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Update: 3/8/2015

What I search for in no particular order either situation would be excellent...

- a female sub/slave that wants to become a full time live in. My expectations are that she would serve both domestically and sexually, be involved in various BDSM activities and project an attitude of willingness to give her best effort in all that is asked.

- a couple sub/slave/submissive cuckold for a live in situation. Full time members of the household. I would direct both of their sex live and manage day to day activities.

- a local couple sub/slave/submissive cuckold that would not necessarily be live in but would want the control and direction.

Welcome to my profile I do believe it is time to update. We all grow with time and experience and it is only right to update our growth. My original profile was written when I was a Dom looking for a female submissive to join my household. Today I have a slave (slave joan) that I have introduced to this way of life and I must say we have both become better in our roles because of it.
As we look to the future it would be great to add either a female or submissive couple that is interested in taking their submission to a deep level. What is important is that they see their service as encompassing domestic, sexual and various BDSM activities. The attitude should be one that is willing to give the best effort in all that is asked.
We enjoy all the physical aspects of this way of life but the power exchange, structure and order are really what make the relationship one that will persist. When I think about the environment there are many words that come to mind, protocol, rituals, rules, discipline, reward and punishment. Setting of expectations, assessment of results and communication all are key elements. Shelter, safety and responsibility which are a two way street, we each have ownership in these areas. Micromanagement wondering what that word means to you. I am sure there are many other words that come to mind for you as well I would look forward to discussing them with you.
I know what I have described above is general in nature and I am hoping that we can dive deeper into their meaning.

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11/14/2013 3:12:02 PM

original profile


We are an M/s couple looking to add a fulltime long term live in slave to the household.  This relationship will potentially grow into something that is strong and lasting.  When I think of this lifestyle my mind seems to conjure up thoughts of domination, control and submission.  I enjoy bondage and love to see sexy women all tied up and ready for me to tease.  I am in good physical shape. I would like to get into a long-term relationship with the right slave/sub.

 

My thoughts on a relationship


I think a relationship is made up of a few characteristics, respect, trust and physical intimacy that develop and extrude the deep emotion of submission. I am not sure if anyone items is more important than the next, but I feel communication brings them all together. I think there needs to be open communication between two people in any relationship. A big part of communication is listening to the other person. Listening is a form of respect and consideration. A relationship is many encounters of give and take filled with the willingness to compromise to ensure something lasting and strong comes out of it.   I also feel as the relationship grows the Dominant will take a bigger and bigger role in the direction of the relationship.  I feel this will continue until there is a level of total power exchange.

 

If a person is willing to get into a submissive relationship whether it be long term or not it is important to understand where each other is coming from. The submissive person has to have the trust that the Dominant will respect the limits and boundaries that are established. This is the only way both can truly enjoy the relationship. When the dominant is attending to the submissive there has to be devotion and focus that ensures satisfaction is attained both emotionally and physically. It is the dominant’s responsibility he is in control and directing the action.  In addition the Dominant has to ensure the proper care of the slave/submission is maintained.

 

I am the type of Dom that is willing to give the time it takes to make the session as fulfilling as possible.  I am looking for a 24/7 relationship that will continue to evolve to the point where the slave/sub understands its role.  A role that is dependent on the Dominant, a role of complete obedience with the insatiable desire to serve.  I feel this part of the relationship facilitates development and growth. This strengthening of the relationship only will make the master/slave/submissive dynamic more fulfilling.

 

A relationship is a lot of work I am willing to put in the time and effort in are you? If so sent me a message and lets get started.

I am looking for a woman who has the need and desire to serve.  Someone who understands the meaning and purpose of training.  The person I am looking for will want to show her submission in every way.  She considers herself submissive with a leaning or commitment to slavery.  I am open to all experience levels.  I look forward to the challenge of molding you into a slave that looks forward to serving and pleasing.

 

 


10/13/2011 9:40:51 AM

Today I want to reflect on the thought of purpose…

A profile I read today stimulated this direction.  It talked about possession being owned and how that was the most important feeling to this slave.  Now she did mention how she “liked” the sexual nature and the excitement and stimulation of pain but the driving motivation was to be owned. 

Another slave I have been talking to for a good amount of time on and off again wanted “repentance” for the way that she had treated people in the past.  There was a deep desire to feel the pain, exposure and use association with it.  The thought of what had to be endured and to reflect on the reasons why. 

Both of these slaves touched me because of purpose.  There is more behind their servitude then just the sexual gratification and the associated excitement.  Now don’t get me wrong the sexual side is quite exciting and stimulating but now think about combining it with a purpose, a purpose that drives you.  For me it is the power exchange mixed in with the transformation of a woman into a slave through training.  The slave that I want to become part of my household, that will bring value with a direction and goals to be accomplished.   

Each slave that I talk to is unique and has to be addressed in that manner.  There are desires deep within them that have to be brought to the surface.  This takes communication and listening.  What the real trick is to develop a game plan that is fulfilling to all in the household and that is the responsibility of the Head of the Household, the Dom.


8/17/2011 7:55:10 AM

I just have to make an observation that I have seen recently…

 

There are so many new subs and slaves on this site that are in their teens and early twenties it is amazing.   So what do you think is this just a result of the internet age, is this just a scammers boom or do you think people are now so informed that they are able to make these choices at an earlier age?

 

I don’t know about you but at that time in my life I was so busy trying to figure out how I was going to survive I didn’t have time to explore this world.  That doesn’t mean that I didn’t have thoughts about it and do some research on a limited basis but it was not my focus.

 

I applaud all those that are able to really open their lives to this world at an early age your future will truly be fulfilling…


5/29/2010 6:27:18 AM

Response to my last journal posting:

“All what you said is true. I think the problem is that the Dom can have it exactly as he want, he has control. Slave can only hope it will be like they dream of.”

This is an excellent point the risk seems to be all on the slave’s side but that is why we talk and need to talk.  There has to be a comfort level build that both have enough in common that to the most part desires will be fulfilled.  The slave has to understand that every situation that she will step into will be unique and may not live up to the fantasy that has been racing around in her mind.  But on the other hand one might find that reality will bring an intensity that will become all consuming. 

Once a Dominant makes a commitment to a slave by owning her with that come many responsibilities one only being what was discussed.  I believe that is when even more communication is required especially in the beginning as they all get to know one another.  A true Dominant is not afraid to get feedback from a slave as a matter of fact he welcomes it.  Any relationship has two sides and there is work on both.  Information, feedback and communication help us to adapt to the uniqueness of the situation before us.  Of course one does have to have the ability to process the information received and act on it in the manner appropriate.


5/29/2010 4:52:54 AM

I talk to many women online about the potential of becoming a slave.  We talk about their interest in this lifestyle the item that most drive them.  I am sure the fantasy that they have been masturbating to for years…

But I wonder….

Are they really motivated to move to that next step???

Do they really have the desire to live what they dream about and get wet to???

Not many really take that step the step that will set them free and fulfill their deep need…

I know there is trepidation, nerves and ever a deep fear what will it take for you to move forward or is it even possible???  Ask yourself that question then be satisfied in your incompleteness…


2/24/2010 4:53:55 PM

I read something today that resonated with me and I wanted to share my thoughts around it…

“I need to let go of who I am so I can be what I am”

It has been a long time since I added to my journal so I do think it was about time and besides this caption or something very similar to it struck a chord…

As I talk to potential slaves on this site and others as well as in person I find that they do have preconceived thoughts of what service and ownership should be.  What I would like to hear is why are you searching what moved you to this life and then be open and let go of your preconceived ideas of what the life is and let the Master/Sir mold you into what you can become.

I wonder if that is possible or are we so set in our ways that we cannot open our minds and except what is new…

I do understand that it is a big step for a slave to become owned and to really live the life, but at some point we all have to trust and be willing to work at building a level that will challenge us to start the journey…


3/11/2007 8:16:24 PM

Thought of the Day 2007/03/11 – Sunday

 

Today was a good day I feel I am one step closer to a dream that I’ve had for a long time.  I am still cautious but optimistic.  I have always had a deep desire to control, maybe even to use another person for my pleasure.  I feel I have the right and freedom, the power, over another to do as I please with those desires and actions resulting in a mutual fulfillment.  This is a special feeling to take and give at the same time, to set someone free to release her deepest suppressed feelings, and to grow stronger with each stroke and sensation.

 

My mind has always been consumed with sexual thoughts, thoughts of overpowering a person of the opposite sex, to use that person as a slut to enjoy and discard only to be brought out again when my need is real.  Maybe this is delusional but I feel giving this type of environment to another, who looks on herself as a slave, is being supportive and nurturing.  For within her is this strong desire to let the slave slut out and the only way it can be released is for someone to bring it out, to set it free with structure, protocol, ritual, rules, and discipline.  I enjoy providing that structure and watching a person grow and develop change, under my tutelage.

 

Society sets norms that we should all follow.  Contrived based on the times and developed over an extended duration.  But what we don’t realize is that once something is institutionalized it cannot be changed at the same pace as a developing and evolving culture.  Change is inevitable and constant, and the dynamics are complex, but we all have to open to allow each of us to achieve our satisfaction in what we feel is best for us not as directed by some antiquated and outdate norms of society.


6/24/2006 6:59:50 AM

Life is a strange commodity…

 

I believe as we traverse its undulating expanses we are faced with many challenges and opportunities.  It is our responsibility to identify which one is before us at the time.  Once our recognition has been made, and we hope we have made the right choice, we should take the appropriate actions.

 

So each day when you look out what do you see challenges or opportunities?

 

Each day when you reflect on the events did you make opportunities out of challenges or did you make challenges out of opportunities?

 

Simple isn’t it?

 

Sir Jim


6/3/2006 7:44:20 AM

Value

 

It has been a long time since I have taken the time to add some thoughts to my journals.  This morning was a very stimulating morning for reflection.  Yesterday my son arrived for a visit and it has been a long time since we were able to get together.  So we spent some time catching up.  One of the things we like to do is go to the movies together and then discuss the value of the picture.  Yesterday we saw “X3.”  It was good and worth seeing if you are into that sort of thing.  Well maybe it isn’t up to you hopefully your Master is pulled in this direction.  Of course if he is an open Master you have a channel for suggestion.

 

Anyway enough of that tangential rhetoric, where I was headed is I did stay up way to late and this morning was one of those lazy morning.  The kind when you are up but don’t want to get out of bed.  I like these times, the mind is engaged and can wonder in many directions and it is not distracted by the mundane activities of the day.  The thought that entered my mind is the concept of “value.”

 

It is a simple word but I would venture to guess has many different meaning for all of us.  So I ask you what does it mean to you?  I believe every one of us wants to be valued, to feel some worth.  If you are a slave can you feel valued, if so how?  Think about that for a while.  Don’t just go with your first reaction.  Analyze your thoughts and reflect on your experiences.

 

From my perspective, and I would have to classify that point of view as coming from the dominant slant, a slave does provide value and it is the responsibility of the Master to make sure she feel that way.  I believe value can be found even in punishment if done correctly.

 

Staying with the punishment theme, before any punishment is inflicted it is important that the slave understand the reason behind it.  It is also important the level of punishment fits the infraction.  The slave should accept the punishment even if it is not agreed with at the moment.  The Master has the final decision and that should not be disrespected.  If the Master is of quality there will be some time after the punishment period for discussion to hear the other side.  The Master should provide suggestions and recommendations of how the slave can improve her behavior so this doesn’t happen again.  Now did you catch the words “punishment period?”  That was said with intention.  After the physical act of the punishment the slave should be given some quite time in seclusion to reflect on the event that led to the punishment.

 

That was a small example of finding value.  Here are some questions to contemplate. 

 

Does the slave bring value by being open to the Master’s training?

Does the slave bring value by obeying without hesitation?

Does the slave bring value by serving and pleasuring the Master?

 

What other thoughts or point did you want to add?

 

Oh what a wonderful morning I hope the day continues with such depth…


12/4/2005 8:18:06 AM

Something I wrote awhile ago that I felt would be appropriate....

 
A true slave had a driving need to serve and please, a desire to give of herself completely.  This is one sentence but it says a lot, does it describe you?  As a slave has to be owned a Master needs to feel the control and responsibility, they complement each other. 

 

I am extremely serious about this lifestyle and I am looking for someone whom understands the commitment that is needed to live in the M/s dynamic.  The complete exchange of power, the unquestioning obedience, and the high level of respect and trust. 

 

I believe in having a well defined and structured sets of guidelines and expectations.  It leaves no doubt, as too what is required.  I also know what I want and have put a program down on paper.  The goals and objectives that need to be achieved every step of the way.  As a Master I have a vision of where this relationship should go and I will set the direction.  As I close my eyes the “Vision” I can see is a “Boundless and Unconditional Master/slave Relationship.”  The way this will be accomplished is by following the mission statement that you will become very familiar with.  The reading of the “Vision” and “Mission” statements will help you see the place we strive for and the position you hold in that world.  The Mission is as follows:

 

It will be the responsibility of the Master and his slave to develop, grow, and nurture a M/s relationship that will be ever expanding, exciting, and fulfilling.  This relationship will be built on trust, respect, communication, and an emotional bond.  It will be accomplished through:

                Submission

                Learning through Training and Teaching

                Absolute Obedience

                Veracious Desire to Serve and Please

                Enforcement of Agreed upon Practices

 

As these statements become part of your being and are engrained into you mentally, you find that to be complete you will need the direction and guidance of the Master that crafted them.

 

There is much that I expect from my slave and she can be assured that I will help her develop and grow.  I am very structured and disciplined.  I will provide you with a set of protocols, rules, rituals, and disciplines to follow and practice.  As we progress in the training and the expectation grow with time I will ensure your compliance through attentiveness and follow through.  I will make sure we reach the goal we strive for. 

 

I am experienced and have learned much.  I consider myself a teacher and have many skills in mentorship.  I understand the difference of what can be accomplished through positive reinforcement and punishment.  They both have their place and need to be used wisely.  I know a slave has to endure for the Master, this is how she shows her submission, commitment, and trust.  My thoughts and philosophies will be introduced into your mind and will become what you desire and need.


11/19/2005 2:48:25 PM

“Have I told you that the mark of the best slaves is patience?  Infinite patience.”

 

This is a quote that I read from a book that I just finished.  This passage was very profound and thought provoking.  As I reflect on the meaning and the intended subject, the slave, I begin to understand that a slave really only becomes the “best slave” when no longer looking to self.  Is willing to consider only how her behavior will present the Master that owns her.

 

We all have our convictions in life and our desires as to how we would like our lives to play out, but few really experience what we yearn.  There are the influences of society, our families, and our own prejudices that relegate us to the unfulfilled existence that we live most of our lives.  Are you a slave that is in this situation?  Do you have the strength too experience life as you were born to?  Consider these questions, put some thought to them and reflect on your situation.  If you are happy with what life has present you well than strive to be the best you can be, if you are still a searcher don’t give in to the influences.

 

I know I find the importance of patience to fill my life and the quest that I am on.  There are many false starts in this lifestyle and many that play and don’t really understand.  If one can find the few that get it one can relish the fruits and be fulfilled.

 

It is good to be free to ponder one’s thoughts and reenergizing to express them….

 

There are points to be achieved if one knows the book in which the quote can be found!!!

 

 


7/24/2005 7:15:55 AM

These are some thoughts I had the other night...  a fantasy to be lived...


The morning sun was starting to peek through the window and lightly shinning across the room.  As I am still in bed knowing it is time to greet the beginning of a new day.  I awoke this morning before the alarm clock rang because today was a bit different, this is the first morning my slave is with me and I am excited about our new journey.  Yesterday my slave was brought into my world ready to begin her service.  The day was filled with instruction and preparation.

 

I picked my new slave up at the airport yesterday afternoon.  It was much like any other day.  It was warm the sky was very clear with soft clouds scatter here and there.  The clouds looked like little cotton balls very prominent against the clear blue background.  The wind was calm and there was a sense of anticipation in the air.  I parked my conversion van which was stocked with the appropriate gear to greet my new slave and bring her into the world she has chosen.  As I waited in the terminal I recapped all that we talked about over these passed few months.  My expectations and her concerns, we spent countless hours in negotiations before she would make the trip.  One thing was clear throughout the interchange that she would become my slave completely.  A possession that would be owned for as long as we felt it was appropriate.  I told her that she should expect that she would come into my world as she entered the vanilla world.  Having nothing, bare naked, and ready to learn all that will be taught.

 

The airport monitor indicates the plane has landed it is time for the journey to begin.  I can see her now walking towards me with her hands full and a smile on her face.  I open my arms and she enthusiastically enters.  We hug and hold each other it feels so good.  There are bags to be claimed.  I didn’t say anything but chuckled to myself.  Does she not know she will not be allowed any possessions; I will be taking everything she owns away from her, I will be providing all she needs.  After we acquired all the bags we proceeded to the van.  The van is very spacious and there should be enough room to set the stage for the day.  It was important that I make it vary apparent what her role would be and who is in charge.  The bags were place in the seating area and I lead her to the back of the van.  I opened the doors and placed her in on the floor.  Laying her face down I entered the van and got on top of her straddling the hips.  Grabbing her wrists and bringing them behind the back they were tied and than another rope was wrapped around her arms just above the elbow.  The slave now moved comfortably into her new role.  I wanted to emphasize that I would be enforcing constant control.

 

Turning my attention from the arms I remove the shoes and skirt.  Now the slave is naked from the waist down.  For you see she was instructed to wear no stocking and panties.  A gag was than applied and binding around each ankle.  The ropes leading from the ankles were fasten to the binding around the upper arms bring the ankles up in a hogtie position.  Now the slave is tied in a fashion that will make it difficult for her to move.  Before putting a blindfold in over her eyes and shutting out the vanilla world I pick up a pair of scissors and remove the top and bra.  The slave is completely naked and before I exit the van I let here know she is mine.  Before shutting the doors blankets are placed around the slave so she does not roll around and get injured in any fashion for we have a big night ahead.

 

The drive home was very thought stimulating and all the things I had planned were running though my head.  Finally I was turning into the driveway now we can get started.

 

….the activities of the rest of the evening can be obtained with just a short inquiry…

 

 

 


7/7/2005 6:45:57 PM
Have you ever found yourself in a hardware store, Home Depot, or Manards walking the aisles when you come across the section where all the rope is displayed?

 
Do you stop and look?
 
Look at all the different sizes, colors, and textures.

Do you wonder what they would feel like on your skin? Wrapped around your body and limbs. The rope pulled tight, snuggly caressing you.

The ¾ inch nylon braided rope now that would make a great torso harness. I wonder how a thicker rope would work how about a thinner one?

You find your hand is reaching to touch and hold the rope you can’t stop it. How does it feel in your hand? Are you rubbing in against the skin on your arms? Oh tell me how does it feel?

Than you become aware of someone else come down the aisle you awake from your thoughts wondering what did that person see? Was I doing something that they would have considered kinky? They pass and you are along again still looking.

There on the higher shelves you see sash cord, how would that feel wrapped around your breasts? Holding them upright and perky straining to be touched. Oh my god you say to yourself and you start to proceed down the aisle again.

Low and behold what do you run into next, the chain section, it takes your breath away. Look at all those chains different sizes and weights? How would they feel draped on your body? Around your neck and over your shoulder across your breasts. Oh so many thoughts do you want to share some?

The next aisle is where the locks are located, and what about the aisle with the tape? Will you ever get through the store?

What kind of things of interest would you find at the grocery store? What about the clothing store? There is a rack of silk scarves over there what do you think, could we find something to do with them?
 
I believe with a little imagination the journey is endless.

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