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| Time for a little profile updating....it's been awhile:
I've read a lot of profiles out there and decided that either most of the expectations (on both sides of the kneel) are just unreasonable and unrealistic....or my taste has just gotten so garden-variety that I'm old fashioned.
So here's a little bit of who I am and what I seek:
I'm a single boy (been divorced 5 years now--my marriage to my spouse & Domme lasted 14 years) -- I have a very demanding, public service oriented job that puts me in charge with a lot of responsibility. In my off hours, I do a lot of volunteer work, and whenever I can, spent time outdoors.
In terms of BDSM, I've been in the scene for more than 20 years--long before there were munches or internet chat rooms--I had a chance to top and bottom and learn from very creative, talented people. Although I have topped and still love to fist, I am a bottom and domestic servant with a love for serving others and a penchant for corporal punishment.
I'm an FTM--fully transitioned, well adjusted and very masculine--I'm fit...but I'm short. (Such is life. better next time on the karmic wheel for me) I am straight (attracted to women) but I do occasionally engage in non-sexual play with male Doms. I live stealth--which means that very few people in my life know anything about my TG status. I'm not ashamed of it--I've worked hard to build my new life and I believe in protecting my privacy.
I'm not actively looking for a relationship with a woman, but if one develops, my heart is open to it. Within a relationship, I believe in equality--while some may call ne a "bedroom bottom" I'm just not looking for 24/7. I've been there--it's exhausting and I'll be honest--it got old. On the plus side, I love keeping the house meticulous, managing other household duties and in spite of my mischievous streak, I really do....do what I'm told. (paddling or no paddling.....if it needs to get done, I'll get it done)
Somewhere out there, I'm hoping to find a Dominant woman who is creative, artsy, funny, intelligent and compassionate. Someone who will love to explore the world with me, hike the back trails, snorkel the reefs, spend a wild Saturday night at a play party followed by a quiet Sunday with Charles Osgood and brunch. When we're out, the world will see you with your man. When we go home, you will know I'm your boy and my heart and body belong to you.
Happy searching to all-- life is too short to be miserable!
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Had a nice Sunday cleaning the Household. My Sir's Domme allowed him to have me over to get the place clean for the holidays and assist with a house project. Total work day--no play--but maybe she'll allow for some discipline next time around. |
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Keeping busy these days--just spent a month overseas living the good life! The women over there told me I'm great husband material because I "do what I'm told!" Sounds good to me! |
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Really stepped up my "game" at the last play party on Sat. The boys/subs serve the Dommes dinner...so I really took the time and prepared several dishes, ensuring that everything was gluten free so that the Hostess Domme could enjoy whatever I made. The food looked beautiful--and based on the comments, mmmmms and empty plates--it tasted pretty good too. Made sure that my leathers and boots were spit polished, and I wore a crisply pressed black shirt under my leather vest. Made a good impression--ended the night with a moderately short but very fun scene. My bum is still black and blue. |
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WOW. How about that? Gene pool temporarily virtually weeded. Mods put a stop to a gamer who created more than 12 different profiles and then created forum arguments essentially with himself. Just plain WOW.
In better news...I'm having brunch with a CM person Saturday. Looking forward to it.
Thanks to everyone for the nice emails this week.
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Now I'm having a new escapist fantasy..,, one in which people on this site didn't act like complete wastes of carbon. good god there must be something in the drinking water lately. Counting on Darwinism to do its job and weed out the gene pool |
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Having one of those escapist fantasy moments....
where I find a Dom/Domme or couple who allow me to rent out a little cottage on their property at a reduced rate in exchange for services....the cost is low enough that I only need a PT job, allowing me the rest of the time to do some freelance writing and artwork, and plenty of time to clean the house, maintain the grounds, errands etc. It's a nice little fantasy. Unlikely....but a boy can dream, can't he? |
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Just had an AWESOME Thanksgiving where I met OldHen, Mummyman, LadyHib, ChatteParfairt, AngelofDeadly, DeadlyDream, Tigrin...shoot, I know I'm forgetting some screen names... it was such a great time. mellow, great food, no lack of interesting conversations..and everyone there MET on CollarMe.....for all of those who claim there aren't "real" or "quality" people on CollarMe... you either aren't looking hard enough or you're looking in the wrong places. (Or who knows, maybe you're acting like a douche.) |
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Hoping to get to the Women Rules! Parties--new FemDom group. Heard plenty of good things already--I just have find time. Had to reluctantly give one of my Households notice--I was cleaning for her monthly, but work has been taking up too many of my weekends lately, and it wasn't fair to her. I hope she finds another good houseboy. Such a lovely Lady. |
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Got a phone call tonight from an old friend who I met in the leather scene 20 years ago! We haven't seen each other in almost a decade...we may get together to catch up next week at the Mid-Atlantic conference. Time flies! |
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Joined the Maryland chapter of ClubFEM and am enjoying it thus far. I do spend an inordinate amount of time in the kitchen and common areas, but then again, someone must ensure that the place is kept tidy while the other boys get their nads tortured.
Thoroughly enjoyed Colonial Kink the weekend before last...and then a fun time at The Crucible. Can't quite say that my bum has fully recovered but that's not really a complaint, is it?
I will say this--the best paddles I've ever encountered are the handmade Spanking Paddles by Walt (google it....trust me on this) But some of them are for the serious paddling enthusiast only. I bought Sir a padauk as a gift to replace one that broke...and it is evil! I can feel the afterburn for many hours after. |
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Had a great Christmas hanging out with some SM friends of mine from many years back--great to see them again! Even met a few folks from CollarMe.
Have been getting more and more cmails from really nice folks, and enjoy the conversations taking place off-board as well as on the message boards. Looking forward to Lance's visit in a week or so--hopefully we'll have a big get together with the other Collar Me folks who live nearby.
Still waiting to hear if my application was accepted by ClubFEM.
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Interesting little world this CollarMe is....
Read a Domme's journal--her complaining about not finding quality subs, not finding someone serious....issues with fakes and flakes.
The very same Domme decided I wasn't compatible with her....I was "too short to be her sub." I find it kind of puzzling and odd that she makes a point of looking for "quality" subs, and then rejects one strictly based on a physical characteristic that has no true bearing on performance, integrity or any other qualities that I would think truly matter.
No sour grapes here--we all have our preferences and quirks--and as for me, I only want to serve those who appreciate me for who I am and what I'm worth.
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So today I signed up for a local FemDom yahoo group that holds Munches nearby. well....within 60 miles...so that constitutes nearby as far as I'm concerned. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new folks and make some one-on-one connections/friends. The internet is so impersonal and prone to fostering distrust. There's nothing that can replace human interaction.
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After 20 years in the Queer BDSM community, this is really my first time out of the gate interacting with the "straight" crowd as a potential servant. Truly enjoy the Household I currently serve periodically--a Bi couple--but finding the straight side of BDSM a completely different world.
What's also hard for me: in the Queer SM community, I was very well-known--gave a lot of workshops across the country--was even flown into Vancouver, Canada once to give a series of workshops. Since transitioning, and living in a completely new (and stealth) identity, I'm back to complete anonymity--which admittedly, was what I wanted.
But it's hard to navigate through a community where I'm starting from scratch again. I was raised by Old Guard folks before there was an internet. We cruised each other at leather bars, Dore Alley, 15 Association events....you had to know somebody to get into the dungeons and reputation was something you built in those back rooms based on your behavior and skills.
I would meet with potential tops/Mistresses/Dommes--we'd meet--discuss what we wanted, expectations, limits--and only on a few rare occasions did we not find some common ground for a great time. Never had to really deal with rejection when I was a leatherdyke--I was often the one that said "no thanks" to those that approached me for play and/or service. Welcome to the world of manhood, I suppose...I have to get used to rejection.
I'm a patient boy....giving it time. She's out there, I just know it. |
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