I am a married man striving to reconcile my need to submit with vanilla existence. I've put significant and sustained effort into my marriage over the last three years and have arrived at the conclusion that my spouse does not have it in her to be my Domme, Top or Dominant.

I'm now exploring other ways to learn and experience more.

Sex or satisfying my kinks is not my goal. I want to explore submission / power exchange. What that looks like exactly i do not know.

The need for understanding and experience remains in me unabated. It will not go away and i've thusfar been unable to make peace with that part of myself.