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**If you are uncomfortable with voice dialog and the thought of meeting someone sends you into a panic then I am not a good fit for you** What is sought is real time interaction at least on a friendship level and possibly more. (Random information - It seems many take time in a profile to write things such as "no (name group)". There is mail filter feature available that can be of assistance. Go to 'Read Mail --> Mail Controls --> (Available is a listing of choices for you to send things directly to bulk mail and can assist you with what appears in your inbox. Options such as any profile without a picture, certain age groups, certain genders, etc. Mix and match to your personal preference and allow your profile to be about what you desire not what you wish to avoid) Trust, what a duplicitous concept....it cannot be 'earned' until it is 'given' - - prior to that it is Hope " Control is an illusion, you infantile egomaniac. Nobody knows what's going to happen next, not on a freeway, not on an airplane, and not inside our own bodies and certainly not on a racetrack with 40 other infantile ego maniacs" - Days of Thunder - Everyone has there own 'system' for what works best. For me it is passing a few messages online - then voice verification - then deciding the best way to stay in touch as we discuss the possibility of a potential meeting. If that is not a fit for you I understand and that is clearly your choice. It just indicates we are unlikely to be a good match. PLEASE have an interest in actual dialog/conversation - - I like to ask 'Why' and I enjoy the search for the root of likes/dislikes, wants/fears I am here mainly to converse. I am not against a relationship but I have found that 'seeking' a situation creates too much pressure. I am interested in dialog that can lead to just about any type of situation but NOT multiple one night stand partners. If you enjoy communication then I am happy to converse. I thank everyone for their patience with me, some more than others. As with many this has been a growth experience and I have found why I get so 'frustrated' while searching....I do not fit. Easy enough discovery. I am a Life Coach, not a DOMINANT I want to know the things you believe will help you to be a better you and I wish to help you to achieve those goals. How we get there is half the fun but in order for it to work you must think of it as a three legged race. Both working together but someone has to dictate the tempo and direction or it all falls to the ground. (I dictate tempo and direction but value your input) Maybe that helps others to understand my 'style' I would prefer to start with what is between your ears long before I worry about what is between your legs If you are unable to respect yourself then there is a lot of work to do before there is a foundation for a starting point Honesty - we should try that to start it makes the whole situation easier If your profile pictures are you in a state of 'undress' you may have caught my notice but you have lost my interest. I believe I am too intense for many - that does not mean I am cruel or evil - I can be but that is not the discussion - it does mean that I require more than a 'surface' response If you do not enjoy actual dialog then you should not speak with me. I am sorry I do not have yahoo. I do desire more than online discussion but to what extent is a talking point This is only an introduction - it is not all that I am it is simply a way to give you a bit of insight of where the conversation will begin I am sorry that this was not as short as intended. I am here to chat and have open discussion. I am much more interested in the mental aspects than I am the physical. I do believe the physical is enhanced with an understanding of the mental component. I am here as a person and I hope you are as well. If you truly wish to have open communication then I would be happy to speak with you.

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2/25/2024 2:34:58 AM

I am only here to have open and honest discussion with others.

I want to discuss view points and how things are processed and what it means.  To take it apart and see how it could fit together in other ways.  What truly resonates and what seems to only work in the imagination.

If you truly want to talk and can manage both written and spoken interaction then feel free to respond to something I have sent you or to reach out and let me know what you want to discuss


4/6/2018 6:05:23 AM
The purpose of me being on this site is to not have to be on this site.  Ha!    It is great to find playmates and friends and others online but my agenda is to find a situation that goes offline and is lasting that all of the things I discuss here are happening in real time and that this becomes a fond memory of how I found what I was seeking

3/19/2018 1:51:45 PM
"I ain't sayin' she a gold digger.......she ain't hanging with no broke xxxxxxxx"

A random rant.  If an individual is dominant and interested in financial dominance why does it always seem it is about putting the individual in a worse financial position?  If one is a financial dominant I would think the goal should be to help the other person better manage the finances and assist in teaching fiscal responsibility.

It would be eshing to see a posting about a financial dominant that outlined how the training was going to be about balancing a checkbook.  Reviewing current spending to create a plan to keep the individual within the financial boundaries.  Setting up a budget.  The list goes on.

3/8/2018 4:12:21 AM
Today's Rant - The smaller the target the more difficult it is to hit.  It is great to seek the 'perfect' match but it becomes confusing when the same individual complains that it is difficult to find someone.   Think about it - - - you are hoping the person you seek is also part of this site (that in and of itself is a big leap) then you want that individual to fit all the criteria you have in your posting even before you ever speak to that individual.

Why is it that online we expect things to go in reverse or in a manner we would not expect in any other ect of life.  When was the last time you decided to hand someone a checklist to fill out before you would speak to that person?  You find out things by talking and sometimes you find that even things that are different can be compelling.  Spend less times trying to match up 'Interests' and take a bit of time learning about personalities.  It is possible that then the interests can be worked on together.

12/21/2016 3:21:44 PM
My rant - I view this site much as I view the lottery.  The odds are against me but someone has to win at some point, so why not?    Ha

6/13/2015 4:12:15 AM
A lot of artists, I do commend and at the same time condemn your work.  Pictures without content can be powerful and moving.  Meant to make the audience think, react, feel - - but this is not an art gallery it is a networking site.  An artist is at the very least once removed from the audience it is about expression not interaction.

I thought this location was for interaction.

I applaud you but know that I am also appalled

2/6/2015 9:18:16 PM
Not really much of a card/poker player but......."CALL"  - - as in, it is time to put your cards on the table and see if you were bluffing or being honest regarding the cards you are holding.  The joy of the simple word is that it is useful here as well.  I do not desire pictures I want to know you are real and looking for more than message tag so CALL.  There are ways besides your phone to have a voice dialog so no worry about me having your number.  Time to lay down your cards and see what you are truly holding...

11/21/2014 5:23:25 AM
Short Vent - - - So many words, so little truth

3/4/2014 6:57:23 PM

Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight...

 

I wish I may, I wish I might, get the wish I wish tonight


2/21/2014 5:36:22 AM

Hypnosis - I would like more information about what makes this enjoyable.  My view is the power exchange is the enjoyment and yes one gives the permission for hypnosis to take place but once the conscious has been bypassed and the seeds are planted in the subconscious then where is the joy in the exchange is it is partially/entirely out of the individuals control how they react?  The joy for me is the give and receive and if the person is unaware then it is not really giving.  I also really enjoy the communication and talking through the process to get a better understanding and I do not believe if the person is reacting from a 'suggestion' that it will be possible to truly explain the 'why'.

 

I would like to understand the draw...


2/2/2014 10:31:39 PM

If you are NOT interested in certain individuals contacting you it seems best to begin with your 'mail controls' to send all the things you do not wish to see to bulk instead of stating multiple times in your profile what you do not want.   Granted you cannot catch everything this way but you can help the filtration process - - It is not clear why you would allow individuals you are not interested in to contact you if you have the ability to stop it.


1/24/2014 1:28:09 AM

Financial Domination??? - Does this mean the individual controls your portfolio to make sure you are making the best choices and are diversified to be able to handle changes in the market?  Is the person making sure you are preparing for retirement, are not living beyond your means, helping you to eliminate any debt you may have, helping you to make sound financial decisions?

 

Just asking...it often does not sound that way so I am curious.  A dominant I believe should care for the submissive and help the individual to grow and prosper


1/12/2014 7:35:46 PM

If your 'ambition' is to be turned into a piece of meat, to be turned out, to be used only for others pleasure, to be hurt/tortured then I am not the person who you would enjoy - sorry


12/24/2013 4:04:07 AM

If you desire more then the 'gawking' and lewd comments why is it that you portray yourself in the way you do?  Partially/Fully nude, a provocative screen name and a profile that has many sexual innuendos or is just outright sexual.  How does that let the 'perverts' know you desire something meaningful? How does that capture the interest of the type of person you claim to seek who is interested in developing an actual relationship?


10/2/2013 3:01:29 PM

Today...what to say today....nothing much to say...seems after a fairly short period of time it feels a lot like 'been there, done that' but 'nothing ventured, nothing gained' and 'leave no stone unturned' so continue on I shall......


11/26/2012 2:38:29 AM

yes a rant....no need to read....

Open your mind before you open your mouth

A 'hello' or a comment about your profile is ONLY an indication that something you have said is interesting and I would like to know more; it is not an invitation or proposition beyond wanting to have a bit of dialog

 


11/22/2012 10:21:15 AM

Dialog first....


9/11/2012 6:48:25 AM

Love popular culture....it is lovely in conveying thoughts and gathering interest...true sensation play...enough to grab your interest and make you desire more...now to try and focus that energy in conceptual reality and test the theories (submissive vs sexual kink, lifestyle vs bedroom only) - - - 'fifty thousand shades of interst' - - -


9/5/2012 4:24:15 PM

what has my attention today? - Why search in reverse? - What do I mean by that??? - Why is this process of searching for something..whatever that may happen to be, often done in a way that seems contrary to finding what you actually seek?

 

If you want to order ice cream you do not tell the counterperson all the flavors you have no desire to eat

 

If you want to purchase clothing you do not begin at the racks with items that will not fit

 

If you want to find something why start by listing all the things you do not want???

 

Hmmmmmm????


5/31/2012 5:48:08 AM

If you refer to yourself in the third person I do not think I am able to handle that type of situation.  Split personalities is beyond my scope and abilities.  I need to be able to connect with a person and if they are disconnected from themselves that creates a very difficult dynamic.


4/25/2012 4:40:43 PM

Dialog is always welcome - there is not an 'agenda'.  Yes it is difficult to travel these lands with so many obstacles and few clear signs indicating which roads are dead ends and which are long circular pathways.

 

Willing to discuss the journey without the focus on the destination.  Enjoy the moment.


4/21/2012 5:58:17 PM

Not centered when the details started to arrive - now it is something that I feel drawn to replay over and over


3/26/2012 4:42:28 PM

Abused? - someone will have to walk me through that one.  From my view that goes against everything that the lifestyle is about.

 

Destroyed/Broken? - how do you continue to play with a destroyed or broken toy.

 

I do not understand some of the things both Dominants and Submissives are requesting - I would appreciate anyone who is willing to help me understand

 

Not talk AT me but to talk with me so I can try to grasp the concepts


3/21/2012 4:56:03 PM

Prefer to spend my energy building you up than chasing you down


3/19/2012 4:18:07 PM

Not seeking for you to go through the motions - want you to feel the desire that compels you to allow another actual control in part or in whole - to understand and enjoy the process.  To realize the importance of communication on multiple levels.


3/16/2012 3:50:18 PM

We shall see what happens in the next few weeks . . .


3/12/2012 4:20:14 PM

Today was not a good day - - such is life


2/23/2012 4:28:48 PM

I enjoy pleasant surprises.  That was unexpected and appreciated.


2/20/2012 5:12:14 PM

Time - no beginning and no end yet there is never enough.   Learning something new everyday.  Step by step the journey continues.  Am I leading or am I being led?  Not sure it matters.  Patience.


2/8/2012 2:21:57 AM

2-7-12 was a good day....will see what comes next....believe it will be enjoyable


1/11/2012 6:47:45 AM

Hello -

If you understand that the process begins between your ears and NOT between your legs then I would like to speak to you

If you understand the connection is one of intangible conciousness and NOT tangible restraints then I would like to speak to you

If your focus is on what can be and NOT on what has been then I would like to speak with you


1/3/2012 6:12:11 AM

Rant #2:

Hello.  I am sorry I do not have yahoo and I do not plan to get yahoo.  If you desire discourse we can send messages here.  We can attempt to use the chat feature available on this site.  We can use a telephone and speak to each other directly (that will be after we have exchanged some messages online).

NO I will not set a time and place to meet you if we have not even said hello over the phone

I cannot follow the logic -

you are too shy to say hello but you desire a face to face meeting?  You want me to tell you in vivid detail everything that may happen to you when we are togehter but you have not shared with me anything about who you are or your desires?  You want to relinquish control completely but you never want to meet or talk outside of this site? -


12/31/2011 3:20:07 PM

Hello...Everyone rants a bit from time to time and here is my contribution.  Men are visual creatures so if you post pictures it is likely that you will get a response from many you are not interested in because they saw a picture and hoped to get lucky.

If you want a man to be interested in 'you' then my suggestion is to remove the pictures and just leave the profile.  Start the dialog.  If that goes well you can always send a picture.

A picture may be worth a thousand words but no one ever said the words were truthful


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mistressloretta
 
 Age: 25
 Houston, Texas