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http://theladysupernova.blogspot.com/2017/05/what-i-want.html |
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New blog: www.theladysupernova.blogspot.com |
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Looking forward to tonight. https://fetlife.com/events/536045 |
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wow do I want someone at my feet right now
If you are interested in serving me and feel comfortable filling it out, I made this handy dandy form so that my brain can keep track of people. https://goo.gl/forms/iDXCQqcXbnW1R7YF2 |
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Your main profile photo should never be of your penis. |
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So I read people's profiles and I read the messages they send me. I ask that people show me that they recognize I am a real person and still I get form letters. I especially hate the ones that call me Mistress or say that they are already submitting to me. No. Your not. I allow very few people to submit to me and you have a long way to go before you are at my feet. |
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If you are interested in serving me and feel comfortable filling it out, I made this handy dandy form so that my brain can keep track of people. https://goo.gl/forms/iDXCQqcXbnW1R7YF2 |
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There is someone on here that is castrated. I am fascinated. I feel like he would be like a Eunuch from the olden times serving his mistress. Keeping her dungeon stocked. |
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As I search for a more enduring relationship I will consider play partners able to drive, able to take a beating and those interested in bi play. Should be able to host. |
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Happily married jewish nerdy book lover pre-nurse seeks sub for friendship and kinky adventures.
Below is a long winded rant. You should read it and then send me a message with your answers.
Things you should know:
I do not accept subs immediately. I have a full busy life and find that the people I find interesting are the ones that get a meeting. Usually that involves some combination of: intelligence, geekyness, cute pictures. I'll text with you possibly talk on the phone and ONLY then will I meet you in person. The process before you meet me can take weeks because I have limited free time. Be aware. I seek real time partners only. If you are in the process of moving to NYC then feel free to message me but I don't want anyone moving for me. I just got out of something and I am moving extra slow. 'We apologize for the inconvenience ' (brownie points for getting this reference)
I understand that subs get scared so everyone gets ONE time to freak out, ghost and beg me to consider them again. ONE. After that we are done. Consider yourself warned.
What I ultimately want is a sub that I have an ongoing relationship with. A sub that can say this is my Mistress. I think collaring is too much for me but what do I know. That would take years for me. I am ok if you have a vanilla partner(if they know about me) or kids or whatever. Probably even fine for you to have other play partners. I want their to be components of overall control that take into account our real vanilla lives. Mine is busy. I work got to school am married and involved with my community. Kink is not my life. It is something I enjoy immensely. I expect aspects of intellectual physical sexual and fiscal control/service. Please have your emotional health in check and a full life outside of kink. I want someone I can trust and expand my own limits with.
Things I especially enjoy:
Impact play: hard enough to leave bruises and marks.
Orgasm control: including edging, chastity.
For men: bi play. Teaching straight men to suck cock. Going slowly until they are comfortable and waiting till they beg me.
Anal play: not including strapons. I don't need a penis.
Running my errands
Gifts -especially ones that include my husband such as dinner or shows. I had a sub buy him a suit once. That was super hot. Point being kink takes a lot of time and energy and I enjoy being shown that that energy is appreciated. Side note: I don't do sessions. I appreciate that women that do but that's not me. DON'T ASK.
Do I want you to buy me fun things. Yes. I will not ask you to do this until we establish trust.
I will not have sex, including oral, with you.
Let me repeat that again. I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOU.
I also do not seek a romantic partner since I am already happily married. And yes, he knows.
Answer these questions:
I identify as a:
Male/female/trans/gq/other
I identify as a:
Submissive/slave/switch/other:
I am seeking:
A play partner
A mistress
An owner
Or fill in:
I am currently:
Partnered and my partner doesn't know about my kink
Upartnered
Partnered and does know about my kink
Best describes me:
-Complete novice, only done it online
-Some experience with a girlfriend and want a woman to have kinky fun with
- some experience with a girlfriend and I want to be trained to be controlled deeply by you
-extensive experience but need more training
-extensive experience and can handle a lot of pain
I'm a real person- show me that you understand that. That I am not a fetish pez dispenser and certainly not YOUR fetish pez dispenser.
I live in: neighborhood , city , state
I live alone/with roommates/with my partner/with a pet
If I have roommates or live further than 1/2 hr from Barclay's center I am able to pay for dungeon space yes/no
Tell me about your experience:
What are your hard limits: ex no marks at alleast, no bi play etc. That being said I do not expect to do anything like this off the bat.
Tell me why you wrote to ME. Not why you want a domme or how good of a servant you will be but what it was about ME that intrigued you.
Tell me about you. Your ideal relationship. NOT a list of your kinks. Although knowing if any of mine are on your no list would be helpful.
Bonus points for: local to Barclay's area in Brooklyn and able to host. Sci first fantasy readers.
I get that this seems bitchy. I do. But I don't have a ton of free time. If you are unwilling to fill out my form I doubt you will be a willing sub.
At this time I already have a complete novice and do not have room for more. Sorry. I know it's hard to find someone and I believe me you will.
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Seriously ...... is NOT the end of a sentence. I promise. Also there is a magical thing called spell check. AND I do not do sessions. I recommend you contact one of the many others who do. |
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Realized that I am super shy in some ways. Usually just view people's full profile and hope that they message me. |
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Dear Purple Passion, you are the best! |
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If you have absolutely no experience other than porn and reading I highly recommend you go see a pro domme prior to seeking other relationships. Sure getting restrained and whipped sounds hot (and it is) but your wrists chafe and sometimes the dommes arm gets tired ( hitting people is hard! Get it. It's a pun. |
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I am a real person. I find kink fascinating and think about it a lot. I don't want you to call me Mistress the first time you message me. Using that title is something few get to do. |
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Do I prefer cane or crop? Tough questions. |
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Thinking about having a female sub with her hands winched up crying out asI pinch her nipples and force her to come with a vibrator. Maybe my gloved hands as well? |
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I just got kik. Not sure it's purpose exactly. |
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I do not understand men who have a picture of their penis as their profile photo |
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Can you identify as a nice person and be sadistic? |
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I want to beat someone until they bruise |
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Went to the dungeon last night with a sub. Now all I can think about is bdsm. #lifeproblems |
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Thinking about having a hot little sub squirm beneath my whip. |
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Thinking of meeting with new subs and getting excited. How long will it take to break them? Will they want to participate in bi play? |
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Looking at female lesbian sub profiles and pictures one on her knees scrubbing my floor... while in a cute little french maid profile. Hmm... still haven't topped a woman on my own... |
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I feel like I should tell my single friends that there all these men on here looking for female led relationships |
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Starting to think about bdsm again which is great. So grateful that I can talk to my husband when I am frustrated about subs. |
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What does it mean to trust someone? In the ethical slut she talks about how after a scene she is afraid of her own dominance. How she needed her sub to reassure her that she wasn't an awful person for what she had done to her sub. Perhaps that is what a D/s friendship would look like. |
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I want someone that I can be friends with, who I can destroy mentally and physically and then have them still be friends with me. I want someone I respect. |
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I wonder. Everyone says they want their domme to be their number one priority. Shouldn't YOU be your number one priority? |
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If you like what you read:
Here is a sample of how to write to me
Hello Ms. A,
My name is blank (initials are fine). I am X years old. Your profile caught my eye because you are beautiful and you are also interested in bi play/corporal punishment/edging or whatever the reason is. I live in _____ and can/cannot host. If you can't host please tell me why Can host means you have no roommates. My experience consists of ____________. I understand that you do not allow your submissives to worship your body. I am looking for________.
I look forward to your consideration.
A |
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I really need a sub that can host so I can have fantastic bdsm group get togethers. |
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I am now accepting applications for FEMALE housegirls. My husband will allow someone to come clean our house if they are female. |
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Perhaps I should ammendment my profile. I am looking for someone who lives in Brownstone Brooklyn and is in their 30-60s, can host and craves being on their knees. You should understand that I don't have sexual contact with subs. I enjoy gifts but don't expect them. I don't want to do sessions and it will take me a while to open up and trust that you will stick around. I will push your limits but never go beyond. One of my favorite experiences was having a sub eat their cum for the first time at my urging. I love leaving marks on your body. Watching you edge while restrained and having you beg to cum. Such delicious fantasies.... |
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Where are all the local Brooklynews subs? Bonus if you can host. I'm also looking for a female housesub. How I wish I could convince my husband to play with you too. |
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I understand people who decide to do this for money instead after all of 5he disappointment. |
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Apparently it's because usually when people want you to email it is because they want money. I just hate collarspace's user interface and I don't always I just badly want to beat someone. Ideally someone local. A lovely sub from Las Vegas clarified the situation. Thanks! |
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Someone blocked me because I told them to email me. I am super confused. I hate the collarspace interface and much prefer gmails. Oh well. Their loss. |
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Dear Florida subs, who wants a visitor? |
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Dear Florida subs, who wants a visitor? |
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Got to play with SN last night. Yay for collarspace actually working! |
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New blog post about both E and S. E who I met right here on collarspace http://searchingforasub.blogspot.com/ |
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I hate it when slaves lie |
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It seems like I have spoken to all the local subs since I am no longer getting emails. sigh. |
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Well, maybe this whole email screening thing has some merit. Keeping fingers crossed. Also, S now has 3 cocks to suck :) |
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Unexplained dizziness is probably not a good thing. |
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Spoke with a promising sub tonight. He asked me who would be hit harder, him or S. I had no answer. S is owed some lashings thought... |
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I feel like I keep deleting messages from people who are fake. so depressing. |
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I am disappointed. I keep getting weird requests from people all over the world to " promote myself on twitter to get paypigs" wtf? When I met a submissive in person he had videos of dommes going down on subs! That is SO not what this is about for me. I want control. I want my sub to think about every action that he does and if it is a good idea or follows one of my rules. Obviously for subs I am just playing with this is not the case, but it was still a shock to me. Also, someone got very annoyed at me when I mentioned moving this to email, which I am confused by. The user interface on collarspace is cumbersome but gmail is easy for me to keep track of and take notes on people. |
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