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| Please pardon my bluntness, but if you are not local, please do not waste either of our time.
I've been on/off this site for years. Met a few interesting men, but we were not a fit. I got burned out - dealing with men who could not take a polite rejection with class, men who were deceptive, manipulative, or downright liars. I learned early on that honesty is the crux of a successful D/s dynamic.
Sometimes, that means vulnerability. And sometimes that vulnerability is taken advantage of. You lick your wounds, step back and take however long that is needed to make that a "learning experience". Quite frankly, I've had way too many "learning experiences" and took a complete dating hiatus. Not a single date in more than 2yrs. (Not that I haven't been approached, I took some time for me and then felt I lost my mojo... I have encountered no one that captivated me enough to try again.)
I've had successes professionally & accomplished a lot personally. Thing is, none of them really meant anything to me. I hate the cliché "I feel incomplete", but without someone significant, things seem muted. The one thing deep in my heart is - I long to serve, to belong - to one man. Many see me as strong, independent, and guarded. I am those things because I have to be at times. But I yearn to yield that to a man who wants to earn it. I am not a woman who submits to just any man who declares himself Dominant. I have been told I am not a "true submissive" by men whom I did not respond to submissively. I would never make such a judgment about another's heart. I know myself well enough to know it is part of my very core.
Submission is something I give gradually - no matter how deep or intense desires may be - I'm looking for a man who wants to take time to cultivate a relationship. I'm by no means a piece of cake - I'm intelligent, passionate, fiercely loyal, creative, and funny. I need a cathartic release at times - I crave that intensity with someone I can trust completely. My life gives me some flexibility right now and I'm not sure what is ahead for me. I'm figuring that out along the way.
THINGS THAT MATTER TO ME:
Not married or involved with another.
Straight. Not Bi. Not heteroflexible (whatever that means).
Looking for an exclusive / monogamous relationship. Not poly.
Non-smoker. No drugs.
Passionate. Intelligent. Creative. Funny.
Balanced. D/s is a part, not ALL of who I am.
Chivalry. In my world, it's not dead. In return, I treat the man in my life with the loyalty, devotion & adoration of a king.
Confident, not arrogant.
Effective communicator. Able to discuss bumps in the road rather than shirk away. This also means listening.
Private: I don't do clubs, munches, or share face pics. What goes on between myself & the man in my life is between us exclusively.
Knows when to treat a woman like a lady & when not to.
Adventurous. I love spending time outdoors - hiking, whitewater kayaking & rafting, backpacking, camping... I'm not into hunting or fishing.
Me: no kids, no desire to have them. Much better with animals (I love animals, but I don't "love" animals. This site requires that differentiation!).
When not in "outdoors mode", I prefer stilettos & a dress. I enjoy being feminine and being appreciated for it but I am not fussy. I miss having a man to dress up for, knowing he will be undressing me later.
I don't play games. I don't lie - honesty is black/white - I have no problem with someone saying "not comfortable talking about that" than lying.
I like the simple things - hate crowds but love people-watching - prefer a remote place where we can lay in a field staring at the stars, sipping wine, dancing under the moonlight, having crickets & creeks as our soundtrack. Or a dinner prepared at home, board games, a movie, or snuggling by a fire.
I'm here for one reason - to initiate the search. I don't need pen pals or endless banter. If there is mutual interest, let's meet. I have enough friends. I don't need a "mentor" or protector. If you're across the country or the world, it's not particularly practical. And if you are here on business or travel through Atlanta regularly, move along. (I guess I should change to Jaded&PragmaticRomantic?)
As for intimate proclivities... I have many but I prefer not to share them here. I've found discussing them prematurely shifts the focus from developing a solid foundation. Since so many men I have encountered profess to want much more than just a casual hook-up, the kinky checklist can wait. I would not be here if I was not a minx of many desires and needs. And my primary need is to find a quality man who I can serve, please, and evolve.
The ball is in your court. I was raised as a proper Southern girl, I do *not* approach men. Ditto if you are interested in a trans "woman". No switch men - I am a strong personality who demands a man who is 100% Dominant.
And, to make sure you aren't just spamming every female in the city - share with me something on your bucket list if you are so inclined to message me.
And the profile pic is of me in the Grand Canyon at Red Wall Canyon - I was reading General Powell's account of it sitting on the rock, awestruck that I was there.
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Gentlemen,
I would encourage you to view your own profile as others see it - when it lists interests in poly or trans women, I'm assuming those boxes don't check themselves. If that is what you are looking for, groovy, but I want NO part of a man who does.
If you aren't local, I don't bother to look at your profile. And no written profile = no interest. If you aren't clear in what you seek and haven't invested the effort in writing one, I'm not the girl for you.
Have a great weekend and carry on. |
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I realize my profile is detailed... apparently too detailed for some, who overlook that I am *only* interested in a local Dominant man. Long-distance/online doesn't work for me. I need to spend my free time with the man, not commuting. Yep, I realize that it greatly reduces the options, but I am only interested in one exceptional man.
And if you are into strap-ons, queening, poly, swinging, subTrans, or rotate your profile btwn Dom/Switch/sub, move along.
Regardless, I hope you find that special one you seek.
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If there is mutual interest - meet, otherwise, time to move on. I want a real man, not an endless online distraction.
Add to my "Operations Manual" - if there is interest, make time to grab a quick coffee. After a couple of msgs/text - the girl wants to meet! Instead I chalk it off that he is too busy for any sort of engagement, or I am not a priority to get to be knowm. Girl dusts herself off and moves on.
If only it was as simple as Dom meets sub, they talk, discover a spark and begin that adventurous journey. Instead,I think this is not in the cards and I should just quit bothering to look for that special connection... I tried more mainstream avenues but I knew there was no way I could be content with a man who did not understand my need to serve, to belong, to be lead. At times I still feel so lost, but I have managed to "get by" on my own. I manage - depending on how one defines that. I don't let people see my struggles. I have been gradually letting go "of that dream" - I think the time to close the book on this aspect of my life has come. |
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I find it amusing how complete strangers offer unsolicited insight about my search - involving how I set my standards too high. My standards revolve about character, values, and passions - based on my own life experience.
If you would rather spend a weekend on the computer, awesome, but I am not the woman for you. If you need multiple women in your life, then I am not a woman for you. If you are looking for play partners and to see what develops, I am not the woman for you.
Life is too precious to waste time with people who are not compatible with my core values. I would love to share experiences with a man who "gets" me, but I am not waiting to live my life until he comes along.
So if you are a couple, married, bi, looking for a hook-up, poly, switch, submissive, live far away, wanting online romance, or looking for a slave - do us both a favor and, respectfully, move on. I am here for one reason, anything else is a distraction. |
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| Age: 52 |
| Greenville,
South Carolina |
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