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	I'm really here to chat with the friends I've made and for the forums. ------------------------ But if you're looking for some bdsm fun then that would be wonderful; and if we met and it turned into a lifelong partnership, that's great. That's really truly wonderfully great. And if it didn't, at least we'd have tried and we'd have had some fun along the way. And probably both of us will have learned a little too, about bdsm and about relationships. So that's good. And there's a good chance we'd end up friends, and that's good too. But if I've got to fall in love with you and your detailed life goals and perfect partner parameters before we've even met, do please sod off. And if I have to be a sad bastard with no other relationships in my world, do please sod off too. Otherwise, submissive or slave, pain-averse or painslut, I'm open minded; I do so like bdsm people and I do so find bdsm exciting and fun. And I find it wonderfully exciting and satisfying helping a sub explore this delightful arena. I'm older than many wannabes, which is great for girls with a taste for older men (and a bummer for girls who want boys). And I'm cautious in looking to meet people to explore bdsm fun. Cautious in the sense that I'd prefer having relaxed, casual contact which might turn into something lasting, rather than a first contact being in effect an interview for my becoming your perfect lifelong partner. And girls, this doesn't mean that we blokes are all shallow and simply looking for one-night-stands. It just means men approach commitment differently. And if we meet - as casual fun - and find that the chemistry just isn't there then it's easier to disengage without either of us having a broken heart. (Yes, blokes have hearts too and they're equally fragile). The rest is obvious, otherwise I wouldn't be here. Whether you're sub or slave, hate pain or you're a painslut, if you're into bdsm you're marvellous and I like you already. And if you're bright, intelligent and good fun then I like you even more and I'd love to chat with you. After that it's down to our ability to communicate and the mysteries of personal chemistry. As for me, I've been into bdsm for ages and love it. Because I run a business I'm used to being in control and it means I understand it's not all about shouting a lot (or, in places like this, telling bitches to kneel). It's perfectly possible to reduce someone to tears gently and politely. I'm older than most which, thankfully, is not a problem for some young ladies (and for me a young lady is anything between about twenty-something and forty-something). And I'm apolitical and I smoke and when I'm not working hard I sail offshore or, in the winter, entertain charming subs/slaves as guests in my villa in the sun for a few days (now if you've ever wanted to live out a fantasy, safely and privately, there's an opportunity!).

4/18/2008 8:18:35 AM

The temporary GT pics now removed (but if you're an ardent GT fan and would like to see them, just let me know).

4/6/2008 3:03:24 PM

Temporarily, pics of GT's UK visit added for those who're interested.

1. GT ponders life's richness.

2. Cromwell turns her on.

3. GT is smaller than the flying buttress she admires (architecture is soooo her thing).

4. Don't mention watersports.

5. America meets Russia 1

6. America meets Russia 2

7. colouredin's toast sets off the smoke alarm.

8. GT and my pilot are now an item.

9. Getting high - but not on substance abuse.

3/25/2008 1:27:05 AM

More and more I find I know less and less about wiiwd and how and why we do it.

So experienced and knowledgeable are not the same. I'm experienced - I can tie someone up in 30 secs and untie them in 5; I can lay a flogger across a back and not round the corner under the arms; but I can struggle in understanding - for a particular person - where their mind is when they're tied up or flogged. Or in understanding whether they even want, or need, bondage or pain. Or in understanding their understanding of the difference between a sub and a slave. Or working it out myself.

(Heard a nice one the other day - dogs as an analogy: that a sub is like a pet dog, whilst a slave is like a working dog. Hangs together quite well, as an indicator at least, if you think about it).

Life's tough. But hey doesn't mean we shouldn't keep seeking after knowledge.

3/9/2008 4:29:11 PM

Quietly nervous these days.

Now in that scary stage of getting seriously interested in someone I've met here with the meeting stage imminent. Many of you've been there before; been there done that and found it often is not scary at all and wow! you've made a new friend. Maybe a new best friend. Or maybe the chemistry isn't there and we can't wait to get away from each other; that's the scary bit - fear of loss of something you hold to be important.

Time will tell.

And it's not as if she's a potential lifelong partner - she's got other people to know, other things to do. But hey - a best friend is not a million miles away from a partner.

Time will tell.

But sheesh - I'm impatient. And quietly nervous. (And I just don't do nervous - not that sort of person. What is this?).

2/16/2008 7:53:08 AM

What a lot of nice people there are in the US. I know there are more US ppl on collarme, ergo there must be a load of nasty ones too.

But my contact has been with the good guys (girls mainly). Very occasionally taking life a touch too seriously but overwhelmingly kind and helpful.

(Didn't we do a good job in sending that Pilgrim boat thingy over all those years ago. Mind you they must have bred like rabbits for there to be so many of them now).

Of course the key thing is that lots of ppl here are rather nice ('cos I've met some delightful UK ppl too).

9/5/2007 11:22:29 AM

To all those charming ladies who respond to messages (even if it's only to say not interested), thank you.

To all those women who don't respond, what's that about? You place an entry inviting contact, you get a message and you can't be arsed to respond? It's what we civilised people call ill-mannered and it suggests your parents didn't bring you up very well.

(So it's not just the idiotic dim-Dom blokes who make this place hard work at times).