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	My top priority in interacting with the community at collarme.com is to develop lasting friendships. I respond to all sincere inquiries. I have interest in playmates and a potential relationship, but I'm interested in friendship first. I'm also interested in broadening my contact with others in the BDSM D/s community even if it doesn't necessarily involve play. I have recent STD test results(I'm negative for HIV, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis A/B/C, Syphilis). I see it as a big plus if you care about your partners enough to do something similar(I haven't played beyond erotic massage in years unless I have seen such results). If you can't afford testing, I DO understand and we can talk about how to make this happen for you. I am willing to take other precautions. I'm also drug/alcohol/tobacco free(I don't have test results showing my lack of drug use, but would be happy to provide them on request). My photo is available on request. If I contact you, it is because I'm willing to take some time to get to know you. I am reciprocal in my communications and appreciate the same. With friends, I'm a highly intellectual person. I will encourage you to think things through in ways very few men will. I am highly ethical and have a highly idealistic side. I'm a software engineer and a professional writer(I do policy analysis and economics research). I'm a dominant not an egotist or a sociopath. From my perspective a dominant is capable of taking responsibility for someone or something and is really accountable for the results. I have had very positive swinging experiences-and would love to find a partner that shares that interest. I have over 25 years of exposure to the BDSM and D/s lifestyle communities. Now, some of my exposure has been a bit specialized-and I have been out of circulation for a while. If I'm contacted by a single female, I will tend to really focus on getting to know them rather than hop into play situations. If you see yourself as looking for a Dominant male partner, I will want to figure out what kind of partner you want and how I might fit into your plans NOT take advantage of you. I am ONLY interested in an intimate relationship with women that want to play a submissive role with me. I'm also attracted to women that want to dominate other women(which is why I put myself as seeking switches also). I'm also especially interested in women that have an interest in being bred-and want an exceptionally dedicated father to parent their children. I do of course approach such decisions very carefully. I'm less concerned with putting more notches in my belt than helping guide you to the right situation for you. I will move very carefully on anything that involves a potential longer term commitment. I'm experienced in D/s and especially enjoy directed sharing of partners(I see this different than cuckolding in that the male partner has more control over the situation). I am VERY careful who I would share any partner with(though some of my criteria may be different than what you are used to--as might my limits in that area). On my interests, not all of my interests are applicable to all partners. In particular, I am VERY selective who I would apply humiliation towards. I would only do that with a partner that not only consented, but I felt it was helpful to their overall development. I do sometimes see submissives who have participated in the humiliation of others and need to be humiliated themselves to attain any real balance in life. I am able and willing to accommodate potential partners with an extremely high sex drive even if it exceeds my own. I don't see that as a negative if we have the right communication and agreeements in place. I appreciate potential partners that have a serious drive for self-improvement-or are willing to let me help instill that drive in them. I appreciate intelligence, education and ability to get along in the world. My own base of operations is in a remote rural area near Portland. I don't see service as an excuse for dependency. I also don't expect you to be perfect. Please be honest about who you are-and what you think you can be.

7/28/2008 8:20:33 PM

One thing that I think is a struggle in the MDom community is how to deal with the fact that we have so many men that want to be dominants relative to the number of women that are seeking to play a submissive role. Also, we have a lot of women that realize their submissive nature only after they have tried other roles-and didn't get the results they hoped for. I think we have some demographic issues in the US that work against traditional Male Dominant relationships. This is bad enough that too often, women don't get to see the men realizing their full potential. What they see are a lot of men that are rather frustrated that their courtship strategies aren't getting the same results their fathers got from something similar.

I think there are several ways out of this mess. I think it is perfectly reasonable for subs to expect Doms to demonstrate something more than an ability for self-promotion, particularly service to some larger community.

I see a lot of subs that are extremely selective. However, I'm concerned that a lot of the selective criteria being used won't necessarily create the kinds of long term results these subs are hoping for.

7/23/2008 10:37:39 AM

Why am I here?

Well I've come to see the US of the last 36-45 years as an utter failure. I think that the conditions that gave rise to feminism have a lot to do with it. I am not a religious conservative. However, I have to admit that conservative religious communities like the Mormons and Muslims have isolated themselves somewhat from the general rot in American culture.

I feel like the society I grew up in was a better culture that somehow got distracted-and a lot of the changes have to do with gender relations.

In college I actually identified with feminism at first. One of my classmate friends is now a prominent feminist lesbian author. The thing is, when I looked as objectively as I could, I came to the conclusion that her advice-and those of the writers she was inspired by messed up the lives of a lot of folks-so I started looking at alternatives.

I see the BDSM and D/s community as one of the few places where these sort of things can actually be discussed. I am NOT a misogynist. I truly love and respect submissive women-including submissive sluts. I found my experiences with such women at times to be truly inspiring.

Now, I worry a bit that there isn't a real Male Dominant community here in the BDSM world. I see a lot of folks trying to assemble harems-and some are having some success. I don't see a lot of vision though-or a plan to scale that into the larger culture.

I tend to think there were some positive things happening the 60's before feminism came on the scene. I would like to explore how those things might be fully developed in a future or within a community.

I tend to see getting away from the intellectual and moral restrictions of Christianity as having potential postive effects, but we need to consider what comes next?

I see feminism as a failed experiment in part because I don't think children have gotten the care they deserve as widely after the rise of feminism as before. The US has been moving more and more towards a culture in which wealth, social status, politica power and even paternity and sexual experience are more and more concentrated. That is not creating the kind of country-or the kind of world I want to see or that I think even most of those involved would want if they really thought about it carefully.

I do appreciate the concept of consent in relationships. What I think has happend along with the rise of feminism is a lot of women have been overwhelmed by a range of choices and attended responsibilties that the culture hasn't trained them to accept.

Birth control and containment of STD's have been a partial factor here. I see both of those as very positive things-but we haven't as a culture worked out how those really fit in. Add to that abortion, inexpensive paternity testing of children, technology to select the gender of children and the world is getting even more confusing for a lot of folks.

I suspect that a lot of traditional religions are going to crash and burn admist all these changes. Anyhow, I truly welcome contact with all those that want to seriously talk about these issues or other questions facing them in their lives.