

Comedian Bill Engvall, after watching the food teasing scene in 9 1/2 Weeks:

I thought, "I'm gonna try that at my house!" Well apparently, bologna and string cheese is not a real big turn on to a blindfolded woman."


1/2/2014 6:30:53 PM

Her:  ”How did you know? How did you know I’d respond to you the way I have?”
Him:  ”I saw myself in you”

From 9 1/2 Weeks


1/2/2014 11:48:52 AM

Trust….

All relationships are based in & on it. But perhaps no where is this more true than in the world of BDSM. Its everything. There would be no BDSM without it. Its the first thing given to a Top by their bottom, yet also the last thing taken…..

Doubt….

The opposite of Trust. Those tiny whispers, be they via reality or fantasy, form cracks in Trust like ice coursing silently in concrete. Are they legitimate concerns, founded in reality? Or simply figments of the subconscious brought to the surface by the stimuli at hand…or whip…or cuff…

I live for when these two “dance on the knife’s edge”. Alone they are both powerful, which is (upon typing that) occurring to me why they are so prized by Doms. But when mixed together, they are fucking delicious. Its as close to being a vampire as I will ever know (knock on wooden stake). To drink in that moment where, deep inside a sub’s inner being, Trust & Doubt collide….

I call it “dancing on the knife’s edge” because the scene can go either way if the Dom is not 100% focused on their sub at this crucial junction. She (or he), for all they have given you, let you do to them, in them, on them, with them….now Doubt whispers“maybe…”

Right there. That moment. The Knife’s Edge. Its your role as the trusted Dom to keep the sub right on the edge of that hot blade, to not let them fall back into Trust or, worse yet, allow Doubt to scream so loudly they utter the safe word. Its a dance unlike any other….and its fucking amazing to be part of it.

The sub is usually so far inside themselves (subspace) that its more an echo than anything. They are not really there, if you will. They are somewhere so deep in their psyche/soul that if you are not careful as a Dom it can cause permanent issues post scene. But to keep them on that Edge……

….its so delicious. No other word to describe it. And, like a vampire, both parties feed off the dance. As a Top, for me its akin to that post-coital glow…only it often lasts for days. I’m full of energy. I feel alive. Everything tastes better, etc. For the sub its more a black hole experience. They suck in everything around them & absorb it as they fall deep into the black abyss that is their soul. And once in there it is never coming back out. Its their’s forever & they rightfully deserve that as a reward for their Trust and surrender of power.


1/2/2014 11:42:56 AM

Not even a few pages of profile reviews and, well, I honestly had no idea Faye Reagen, Leelee Sobieski & Jenna Jameson were CM users *eyeroll*


12/31/2013 9:31:22 AM

And it's been a long December and there's reason to believe
Maybe this year will be better than the last
I can't remember all the times I tried to tell myself
To hold on to these moments as they pass

- "Long December" by Counting Crows


12/30/2013 4:14:04 PM

The theatre of the imagination is a far more interesting gig to play than any visual nightclub. Open your mind & your legs will follow. And no two drink minimum to boot :)


12/28/2013 9:53:50 AM

Just an observation: If you are a "Dominant" the ability to spell, use grammar, punctuation and correct case goes a long way towards making that vital first impression. Misspelling "negotiate" so badly that it sounds like you tried to enunciate it with a mouthful of marshmallows, while eating pork rinds, during that time you had a big ass canker sore on your bottom lip does not instill a sense of desire and curiosity in a prospective submissive.


12/28/2013 8:41:39 AM

*waiting to see a FinSwitch charge submissives for the *cough*privilege*cough* of Dominating them, then use those ill gotten gains to pay another FinTop to do the same to them*


12/28/2013 7:53:12 AM

Something for you diehard, serve your Sir/Madam at all costs, live, eat & breath submissives to ponder:

If your Sir/Madam ordered you to be more assertive, make your own choices, take charge of situations...in other words become more Dominant....in your zeal to be a good sub to them, would you Dominate your own submission? Or would you call safe word without even being touched?


12/27/2013 4:27:04 PM

Apparently Santa didn't get my Xmas wish to have the colored background & text feature in Journals disabled *sigh* Guess I've been naughty...heh


12/27/2013 11:53:53 AM

Any Dominant who, as a prerequisite to proceeding in a exploratory D/s dynamic, requires being called Sir or Maam or Master or Mistress, etc....does not deserve so. Respect is earned, never demanded. 


12/27/2013 8:50:25 AM

I don't quite get why so many photos of Dommes are so submissive in presentation? Presenting body parts posed, arched, positioned in a role of being taken, not power. You submit yourselves to all that way.


12/27/2013 7:31:12 AM

For submissives on this site, it's apparent that it's not the act of being skillfully and totally Dominated that arouses and satisfies them as much as who is doing it. And I still think "18 year old" and "Dominant" make no fucking sense. Y'all haven't acquired yet the skills to Master acne and rent, let alone another soul.


12/22/2013 12:07:25 PM

You know it. That voice....

The one who lives deep inside you, always whispering naughty things or making erotic suggestions. We all have one, a part of our DNA that centuries of evolution and social restriction have all but rendered mute. But it's still there, trapped inside the day to day life we all live. School, work, bills, homework, maybe a spouse and kids. But yet it whispers to you perverted things, constantly planting seeds of "What if..." or "....maybe..." in the craggy, dry, unfulfilled dust of day to day life, same old, same old. Hoping that one day, a drop of open minded curiosity will find its way through all the chaos, allowing that seed to take root.

Now imagine if that voice, the one who makes you pussy wet, day dream, fantasize about stepping into the darkness that are the sexual perversions in your soul....belonged to someone else.

That you allowed someone to become "that voice". That you opened the door to your secrets and let a courteous, thoughtful, educated, well spoken, funny Sir bring that voice to life. That his creative imagination provided you with the submission, structure and release you secretly crave. That suddenly your life was enhanced with erotic tension.

If...


12/20/2013 10:04:05 AM

I keep seeing Dom/Dom couple or submissive/submissive couple as a descriptor on CM. If you scene/play/interact with each other, you are neither. You're switches, which I think is great. But there is no such thing thing as a couple who are both either Tops or bottoms. Your both submit & Dominate in aspects of your lives every day.

Yes Virginia, there is no such thing as a 24/7/365 Dominant or submissive.


12/20/2013 8:48:54 AM

I find it more than a little disturbing that it appears quite a few submissives use less care and diligence regarding become another's slave/property/toy and all that those terms entail than they would replacing their washing machine or some other major appliance...seriously?


12/20/2013 8:13:09 AM

I find it odd, contradictory & even humorous that, for a community in which sensory deprivation (blindfolding, etc) is not only commonplace but practically downright vanilla that  everyone freaks out about about so called fraudulent, anonymous accounts.....really? Guess some so called hard core life stylers can't handle the intensity of not knowing?

Irony...it's a bitch.


12/20/2013 8:05:48 AM

It is becoming more and more apparent that, for the majority on this site, respect and trust are not earned over weeks and months but rather rented by the minute or hour, sadly.


12/19/2013 3:42:15 PM

From my profile bio:

"If you believe the most erogenous organ of the human anatomy is located between the ears & not the thighs, that power exchange has very little to do with sex, but more about surrendering trust, about pushing mental, spiritual & physical limits...perhaps we should chat a little."

Perhaps out there is a female submissive who agrees.....perhaps.


12/19/2013 3:38:44 PM

Submissives all complaining & whining they want honesty, humor, respect, intelligence, to be stimulated, engaged, made to feel special...when its becoming very apparent the overwhelming majority desire eye candy & wallet lining....sad.


12/18/2013 3:23:24 PM

A submissive couple recently viewed my profile, which arose in me the following dilemma: if you were to Dominant one of the couple as a submissive to Dominate their partner, and then the other way around, wouldn't they in essence be a switch couple? O.o

I need more wine...


12/18/2013 3:13:17 PM

Funny how those who seem to dwell on the visual use the written form of Journals to convey the sentiment that words are not enough to evoke reaction... 


12/17/2013 11:11:05 AM

"It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt." - Mark Twain


12/17/2013 10:34:34 AM

It appears that, sadly, the majority of female submissives here are far more interested in the visceral pleasures of imagery and/or lining their wallets than the erotic potential of the written word. Images & money talks, well crafted words walk. That the art of letter writing to appease & stimulate the theatre of the imagination is a dying flower among a field of weeds....sad.

If you are the rare one who'd rather read erotica than watch pornography, consider yourself a rare gem, my lady....whoever you are.


12/16/2013 12:06:24 PM

A note to all those "curious": A number of you have been kind enough to visit my profile. Hopefully you, at the least, enjoyed what I have to say there. Please, feel free to email me if you have any questions, etc. Unlike most others here, a simple introductory email is always welcome and will get a polite, courteous reply. I promise I won't bite. Well, that's not actually 100% true, but you get the idea *grin*


12/14/2013 1:14:03 PM

Perusing the Journals, it's interesting to see a 40something "Dominant" (and I use that term loosely) smugly pass judgment on others when all his posts are lower case, devoid of any punctuation and littered with childish grammar. If you are too fucking lazy or immature to Dominate the English vernacular, or even a keyboard, yeah you're one to be lecturing to others about WIITWD.


12/14/2013 12:58:30 PM

What if you, a female submissive desiring a positive, online only D/s relationship, allowed someone to become "that voice". That you opened the door to your secrets and let a courteous, thoughtful, educated, well spoken, funny Sir become that whisper in your ear. That his creative imagination provided you with the submission, structure and release you secretly crave. That suddenly your life was enhanced with erotic tension.

If you also feel the most erogenous organ of the human anatomy is located between your ears & not your thighs, that power exchange has very little to do with sex, but more about surrendering trust, about pushing mental, spiritual & physical limits to their extremes....and then a step further....perhaps we should chat a little.

Curious? If you've read this far, I'd say you are. So now do you go back to your plain ol' vanilla existence...or do you see how far the rabbit hole goes, Alice? Wonderland is a click away.

My forté, if you will, are younger women new to all of this, who possibly feel lost, naive, a lil' scared, even intimidated. I can provide a safe, caring, respectful opportunity to explore yourself. Allow that voice to bloom into a dirty little secret. You will never be placed in harm's way, your real life will take precedent over WIITWD, and your limits always respected. Enhance a life, not become it.

It's your choice Alice, your decision. Is it time to listen to the voice and allow it to come to life? If so, please feel free to contact me under no obligation.


12/13/2013 12:24:47 PM

To any new, curious, naive or beginning submissives:

It is not about sex. Really. Any Dom/Domme worth the distinction of that title will earn, not demand, the honor of being referred to as by you. BDSM & D/s is not about doing crazy ass shit immediately, and often not at all. If you encounter a "Top" who demands any of these immediately, run away. A true Dom/Domme knows that you crawl before you walk, walk before you run, run before your jump, jump before you fly. Assholes claiming to be who throw you off the cliff first thing are nothing more than 50 Shade wannabe pretender bullies & predators.


12/13/2013 12:11:19 PM

Call me old fashioned if you want, but "18 years old" and "Dominant" just don't jive....sorry. 


12/13/2013 12:06:48 PM

That aha moment when you view a 20 year old submissive's profile & see she has Journal entires dating back 6 years....


12/12/2013 8:52:41 PM

Just wondering why, when you change a search perimeter from submissive to slave, the results are often the same? Obviously slaves are submissive, but not all submissives have slave aspirations.


12/12/2013 4:00:24 PM

It's interesting, yet also predictable: The CM users who always filled your default search criteria of not a month ago? The ones that, every damn day, would populate 90% of the most recently active? The ones who, if a submissive lady, would be complaining about the 100s of daily messages? Magically.....gone *poof*


12/11/2013 11:31:38 AM

Just an observation from reading the bios of various CM accounts that flit across the home page:

BDSM & D/s is not supposed to resemble a poorly scripted, perverse episode of Jackass. Doing stupid shit because someone told you to is not what it's about. If Johnny Knoxville would try what you just did, maybe you should really think twice. Lots of Dom/Top wannabes hiding behind screen names & no safe words. Just sayin'...


12/11/2013 11:04:15 AM

Safe words - disallowed by cowards since this all started...


12/10/2013 6:13:11 AM

"You know it. That voice....

The one who lives deep inside you, who is always whispering naughty things or making erotic suggestions. We all have one, a part of our base persona that centuries of evolution and social restriction have all but rendered mute. But it's still there, trapped inside the day to day life we all live. School, work, bills, homework, maybe even a spouse and kids. But yet it whispers to you the most vile things, constantly planting seeds of "What if..." or "....maybe..." in the craggy, dry, unfulfilled dust of  a daily life of safety, of same old, same old. Hoping that one day, a drop of curiosity will find its way through all the chaos and that seed will take root.

 Now imagine if that voice, the one who makes you wet, dream, fantasize about stepping into the darkness that are the sexual perversions in your soul....belonged to someone else.

 That you allow someone to become "that voice". That you open the door to your secrets and let a courteous, thoughtful, educated, well spoken, funny Sir become your inner voice. That his creative imagination provided you with the submission, structure and release you secretly crave. That suddenly your life was enhanced with erotic tension."

If this piqued you curiosity, the entire version is on my profile.


12/9/2013 7:49:22 PM

I guess you can say I started at the bottom & worked my way to the Top, if you will. I know what it's like to submit, be pushed to limits, float in subspace and fall back into myself with drop. I wrote this back then (when I wore a different screen persona at another site) and thought I'd share it:

Duality

Look into my eyes...

...for within their ice lies frozen a mystery
that the hands that feed my hunger to submit
also cradle my soul like a newborn...

that the raw taste
of Your hunger for my final surrender
starves my will of any temptation
to resist Your lyrical whims and fancies
as You play me...

my flesh,
exposed and taut
like a canvas stretched 'neath the expert hands of an Artist
who paints my soul with strokes of leather
and rejoices in its betrayal of my will like a Lazarus..

You have bound me in chains,
restrained me with rope,
blinded me with silk
and silenced my cries with trust.

Look thru my eyes...
for afloat in their pools
reflects the desire to bathe in Your faith
and wash away my doubt.

i need You...
to make my flesh burn 
and eyes cinder
and reduce my will to ashes,
so that i might be born again like a phoenix...
...and be cradled in Your hands once again


12/9/2013 11:54:29 AM

Yeah, nothing says Dominant like depending on leeching erotic GIF leftovers posted 1000s of times on tumblr...


12/9/2013 6:49:30 AM

I find the fascination with pictures, video, etc. just that...fascinating. I don't understand it. Collecting souvenirs of moments of heat and passion is so....psychotic. Serial killers collect reminders as well. Do the math, Alice. Seriously, what are some bits and bytes going to provide that the memory will not? Is it a trophy thing? Please don't tell me that WIITWD is now filled with products of the youth soccer, everyone gets a trophy culture.

If it's eroticism you crave, close your eyes and open your ears. Think I'm a fool? Think about these scenarios, both happening at some hotel you just happen to be staying at.

Scene 1 - Glancing out the large picture window of your room, you notice a flash of flesh across the courtyard. There, in full view in their own room, is a very attractive couple engaged in all & all forms of sexual depravity. You have your own private peep show. You can watch them do any & all kinds of sexual perversions...but only that. Watch. You cannot hear one single gasp or moan. Its the kinkiest silent movie ever.

Scene 2 - Same hotel room later that night. As you lie in bed, you pause as you think you heard what sounded like a woman moan. Then another moan. Louder. It becomes clear to you that, probably not even 5 or 10 feet from where you lie, a couple are sharing some incredibly hot, passionate activities. You hear every gasp, moan, comment, directive, bodies slapping, head board banging...but what they look like...who knows? You cannot see anything expect the faint glow filtering through the drawn shades.

So, ask yourself...which scene would you rather be privy to being a voyeur to - the silent visual or the noisy blank screen?


12/9/2013 6:29:09 AM

I swear, after reading a number of journal entries (either by Dominants or submissives), that I half expect & would not be surprised at all to read as their last lines "...but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night..."


12/9/2013 6:18:15 AM

LOL at a Dominant who posts the identical journal entries 1 minute apart for both (think about that) his CM accounts. If you can't even Dominate your own fake shill account, how are you going to Dominate an actual person?


12/8/2013 8:08:29 AM

I am not feeling like playing a little dangerously today. 

I am feeling like a 3rd cup of coffee after sleeping in, then a breakfast of scratch buttermilk pancakes with real maple syrup. Now relaxing in my favorite comfy chair, listening to some blues and letting the Sunday be. How....kinky....of me to be so vanilla. 

Questions asked, please. :D


12/7/2013 7:22:22 PM

Funny how so many submissive ladies seem to have no problem commenting on despising simple, courteous, brief introductory emails ("If you send me those "just a note" emails I'll block you!") yet, when they reply (IF they reply), often they have less than 30 characters to share themselves...usually all lower case.

Here's a lil' hint - today's Newest User submissive women with 100+ emails each daily are January's dust in the Inbox if you're a stuck up attention whore.


12/6/2013 12:47:57 PM

Yet still another random observation: I keep seeing pictures on female submissive's accounts to the effect of this  - them proudly standing tall, either nude or close to it, wearing high heels, their ankles neatly bound, hands secured tightly behind their backs, breasts thrust out taut and proud...and think what a fucking, moronic idiot their Dom is to place them in such a dangerous position. One tiny slip or wobble from all the adrenaline/etc and they fall helplessly to the floor without any means to break that fall. The slamming of their face is the least of their worries if they're near anything with a edge or lip. Unfuckingbelievable...


12/5/2013 6:03:09 AM

Another random Journal observation: Why should a submissive ever expect you, a Dominant (and I use that term loosely), could dominate them if you can't even fucking dominate a keyboard and all that requires (grammar, spelling, punctuation)?


12/4/2013 6:41:35 PM

Multi-color, vibrant Day-Glo tone on equally loud neon hued, 24pt Journal entries....proving which CM members have absolutely no fucking sense of style or fashion since its inception.


12/4/2013 11:55:45 AM

Recently seen in a young female submissive's profile (paraphrased): "I'm kinda into older men, say 20 to 26..."   O.o


12/4/2013 11:48:44 AM

Just had the most wonderful online scene with a favorite submissive, a stunning college sophomore. Self bondage, panty gag, aggressive breast play & a well spanked pussy courtesy of her hair brush, all tempered with some lovely denial...again...and again....and again...led to post multi-orgasmic bliss of being so floaty aftercare took 2x as long as the scene :)

 

I'm still flying...


12/3/2013 5:59:26 PM

A thank you to the submissives who have viewed my profile. I am humbled & flattered. If, after reading what I have there you have any questions, or even just want to introduce yourself....please, by all means, feel free to. I don't bite...just dryly nibble :)


12/3/2013 6:55:41 AM

Tineye is proving to be very helpful. Found quite a few fake accounts using it, as well as one sub who was not very good at staying anonymous. If you are going to use real photos, and want to remain a mystery, don't use something that's already part of another, less adult themed social medium.


12/2/2013 8:03:32 AM

Some random thoughts:

  • 24pt or larger type for your Journal makes you look needy & sad.
  • Bright colors on bright backgrounds for your Journal = see ^^^
  • I'm shocked at the number of people who, upon first email, jump right into strict protocol & demands. If you pulled that shit at a bar you'd get a Long Island Iced Tea & someone's hand across your sorry ass face.
  • No one is Dominant or submissive 24/7/365. Doms submit regularly. subs Top all the time. Anyone saying otherwise is a fool.
  • Whatever happened to talking first? And for a while at that to see if you are both compatible?
  • tineye.com will search through billions of images online to see if there are identical examples of it on the internet. You're welcome.
  • You can use tineye to see if someone is a fake. Also, you can use tineye to find someone's real identity if they are sloppy. Posters beware....both kinds.
  • There are many, many, many, many (did I say many?) 50 Shade wannabes. subs beware, please. Be careful. Please.
  • You can have a lot of fun with the simplest household items. Curious? ;)

12/1/2013 6:21:13 PM

Perhaps you are young, feeling naive, a bit intimidated by admitting there is something missing, that a very dark part of your soul exists. Maybe your real life persona would never permit such dirty perversions to even be comprehended, let alone acted on. You want to submit, but you just...don't....know.

If I just described you, and you are looking for nothing more than to explore these curious feelings online, I invite you to please visit my profile. I would be glad to answer any questions you may have.


12/1/2013 8:49:40 AM

Life is strange. Sometimes you never know how one path ended up becoming the road you're on. I am in the position to take one female submissive, preferably a younger one new to WIITWD. If you are looking for a caring, well mannered Sir, perhaps we should talk.


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