I am a Chicago-based scholar working on a PhD. I have done a variety of work internationally and am happy to share more via message.


I am widely-traveled, well-spoken, well-dressed, and involved. I speak or read five languages to varying degrees.


I am a sexually Dominant man who would like to find the right sexually submissive female partner for a monogamous relationship. I am interested in getting to know you and in discovering compatibilities that extend beyond the bedroom. I am not just concerned with sex, but with finding a good dynamic and connection with a partner. However, when it comes to sex, BDSM is an indispensable aspect of my sexual character.


No two people are the same and those with Dom-sub orientations cannot be defined by a cookie-cutter mold. I enjoy theorizing this lifestyle and the relational dynamics that accompany it. I am not a novice at BDSM and I know what I like, but I also believe that every relationship is unique, as two unique individuals create a dynamic that could never be perfectly duplicated by any two other people. The point is that some of what happens in any BDSM relationship is unique to that specific couple and develops naturally, spontaneously, and organically as those two happen upon particular nuances that work for them. That is a very enjoyable process of discovery.


I can accommodate a submissive who is quite far along the spectrum of masochism as well as a sub who is less concerned with pain than with a range of other power exchange dynamics. Discipline can take many different s and this can develop organically, but also with intention and planning.


I am a caring person and I like to explore the movement between roughness and sensitivity. In regards to the latter, obedience, discipline, required demonstrations of devotion, spanking, even harsher punishments, etc. can all be part of our interaction. But developing trust and closeness are important.


Subs who adopt an intentionally bratty persona do not appeal to me and bratty-ness is not needed in order to get attention. I prefer to cultivate a genuine sense of closeness and intimacy into which BDSM dynamics play a central role. Discipline and other in-scene activities will occur regardless.


Feel free to nudge me if you want me to notice your profile. If you are new to this lifestyle or feel inexperienced, I can be a good Dom for you. Exploring the process together is what is enjoyable.


I am completely open to dating a woman of any racial or ethnic background--please feel safe knowing that you will be accepted.


I will exchange photos that show my face upon request, i.e. after we begin a conversation. I would have no problem posting a face-shot if profiles were restricted to registered users, rather than publicly searchable, but considering how this site is currently set up, I prefer a bit more privacy.