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LuckyClover

Married couple. He is dominant and straight, she is switch and bi.

Honesty, trust, and security are all important to us.

We have about 12 years of experience in the lifestyle and have been a couple since 1993.

Not into cybersex, but very interested in corresponding with bi females to determine compatibility and suitability for real-life activity. That could mean a potential house girl or just casual friends with or without benefits.

We're enjoying being DINKs and bought our first house in march 2007. With the house we now need a house girl. As there are no children in our past or future, we intend to have a sub to mold and nurture even as she serves. She might be a full time member of the family for BDSM and vanilla activities. One who's devotion shall not go unrewarded just as her missteps do not go unpunished. The exact details are negotiable and will depend a lot on the personality and makeup of the girl. We have considered more severe M/s situations as well as more relaxed relationships and really it will all come down to chemistry. Finding the right rules for the right person.

She should be adaptable and enthusiastic. A girl with intelligence is a bonus. In any event she must not be put off by intelligence. She must enjoy learning new things and experiencing new things. A good traveller would also be a bonus. Must be at least decent at housework and willing to learn to be good at it. An interest in massage (giving and recieving) is a bonus but not necessary. (He was a massage therapist for 10 years and taught massage for a while as well).

Absolutely no smokers. Infrequent drinker prefered. Must be honest about history and health, though a perfect record is not required.

Should be our age or younger.

Must be truly bisexual (no "curious")

We've recently been re-examining our needs. Previously we had thought more of a "sister sub" but now it's clear we need a girl to co-own. She needs to be at least somewhat service oriented.

Above all we seek a healthy and realistic relationship. One that might not easily fit a mold but that will stand the test of time.

She must have a need to be made into something more than she is.

Baby steps are expected. In other words we do not expect to find a perfect girl who simply steps into the perfect role the first day, or week, or month.

Likely the relationship will begin on a limited basis with clearly defined expectations and limits. As time goes by and affections, understanding, and needs increase, so should discipline and expectations. On the other hand perhaps a particularly twisted girl will decide to just enter our dungeon and never leave

The girl will have some leeway regarding social activities according to her needs: perhaps she might frequently go out and enjoy the party life or perhaps she might be the quiet house girl as personality dictates. On the other hand a girl might need more control and that is also a possibility.

She would attend to us in private and ocasionally in public in both scene and vanilla contexts.

She would gain new skills as Master and Mistress see fit. She might be sent to school, or not.

Hopefully all of this will help whoever might read it to know whether she should be in touch with us.

Leto and j

9/4/2009 10:41:53 AM
Depeche Mode tonight in Tampa. So excited. It's been 22 years since I last saw them in concert and my J has never seen them live, and she's actually a bigger fan than me!
11/12/2008 7:42:32 PM
So here we are in Washington at last. The new assignments look good. Can't wait to do some exploring!
8/14/2008 2:59:33 PM
Hey there, we are still alive. Kinda put our search on the back burner for a while dealing with other issues. The house is coming along nicely. Enjoy cooking with out own fresh herbs. I'm getting a little antsy again. Had an awesome trip to WA this summer with great freinds which has sparked my sesire once again to establish kinky relationships locally. It's so frustrating to be so far away from all our kinky friends. We have good vanilla friends locally but that's just not enough. We have a new BDSM club locally-The Woodshed. Haven't gone yet but would love to hear some reviews.  Leto
2/9/2007 1:01:10 PM
Still here. Time flies. Closing on our new house soon. Can't wait!

Leto
1/13/2006 2:44:01 PM
It's been a while. We haven't been to the gym over the holidays but hopefully we can get back to it.

It's amazing what being infinitely employable DINKs does for your credit rating. One new vehcle, no hastle. We'll probably replace the second one in a few months.

We need to play! Been having lots of vanilla fun but I need to spank some ass.

Leto
9/10/2005 11:43:02 AM
The new job is going well and orientation is well under way. The gym has been great, too. It's fun to be looked at a bit differently. I was never really "fat" but I have been carrying a bit of a belly for several years and now after about 4 months in the gym I'm starting to notice other people noticing and seeing me differently. J has also been doing the gym. She's not quite as satisfied as I am but she's definitely making improvements. She notices it more in increased strength and endurance though she doesn't really feel like she looks that much different in the mirror. I notice she looks better. It's just a matter of time and sticking to it. She's always had difficulty sticking with a program long term.

We should take some new pictures now that we look better....

Leto
6/17/2005 10:58:30 AM
Hi there. I haven't used the journal before, here it goes.

Previously I enjoyed the message boards and was posting regularly but eventually I just started reading the same old messages over and over and got a bit bored, plus my time has had too many other demands....

But now I'm back and spending some time on the personals side of the site. Very different. I'm graduating (again) this month. I'll still be in school a bit (online mostly) working on the extra degree but mostly I can finally start earning some decent money again. It's nice to finally be in a career where employers hunt for me :-)

So everything should be great, but two things. First, I suck at "courting" online. I have no idea what to say and the whole process seems silly. I wish we could just meet each girl in a restaurant and find out in about 10 minutes if there is any point, but instead we have to play "20 questions" or whatever and figure out what magical formula will convey that I/we are "safe" to meet up with. How do we do that? Couldn't we just have a background check or something? We used to have references when we lived in Tallahassee but have lost touch with most people in "the scene" there and never really got involved down here. We have personal/professional reasons for not going to munches down here (maybe we'll have to move again and fix the "problem") since there are a few people we see in the vanilla world and have no interest in seeing in a more intimate setting!

The second part is our home. We still live in this appartment and it's not so good. Maintenence never gets done (appartment management sucks)and it's always a mess. The back bedroom is piled up with boxes and loose items that need to be sorted and put in drawers (and some of it tossed out). We had someone helping us for a month or two and it was great! Now she's got other people she needs to tend to. Oh well.

This is fun. We don't have anyone locally really to talk to about this stuff and we don't see our out of town scene friends nearly enough....
PhoenixAscendant
 
 Age: 22
  Texas