I am a 55 year old Domme who has been in the lifestyle since 1998. I am a lifestyle Domme; it is not just something I do on an occasional Saturday. I live being a Domme, I am very dominant in my profession, and it carries to life home life.
I work a 7p-7a shift three to four times a week (occasionally five times a week) Interactions with me will take place in the evenings or early mornings on my days off. I often work on weekends and holidays. When I get my managerial job in 2016 my hours will change to 7am-5pm
I am more of a sensation Domme than sadistic. While I feel pain is just one of the available sensations to play with, it is not the only one. I do not have a NEED to hurt someone. While I feel humiliation is fun at times, I do not seek a sub that seeks it as the primary interaction. If yiou so much of a wortless piece of sit, what the hell do I want you for?
Currently I live in a 2 bedroom home with my older (75) vanilla sister and have zero privacy. You will have to be either willing to host, meet me at the Destination or rent a hotel room. I am more than willing to show a sub that I am involved with my home and sister (to show I am indeed telling the truth). It will be a year or two before this changes.
What I seek:
I am bisexual, the sex does not matter.
At the end I seek a 24/7, TPE, female (me) led, LTR. While willing to “date” casually initially, this is ultimately my goal. If I am to own you, I expect monogamy. No, I will not be pimping you out to “forced bi” nor will I be handing you around to my friends. I am not into cuckolding’s or sloppy seconds.
Someone relatively close to my age (35-60) I want to at least have some living time in common. Sure younger people have a lot to offer, but when the toys are put away, there is often very little in common.
I expect safe sex until in a committed monogamous relationship where we are fluid bonded before removing safe sex barriers
Single. No I am not interested in “my partner accepts but doesn’t want to know”. I am not interested if you are married or in a committed relationship. How can I be the dominant person in your life, when you have to run home to a partner, especially when you cannot be available when I am because of commitments.
I am not looking for the perfection of body. I expect healthy, drug and disease free, only casual drinker. I expect good hygiene. 420 is ok done in moderation with a card.
I have a wide variety of skills and things I am willing to negotiate on. MY kink is the D/s or M/s. Kink/play/toys is just how it is manifested. What to one sub (spanking) could be edge play another (being single tailed) could be mellow. It is the interaction and the submission that turns me on. Not a certain fetish act. Don’t ask me what I like to do, my like list on Fetlife or Collarspace lists them. Don’t waste my time.
I am currently working in the Sacramento Ca region. I am willing to travel for a 100 miles radius (if you host). I will be much busier when attending school I finish my master’s degree in Management in the fall of 2015 with graduation in December 2015. In spring 2016 I will be seeking a managerial role for which I may need to move. (I am planning to try to stay in northern Ca) If you want to be owned by me, and be my live in, you must be willing to relocate. Once settled in the managerial position, I will rent a 4-5 bedroom house. My sister will be living with me, but there will be both privacy, a room for my sub/slave and a dungeon. You will be expected to work and support yourself and contribute to the household. You will be serving my sister in a vanilla fashion. No she does not play and will not be part of BDSM. Don’t ask. There will be no nudity in the common areas of the house.
I enjoy going to munches, events, the local public dungeon, Folsom street fair, Dore alley and conventions. If you are not able to do this then don’t bother contacting me. I do not however believe in public play before vanilla people. No I will not walk you down pier 39 in leathers on a leash. The vanilla public has not consented to be part of our play, and I feel it is inappropriate.
My friends and family (except for grandchildren) are aware of my lifestyle. If you are my partner, you will be known to them as a sub/slave just by being with me. However I am in the closet at work, and you will only be introduced as my significant other.
While I am willing to talk to people outside my geographic area, be aware I do not Domme online. I find it hollow. If your serious you will need to be willing and capable of relocating to me.
If you’re interested in talking further contact me
