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yes these are pics of me. So I'm starting this thing, this profile, over again. Still me. Living my life. Care to join? Possibly seeking a play partner with a particularly compelling candidate (and fun with a couple might be, well, fun). In the end, wanting a life partner. No it doesn't start there but the possibility should exist. And yes I am dating. Yes I am available. Finally moved back to NYC in January 2013. Yippee.
Enjoy life. International travel. Yoga. Fitness. Beauty in nature, art, music, architecture, dance, a child's laugh, a well-built pair of stilettos, silence, fashion. Hoping for a balanced partner, a complement along this path. A fellow explorer. Inspired by the wonders of life. Creative. Individual. A man with a personal sense of style, classy, attractive, and FIT (as in you work out regularly, this is not negotiable. Seriously, it's not). A balance of the professional, successful exterior and the deviant, very deviant and sadistic interior. Someone who craves ownership, modification. customization. Who seeks a muse who actively encourages the exploration of the dark recesses of your imagination and desires. Almost anything is possible, with an intelligent, conscious, mindful approach to this. My drive is to be used. My drive is to be a muse. My drive is to suffer for anothers pleasure. My drive is to be owned in the service of anothers pleasure. So you've got to be creative and figure out what to do with this wild ride. I've been owned. And it was wonderful -- the surrender came easily and fluidly, much of the time (I'm human). But I don't have a submissive personality. Not by a long shot. Actually I think this is a continuum rather than an either/or. I'm more dominant than some and less than others. That to me is the delicious complexity of life. Be available. To be clearer for those who need it spelled out, that means NOT MARRIED, unless she's gonna join us. For me, emotional Poly won't work in a long term relationship -- well it could in a sorta Big Love way but that doesn't seem what most are offering. But since emotional SM is high on my list... Chatting doesn't work for me either (in case it isn't clear, this is a personal rather than technical concern). Not here, not there, not anywhere.
Not in a house.
Not with a mouse.
Not in a box.
Not with a fox.
Not in a car.
Not in a tree.
Not on a train.
Not in the rain.
Not in the dark.
Not with a goat.
Not on a boat. I do not chat. No not at all. :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) Long distance? Probably not unless you've got a clear plan

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1/9/2016 5:20:57 PM
Shifted to a whole foods, plant based diet.  Yay me.  We are what we eat, and that's not currently a good thing for most of us.

7/3/2015 8:08:23 PM
Le Tour de France begins tomorrow.  So excited!!!!  :-)

And no, I don't ride myself.  

5/2/2015 6:17:22 PM

Cuckquean is a gender opposite term of cuckold

 derived from Middle English

 (1562 CE).

Cuckquean refers to a woman with an adulterous husband (partner). In modern English it generally refers to the sexual fetish in which sexual gratification is gained from maintenance or observation of sexual relations by a man with a woman or a number of women besides his girlfriend, wife or long-term female sex partner, and therefore, the reversed gender roles

 of a cuckold relationship.[1]

W


hat is better than a man who is free to do what he wants, with whom  he wants, when he wants.  And has a partner who actually encourages that.


12/8/2014 7:35:48 PM
"I am lighthouse rather that lifeboat. I do not rescue, but instead help others to find their own way to shore, guiding them by my example.” Modern Affirmation

11/21/2014 7:32:14 PM
When most Americans think of yoga they think of a physical practice.  That is just one part of a larger whole.

Patanjali’s Eightfold Path of Yoga:


* Yama (moral conduct): noninjury to others, truthfulness, nonstealing, continence, and noncovetousness
* Niyama (religious observances): purity of body and mind, contentment in all circumstances, self-discipline, self-study (contemplation), and devotion to God and guru
* Asana: right posture
* Pranayama: control of prana, the subtle life currents in the body
* Pratyahara: interiorization through withdrawal of the senses from external objects
* Dharana: focused concentration; holding the mind to one thought or object
* Dhyana: meditation, absorption in the vast perception of God in one of His infinite aspects — Bliss, Peace, Cosmic Light, Cosmic Sound, Love, Wisdom, etc. — all-pervading throughout the whole universe
* Samadhi: superconscious experience of the oneness of the individualized soul with Cosmic Spirit

11/10/2014 6:56:53 PM
This yahoo IM and kik and the rest?  Sorry, but I'm not doing it if we haven't met in the flesh.  It's just not right for me.  Although I've made a few exceptions, they've not paid off so I won't be doing it again.

If you're a creative guy, and ready to meet in the flesh immediately then lets just do that.  Otherwise, I'm probably not your gal.

No exceptions.

10/27/2014 7:44:24 PM
From Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda -

"Attachment is blinding: it lends an imaginary halo of attractiveness to the object of desire"

10/25/2014 5:05:34 AM

received from a friend this a couple of weeks ago, remembering our time together...


Yes. Such a dripper.


And drooler.


And gagger.


I love that. The intensity and intention of yours to fuck a cock brutally with your throat, only to be undone by your requirement to breathe and your gag reflex.


Then to see your body convulse against your need. Gagging, drooling, fighting for air.

Until you have to stop, remove the cock from your mouth to cough and gag and vomit and breathe. Eyes watering, body shaking (and dripping) hands gripping thighs.


And then you jump right back in, sucking cock and allowing it to be forced down your throat again. And you look up...and smile. A "thank you" shining from your tear filled eyes.


8/26/2014 5:01:22 AM
Now enjoying La Vuelta Espana - fit men in tight little shorts riding to the limit.  what's not to love about that?

7/8/2014 8:21:30 PM
Watching the Tour de France.  and trying to learn about the sport. 

I love learning new things!!!  This one fascinates me.

Stage 5 with cobble stones tomorrow.

4/4/2014 7:07:36 PM
home sweet home... almost.

3/15/2014 3:51:22 PM

Headed to Tokyo and Kyoto for a couple of weeks.  Up for some fun...


10/20/2013 5:10:56 AM

If you hope to send a short email, meet and fuck you've got the wrong gal.  Save yourself some time.  If you don't want to engage this mind, you won't get the cunt juices flowing.

And in case you didn't notice it I really do care what you look like and that you come with some sense of style, and not a downwardly mobile style.  And the fitness part?  It really is non-negotiable.  Don't try me on this.  Cause I really do mean it and it's not worth it.

Lastly, if after reading my profile and my interests and my journal entry, you still have no idea what to do with me, or what I like, we're not gonna be a good match.  please don't be surprised when I tell you so.


8/31/2013 8:47:24 PM

To learn much more about me, check out my profile on the other "fetish" site which cannot be named -- aRayofSunshine


7/14/2013 8:09:18 AM

cause I keep getting asked...

yes, that's me in all of the pictures.

and yes I took the travel pics.


9/14/2012 6:02:37 AM

For additional clarity -- Definitely still here, have not left, am not splitting my time between here and SF.  I'm just here, nowhere else.

Relocating back to this amazing city.  Mommy is ecstatic.


7/21/2012 1:56:15 AM

One of my favorite artists, in his own words:

"For me looking, touching, material, place and form are all inseparable from the resulting work. It is difficult to say where one stops and another begins. Place is found by walking, direction determined by weather and season. I take the opportunity each day offers: if it is snowing, I work in snow, at leaf-fall it will be leaves; a blown over tree becomes a source of twigs and branches.

Movement, change, light growth and decay are the lifeblood of nature, the energies that I try to tap through my work. I need the shock of touch, the resistance of place, materials and weather, the earth as my source. I want to get under the surface. When I work with a leaf, rock, stick, it is not just that material itself, it is an opening into the processes of life within and around it. When I leave it, these processes continue.

The energy and space around a material are as important as the energy and the space within. The weather—rain, sun, snow, hail, calm—is that external space made visible. When I touch a rock, I am touching and working the space around it. It is not independent of its surroundings and the way it sits tells how it came to be there. In an effort to understand why that rock is there and where it is going, I must work with it in the area in which I found it.

I have become aware of raw nature is in a state of change and how that change is the key to understanding. I want my art to be sensitive and alert to changes in material, season and weather. Often I can only follow a train of thought while a particular weather condition persists. When a change comes, the idea must alter or it will, and often does, fail. I am sometimes left stranded by a change in the weather with half-understood feelings that have to travel with me until conditions are right for them to appear. All forms are to be found in nature, and there are many qualities within any material. By exploring them I hope to understand the whole. My work needs to include the loose and disordered within the nature of material as well as the tight and regular.

At its most successful, my ‘touch’ looks into the heart of nature; most days I don’t even get close. These things are all part of the transient process that I cannot understand unless my touch is also transient—only in this way can the cycle remain unbroken and the process complete. I cannot explain the importance to me of being part of the place, its seasons and changes. Fourteen years ago I made a line of stones in Morecambe Bay. It is still there, buried under the sand, unseen. All my work still exists in some form.

My approach to photograph is kept simple, almost routine. All work, good and bad, is documented. I use standard film, a standard lens and no filters. Each work grows, strays, decays—integral parts of a cycle which the photograph shows at its height, marking the moment when the work is most alive. There is an intensity about a work at its peak that I hope is expresses in the image. Process and decay are implicit."

By Andy Goldsworthy


4/14/2012 3:40:11 AM

Enjoying NY although my belongings are still in SF.  Nice to be back.  Here in May and June as well.  And July and August I think.

 

Probably relocating.


3/4/2012 8:51:58 AM

Headed to NYC for 4 weeks in April, following a 2 week birthday trip in Bali.


2/19/2012 1:45:28 PM

I'm not here much.  

There's much more of me on that other fetish website under the profile "aRayofSunshine."  Pics of my travels abroad (currently ending 6 weeks in london), pics of my fun, my thoughts.  Etc.


12/27/2010 2:02:46 PM

It's been some time since I've shared something I've been reading. But I'm reading a lot this vacation so here goes...

From being black: zen and the art of living with fearlessness and grace by Angel Kyodo Williams. What's not to love about fearlessness and grace?

"Ignorance comes in many forms. We think of ignorant people as people that don't know. Most racists are considered ignorant because they harbor their hatred based on false idea that they have heard...

Then there is intentional ignorance. Anything that we do to make ourselves unable to view circumstances clearly is intentional ignorance...

Finally, just the fact that we are unable to see things as they truly are is ignorance. We filter reality through our experiences, needs and desires. We are fixated on the idea that because we see things a certain way, they must be so. We forget how many factors contribute to the way we see. Every single moment of our experience throughout our lives shapes the way we see the world.

We have cultural biases. In [the US] we eat beef on a regular basis... In India, [cows] are considered sacred and are never eaten. Some of us like music loud and intense with a strong base line. Others think of that as barbaric and prefer flutes or strings. We have differences based on how we were raised, whether we are Northern or Southern, if we come from the East Coast or the West. It is not that some of us are right and others wrong. It is just different perspectives, different experiences. Our eyes and ears, our senses of smell, taste, and touch and, most important, our minds play roles in how we experience everything we encounter.

The problem is not that we have these different views of things, it is that we each consider our view the only reality. We is truly a matter of perspective. We delude ourselves by believing that our experience is absolute, fixed. The truth is that everything, including us, is changing all the time. Nothing is static, nothing is permanent. To believe otherwise because you see it as that way is to delude yourself. Delusion is ignorance."

That final paragraph is really my reason for posting this.


11/14/2010 6:08:03 PM

Just gonna keep track of the books I'm enjoying:

Just Kids by Patti Smith. How sweet the relationship with Robert Mapplethorpe, her soulmate. Smith's memoir of their friendship  is tender and artful, open-eyed but surprisingly decorous, with the oracular style familiar from her anthems like "Because the Night," "Gloria," and "Dancing Barefoot" balanced by her powers of observation and memory for everyday details like the price of automat sandwiches and the shabby, welcoming fellow bohemians of the Chelsea Hotel, among whose ranks these baby Rimbauds found their way(November 2010)

Nine lives: In Search of the Scred in Modern India by William Dalrymple.  His subjects, for the most part, do their own show-and-tell in explaining their religious paths, which differ but share the passionate devotion (bhakti) that characterizes popular religion in India. (November 2010)


 

9/8/2010 7:28:59 PM
Now I don't have a long term partner but I am out there dating and playing (a little) and generally having fun as the opporunity arises cause I'm an opportunist.  And I'll assume that you're doing the same.  Have no interest in giving that up until something becomes more committed.  Yes I'm probably monogamous in a long-term relationship, but we don't start there do we?

Let's just be open and honest and see where it goes from there.

9/6/2010 9:48:28 PM
Something I recently wrote about pain:

Pain hurts. What gets me wet is someone with the balls to hurt me. Exploring his sadism. What gets me wet is the dance. What gets me wet is suffering for another. In reality, what turns me on is more mental than it is physical. The physical is simply a vehicle. I think that's part of the reason emotional sadism can send me just as much as physical.

Although I don't think I get pleasure directly from pain, my pleasure from the interaction and my pleasure derived from my partner's pleasure ensures that there is pleasure to go around for all :). Just a different wiring to get there.

9/6/2010 9:22:27 AM
Headed to Spain...

4/11/2010 8:56:27 PM
Thoughts of a different nature. 

I've been owned.  And it was wonderful -- the surrender came easily and fluidly.  But I don't have a submissive personality.  Not by a long shot.  Actually I think this is a continuum rather than an either/or.   I'm more dominant than some and less than others.  That to me is the delicious complexity of life.

So a great match is someone more dominant than I.  No, this isn't a competition, I'm not the competitive type. It's just a reality.

What does that mean?  Yeah, I know you probably don't switch.  That's good with me, I don't need you to nor do I "need" to top anyone.  I'm simply a passionate opportunist.  Think of what you can do with that.

What else does it mean?  If your idea of D/s is more like a manager with an unquestioning entry level employee I probably won't be your cup of tea.  If you can imagine being a CEO with a wonderfully capable EVP, you're leadership style is much closer to what you'd have with me.  Clearly and actively subordinate while opinionated and held responsible to manage my end of the deal as you define.  It's not for everyone.  But for/with the right someone, it's magic.

You want to lead?  Great.  You want a servant?  There are so many better uses for my talents, cleaning and cooking might be better outsourced.

1/30/2010 7:25:50 PM

From you are here by Thich Nhat Hanh:

Every twenty-four-hour day is a tremendous gift to us. So we all should learn to live in a way that makes joy and happiness possible... Breathe in and tell yourself that a new day has been offered to you, and you have to be here to live it.

Buddhist practice is based on nonviolence and nondualism. You don't have to struggle with your body, or with your hate, or with your anger. Treat your in-breath and out-breath tenderly, nonviolently, as you would treat a flower. Later you will be able to do the same thing with your physical body, treating it will gentleness, respect, nonviolence, and tenderness.

When you are dealing with pain, with a moment of irritation, or with a bout of anger, you can learn to treat them in the same way. Do not fight against pain; do not fight against irritation or jealousy. Embrace them with great tenderness, as though you were embracing a baby. Your anger is yourself, and you should not be violent toward it. The same goes for your other emotions.

So we begin with the breath. Be nonviolent with your breathing.

Do not turn yourself into a battlefield, with good fighting against evil. Both sides belong to you, the good and the evil. Evil can be transformed into good and vice versa. They are completely organic things.

If you look deeply at a flower, at its freshness and its beauty, you will see that there is also compost in it, made of garbage. The gardener had the skill to transform this garbage into compost, and with this compost, he made a flower grow.

Flowers and garbage are both organic in nature. So looking deeply into the nature of the flower, you can see the presence of the compost and the garbage. The flower is also going to turn into garbage; but don't be afraid! You are a gardener, and you have in your hands the power to transform garbage into flowers, into fruit, into vegetables. You don't throw anything away, because you are not afraid of garbage. Your hands are capable of transforming it into flowers, or lettuce, or cucumbers.

The same is true of your happiness and your sorrow. Sorrow, fear, and depression are all a kind of garbage. These bits of garbage are part of real life, and we must look deeply into their nature. You can practice in order to turn these bits of garbage into flowers. It is not only your love that is organic; your hate is too. So you should not throw anything out. All you have to do is learn how to transform your garbage into flowers.

All mental transformations -- such as compassion, love, fear, sorrow, and despair -- are organic in nature. We don't need to be afraid of them, because transformation is possible. Just by having this deep insight into the organic nature of mental transformations, you become a lot more solid, a lot calmer and more peaceful. With just a smile, and mindful breathing, you can transform them.

If you feel irritation or depression or despair, recognize their presence and practice this mantra: "Dear one, I am here for you." You should talk to your depression or your anger just as you would to a child. You embrace it tenderly with the energy of mindfulness and say, "Dear one, I know you are there, and I am going to take care of you," just as you would with your crying baby. There is no discrimination or dualism here, because compassion and lave are you, but anger is too. All three are organic in nature, so you don't need to be afraid. You can transform them.

The insight of nonduality will put a stop to the war in you. You have struggled in the past, and perhaps you are still struggling; but is it necessary? Stop struggling.


1/18/2010 7:17:49 AM
Have been focusing on cultivating loving-kindness and am inspired by these words written by Pema Chodron:

There's a common misunderstanding among human beings that the best way to live is to try to avoid pain and just try to get comfortable. 

A more interesting, kind, adventurous, and joyful approach to life is to begin to develop our curiosity, not caring whether the object of our inquisitiveness is bitter or sweet.  To lead a life that goes beyond pettiness and prejudice and always wanting to make sure that everything turns on our own terms, to lead a more passionate, full, and delightful life than that, we must realize that we can endure a lot of pain and pleasure for the sake of finding out who we are and what this world is, how we tick and how our world ticks, how the whole thing just is.  If we're committed to comfort at any cost, as soon as we come up against the edge of pain, we're going to run, we'll never know what's beyond that particular barrier or wall or fearful thing.

When people start to meditate or to work with any kind of spiritual discipline, they often think that somehow they're going to improve, which is a sort of subtle aggression against who they really are.  "If I could ____, I'd be a better person".  Or the scenario may be that they find fault with others; they might say "If it weren't for ____, life would be better".

But lovingkindness -- maitri -- toward ourselves doesn't mean getting rid of anything.  Maitri means that we can still be crazy after all these years.  We can still be angry after all these years.  We can still be timid or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness.  The point is not to try to change ourselves.  Meditation practice isn't about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It's about befriending who we are already.  The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are.

The idea isn't to get rid of ego but to actually take an interest in ourselves, to investigate and be inquisitive about ourselves.

Inquisitiveness or curiosity involves gentle, precise, and open -- actually being able to let go and open.  Gentleness is a sense of goodheartedness towards ourselves.

You would probably see that you do all the things for which you criticize all those people you don't like in your life, all those people you judge.  Basically, making friends with yourself is making friends with all those people too, because when you come to have this kind of gentleness and goodheartedness, combined with clarity about yourself, there's no obstacle to feeling loving-kindness for others as well.


12/5/2009 7:38:39 AM
Service

To the divine
Turn to the Divine in whatever way you imagine it and serve it in devotion and adoration and gratitude and praise, asking it constantly and humbly to illuminate you mind with sacred wisdom, keep your heart on fire with a passion for compassion for all beings.

To yourself
Looking after yourself through sacred practice, looking after the mind through constant inspiration, looking after the heart through deep emotional work, and looking after the body through diet, exercise, and sufficient rest.

To all sentient beings in your life
Starting with your family, friends and pets. Make a commitment to remember that those whom you deal with intimately are all secretly divine. But it is not only your intimate circle that needs to served in this way. In the course of our day we meet all different kinds of people -- bus drivers, shopkeepers, waiters, bank tellers, and telephone operators. Remembering to treat everyone with sacred respect is perhaps the most difficult practice for our goal- oriented, self-drive egos; we all tend to feel our needs are most urgent and important and that others exist only to fulfill them as quickly and efficiently as possible. Practicing sacred respect for others starts to release us from harsh forces and set us free to be our truest selves.

Service to your community.
Nothing is more important than restoring public service in our communities. Modern life separates us from each other, and this increases suffering immeasurably. It has never been more essential for us to recognize that we are all in the same boat, that our local communities reflect the emotional, physical, social, political, and financial problems of the larger world.

Service to the global community
In this world crisis, every single human being from every walk of life is in danger, and eCh choice we make affects everyone else. The only possible response to this acute interconnectedness is what the Dalai Lama calls "universal responsibility": the decision to be conscious in the vote of our lives of the effect of all our choices have on every other being, and so to make all of our choices -- economic, social, political -- conguent with our most compassionate beliefs. 

11/15/2009 8:48:44 PM
The following really resonated with me as a singer and a music lover.

From Sting's foreward to
Yoga Beyond Belief by Ganga White:

"Part of yoga practice, " Ganga has often reminded me, "is to connect."

And he makes his point clear: To connect flexibility and strength, balance, concentration, sexuality, consciousness, and spirituality, so that what may have begun solely as a physical practice can evolve into an integrated and holistic approach to all aspects of one's life.

For example, after Ganga's advice, my chosen profession of singing morphed into yoga and yoga into singing.

...I have learned to become aware not of this note I have chosen, but the subtle and ghostly harmonic five semitones above - the 'dominant," as it is known.  This note appears almost miraculously whenever you give it some attention.  With a little more practice, further and yet higher resonances from the overtone scale reveal themselves, all related mathematically to the "tonic," my original note.  Physics and metaphysics begin to blur here, as harmonic resonates beyond our hearing connect us to other realms.

Nada Brahma...the world is sounds, as the sutras say.

Whatever seems solid and impermeable in this world is, at the molecular level, vibrating at pitches beyond our range of perception.  And this is the ultimate connecting principle.

My shower singing connects me at a molecular level to everything around me, to the frequency of the earth, and indeed with a leap of the imagination, to the cosmos or realms of dark matter.

And yoga, as my dear friend says, is to connect.

I've come to thing of the asanas this way too -- each position changing the frequency with which our bodies vibrate.  To be conscious of this, as we breathe, turns the physical practice into a devotional one, connecting us via resonant vibration to the cosmos.

I've also come to believe that the highest form of prayer is to pray and yet ask for nothing.

To resonate with awareness, acceptance, and gratitude is surely to pray.

To breathe and accept gratefully the air that surrounds me into my body.


10/28/2009 11:08:54 PM
Something else I'm beginning to explore, taking what works for me; from The Secret of the Yamas by John McAfee:

We are aware of yoga only as a technique to gain physical strength, flexibility, or increased health.  And indeed these are potent side effects of the practice.  But that is what they are: side effects.  To focus on these largely insignificant manifestations (compared to its intended focus) is to miss the point entirely.

Patanjali describes a comprehensive system of yoga in which the asanas, or physical postures, play only a small role.  The asanas are important, of course, and the mastery of them creates great powers in the individual.  But without an understanding of their value in relation to the whole of yoga practice it is like having a fine automobile while understanding nothing of driving or the automobile's purpose.  We may appreciate sitting in the car and perhaps showing it off to our friends, but we are missing its true value.

Patanjali described an eight-limbed yoga that, if practiced properly, is said to bring the practitioner to self awareness.  One of the eight limbs , or paths, is asanas, the postures, and this is the aspect of yoga with which we are most familiar.  Yamas, or the five conditions of behavior, make up the second limb.  These conditions are non-violence, non-stealing, chastity, absence of greed, and truthfulness.

Chastity?  Hmmmm.  Will have to read more to understand his particular meaning.



10/11/2009 8:19:55 PM
Something I'm reading and working to internalize.  From Yoga: The Spirit and Practice of Moving into Stillness by Erich Schiffman.

You welcome love--that is, you become able to see that which is real in each and every thing--by clearing your mind of prejudice and beliefs and then being with things as they are.  Only when your mind is clear of preconceptions, even if you're right, can you see and relate to what is actually true.

With regard to other people, love is the willingness to let go of your ego reactions to the way people present themselves in order to see them as they really are.  To love another is more a matter of letting go of everything you think you know about that person, so you can be with him or her in the now with a clear and uncluttered mind, than it is to have ideas in advance about what it means to be loving and the attempting to behave "lovingly". 

When you do this, people will feel as though you are extending love to them, that you are being loving, when in actual fact you will have merely withdrawn your preconceptions in order to be clean with them in the now.

You learn to love by learning to forgive.  Forgiveness is the deliberate withholding of judgement.  It's the deliberate letting-go of criticism, condemnation, and conditions-needing-to-be-met-before-I-see-you-anew with regard to yourself, others, and everything else, in favor of seeing the deepest truth.  It's about removing the filter to see clearly.


4/1/2009 10:48:33 PM
Seriously.  Read the profile and the journal.

3/7/2009 8:12:01 PM
Philippe Petit: Maybe you caught him balancing an academy award on the edge of his nose. Maybe you caught an interview with him on Wait, Wait Don't Tell Me or Scene Unscene or some other place. Or maybe you saw the movie Man on Wire. The man's passion is infectious. Listening to him speak lifts me. Breaks me into smiles. Talking about life. About being. About negative space. About art. About work. About life. Humor. Passion. Life. Playful. Mischievous. Uplifting. Inspiring. The artist. The man. He has captured my imagination.

6/15/2008 5:36:40 PM
Really. I won't chat. Really. I don't webcam. Really. If you bore me I won't write back. These 3 things you can count on. Where has the art of conversation gone?

11/29/2007 1:17:02 PM
And now this one "spicychocolate" is using my picture. For the life of me I don't get it.

9/28/2007 8:18:32 AM
Yes I know someone here is using my pic. Unauthorized.  Have followed the complaint process here, and emailed support 5 times, but nothing changes.

3/14/2007 7:22:49 PM
If you think your email was personal and intelligent but I did not respond you might read my profile a bit more closely and try again.

2/3/2006 11:23:37 AM
Thoughts on service and ownership:  I love going to the opera and the symphony and chamber music.  Do you know a lot or very little?  Getting up to speed and surpassing my knowledge would be grand.  How about wine?  Would love to spend time with a connoisseur, who planned trips to wine country, to the lesser known vineyards because he's heard that their pinot is particularly spectacular this season.  And someone who could manage the finances, one of my least favorite chores.  A mind worthy of the endeavors I might have for it.  And I could go on and on in this vein.  Just writing this gives me warm and fuzzies.  To own a mind worth owning.  Engage mine.

1/27/2006 9:43:09 AM

Not a proponent of female supremacy and I'm not a Mistress.  Just an exquisite  Diva. So no need for formal or protocol driven approaches. 


1/24/2006 9:05:14 AM
To reiterate in case you missed it: Also very important, you should be in SF or able to travel to SF on a regular basis. If you are further away please articulate your plans for being available to me.

And sorry guys, I am not a chatterer.  Do not take refusals to chat as disinterest, just as a refusal to chat.

11/16/2005 11:36:44 AM
I don't like to chat.  One liner small talk bores me.  But I do like to converse.  This is a great opportunity to demonstrate how articulate you can be.  And I promise to do the same.

7/16/2005 9:22:28 PM
Time for a few new thoughts.  If this profile is too much reading for you wait till I try to share a New Yorker article with you.  Words are important to me.  Ability to express oneself with words is important.  Ability to start and maintain an interesting conversation is a very useful skill in this dance.  Did someone say that communication is key?

It's essential to me that we start by getting to know each other, what's important, values, ethics, interests, etc.  And I want to see that you are as curious about me as I am about you. 

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 Age: 27
 Eugene, Oregon