Kink is a profound means of communication, acceptance and expansion, both between others and within oneself.

Connecting in this way offers unique opportunities to welcome and express unexplored or disowned pieces of ourselves, and how we relate to others. As such I do not "play", though I can be very playful, deep, or both.

My interest is in the connection, and I don’t particularly mind if the activity that creates that connection is simple, sensual or depraved; what I seek is mutual growth, and to see and be seen.

I respect that if I am to engage with your mind, being and body I owe it to you to be knowledgeable and at peace with myself. Accordingly, through many mistakes and extensive training (listed here) I have built skills in connecting with others, and with different aspects of myself - the sensual and the direct, the soft and the strong, though I still have much more to learn.

Professionally I am an encouraging leader and natural teacher who is interested in building meaningful connections within myself and others. As such I seek equals to respectfully dominate and grow with.

I am not qualified to heal you, nor should I try, though you may be weird and broken around me as long as you’re responsible.

I respect everyone’s sacrosanct right to consent, and recognise my responsibility as a leader to keep watch over myself and those I care for.

More personally, I enjoy travelling, dancing, gym sessions, cooking together, Spanish, bike rides, and random walks to wherever. I get to the heart of matters when I speak, yet I also enjoy making silly jokes that I secretly hope you find a bit annoying. I throw my chips to the weakling seagulls at the back of the flock, always thank the waiter, and I care about people – even if we know each other briefly.

I give and expect respect, so I will kindly move on if I don't hear back, though in rare cases I’ll send a succinct second message as a prompt, and none thereafter. I welcome supportive online connections as well as more personal ones, though I try to live my life in the real world so my replies may not be prompt.