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Sept 2010

Life is Fabulous! Otter and I have had a wonderful year. In the spring we participated in our first 5K, over the summer we spent time camping, going to festivals, hiking (climbed my first 14er) and going to Thunder in the Mountains (mid July). Over Labor Day we went camping in Moab with a group of friends, and the night stars were AMAZING! September found us on our annual trek to my property in Wyoming, which holds a special place in our hearts. Recently we survived the holiday retail season, and are playing around with our first indoor garden. I’m completely spoiled and loving every minute of it.


Married life is definitely agreeing with us!

I have a very worthy life partner, but will try to respond in a timely fashion to respectful, SIGNED emails.

~Sthrn -Honorably served by OttersSwim


I've spent hours trying to fix the formatting errors contained within this profile. My apologies, but I've no more time to spend.


IMPORTANT NOTE: Grammar and capitalization are important to me. Form letters are a turn-off. If you can't take the time (are too lazy) or lack the ambition to learn (too lazy) this tells me immediately that we are not compatible. I am not an English teacher Nazi; I understand typos, but the online medium has limitations and if you aren't giving me your best right up
front, why should I be interested in getting to know what's under the surface?


Experienced Poly Domina
open to meeting exceptional submissives or curious people (gender not important) who sincerely wish to SERVE. Your sexual orientation is not as important, as is your desire to please Me; should you find yourself inspired to submit. Polite and respectful inquiries welcome.

Please address me as Nikki, unless we’ve negotiated a power exchange dynamic. Your submission will be to a specific person, not ‘dominants’ in general. Prefer local to Fort Collins/Denver area. Open-mindedness required. You should be a NON-smoker. This is not negotiable!


As you’ve read above, I do have a significant other. He is handsome, intelligent, laid-back, and a fabulous cook. Like me, he enjoys being an ambassador for our chosen lifestyle, loves to meet new people, and make new friends. He has
discovered much about his authentic self while in service to me, and would
welcome the opportunity to exchange ideas, and facilitate personal growth in
another.

Neither of us have a taste for ‘drama’ and we ask that you don’t either.


About Me
–I discovered the BDSM lifestyle about 13 years ago. I was originally attracted to BDSM as a submissive, but over time and emotionally-complex life lessons, have come to embrace my Sadistic Dominant nature. I understand your strong desire to be pleasing and inspire happiness in Another through service and suffering. Your willingness to obey and offer yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is a HUGE sexual turn-on for me, when we combine that with mutual admiration and respect.


That said, I’m poly, and I’m always seeking to meet new like-minded people.


To me polyamory is about letting a relationship develop naturally and to its fullest potential. "Relationship for me implies personal, emotional and spiritual
intimacy as well as the physical." I do not consider myself a 'swinger' because it’s rare (if ever) that my sexual desires are the influential aspect of my decision-making process.


Mutual Energetic Vibrational Chemistry
is the Inspiration for ongoing connection. If you, too, are experienced with massage or energy work, that's a bonus.

I am always seeking self-improvement and insight. I get along best with others of similar character. Seeing the benefits of Don Miguel Ruiz's, "4 Agreements," I try to A) be impeccable with my word, B) not take things personally, C) not assume, and D) always do my best. Knowledge is power, and security is having faith (in yourself); that you can be flexible and handle whatever life tosses your way. I am a firm believer of personal choice, responsibility and accountability. We are where we are, by our own choices!


I don’t do “victim mentality”, nor does anyone who serves me.

I have a bit of a sadistic streak, and am very 'hands-on'. "Touch" is my primary language. I take the responsibility for my submissives’ health and well-being (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually) as a serious commitment. That doesn’t mean I’m a mind reader, nor does it relieve you of your similar responsibility to me. We are Yin and Yang; opposite sides of the same coin. We embrace, support and enhance each other’s experiences.


I’m a skilled communicator. I recognize the necessity of being proactively open and honest; ESPECIALLY when the situation is uncomfortable and difficult. I recognize the responsibility of being a good listener. After all, it’s hard for someone to communicate with me, if I’m not receptive. I am confident, and don’t respond with blame and accusations. I’m very emotionally grounded and able to maintain open dialogue under the most stressful of situations. This was a skill acquired by completing a tumultuous ‘trial by fire’. Ultimately it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life. I seek soul connections with those on a similar path.


Submission is not a passive activity; your realization of the desire to please Me will be a delightful awakening. I understand that respect is earned, but I do not waste my time engaging in power struggles. I will not "over power you", but Revel in your voluntary submission. Your ability to 'suffer beautifully for Me,’ is an active talent which I truly appreciate. Your first priority when we are together should be mindfulness of my pleasure. This does not mean you don't
have your own opinions. Together we will create our own, unique experience.


Sometimes I like to Drive, sometimes I like to be chauffeured...you should be capable of pleasing Me (or at least make a valiant attempt) without being micromanaged every second. Your creative service will be rewarded!


From a physical perspective I have dangerous curves. I am not a BBW; but in no way resemble a stick. Think Marilyn Monroe's hourglass figure and you've got the picture!


I appreciate discretion. I have been in healthcare for almost 20 years, but yes, I did start at a young age. :) I have a beautiful, furry, four-pawed child, which affords Me great freedom in a very nice town home. I have a large, beautiful dungeon, dedicated to the creation of spiritual & hedonistic experiences. While I can cook, I also enjoy going out, so if you can't be out in public with Me, your availability is probably compromised.


While I enjoy many of the basic tools used for sensory deprivation, restraint and
attention focusing, I also love personal service and worship. Foot massage is
on the top of My list, so this should be something you enjoy giving. Your offer
of service, without expectation of a sexual reward tells me a lot about you.


If you believe I am describing you in the paragraph below, I look forward to your
email.

What I seek...


At this time; (Sept 2010) our lives are very busy. You would be the type to proactively find ways to be of value, and spend time with us within the framework of our life. We have a lot of quality friends and enjoy spending time with them.....could you become a special friend?


You are probably a 'switchy' personality. You are probably the 'in charge' guy in
most aspects of your life. You are strong and confident; but know you aren’t
perfect. You take self-improvement very seriously, but can laugh at yourself
and appreciate that you occasionally stumble. You should be striving to be
present inside yourself; knowing, or striving to know and own how you feel. You desire to find a situation where you’re inner need to acquiesce is appreciated and valued, in a safe environment. Please have an idea of what you want, but be open to the opportunities that life presents you.

You are honest and sincere. While you don't have all the answers, you are ok with saying, "I don't know". You are willing to look deep within yourself and you understand life is a never-ending journey. You aren't perfect, but you do have an interest in on-going self improvement.


Polyamory, like BDSM, is emotionally complex, and should not be under-taken by everyone. I don't consider a hard-on a symbol of 'personal growth' and you shouldn't either.


You love pets, books, and probably a good glass of wine. You have an appreciation of nature, the outdoors, and music of many types. I’ll forgive you if you like anime; m will be grateful to have an ally. If you don’t like Babylon 5, we probably won’t be terribly compatible. Your friends might call you an audiophile. You can hold an intelligent conversation, and insist upon proper spelling. Lengthy, in-depth conversations, on the topics of politics and /or religion are not required, and are mostly dismissed. Topics of energy movement, personal development, spirituality and healthy living are encouraged.


If you are married, or in a relationship that any party could consider "exclusive"
think very carefully, we all have jobs and life responsibilities; however, an over-estimation of your availability is not fair to any involved. I require your SO to know about our involvement, as we have no desire to be accomplices in creating distress in another person. She/he would not need to know details, but certain boundaries should be acceptable topics of conversation between us all.


Your looks are not as important to me as your overall mental health and well being. If you spend more time thinking with the head below your waist, than the head on your shoulders, we probably are not compatible.


If you are willing to explore, I'd like to know you. Your level of experience with power exchange is not important. While I don't like to place limits on such things as long distance, you must admit it takes a lot more time and energy which is currently very challenging for me. I have no interest in expending my energy for an ‘online only’ interaction. Likewise, if you can’t sign your name when contacting me, I’ll likely ignore your contact attempts. I'm not ruling it out totally, but my priority is given to those who live within a two hour drive.

VERY IMPORTANT: You have an adventuresome spirit and don't necessarily opt for the road easily traveled. You are willing to open the door and look beyond the box of Life as you know it. Truth and honesty are never more important than when dealing with high emotions. You realize that it's easiest to communicate when all is going well, but when the fog temporarily rolls in, you're willing to put in the time and effort to discover hidden parts of yourself, and share in the intense closeness only such a Journey can bring.


Each day is an Opportunity for Growth. Don't waste it!

Come; let us see what life adventure awaits us :)
SthrnCom4t@aol.com

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2/10/2013 9:17:54 PM

A submissive should be pleasing. Pleasing to speak to, pleasing to look at, pleasing in mind and spirit. Pleasing to look at doesn't hold the same definition as what society deems 'handsome or pretty', it means well groomed, with an open demeanor and smiling eyes. To those of you with smiling eyes in your profile picture, I thank you.


1/5/2013 9:14:14 AM

Envision and create your 2013. We all have the power, we just have to be mindful and keep focused.


3/26/2012 3:58:37 PM

Trans-Siberian Orchestra tonight at 730pm - Life is GREAT!


1/7/2012 8:49:04 PM

Great first gathering of the Colorado Mentor's Program 2012 session. I'm looking forward to working with all the new apprentices, over the next 11 months.


9/5/2011 10:28:11 PM

Michael Sabene and I are incredibly blessed. Last night we were guests at a wonderful fondue feast. There was much laughter and goodwill throughout the evening. Today we attended the Leather Magik BBQ; an end of summer pansexual event in Denver, where over 250 BDSMers got together to refresh friendships and celebrate a sense of Community. After the picnic, we got to spend the evening with another set of very dear friends. We met a few new people, and it just makes me feel warm and fuzzy to share such camaraderie with such wonderful folks! Thank you!!!!


12/26/2010 3:27:32 PM

To all the wonderful people that made 2010 one of the best years of my life, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. May 2011 bring all who read this as much happiness as I have experienced!

 

Namaste


10/19/2010 5:12:55 AM

Completed my first 1/2 marathon last Sunday. I feel GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!


10/12/2010 5:45:56 PM
Hotel reservations for Thunder in the Mountains, July 8-10, 2011 Denver, Colorado confirmed. :)

8/21/2010 9:39:18 AM
Is it really so hard to read My profile prior to wasting My time with a form letter? Please gentlemen, have a clue. I do not suffer fools lightly. ~Sthrn

8/1/2010 7:51:46 AM
Leaving for a blissful 8 days of festival camping. I love Colorado!!!

3/7/2010 9:30:26 AM
Otters and I are having so much success in our new healthy lifestyle. I absolutely encourage anyone reading this who wants to gain mental, emotional and physical health, to go to Bill Philips', www.transformation.com website and sign up for free. He has combined good information from his "Body for Life" and "Eating for Life" books and added insightful, soul-searching weekly homework assignments. It's a complete soul changing journey, but not cult-like in any fashion. You do the work! If your time is now, consider this a viable path. ~Sthrn

3/1/2010 8:26:11 PM

Bart’s Transition….

 

 Over the last month or so, my devoted friend has been slowing down. We had some superficial tumors removed in mid-January, and he had been plagued with increasingly arthritis pain. About the first of February, I notice a hard mass on his right rib cage. Though his blood work 2 months earlier had been fine, I knew that this was not a good thing.

 We’ve been trying to keep his joint pain under control. His 13th birthday was coming up, and old, over-weight Goldens have orthopedic challenges. In the past week, his breathing has been more exaggerated, and in the last 4 days, he had developed an infrequent cough. The mass on his side, pushing on his ribs was noticeably hard and growing bigger.

 Though I took him to a (different) vet last Friday, they only recommended vitamins and a different joint supplement. I was underwhelmed by that service, as I was really seeking to make him comfortable. If I got bad news, then I would deal with it.

 I’ve been struggling for the last week, watching him get less enthusiastic. He still wanted treats, but was more inclined to lie and look at me then come over and ask. He’d still come up to the second floor to lie by my feet, but he’d have to take a break on the landing. Sometimes at night, we could hear his loud breathing. He was getting tired.

 Last night was a sad time. M and I were out of town from Sat afternoon to Sunday afternoon, and coming back the signs were just so obvious. We watched a movie, but then made a bed on the living room floor in front of the fireplace. I slept next to Bart until he moved up and slept on the couch. Sometime early this morning he came back and curled up next to me. Michael is a tremendous blessing being so attentive and supportive.

 While we did have a vet appointment for this afternoon, last night we had called and requested to be seen earlier. Breathing was more pronounced, and as I lay petting Bart’s chest I could feel his heart was pumping faster then normal.

 We woke up to the phone ringing at 8am. Michael’s vet (and our usual one now) could see us at 9am.

 From that point on things went rather fast. An exam and an xray confirmed end-stage lung cancer, and a very enlarged heart. Time was pretty short.

 I’d been processing through logistics/grief for the last several days. So we had a plan in place that went even better than I could have planned. We are fortunate here, to have a vet service that does home euthanasia. We called from the parking lot, and made the necessary arrangements. We stopped at the house and got a package of roast beef, provolone cheese, and a dog bowl and water.

 This morning was stunningly beautiful in Fort Collins. We took a leisurely drive up to Horsetooth Reservoir. The roads were mostly clear and dry, but the dusting of snow from last night was still fresh and white. Though a little hazy, the sky was blue and the sun was shining. It was almost balmy in the still, fragrant air of a perfect winter day.

 I called Jason on the way, and we discussed what was happening. Michael drove while I held the phone to Bart’s ear as Jason could say goodbye.

 We arrived up at the rest area between the 2nd and 3rd dam. I hadn’t counted on the mud, nor on the fact that the picnic tables would be wet from melting snow. But we were gifted with warm, dry boulders to sit on. Brunch was a yummy affair, and both boys took advantage they were eating $6/pp roast beef. We walked and sniffed, ate fresh white snow, peed (at least he and Becker did) all the while appreciating the scent of conifers in the winter air..

 Our mobile vet arrived, and was perfect. A lady our age, with a peaceful demeanor, this was going just as it was supposed to go. Tired from his walk and meal, we got Bart back up in the back of our SUV. He curled up on the pillow, with a pragmatic look. He’s always been so mellow, no drama, no muss, no fuss. I curled up against the back of the front seat, and his chest and head were in my arms. The sun was shining perfectly. We looked into each others eyes for a long time and I was able to thank him for our time together. He got an interstitial sedative injection, and I held him and loved him as he got very, very sleepy. It was very loving and peaceful.

 You would have thought that I would have been torn up at this point, but it was really just the opposite. We were in a zone, so very lovingly connected, and it was all perfect. I felt his spirit and his energy blend with mine and the feeling was almost euphoric. He transitioned out, I swear, before the final medications were given. It was a perfectly amazing experience. We swirled there together, in love and respect. His body went through a few gentle unwinding moments, and he was gone.

 I had been dreading this time for several years as I watched him get older. I’ve spent time lying on the floor with him, loving him and having a hard time imagining him gone. But today I am not sad. I am so thankful and full of gratitude and feelings of honor for our time together; I’m really at a loss for words to explain the wonder of it.

 

 

Michael and I are using the rest of the day to put our environment into order. We’re spending time with Becker with love and intent. We have a few errands to run, and preparations for our work week ahead. We’ll see Jason when he gets back Friday.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read and thereby share in this experience.

 

Nikki and Michael


2/19/2010 7:41:27 PM
Transformation.com I will make this happen.

2/9/2010 7:10:47 PM
With each day that passes I feel more and more blessed. I am exceptionally thankful to have Otter in my life. He is a most outstanding partner to share this journey.

A few weeks ago we had a dinner party for 8. We suspended a 5' square beautiful maple table (legs removed) from the basement ceiling by chains. Hanging about 2' above the floor, we made zafu-like cushions for 8 people to sit on. Each of the 4 couples shared a single place mat, and each person got a set of chopsticks and a small Asian spoon. The rule: you couldn't feed yourself.

Otter cooked for 3 days before, and we borrowed dishes from our dear friend, Grace. 7 courses, Tapas-style, ranging in ethnicity from Greek, to Mexican, to Indian; we feasted.

The atmosphere; our 'unfinished' rental townhouse basement, which we have transformed with beautiful billowy fabric, LED string lights, black painted lattice and FREECYLE mirrors. A fountain, plants borrowed from the sunlit main floor, and deliciously scented incense, added to the romantic and kama sutra ambiance.

Oh, and did I mention the 2 futons, dozens of silk brocade and velvet pillows, artfully arranged with an excellent view of the St Andrew's Cross?

I was looking around last night envisioning yet another transformation -- different stations to accommodate a Ladies Spa Sunday. Manicure, pedicure, massage, with beautiful and eager-to-please submissives ready to pamper the Ladies. A small select Femdom guest list to be sure.

So many delights, so little time!

1/16/2010 4:04:10 PM
Heading out of town to spend weekend with the best group of friends. Everyone should be so blessed!

12/12/2009 9:59:35 AM
Kinky friends coming for the weekend -Whoo Hoo! However, what I really NEED is an extra day to get the house in order. More time, I need more TIME!

A gathering of WONDERFUL, emotionally-intelligent people, good service, good food, wonderful energy in the dungeon!

Wow, life is wonderful.

11/12/2009 5:16:43 PM
Off to the Fort Collins Munch...hope to see you there!

10/19/2009 9:39:40 PM
I got to look at my journal entries tonight from someone else's computer. Apparently, some formatting takes away the capitalization which I've done correctly.

Can I be a stickler when it comes to grammar and punctuation? Yes! But now I have a different perspective, and can factor in the glitches of the system. (in journal entries, anyway ~grin~)

10/15/2009 9:33:00 PM
I didn't think about this much earlier, but my computer is out getting a hard drive upgrade. Therefore, I'm not on YIM, and probably won't be for another few weeks.

Those of you who I occasionally chat with there-I'm not cloaked or avoiding you; it's just real life stepping in for a bit.

Making Halloween costumes is taking priority, for a Kinky, Alice in Wonderland themed party! What fun! Can you guess who I might be going as?

9/15/2009 7:31:27 PM

So much to write, so little time! We did a fabulous biting scene (see pics on his profile) a few weeks ago, and the beautiful marks I left on Otter are still visible and capable of giving him sensation when I push on them. I push on them a lot...I am a Sadist and they are memory buttons for us both.

Last w/e we went to western Colorado to visit one of his long time friends who is kink-friendly. We three started a batch of peach mead, and talked about the process of living an authentic life. This becomes more apparent in its importance every day.


8/10/2009 6:38:26 AM

We have returned from a fabulous time in the Colorado woods. Otter did pedicures for all the women in camp, and later in the day we had a fabulous scene involving him, rope, a bamboo swing and a few trees. (pictures forthcoming!)

Thanks to Gary for being so generous with his time, skill and bamboo!


8/4/2009 8:02:20 AM
Packing for a week-long campout in the woods with 600+ Pagans. Ritual, drum circles, and outstanding spiritual energy set in a majestic Colorado mountain setting. Cool nights, warm days, FRESH air, and NO CELL Service.

My boy and I will hike, swim, fish, connect with old friends and make new ones. We're bringing a case of home-made Tri-berry mead to share at our campfire.

I'm looking forward to tying him to a tree. <WEG>

Who says these aren't the "best days of our lives?"

7/25/2009 11:51:48 PM
Fort Collins Munch:

Sunday, July 26, 2009

time:   11:00 AM to 01:00 PM

where:   Mulligan's Pub (Ask for Grace's Party)

address:   2439 South College Avenue


7/17/2009 10:13:02 AM
Packing for Thunder. Will be down in Denver in a few hours. Looking forward to seeing old friends, making new friends, and exposing Otter to the wonderful world of mass kink.

6/16/2009 7:14:58 PM
Who does the Courting?

In My world, My submissive strives actively to provide an environment which inspires Me to feel loved, respected, and adored. When I feel such, I have an interest in meeting his desires and needs. Until that point, he's just another "do me" fella. If he's motivated, it becomes synergistic and we become invested in each other.

It's only after this, that I take an active interest in his pain, humiliation, vulnerability, desperation and surrender. This is what gets me HOT, but only after My soul has deemed him worthy.

IMO who pursues, or who is courted is not exclusive to either side of the kneel. Do your homework!


1/25/2009 9:14:32 AM
Planning Summer Vacations - Marking my calendar for Thunder in the Mountains. Denver, Colorado around the second/third weekend in July, is one of the most well run BDSM conferences in the USA. Let's plan now and gather friends from around the country to have a weekend of great connection.

1/16/2009 4:52:47 PM
Service-oriented submissives are among the world's most beautiful creatures.....

Consider the offer of a truly helpful service, in a physically, emotionally, and mentally 'safe' environment. I provide the environment, you provide the service. Win-win.

If you require additional services, such as my expertise with rope or flogger, who is serving whom? If you feel I owe you this type of activity, you don't qualify under my definition of 'service-oriented'.

12/30/2008 9:35:37 AM
The Difference between Fear and Excitement, is the way you Breathe <WEG> The large mirror is now mounted in front of the hoist, and waiting to view the next victim. Otter, are you ready?

12/26/2008 2:22:50 PM
It's 3:20 in the afternoon. We just got out of the shower after spending a lazy day completely immersed in each other. We are reveling in the 'Land of Bliss'. I wish everyone could find this much Happiness and Satisfaction. Happy Holidays!

11/9/2008 10:47:33 PM
Honorably served by OttersSwim.

11/2/2008 8:39:46 AM
To concentrate on what you might have to offer, as opposed to what you hope to receive, will get you much more attention from a prospective Domina.

My boy cooks, gives manicures/pedicures, and many other service-oriented tasks. As a result, I am happy, feel loved, and am very interested in incorporating his needs and desires into our relationship.

Approach with what you have to offer, or don't approach at all.

10/25/2008 11:41:52 PM
Giving a tear-inducing spanking allows my boy the opportunity to live his submission. It clears away the detrimental energy that might be clinging to him, and refreshes his soul with the love we exchange during and after the activity.

The resulted energetic openess he experiences, feeds My soul's desire for a deep heart connection. We continue to be wrapped in each other's spiritual essence, for hours after leaving each other's physical presence.

He is amazing, and I am most Blessed.

10/13/2008 7:08:05 AM
Thank you to all that offer, but I'm not looking for a slave, online, or otherwise.

9/30/2008 5:23:21 PM
My new boy is an absolute delight. We have an amazing connection not only in regards to Power Exchange, but in so many areas of the vanilla realm as well. I don't anticipate actively searching any time in the near future, however, if you are local and bi, do say hello :)

9/13/2008 1:02:49 PM
Gentleman - If you take the time to send me an email, do be polite enough to sign your name. If you don't, I'm really not inclined to answer.

7/23/2008 6:45:58 AM
Getting ready for Thunder in the Mountains with great anticipation. I look forward to meeting many new friends, and spending quality time with those already known.

6/17/2008 5:38:41 PM
The submissive (s) I seek is proud and confident. I am not into degradation, so if that is what you seek, please pass me by. I do love humiliation, so you should understand the difference. Approach me with intelligence; we haven't negotiated a power exchange, and you haven't earned the right to sit at My feet.

5/12/2008 9:13:30 PM
"Tell Me what you think, not what you think I want to hear" ~N

5/4/2008 3:17:22 PM
To those who would contact me from outside my area; Please have an interest in relocating to Colorado; other than myself. I appreciate you not wasting time - Mine or yours.

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 Age: 37
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