I am experienced and know this life is not about one person using another. Both must want the same results in the end. This requires negotiations between the two before entering the relationship. And what is agreed to must be consen and safe to be done. An initial meeting is to be sure the other person is what they said in their profile and emails. It is not for play and will normally be someplace public so if one is not what they said the other can easily leave.

I know a Ds relationship can not be forced on another. Also dominance and submission take place all the time and not just behind doors. Giving up control or taking control takes place at work and at home with family. You cant have multiple people all wanting something different and when only one thing can be done not everyone will be happy. What makes someone submissive or dominant is why they do it and not what they do.

Vanilla activities affect everyone and stop us from being 100 percent anything. All of us are both dominant and submissive. How much we identify as one or the other indicates if we say we are submissive slave or dominant master or switch.

I seek a submissive who can, with time and the proper trust, develop into my slave. When I find that someone I will want her to live with me.