well I see the chat rooms don't change

lists of names depicting who is a dum and who is a sob

I mean Dom and sub of course

and all silent except for the constant Hi's  and trolls that send 'ASL?'

Kind of an oxymoron calling them chat rooms

Now if all the guys that send IM's went into the chat rooms they would be happier

chattier places.

So come on guys , get into the rooms and say Hi..and more

I was given this to see if I could see the ghost in the trees

sound required

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t80sdBtB-Gc

tres scary

However this is horrific

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSBpJ7QsUH8

on a serious note I found a link about Domdrop. Being a selfish girl I really hadn't thought about Doms experiencing what I thought was confined to subs

Give it a read..leat me know your thoughts please

Myth or real

http://brairthornblog.wordpress.com/2009/12/05/dominant-aftercare-taken-from-a-different-blog/

Last year I went on a ballooning holiday..I put 40pounds on

(think about it)

d xox

Been a while

I'm playing on SL ..a 3D CM

is fun and funny

met some good people there and dragged them here

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE

But I d miss scrawling my muses here and I haz new jokes

Lemme know what you think

Have to say tho..

People think I'm patronising  ( that means I treat them as if they are stupid)

I went to the cemetery yesterday to lay some flowers  I noticed 4 grave diggers walking about with a coffin, 3 hours later and they're still walking about with it. I thought to myself,

they've lost the plot!!

A wife says to her husband “You're always pushing me around and talking behind my back.” He says what do you expect? You're in a wheelchair

Bought some 'rocket salad' yesterday but it went off before I could eat it!

I broke up with my gym.  We were just not working out

laughs and runs off..

Well

seems you like my jokes

even if just to moan at

you know who you are

And if you are trying to insult me..please..use smaller words

( how dare you incinerate  that I don't know big words!!)

and

if you're going to try  to suck the life out of me...could you please take some fat too

anyway..

JUST for you...

even though my brain has been giving me the silent treatment today...

I have some good advice

NEVER ever ask a starfish for directions...

laughs

a girl has to keep herself amused on here

Sometimes I wrap myself in ribbons and bows and call myself gifted

D xx

I went away for a while and have just returned to find 'old' friends are still around. I don't know whether to be happy for me that familiar faces, good people, remain stoically here or sad for them that this seems to be their full stop in the sentence that is their cyber world.

ponders

but not for too long..

Good to see you guys

i haz sum new jokes!!!

Just got back from my mate's funeral. He died after being hit on the head with a tennis ball. It was a lovely service

Bought some 'rocket salad' yesterday but it went off before I could eat it!

Local Police hunting the 'Knitting Needle Nutter’, who has stabbed six people in the village in the last 48 hours, believe the attacker could be following some kind of pattern

The wife was counting 5 & 10 pence coins out on the kitchen table when she suddenly got very angry and started shouting and crying for no reason. I thought to myself, "She's going through the change."

I was at an ATM yesterday when a little old lady asked if I could check her balance, so I pushed her over.. it wasn't very good

kinda like Deja Moo: The feeling that you've heard this bull before

grins

no apologies

To Sir or Not To Sir

That Is The Question

Author: Bob Harris ©
From http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/harristosirornot.htm


This article was originally written for the section of Gloria Brame's website called "Perspectives Of A Male Submissive".

As submissives, we are expected to be courteous and respectful when in the presence of a dominant. This is considered the basic, proper submissive behavior no matter what protocol you follow. It's even considered basic, at least during play sessions, by those who do not follow any other rules or protocols of SM.

Generally, always addressing every dominant as Sir or Ma'am, is considered a basic part of being courteous and respectful. But is it really? Some doms, especially those who are not educated in any particular protocol style (the polite and courteous way of saying they haven't taken the time to learn), or who don t even know that other protocols exist (the courteous and polite way of saying dom wannabe's), will tell you they expect to be addressed that way all the time. They expect, and sometimes demand, every submissive to address them as such from the very onset of being introduced. Doesn't matter if they deserve it or not. Doesn't matter that they have no idea what it stands for: they still expect it.

Deserve it? Isn't a dominant supposed to actually have to earn the right to be treated respectfully? Actually, yes. Even in the supposedly stoic, protocol-laden Old Guard," a submissive was not expected to automatically refer to every dominant as Sir. Only those who had proven themselves to the Community as a whole, over time, to be honorable, trustworthy, skilled practitioners of the SM arts, were awarded the honor.

Not that it is particularly wrong to always use the terms. For some of us, it is just a natural extension of what is considered to be good manners in any situation, lifestyle-related or not. Consistent use of the terms, especially in public settings, along with proper appearance and general attitude, can be a useful tool for an unattached sub trying to catch the eye of a skilled dom.

However, there are certain precautions you need to keep in mind. As we are all too well aware, in public forums, especially leather bars, the numbers of those who know nothing about our lifestyle except what they have seen or read in some porno flick or erotic story, far outweighs those of us who have chosen this as part of our lives. Referring to one of these dress-ups as Sir/Ma am, feeds into their fantasy image. Sometimes, they can respond in a way that makes them appear to be that ideal Leather Master/Mistress of our own fantasies. They appear to be-- that is, until a situation finally comes along and we find out it was all just a game. Hopefully that happens before they get you into some dangerous situation, or worse, cause physical injury. Luckily, most of us catch on long before this happens.

But what about a new sub who isn't quite so street-wise? What if they are aware of you, know that you are an actual participant in the lifestyle, and even though you are completely unaware of their existence, are watching you in hopes of learning how to be a proper submissive? What if they hear you refer to someone you don't know as "Sir" or "Ma'am"--someone you can't say for sure knows anything at all about being a leather top, much less being a dominant?

What if they then assume--from your use of those terms -- that this person is trustworthy? How will you feel if you find out that a new sub went with that person--based on the assumption that they must be okay since you called them Sir/Ma'am -- and then wound up getting seriously injured?

Worse yet, what if you know that person is unsafe but still call them Sir/Ma'am? By your doing so you give them credibility as dominants and put a lot of others at risk of being injured by them.

Be careful. You never know who is watching you. You never know who is looking to you to help them learn how a submissive is expected to behave by a real dominant. And most of all, you never know who is watching you and relying on how you interact with a dominant to determine if they should trust them or not.

some (in)appropriate sayings ..in latin 

Colligavit nemo. - No one has bound me  (i cannot comment)

Cedo nulli. - I yield to no one      (thats not quite true)

Consequitur quodcumque petit. -She obtains whatever she desires   (now thats better)

Flectimur obsequio non viribus. -We bend out of compliance and not because of force     (that works)

Homines voluptatibus transformantur. -Men are transformed by pleasures               (aint that the truth)

Ingratis servire nefas. - It is wrong to serve the ungrateful  ( yes yes yes !)

Longo splendescit in usu. - With long use it shines    ( it does?)

Nec fas est, nec posse reor. -I deem it neither lawful nor possible  ( but he won't listen)

Nemo potest duobus dominis servire. -No one can serve two masters   (they aint been in Gor then) 

Otiosi semper egentes. - The idle are always needy (i must be idle)

Prostibuli eligantia. - The elegance of a whore   (classy cow)

Aureae compedes. - Golden shackles   (a girl can dream)

iz mah birthday !

alittle reading

for Doms/subs

enjoy, Delly

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/05/responsibility-in-a-ds-relationship/

time for a laugh

we all need those

Don't expect too much ..theres a recession on

My boyfriend didnt like his new beard at first..and then it grew on him

( think about it)

I did a theatrical performance about puns. It was a play on words

( very topical with all this Shakespeare stuff about at the moment I thought)

I changed my iPod's name to Titanic. It's syncing now

( heck I'm good ..more topicalness !)

I tried to catch some fog, but I mist

( we brits always chat about weather)

How does Moses make his tea? Hebrews it

( and tea)

sends a hug

D

Red Flags and Dating Tips for Kinky People

"Red flag" is a term to describe a personal trait or behavior that is common in people who are harmful to their partners.
When getting to know someone online it is very important that you look for these flags. When you see these red flags slow down or stop the relationship.
Understand that none of these red flags alone are definitely a sign of a bad person.
They only tend to be an indicator of a problem situation. The more you see these red flags, the more you are at risk.
Many of these red flags can apply to both unhealthy Doms and subs.
These recommendations are to help you avoid getting into an abusive relationship.
If you think you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship please contact SOMEBODY!

Red Flags:

1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community?

2) Avoids talking about personal details.
Gets mad when you ask or quickly ends the conversation or answers questions with questions.

3)Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.

4)Gets angry when you ask for references or ask around about them.

5)Is inconsistent with details about themselves.

6)Does not give you their home and work phone number at the appropriate time.

7)Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets mad if you try to contact them at other times.

Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they never were part of it.

9)Consistently breaks promises.

10)Always finds excuses for not meeting.

11)Always puts blame on others for things going wrong.

12)Does not take personal responsibility.

13)Has bad relationships with most or all of their family members.

14)Pressures you into doing things you do not want to do.

15)Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.

16)Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.

17)Falls in love with you way too fast and swears undying love before even meeting you.

1Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.

19)Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough. Says that you are not a "True" sub.

20)Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to yelling, name-calling and blame.

21)Puts you down in front of other people.

22)Turns instantly on their friends, going from best friend to arch enemy at the drop of a hat.

23)Treats you lovingly and respectfully one day and then harshly and accusingly the next.

24)Goes to great lengths to get revenge on people.

25)Lies or withholds information.
Cheats on you or is overly jealous.

26)Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could be like.

27)Tries to keep you in the dark about what might happen next in the relationship.

2Does not respect your feelings, rights, or opinions.

29)Belittles your ideas.

30)Blames you for your hurt feelings.

31)Abuses alcohol or other drugs.

32)Is constantly asking for large amounts of money from you or others.

33)Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm.

34)Deliberately saying or doing things that result in getting themselves seriously hurt.

35)Monitors your communications (emails, phone calls, chats) with others.

36)Only interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role-playing.

37)Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.

3Never shows you their human side. Is emotionless. Hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.

39)Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities.

40)Disappears from communication for days or weeks at a time without explanation.

41)Is rude to public servants such as waitresses, cashiers and janitors.

42)Never says thank you, excuse me or I am sorry to anyone.

The answer to everything really IS 42!

Guys  I'm on to you!

D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9YlUh1rfOs&feature=feedrec

images, music,words, imagination

takes us places

some are good

be kind to one another

mood... pensive

Just want to thank those that send the odd joke or two

would ask if you could make them funny

grins

I have learned a few things since being here

Mainly never to argue with an idiot..they drag one down to their level then beat you with experience.

That light travels faster than sound, which is why some people appear quite bright until you hear them speak

and that going to church doesn't make you a christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.

WARNING...

CHARACTER DEFECTS  AND NOT AFRAID TO USE THEM

The term "acid test" is an old prospecting term.

 A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. However, gold will stand up to most acids.

 So the Acid Test was an easy way for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the fool's variety. In the same way, these tests are meant to be quick ways to identify fake Doms.

Passing all these tests is no guarantee. There is no replacement for getting to know your prospective partner as well as possible BEFORE YOU EVER MEET IN PERSON

just a thought

theres a lot of fools gold

i have nothing to say

but will leave something anyway

just for you

you know who you are

laughs

 Man goes to doctor, "doctor everytime i close my eyes i see a
spinning insect". Doctor: "dont worry its just a bug going round"

ever since my friend becane a mime act i havnt heard from her

My mate just hired an Eastern European cleaner, took her 5  hours to hoover the house. Turns out she was a Slovak

Trundles off laughing

Delly

'Hi' said someone

short sweet innoffesive..so i ignored my own rule of responding to one liners and the hru brigade and sent a message back ..'Hello'

Now in what world does a Hello deserve pics of some moron with a stupid expression on his face,holding his weiner.

After i told him  off for being a first class cretin i was duly told to 'fuck off and die'..he must have been very cross cos he capitalised it..

well we'll all die and very often we fuck off too..but some of us do it with style.

Please guys..if youre going to send pics showing off what you might think as your best asset...dont..mum might be looking over my shoulder.. thanks

laughs

Delly

yes yes..thankyou to those that remind me its a sex chat site..i do know

but even perverts,kinksters and trolls need a joke, a song and a poem..

The Invitation ..Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk
looking like a fool for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...

I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beautyeven when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know  what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

some of my fav songs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9u_YY5MOzA4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8wTPHOw9HY&feature=endscreen&NR=1

and my all time fav

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhKqA_snCCY&feature=fvst

enjoy!

D

Just my luck

it snowed in Petra

snow plough gritter and police escort

wished i'd stayed here and troll bashed

oh well

remember ...

Life is like a  Curry. What you do today, might burn your arse tomorrow

so youre going to have some peace

after frozen france i am off to egypt

wooot ( says she sounding like a 13 yo american boy at finding something plastic in his cornflakes)

 some information first though

i left the local helium factory where i worked...i didnt like how they spoke to me

 used to have a fear of hurdles, especially the last one, but I got over it

Two heroin addicts have injected themselves with curry powder by mistake - both are in intensive care.
One has a dodgy tikka and the other one is in a korma

makes me laugh

Why do people add others to their favoUrites when they've not even said hello!

Stop it!

i refuse to be an anonymous favourite

its silly and unecessary

if an unknown is a favoUrite..what are the great unknown?

*looks out the window.. still white out there

conjunctivitis.com - now thats a sight for sore eyes

*pulls a face

I HATE snow..it was so cold in France

I woke up last night to find the ghost of Gloria Gaynor
standing at the foot of my bed. ...first I was afraid.......then I
was petrified.

Grins

D

theres snow out there and i'm cold!

im off to france ..just my luck to get crappy weather when i have a huge drive before me..

i think id rather stay in bed and keep warm annoying the trolls of this world on CM..but there isnt enough time in the world for that..

smiles cutely

i was asked if i am a racist by some guy..i said hell no..i dont even walk fast !

EEEPs 

a lesbian male sub perved me..

wonders how that works..anyone?

please dont try to befriend me without even saying hello!

oh  and im from Yorkshire  a red head  and a baby girl..men just dont stand much of a chance..and women even less

goes off to strangle my nana for puking up in my car !

i might leave the odd (very) joke here..  but i want one back if youve read this !

i killed a man yesterday with sandpaper..i only meant to rough him up a bit

thats kills me everytime

um   

 i AM quite normal.. 

honestly!

most of the time.. but we all have our moments ..

i had a moment the other day and deleted all my mail..so if you sent something and did'nt get a reply..thats the reason..the lovely people know who they are...

sowwy

pouts and looks puppy eyed..pwease say hello again

Delly

Journal Entries are like buses..you wait ages for them and then suddely two come along in a short space of time..  anyway  like my buns    ( i am English  they are NOT cupcakes) , some things need to be shared..like this

( and remember ...it is not a game of who the fuck are you... or maybe it is)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sv5iEK-IEzw

Delly

Well who would have believed putting a plate of home baking  as a profile pic on a sex chat site can bring out the domestic side of so many men..

I am now exchanging recipes..  blinks

Cooking i suppose is like sex..we all give it a go..  we all know what we like and don't like..we all have different tastes and mix our ingredients to our pallet

I could push the thought process and say it all ends up down the pan too but that would sound churlish....

Goes off to recreate the paprika soup recently partaken ..

>!<

I looked to see who was viewing my full profile..You know who you are..!..and it made me think what put those people who have perved but not said hello off..I have dutifully filled it out..(i was bored at 2 am one morning)  what a good girl...

Some of the things in the BDSM lists of like and dislikes are fine but when they ask you to ascertain your skills with a blindfold it gets silly. Just because i can put a blindfold on makes me an expert?,,s'all daft.

waves 

Helllo!

i'm back..a lil older , a lil wiser ..but stiLl me..

and CM is still CM

amazingly the trolls that contacted me before have contacted me again

AM I SO FORGETABLE!!!

Yes  i made the buns..<< is a fantastic cook!

Cookiedom

un subscribe..  or i will tell all yer secrets  ..if i knew them  hahahaha!

No longer cross

probably because im not old or fat or bitter ..or a big mouth..and also because i dont give a damn .. back to being the sweet lil me ...

Normal service has now resumed

so  i  made anothe account..so what !   shoot me ! lots have! i made one with a bad name which i knew would draw attention..and boy did it !  whats in a name ...?  not every rose smells just the same..some smell of hot wonton sex by some begging cumwhore..

i deleted it because i trusted someone who blabbed it to all that asked ...note to me,,,dont trust some fat old disalussioned bitter woman..  someone who called herself friend...  must send her the definition..

yes  im cross

minirant over

i was in a room recently when the topic of baby girls was brought up and someone remarked that 'they should grow up'.  Thats fine if youre the role-player baby girl but not so easy for the real thing..

The Daddy/Mommy bg/bb is one of the most complex and misunderstood in the BDSM lifestyle..actually  its an alternative livestyle.

Its different for each couple, more depth more loving more care and yes..trust is needed in every relationship but when youre giving total power exchange to someone its needed in spades.

Im not going to defend being a baby girl ,,if you don't like it or agree with it then keep out of my face..i will say one thing though..it doesnt mean talking googoogahgah or wearing diapers and suckling on a pacifier..unless of course Daddy says so..smiles cutely

Ok fellas
pin back ya lugholes and hear ye  hear ye

the answer is my nanas pearl earring

THATS what im seeking
i borrowed it and lost it so if you find it gimme a shout.

Other than that..im not seeking..but i never rule anything out either

gotta love mah mini rants

D

This place isnt possibly for me..  im an adult baby girl and i don't submit well..im certainly no slave..ok ...perhaps to chocolate maybe..

im getting the oddest of messages too

kneel before me bitch
suck my cock
what are you seeking
you know the sort
YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE lol

I do have my comebacks ready but guys  if you can't say more than  'grunt hi grunt' dont bother
as for the picture collectors and msn/Y collectors on the first chat ..dont ask
yes  im arsey opinionated difficult and argumentative..these are my good points  smiles..
but most of all im me ..  and you won't get to know me in two grunts
Dellyishus

well im a lil perplexed
i mean..isn't this supposed to be a chat site..
i eagerly enter and always say hello in room to be greeted (or not) with silence
theres a few that say hi ..and to those stalwarts i wave and blow kisses but generally
i do think there's either less people around than the room list shows, people are in private chat  or theyre just plain rude..
mini rant over

Well, after being here a week I must say ive met some rather nice perverts, I've also met the not so nice people and i have been nagged for money in pm ..I mean  £20 for a pair of normal stockings..
I've had men wanting to collar me after a quick hello  and women asking me to have their babies..scratches head,,its a mad mad mad mad world