**It's all about the connection before the kinks, even though the kinks can be important icing on a delicious cake. ;) My kink list is very extensive, and yes, I do enjoy everything on that list, but almost none of those things are must-haves to enjoy a fantastic girl, so if you are interested and think that we may be as well, don't be shy about getting in touch. :) **

My favorite quote:
There is no exquisite beauty… without some strangeness in the proportion. -Edgar Allen Poe

**Executive summary (since my profile is long-winded :P ):**

**I am a tall (6'4"), intelligent, fit and fun Dom seeking a sub, slave, pet or baby girl for an on-going, genuine Dom/sub, Daddy/daughter or Master/slave relationship, and my ultimate goal is finding something long-term. I am very much open to a playmate or two along the way, but my primary goal is to find something lasting and with a deep, genuine, loving connection. I am very dominant, but in a calm, in-control fashion, rather than the bellicose manner in which some doms approach things. I am seeking an intelligent, open girl, and you can be experienced or a newbie, as I do love to teach. A strong connection is the most important factor for me, and everything else depends on the dynamic and chemistry between us. I am quite possessive and dominant, and I value sweetness, a passion for pleasing and a strong work ethic in a girl. I most naturally fit into the Daddy or Master role, but again, that all depends on how we fit together.**

**One thing that I would like to make clear is that I truly, genuinely and sincerely seek a connection. A relationship built on the trust, intimacy and mutual respect of a BDSM foundation gives me the irrational, amazing intensity of connection that was always missing in my relationships before I let loose "the monster" in me, and believe me, the monster is a caring, open and romantic animal, not an asshole seeking merely to exploit for my own gain.**

**Distance is generally no for me if you are willing to travel (I am willing to do so as well) to get to know each other and, in the event of a long-term relationship, to relocate. **

**I just saw a musical show of the Addams Family in Annapolis last night. It was amazing on so many levels. :) In the program for the show, the director made some comments that I find completely apropos with regard to what I seek in a family:**

> **Why can we not get enough of this weird, wacky, even macabre family? They're fun!!! But I suggest there's more to it than that: This is the family to which we all secretly wish to belong. They are completely devoted to each other and to the clan. What the outside world expects of them isn't even on their radar. ...They redefine normal as something lovingly inclusive, never exclusive. They are compassionate, wholeheartedly forgiving of one another's faults and flaws. In fact, they celebrate them. ...[A]nd the juxtaposition of love against all the weird wackiness...well, that just makes the love shine even brighter.**

**That is exactly what I seek in a long-term family. :) **

I am an outwardly normal, mainstream professional with three undergraduate degrees and three master's degrees. In addition to my full-time job, I am also a part-time grad-school instructor at a top-tier university. I am a very laid-back person in everyday situations, and I just happen to have strong opinions, a twisted set of sexual turn-ons and an intense passion for indulging primal urges, whether they be mine, yours or shared. I do not wear assless leather chaps when dominating a girl (actually, I don't wear leather chaps at all, but I do have kick-ass pair of vinyl pants that I still keep around for Halloweening :) ) or any other leather and costumes. My dominance is more of a natural command and control of the situation along with a genuine desire to help make a girl a better person (in addition to me being made better myself by her presence) as well as my perfect pet and servant.

My interests outside of BDSM are relatively normal, but can be eclectic. I love finding the strange event going on in the DC area that nobody in their right mind would attend, and it was long a normal occurrence in my life to in people "I have trapeze school today." :) I genuinely enjoy people, and in addition to owning you, I would like to enjoy your company immensely while showing you all of the random fun and interesting activities that are out there to be found.

As much as I expect from a submissive, I tend to give even more as a dominant, and I adore making a girl feel owned, cherished, respected and appreciated, even if I may be doing terrible or degrading things to you. ;) I am extremely protective, sometimes to the point of annoyance, but for me it is about weighing costs and benefits of particular risks in taking good care of my property. I have a good deal of life experience, and I enjoy helping others to avoid my past mistakes or those I have seen from others. I am incredibly stable emotionally, without being cold or unfeeling, and I am always willing to offer that stability in difficult circumstances.

I have a lot to offer on all levels when it comes to a D/s or M/s relationship, and all I ask is that we all give as much effort as we can (which, unfortunately, seems to be a lot to ask of people these days).

I do have strong sadistic tendencies, and I very much enjoy a girl who is somewhat or extremely masochist such that she enjoys being hurt for her Master’s enjoyment. I say that I am sadistic, rather than a sadist, as I am not turned on by suffering *per se* (I am actually very empathetic), but rather I am **immensely** turned on and fulfilled by making a girl suffer **for me**. For me (and yes, it is different for everyone, and that’s okay), dominance is about ownership, control and intensity of connection, and there are few things that make me feel more whole than using my property and knowing that no matter what I am doing to you, you will enjoy the fact that it pleases me equally to make you scream in pleasure, pain, ecstasy, surprise, fear, excitement or joy, knowing that I will ultimately always keep you safe and fulfill your needs as well.

I do have many implements, and I know very well how to use them, but I must say that I vastly prefer skin-on-skin (and teeth-and-nails) physical dominance along with psychological control. Consequently, I tend to reserve the implements for occasional extra intensity, for exploration with a girl who wants to experience something new or if I have a girl who is particularly masochistic and needs a bit more on a regular basis. ;)

I am an extremely complex, multi-faceted person with a healthy respect for the fact that we all want something different and have different dynamics with different people, and I am consequently happy being Daddy, Master, sadist or Dom for the right girl. I am all of these things and more, and I will consistently surprise you with actions that fit in a wide range of that continuum.