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RazorLust
| Couple, 49/54, New Zealand
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- * Taking a break. * - Yes, were still looking for the right third, but looking for her is exhausting. So many people who want only sex, or want to rush into a session without actually making the connection that makes it intense enough to invest in.So were taking a break, unless youre spectacular.And by spectacular we mean Bisexual, Pagan, Submissive, and prepared to get fully involved and invested in the lives of others complete with regular communication.
Bonus points if youre in New Zealand, or have the ability to move here without being sponsored for a residence visa.
So, we should get mail notifications, but other wise will be keeping a low profile, and doing other things...
Attractive gothically inclined couple looking for a FWB, GF, or potentially more if you fit with us like you belong here. A true third is a goal, but were not putting on the pressure to make that happen.
He is experienced in the lifestyle, and with a wide variety of toys from rope suspension to needles, firecups, to floggers, and has presented classes on a variety of topics including caning a personal favourite.Wow, that sounded far more pretentiousthan it was supposed to. Its intended as an explanation of level of experience, not a statement of absolutism.
She is less experienced, but has been living in a 247 Ds relationship for over eight years. She tends to be very shy until she gets to know someone.
She has also recently expressed a desire to learn to rope top and I expect she would quickly become a more accomplished rigger than I.
In fact she tied her first suspension on International Rope Day - 2013 with gravity boots on a friend, and did a spectacular job of it.
These things aside, the most difficult thing to find in a BDSM relationship seems to be people with similar vanilla interests. Contrary to popular belief there is a life beyond just kink, and were looking for someone who we can share our lives even long distance (with regular visits), or preferably closer.
We dont know if were ready to move someone in, but we definitely want someone who we WANT to spend time with both in and out of the bedroom and dungeon(and we have one of those in our home) and hope to eventually take that step.
For a little more ination on our definition of Friend take a look at the first post in my journal.
Some of the interests were looking to match with people are Scuba Diving, Goth andor Metal Music, alternative religions. You must be able to READ. As in books, and enjoy indulging in them. (Even if like us, you dont get to read as much as you would like to because you have a life, or are too tightly bound to turn a page)
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2/12/2012 6:57:00 PM: The definition of friendship
Seems there is some confusion over some definitions.
When I say I'm looking for a “friend with benefits”, I mean an actual FRIEND with benefits added in. Not just a fuck buddie, one night stand, or a public dungeon beating before parting ways.
Someone we care about. Someone with things in common, who we talk to on a regular basis. Someone who's involved in our lives whether we're having sex, or sessioning or not.
An actual FRIEND. Someone We want to talk to and connect with. Someone to hang out with, and do things with.
The focus is supposed to be on the friendship and the emotional connection. The benefits are a bonus; NOT the reason for the relationship.
And friendship IS a real connection.
I want to care when I hurt you, and feel you care about us when you come to see us.
It might lead to a girlfriend or sister-sub role down the road; it might not. It might be poly-fi, or might be open. If things go that far we'll figure it out when we get there.
Moving in with us might be a possibility a long way down the line for the RIGHT person. It's not our direct focus to find a third, or find “someone/anyone” and push them into filling a role. It's to find the people we want in and around our lives, and to let the relationships choose the directions they take as they progress.
We'll see where we go when it's time to decide, but until then, we look forward to getting to know you.
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