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My rule is to get to know you a bit before I play. This is non-negotiable. This includes meeting in a public place first, dicussing the scene, going over limits, establishing trust, and then, if we agree, setting a time to play. I have found when I veer from this course, resentments and anger are the general result.
Ultimately I'm looking for a LTR with someone who can sub in the bedroom (well, in public too) & also develop a more traditional bond in life, while being intelligently flexible enough to walk the balance between a solid D/s relationship and an adult partnership.
I was mentored in 98, & have been active in the leather community in Seattle, on & off, for about ten years. Willing to train, and would prefer someone who, 1. has had training; &/or 2. has experimented; &/or 3. read a book on the subject.
I tend to like guys either on the slender side, flexible and fun; or on the beefy/ musc side, so much fun to dominate.
Some requirements for an ideal s:
Has an accessible ass;
Is playful in and out of the bedroom;
Willing to serve at socials, whether collegiate, queer, holiday or whatever;
Is willing to be protected;
Pulls me aside if there's something I should know about someone/ something in a situation (has my best interests at heart);
Learns to trust me to push his boundaries;
Pushes mine;
Makes me continue to have to learn;
Yeah, you have to like rope; and
Has an accessible ass.
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How I like to proceed:
Generally: after e-contact, we can chat by phone and then, if appropriate, set up a time to meet for coffee, tea, or whatever and 1. see if we hit it off; 2. assuming yes, figure out what our goals are with each other and if they're compatible; and 3. if so, make a plan.
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I like guys who are trained/trainable. Sometimes what I mean by that are guys who are thoughtful. For example, new guys usually initiate email to me with 'Sir' or 'Master.' I have an unusual first name. One guy emailed me and asked "do you prefer I call you 'Sir' or 'Night'? I was more turned on by his interest and thoughtful question. A vicarious example: There is a well respected female dom (pity those who call her domme) in the community. Women are always coming up to her and calling her 'Madam' or 'Mistress.' One day a pretty-young-thing came up to her and said, "I've heard people calling you 'Madam' and 'Mistress,' which to you prefer?" TWO POINTS: One, for observation before assuming and two, for ASKING the question (major). The dom's response was, ''I prefer 'Sir'." They are together to this day. When out, the sub is still looked upon by strangers slighly askance for calling her dom "Sir." It works for them. |
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| Age: 99 |
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New York |
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