Writing about yourself can be tricky, being able to find a balance between showing your best characteristics, not hiding the things that could be better and doing this without sounding like a complete dick is not that easy.

Here is my attempt.

The Kink side - I have been involved with the lifestyle now for over 30 years, like most of us I have taken Vanilla breaks and have accepted that this never works. I am happiest with a sub who is the yin to my yang, the submissive who wants or maybe a better term would be needs to submit to her Dom.

I respect limits although the fewer the better, I enjoy impact play, bondage, and the true submission that is freely given, no bratty subs for me please. I prefer the more adventurous, the kinkier, those of you with a darker than average mind who at the same time live in the real world with other non-lifestyle people who would likely not understand what turns us on.

The Other side of me - I often forget I am not 18, I am fit and healthy, I go to the gym 5 times a week and look after myself and I would hope to meet someone with a similar outlook. I’m an enthusiast of life with a zest for living each moment to its fullest. My business life has taught me the importance of dedication and commitment, and I have been blessed with being able to develop a higher level of emotional intelligence and it is this that truly defines me. I thrive in staying composed during crises, maybe due to my sense of humour that finds light even in the shadows.

My family and friends are my anchors, and I treasure the moments spent with them. I'm a man of balanced contrasts - I relish the thrill of fast things, calculated risks, and excitement and at the same time find equal pleasure in slow, reflective evenings by a fire with a glass of good red wine.

I am seeking a sub who compliments me, and I think the only real way to find out if we click is to talk, first here, then off site, a video call and a meet sooner rather than later would be preferable.

Let’s talk and go from there.