Somone had post a question to me what makes a good sub or person.. I had to really think what that ment after all the bad ones use the same approches the good ones do. that saying that if it is to good to be true is not always correct. So how do we find out. ...........
- who are they : by this i mean their past what makes them tick their friends. their influences who has a influence in their life those people can really put a negitive spell on your growth with this person .........
- what do they bring to the table: job wise, family do they have kids. do they pay child support. .........
- persona: do they pay attention to you or at you . in other words do they listen to you as a person or to your sexual signals driving them like an addiction if you just have one or the other it really never works for long sexual part can last as long as five years before it burns out. ..........
- priorty list : where do you come on the list of priorties.. when its your time to spend together are they attentive or are they taking calls from friends dommes or buisness. are they always comming up with reasons not to show up or cancel things ( we are not objects we are people ) anyone who would see them selves as an object other then scene reasons is lacking in esteem issues fyi .............
- animated: they have a very hollywood persona.. they read all the lastest terms know all the latest hype yet know nothing of what it is to be just them. pattern them selves after someone that is a bad idea party people are like this ..............
- hiden agenders: these are poeple who never give you a direct answer to simple questions they most of the time have messed up or hiding something that will upset you. this is where trust and honesty come into play ....................
- tempers fly: it is normal to get mad or angery ometimes..shouting and yelling or disagreeing is normal.. as long as it is never abusive or physical.. its normal to kiss and make up.. or say your sorry.. its how couples say there is problem we need to resolve it to many times people say things they do not mean never have the chance to talk it out cause outside forces jump in and maniuplate remeber folks its your relationshp no one else its we thing not the world thing get it understand it deal with it ................
i guess in a nut shell time is what will tell you... if it is all about the kink it will only last so long.
also experince is the best teacher that comes with age. remeber that a relationship is an investment. so what you bring to that investment is important. do not let other people ruin it for you. that happens alot in our lifestyle if there is chemerstry its a good chance that it can work. not if you let everyone else work it for you ... Do not be sheep.. be a person be of substance not of sand. be a rock also like to add as of late everyone keep saying they youngers ones are easier train is a lie.. compatiblity is what is important.. the only reason the younger ones are more attentive they know how to manipulate they know to push a older dommes buttons do to the tons of lit that is out there.. but in the end they will come to hit a brick wall as will you see its inside that will start eating away at your heart as they go chase that other person loyalty is a lacking thing time is the test of that so remeber invest wisely find someone who sees you as a person first ds second and you will have what you seek after all it is a investment
