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Feel free to Message me for questions, comments, or conversation! I'd rather not bug people with messages they don't want. so if you want to get to know me, Dom, sub, switch, straight, gay, or anything in between please shoot me a message and I will respond. :)
Haven't Edited this in over a year and with all the revisions I've done, this thing is a mess I guess its time for a rewrite...
Hello, I'm Gopher. I'm Drug and Disease free, I've been into the lifestyle for years now and into kink in general since my balls dropped. it has lead me into some really interesting places, and some not so interesting as well but whats life without a little rimble-tumble? I am a tad dyslexic so I apologies to all the grammar and spelling Nazis out their, but I do what I can and anything I miss I cant help. my life mostly consists of work nowadays as a Chef at a local hotel/restaurant. I could put "gourmet chef" as a skill, but honestly everyone thinks of themselves as one and puts it on their profile, I on the other hand actually am a Gourmet Chef and am very proud of the fact, I love to cook and see the look on people's faces when they taste something they enjoy in my food.
speaking of things I enjoy, I am a full time nerd. as my profile suggests I have a suit of Storm Trooper Armor (hero mold RoTJ) I play DnD, have several Comic book subions, I run a LARP, and spend WAAAAYYY to much money on Mini Wargameing. I'm a handy man, there isn't a tool in the shed I cant use and I know how to fix just about any household problem from plumbing to electrical. I love to build things in my spare time when I don't have other projects hanging over my head, I kitted out my own dungeon furniture and made my own floggers and paddles etc. I am a chronic hobbyist and love to get lost in tasks. sewing, painting, I play the banjo, beading, wood work, cooking (the fun, not work kind), camping, and gaming. any kind of gaming too, computer, table top, board games, console, I'm not to picky.
I am a practicing Roman Catholic, though I don't let it get in the way of my sexuality or anything else for that matter. My deal is with God, not anyone else and if I'm wrong about my faith, well fuck I could have spent my Sunday mornings better I guess! XD
I love simple life and simple living, I'm an amateur bee keeper, I grew up in the middle of no wear and would love to spend more time nowadays back in the woods. I love the city, the night life, the social aspect, but sometimes all I want is to be lost in the woods. camping can only give me so much of that fix.
and if that hasn't COMPLETELY turned you off and you would actually like to know about my sexuality, here ya go!
I am a little dissapointed they don't have a "Pansexual" option on this site, I don't have an issue with people's gender or sex. I prefer women by a wide margin, but I'll suck a dick if it looked at me all sexy but I would prefer it if a Mistress was ramming my head down on it, I don't have a gag reflex, I may as well abuse it. right? I am a sub, masochist, and slave, and understand the differences between them. my biggest turn on is Domestic Slavery to be perfectly honest. As a slave, I feel the need to make my Mistresses life as comfortable as possible, its why I'm not as into pet play as I am other kinks, I feel rather useless as an animal. I like to cook, clean, bath, take care of Her in every aspect and deal with her needs and desires as they come up be they mundane, or sexual. I enjoy dehuminization and being treated as an It or Object more than a person by my Domme, and like to be used as a "human sex toy" used and then discarded. I enjoy group play, cuckolding, Gimping, and would love to be used as a "party favor" at some point in my life and have a bit of a Harem fetish, being in one that is. my ass is no virgin by any means and enjoy chastity play as well. I'm not to big into feminization, I'm a harry fucker and look TERRIBLE in tights, I know its kinda the point of humiliation, but its not so much humiliating, as disgusting! XD I'm also not as fond of CBT, cock, sure but not ball. being whipped, flogged, trampled, zapped, and all the other good little tortures are always fantastic and subspace is one of my favorite frames of mind to be in, and can slip away into it quite easily from a good flogging. But in the end, I am happy when my Domme is happy, a flogging is nice, but a smiling Mistress is Gold.
Enough about me, right? tell me about yourself :)
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You turn your back, you don't even notice and then you look at your calendar and realize.
I've been in Chastity for 225 days! o_0
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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150 days in complete chastity! Only a couple more weeks until I hit the half year mark! Honestly surprised that I've lasted this long, I guess I have a stronger willpower than I thought, but that's what training is for, right?
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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At 126 days in chastity my plans to move have finalized and will be moving to Merrillville Indiana at the end of the month! Excited to get in touch with a new community and meet new people!
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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Day 70 in complete chastity. Horny and loving it! :) |
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Holy shit! I got a shower enema attachment today and....its...its fucking awesome! I've never been so clean so quick! I'm awestruck by this thing and cant wait to use it again.
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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I've been wondering a lot lately about how much is too much. I've been without a serious D/s relationship for a while now, that fact does not upset me, I'll find one when I do. I'm a patient man and when my Domme comes, I'll find her. What has been bugging me in the interm is that without a serious relationship I've been playing with one dominant or another without any regularity. I love my play partners to death and I'm grateful for the time we spend together. but without another person regularly in my life, guiding and directing play and sexuality I find myself looking for more and more ways to enjoy submissiveness to the point where I find my fantasys getting into some pretty dark places.
My sexuality is very much depended on pleasing others, without someone else their to please I start to spiral out of control and go into sub-frenzy pretty quick. Its not a fun place to be and while I am the play that I do partake in gets more intense as I need more and more stimulation to reach subspace. Normally I enjoy very intense scenes, but when your Top tells you afterword that they are worried about you it makes you think.
How far down do I have to go to be happy and fulfilled sexually? who knows, I sure don't and without a Domme I likely wont for a while, but until then I guess its back into the depravity pit for me! Sorry for the rant, just needed to vent...
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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New Chastity cage came in the mail today. Fits much better than the old one, but only time will tell if this thing will work out for long term denial.
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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I haven't been this drunk in months! feels good!!!
YOurs in kink,
Solidgopher |
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so, I got bored and started idly counting since I saw some trends on this site.
out of 50 front page female dominant profiles, 27 of them used a title (Mistress, Miss, Goddess, Madam, etc) and then some random tidbit of something that might be their name or handle, and 16 of those used the phrase Mistress of some kind. of those 27, 19 of them demand "tribute" for their "services" and of the 19 only 12 of them claim to be "professional dommes". only 6 of the 27 claim to be lifestyle and of them 2 say that they are Finedommes only. 15 of the profiles say that they are "a different kind of mistress" while 4 of them want tribute of some kind, and 7 of them want online, cam only. all claim to have a great deal of experience in kinky lifestyle, and only half where over the age of 28.
and my favorite part of this little survey, 18 of them had that asinine not of "you do not have permission to use the information on this page for survey, or any kind of study" I plan on doing more research on the matter and perhaps putting a graph or two together, just for some spite. I like spite. ;)
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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Man, their are a LOT of Unicorn hunters on here. seriously just about every other profile I read is looking for one, poor bastards. they will learn eventually...they all do... XD |
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I've always been curious about Gorians. Anyone who happens upon my journal and is Gor, if you could fill me in, I've always wondered what the secret was. I've never been that into Gor, in High School I happen across a Gor forum and it had image macros of all the proper ways for subs to present themselves, the laws and decorum, etc, etc. and it led be to the books which I read a few, and honestly, I didn't enjoy them that much, I love fantasy but the story's just didn't really engage me (ah well, cant please everyone, at least I still had Pern). But the more I learned about Gorian groups it amazed me just how many people in the Lifestyle where into it, and just how long that sub group was! that so many people had taken the events in these books, and looked up and went "yea, I want that" and then they did it. that it was common enough that they where able to find large groups of people who also wanted that kind of relationship, and got it. the Gor people I've met are all really serious about it, and many view their D/s to be superior to all other forms (normally I frown on people playing the superior game over other relationships, but reading the books, I kinda see how that actually fuels it...) what is it about these books that has made such a massive impact on the BDSM community? why did this, out of so many other options from other works of fiction, does this one thrive so heavily? I feel that Gor is on a downswing, the series is older and fewer people, especially in TNG are reading it and are becoming interested in that lifestyle.
I don't know, just a thought I had.
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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Have I mentioned recently that I love the community? no? well I fucking love my local community! I look forward to my monthly munch so much with a giddy anticipation. They are a great group of friends who I truly enjoy the company of every single one of them!
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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well, everyone else seems to be doing it, may as well.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishlist/38A7LV0WVF8J2/ref=topnav_lists_2 |
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so, if I have accepted money for giving Shibari lessons, does that mean I get to say I'm pro now? |
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Yes! I have just changed my weight on my profile from 240lbs to 220lbs! 30 more to go to hit my mark! |
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Life is a bitch, but It may as well be; if it was a slut, it would be easy. |
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People always seem to want to know about your experience. on profiles they say how long they have been at this, or how long they've been interested, or messages always seem to have that tagged on. "how much experience do you have?". but what experience do you want to know from me?
I have always been interested in Kink, ever since I discovered what porn was, Ive been watching people in latex smack each other around in a dungeon.
do I have experience in the community? I have been to a couple munches and have made several good friends from them. I'm not as active as I would like to be, but I usually work during munch nights so I sadly don't get to go.
in the lifestyle? I have had a mistress before, we where both new to practical bdsm and we both learned a lot, and moved on. I am Polyamorous, and have had a long term poly family for 3 years. I also give Shibiri lessons to friends and strangers alike.
so I think that covers the basics.... which is funny I think. I'm only 24, and I think that I have successfully waded into the waters of kink. but one thing I hate doing is commenting or give advice. I always feel that their are people more experienced then myself who are more qualified to give an answer or explanation than myself. and I think my fears are well grounded, their are always people more experienced than me at this. older more experienced doms and subs who are wells of information on the varied subjects around us that make up our subcultures. I really respect Old Leather, and my hat goes of to anyone who is or has a mentor. |
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Toonamis back bitches....
and it was all that I dreamed it would be. |
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Sometimes I wonder if other subs feel the same way I do when it comes to the title they give their doms. several times I have been messaged by doms and they seem rather upset that I do not automatically call them Mistress or Goddess or what have you, as if they are privileged to receive that title from me just because their profile says they are. to me the title means more then just a simple designation that you say anyone who fancy themselves a dominant. after all, I used to beleave I was a Dom but did not expect every sub out there to view me as their master.
the title of Master/Mistress or any variation of it to me is something that is earned thru mutual understanding and respect. there are 3 people I have called mistress, and only one of them was mine. because they had earned the title from me. If I called every woman who called themselves a Dom mistress, I think people would get confused as to whom I'm talking about after a while.
i think it might go both ways too... Doms often message me with "HEY SLAVE!" as there opening line. yes, I am a slave, but I'm not YOUR slave. my account is SolidGopher. I don't go around calling everyone Female Dominant all the time.
I am not collard right now, but i don't hump the leg of every Dom that passes by. To the doms out there, i don't mean to insult you by not calling you Mistress when you message me. we are human beings before we are anything else, and I would like to know you as you before anything else. I can read your profile, and know if what you are into, where you are, your turn offs, your likes and dislikes, and any hobby (that is if you filled out your profile).
I know you are a Domme, your just not MY Domme.....yet.
Yours in Kink,
SolidGopher |
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well, that's that, an end of an old friend. My first piece of rope that i used for binding people. Ive been whipping the ends and cutting it down over and over for the past 6 years, and it is finally worn to nothing. the past year its only been about a foot long, a far sight from its original 15 feet, but it has finally time to retire it.
sleep well sweet prince. |
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God, I love reading peoples profiles! you find the best and worst shit on here. the serious, the not serious, the too serious, flakes, the curious, the experienced, and they all put a little blip on there front page for all to see and get an idea of who they are. I love it! |
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Whatever happened to "Hello"? |
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*sigh* why do riggers have to be difficult? Ive always enjoyed tieing people up, having fun with rope, and making human bodys into works of art. and Ive always loved to talk to people about it. but there is always one problem with other riggers, no one can ever agree on anything!!!!! its always the same "its pretty good, but not the way I would have done it." "its nice, but it isn't REAL shibiri". you cant sit down with someone and talk rope without one or more party being as pretentious as a theater troupe on opening night!
I wont lie, I'm very proud of the rope work I do, and love to teach others, and I like to think I'm pretty good at it, but do we have to show off how big our rope dicks are to each other every time we talk about rope? |
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for anyone who reads my forthcoming journal entrys, I apologies for the lack of quality. I'm a bit dyslexic and spell checker can only do so much. |
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| Age: 28 |
| Kenilworth,
New Jersey |
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