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For those curious as to the "sadist" part of my name, it is not a part of me that I swing around like some giant club wielded by a four year old having a tantrum. Much like a physical sadist just doesn't punch anyone he meets. Plus, it is simply wasted on most people as they lack the intelligence and patience. All the more enjoyable, though, when I do find a woman that makes the seeking worthwhile.
I've explored far and wide over the last several years. Some in real life; mostly online. Hopefully it will continue as I meet other intelligent people here. They are few and far between! But the good ones make it worth it.
8/12/2015 12:41:28 PM
I have coalesced a new realization regarding the irony of this site.

I am a professional communicator.  Technically, I am an engineer.  While I am very good at what most people think of as being the primary skills set of us science/engineer/nerd types; that being math and physics; there is more to it than just that.  After I am done with all the math, engineering, and science analysis I am only half way done.  I am still left with the most critical part of the job.  Communicating my findings to those that pay me money!

Here's my pro-tip for you out there that actually read this:  People with money do not give that money to engineering consultants that cannot capitalize words in an email or figure out where to put punctuation.  You may be a honest-to-God, Tony Stark level genius.  Send out some emails and reports that read like they were written by a drunk 10 year old and no one will believe you.

So, turns out that my ability to throw together my thoughts into long, organized, and coherent written sentences is actually a weakness here.  Turns out, I really did not appreciate the depths of the underlying assumptions that govern this place.  Such as, the primary assumption of most women on this site is that us guys are, at all times, typing on our cell phones using one hand.  Because the other hand is occupied with more important matters.  SO.  When they do see a message of some length.  With big words, structured sentences and paragraphs... well, it can only be one thing.

Yup.  The FORM LETTER.

Had to be a per-generated message that they spam out to all the women.

*Sigh*

Lesson learned, I suppose.  Three sentences max.  Skip the punctuation.  Reference my penis twice (minimum).
10/25/2010 6:31:34 PM

Okay, time to try and cut down on the time I waste here:

1)  If you are really a guy, just don't bother.  It's not hard to see through it guys after some conversation.  Men and women have different response profiles; especially in the realms of sex.  If I contact you and you are really a guy... just own up to it and save us both some wasted time and effort.

2)  If you really are a woman (rare).  I'M NOT MAGIC.  I'M NOT PSYCHIC.  Meaning, don't expect to sit back and have me, somehow, figure out exactly what you want five minutes after we have said hi to each other.  Especially if the only thing you have on YOUR profile is that you are a submissive female.

3)  If you decide that we haven't "clicked" or your just not interested in pursuing anything with me after we have talked; just tell me. 

4)  Understand that I am fully capable of behaving like a fully functional member of society.  This means that just because I am polite and nice when I first talk to someone doesn't meant that I am some spineless wussy wannabee.  It just means that I don't assume that every woman I speak to is "Mine".  Women, if you ever want to know why so many guys come off like ass-hats on the first message, this is why. 

5)  My motives on this site are sexual.  Perhaps not physically so; but sexual none the less.  If you are seeking a purely platonic dominant completely divorced from sexual elements; move on.  This isn't to say that I am 100% "on" and I can't go 5 minutes without mentioning sex and touching myself.  I did type this whole message with both hands on the keyboard.  But I'm not about to attempt to walk through your mental mine-field of sexual hang ups and issues that causes you to freak out at the first hint of anything sexual either.

6)  Have some idea of what you are looking for.

7)  Be willing to SHARE what that is honestly.  Saves everyone a lot of time.

8)  I do not copy/paste messages.  I can type just fine.  BUT, if all I have to go on is that you are a female from Kansas that likes amusement parks and 80's music... don't expect an earth-shattering first message.  Cause... what would i have to base anything off of.
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