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haveme999
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Lifetime Dom, I have owned collared slaves, built my own dungeon and made bondage toys for a business. My loving sub wife is too ill to be used the way we enjoy, so has asked me to find someone else I can play with.
I am understanding, considerate and very cruel. I will learn your needs, discuss your fantasies, then reduce you to a helpless bound toy that feels overwhelming pain or pleasure as I choose.
I have been turned on by BDSM since before I knew what sex was, and been practicing it since I made a meccano rack and motorised whipping frame to torture my sister's Barbie. I chained my second girlfriend to the bed (the first was incurably vanilla) and never looked back.
I've owned collared slaves (one female, one male, both at once, and if that sounds like fun it was, but hard work!) and started a business making bondage toys (www.silverandsteel.co.uk.) I've made my own dungeon (you can see it in the background of my avatar photo, my wife cried when I had to dismantle it,) written BDSM novels (www.bertramfox.com) and fought the law and won.
On the other hand, I'm weak on social and relationship skills and tend to stammer, and the beard in the photo is white these days.
My profile is a little unclear, I say I'm a Master, my wife says I'm mainly a sadist. It's true that I love inflicting as much pain, pleasure and general sensory overload as a bound victim can take (and then teaching hir that se can take more.) But I can also immensely enjoy the purely mental pleasure of being humbly served by a devotely obedient slave. The wonderful thing about Dom/sub is that it can turn being brought a cup of tea into a hot
scene that leaves both Master and slave panting with excitement.
As I've mentioned above I have a loving sub partner, but she's chronically ill and has weakened to the point where she can rarely take more than a light caning. She knows I need more (when she was fit I used to torture her in tight bondage for hours) and wants me to find someone else I can play with. I'm aware that people can be sceptical about unseen partners - I had this even back in the ancient days when we made contact by ink marks on pieces of paper - and if anyone were interested but needed convincing, we could arrange a quick video call, just long enough for her to prove she's OK with this.
I'm bisexual, and in the past I've tended to use men for casual fun while forming serious relationships with women. Partly because of simple demographics: a Dom can get all the malesubs he can use by whistling for them - sorry chaps, but you know it's true, stop licking my boots - while genuine born-female submissives are rare and precious. But I also find it easier to get emotionally close to women, for past reasons that I know about but can't fix this late in life.
But things have changed, and with so little time and so much to do I'm focussing on what I really want most. I'm looking for a submissive and/or masochistic woman who wants the odd few hours of BDSM play, at a club or hotel room, without the expectation of a long term relationship. I'm happy to take the time to become friends by mail first: as you can see I'm a fool for words, and I can be a close and supportive friend. I could be a safe and helpful trainer for a beginner, or share pleasures with someone experienced enough to know what she wants and confident enough to ask for it. It's a lot to hope for, but I've been lucky before, so why not?
A former slave of mine liked my profile but felt it wasn't a sub's place to make the first move: so she set up a sockpuppet account to PM me and say "why don't you contact this one, she looks good?" It worked (and as a bonus, I punished her later when she owned up to the trick,) but there's no need to go that far if you're interested. Just write!
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It's frustrating to receive so many messages from subs wanting primarily mental domination and control. Frustrating, because when I have space and time to enjoy it, I love the emotional hot bath of having someone crawling at my feet to kiss my boots, waiting for orders with the nervous attention of a devoted spaniel, running to obey me, offering hirself for punishment for not having served me perfectly. The wonderful thing about Dom/sub is that it can turn a simple act like bringing me a cup of tea into a hot scene that leaves me and the sub glowing with pleasure and excitement.
But since I left my big house with the dungeon and the windows the neighbours couldn't look through, and since the economy imploded and it takes all the running I can do to stay in one place, I have to focus on the thing I most of all miss from my home life, which is the heavy sadism that my partner can't take any more. So I have to concentrate on masochists who can appreciate a short intense scene of beating, torture and sexual abuse, and leave someone with more time to use the subs needing pure domination. |
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My sub's illness that means I have to look for other playthings is also making her nervous about the whole contact scene. This means, first, that I can't bring people home, so you must either have a place you can play or arrange to meet at clubs. And second, I am going to have to go by the rules and meet somewhere public first, maybe a munch or just a pub or cafe. So don't expect to be tied up on the first date.
[sigh] Looking after an invalid really screws my authority. |
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| Age: 31 |
| Miami,
Florida |
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