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Behold! I have daddy issues. Severe and debilitating father issues which make it impossible to separate romantic or sexual relationships from those of dominance, control and subservience.

I am here to cultivate sincere connections. From every person you meet, there is something to be experienced that you would have never been able to do so before you met them.

Nobody can fulfill their role in this lifestyle without coming to understand their partner's mind, body and spirit. The dark has as much right to exist as the light. Understanding this, I will explore you without judgment but you must be transparent. People slowly reveal themselves over time; may as well bite the bullet and get it over with. Doing so provides each other the opportunity to make informed decisions.

Admittedly, I'm kind of picky. A major obstacle to romantic goals is that once a Man becomes aware of pathology that goes along with kink and submission, that's the moment his ideas of me transform from one of a potential partner into that of just an object.. but the lifestyle is an important layer needed to be emotionally fulfilled and physically satiated. A state of affairs known technically as the "double-bind."

Yea, we can be just kinky "friends" so long as you've got something I want; true story. Honestly, I would really love to experience "hung" or men who enjoy inflicting orgasm torture. Tried the sugardaddy thing once and it just wasn't for me; I am tired of waking up alone.
10/31/2017 8:16:03 PM
A guy that can lift and carry me, toss around like a ragdoll... That's gooder than hell!
10/30/2017 2:05:48 PM
I just don't get how a guy can have a real woman in front of him but miss that connection in order to continue going on and on with those baiters who demand iTunes cards and gifts.  Should I feel bad for the poor bastard?


yes, the iTunes card is the new currency of choice for scammers.  they can be used anywhere in the world to take cash out of ATMs.
10/28/2017 6:31:46 PM

 

A person is put in a double-bind by a command or request which contains a concealed contradiction. This is a damned-if-you-do and damned-if-you-don't situation which arises constantly in human relations. The social double-bind game can be phrased in several ways: The first rule of this game is that it is not a game.
Everyone must play.
You must love us.
You must go on living.
Be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role.
Control yourself and be natural.
Try to be sincere.
Essentially, this game is a demand for spontaneous behavior of certain kinds. Living, loving, being natural or sincere—all these are spontaneous forms of behavior: they happen "of themselves" like digesting food or growing hair. As soon as they are forced they acquire
that unnatural, contrived, and phony atmosphere which everyone deplores—weak and scentless like forced flowers and tasteless like forced fruit. Life and love generate effort, but effort will not generate them. Faith—in life, in other people, and in oneself—is the attitude of allowing the spontaneous to be spontaneous, in its own way and in its
own time.

10/27/2017 8:03:58 PM
The dark has as much right to exist as the light, they are two sides of the same coin, one cannot exist without the other. Like night and day, without good we would not recognise bad and without bad, we would not truly appreciate good.

I think that t
he two are so intimately and intricately connected that sometimes even in our most selfless actions there is a small seed of darkness lurking behind the scenes, and often some of the most despicable acts have been done with the best of intentions.

Trying to not lean to far one way or the other seems to be the most healthy and natural way to be in harmony, this way you are not fighting against yourself, your nature, the universe, or others! Balance!

A favorite saying of mine is " one can be blinded by brilliant light as effectively as by darkness"
10/27/2017 8:01:41 PM
Got baggage?  There are two ways of understanding an experience. The first is to compare it with the memories of other experiences, and so to name and define it. This is to interpret it in accordance with the dead and the past. The second is to be aware of it as it is, as when, in the intensity of joy, we forget past and future, let the present be all, and then do not even stop to think "I am happy."
10/27/2017 8:00:33 PM

By replacing fear of the unknown with curiosity we open ourselves up to an infinite stream of possibility. We can let fear rule our lives or we can become childlike with curiosity, pushing our boundaries, leaping out of our comfort zones, and accepting what life puts before us.

6/28/2017 6:28:35 PM
I have a thing for poking fun at executives then luring them into the slums.  LaughingLaughingLaughing  I guess it makes me feel powerful... everybody wants to feel powerful, even the bottoms.
6/28/2017 1:01:49 PM
The kitchen scene where Hannibal cuts his own hand off instead of hers is the most romantic thing I have ever seen.  A psychopath displaying wanton disregard for human life and despite that he cannot bring himself to harm his beautiful nemesis.  That red-headed hussy should have run away with him!
6/17/2017 5:55:34 PM
I spent a few years on the street.  It took a good while to rebuild my life back to a 1 bedroom apartment and two jobs.  It was a dark time because I wanted to work more but nobody would give me a chance. Now simple things like a home cooked casserole or spot to garden make me smile.  I'd like to find someone who appreciates the virtues of manual labor and making your own way.  Dirty hands means clean money.  Lots of people my age still depend on handouts or bankrolling from their parents to absolve them of responsibility for their own choices; this might be my biggest turnoff.
6/17/2017 4:41:33 PM
Must be D&D Free?  Could not agree more; this is perhaps the most important item in my criterion. Yes, I am dungeons and dragons free.
10/6/2016 10:16:08 AM

The cabinets in my house are always open... all of them.

8/7/2016 3:19:54 PM
Why do men that disgust us understand us much better than those who we are attracted to or love?
8/7/2016 3:13:56 PM
Beautiful women like to be taken by ugly men. Of course, nobody admits that. There has to be a force of attraction. And that attraction is not between a man and a woman... That would be too simple. That attraction is between beauty and ugliness. Beauty is nourished by disgracefulness, there's a friction between them.
7/15/2016 2:44:38 PM
Two solicitors come to my door today and first thing they asked, "Is your mom home?"  No, this is my place and I am almost 30 years old.  mkay.
6/28/2016 5:26:10 PM
I quit smoking about a month ago and ended up putting on some hostess twinkie pounds... twizzlers contributed too.  You better like it.  Built for comfort, not for speed.
5/26/2016 9:03:01 PM
Guys are so funny opening with dick pics... even funnier in that they're all dicks that if I put the head on the head of a pin, it would roll around like a marble on a 4 lane highway.
5/26/2016 8:12:44 PM


Turns out there's a lot of bad asses out there flipping coins.
5/12/2016 11:56:09 AM
This morning there was no shampoo so I used the dog's stuff.
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 Age: 19
 Town, Delaware