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Slave seeks lifetime owner. Think Ingrid Bellemare: strict protocols, 24/7, chains, cuffs, bondage, 24/7 supervision, shock collars, total debasement, no rights, absolute dependency, completely irrevocable. This slave's place is at the feet of a superior Goddess. This slave is serious about submitting totally and unconditionally. You can view me as a pet with very little need for maintenance. For instance, You can gag me and chain me up in the basement or in a cage whenever You don't need me. Keep me on a meager diet of water, bread and occasionally fruits... completely isolate me from the outside world, etc. i will take care of Your needs, to the best of my ability, and free you from menial tasks. In that respect you can think of it as a 1950s household in reverse. i will sign legal papers declaring You my ward and handing over as much power as legally possible to You. Ultimately, i will be absolutely dependent on you with no possible way out. This is about a different kind of love, based on control of and cruelty towards the male slave... and immeasurable adoration and love for, and unconditional surrender to the Female Ruler. Keeping the male either in anguish and pain, both mentally and physically, or in a sexual aroused state without any chance of release, will gradually weaken his defenses and push his limits. Over time it becomes more and more docile and compliant and accepts even the harshest of conditions, the most severe punishments, the most wicked and cruel mind games, while its admiration and love for its owner increases with every whiplash and each blow to his confidence and manhood.

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2/14/2016 11:00:39 PM
You Are A Category All On Your Own:

Thus far in my search, i've seen many Dommes refer to themselves as real. i've yet to read any profiles in which Dommes claimed not to be real; however, i usually take "real" to mean that You have encountered fake sub/slaves--in which case i'm somewhat reassured (i.e., since real is relative, i know You're more willing to move a D/s relationship past internet correspondence than most). 

Of those Dommes who are real, there are two main varieties (of course i don't mean to oversimplify Dommes, it's just the best way i can articulate my thoughts on my experience): those who want to dominate and be in control of their partners, and those who need and refuse to accept anything less than complete control over their slaves. Both groups represent extraordinary Women. The former is more common, but the latter represents the type of Domme to whom i need to belong. Indeed, given how undeniably cognitive ownership is for me, i need a Domme who demands slavery... who thrives on control... who feeds off Her slave's mental response to Her authority.

i recognize how uncommon Dommes who need slaves are, but i am beset by how powerful and awesome such Dommes are. It can't be easy to assume total control over another. You must possess extraordinary competence, perception, dependability, confidence, and strength (perhaps that's why You're so rare). You are truly the most extraordinary beings in existence, though. To not only control, but also subsume another's consciousness so that's it's attuned and obedient to Yours... to satiate Your sadistic desires with the right balance of selfishness and responsiveness that it drives Your slave further into slavery... to dangle Your satisfaction with Your slave's service in front of Your slave just right, so that he not only modifies his behavior, but is honored to do so... to be able to take an intelligent, thoughtful person--such as myself--and condition him to respond to You without thinking... Wow! i mean, wow! Just.

Wow.

5/23/2015 4:47:48 PM
The Humanization of Humiliation

So many "men" feel they must appear strong and be respected by others. Many even threaten physical violence if another person insults or humiliates them. They fear being perceived as weak and not being accepted by others. Perhaps that's why so many misunderstand humiliation within a D/s context.

Being humiliated as a slave may entail any number of acts--verbal and physical. Obviously, it can be powerful and erotic, subtle or overt. It can strengthen the bond between a Mistress and Her slave, and reify Her ownership. i love that. However, it can also help the slave let go of the dignity so many are terrified of losing--or appearing to have lost. It can provide a context within which a slave may be degraded, objectified, and debased. One in which he may comprehend the depths of humanity and apprehend his own humanity. One in which he is free to appear worthless.... to be vulnerable... to expose who he is: someone desperate for and lost without a powerful Mistress who will use him, push him, understand him, and embrace him without--and especially without--his dignity. Humiliation may not be for everyone, but it's unfortunate so many believe it's dehumanizing because of how it looks and sounds. In actuality, it can be precisely the opposite: humanizing. i need that.


4/1/2015 10:12:41 PM
Submissive versus slave

Many people have submitted definitions of and distinctions between the terms "submissive" and "slave." In most nations, however, slavery is illegal, so it becomes a question of consciousness and the underpinnings of connections between people engaged in D/s relationships. For me, the most succinctly i can differentiate the two terms, and articulate the type of slavery i long for is as such: submissives submit to the will of others, slaves surrender their own will.

4/6/2014 10:26:18 AM

One aspect of this site that has surprised me is how similar it is to the "vanilla" world. Perhaps I shouldn't be very surprised... but I am. What has taken me aback the most is the social dynamic here. Most of the message I've received have been from younger women that fit nicely into the commonplace social milieu of good-looking. Not that there's anything wrong with being young or with having air-brushed pictures. For me, the issue is when confidence derives from perceived attractiveness. I'm captivated by Dominas that, instead, derive their attractiveness from their confidence. I tend to be drawn to Dominas who are older than me and who have curves. 

Obviously the mental connection is the most essential. So, I don't want to oversimplify what I'm attracted to in terms of size, shape, or age. What I will say is that I'm enchanted by maturity, not age per se. Most younger Dommes don't know what they want and have difficulty controlling themselves--let alone a slave. And, I know that trust can develop better when I know that my Domina not only knows Herself well, but also, that She has thought long and hard about what She truly wants and has come to the conclusion that She needs a slave to serve Her. Similarly, it may not be curves, themselves, that mesmerise me, but rather the brashness and sexiness of a Domina who knows how to use Her curves to tease, tantalize, and control me.


4/5/2014 11:40:51 PM

My interest is You! 

I write that to explicate the ephemeral and malleable nature of my "interests" - most especially the kink-related ones. Essentially, my only real aspiration is to please You (my future Queen). And, as such, interests can change and the allure of various kinks can grow - depending on how much You like them. In the end, my goal is to experience pleasure vicariously, and to go as deep into slavery as You can take me. If, for example, You enjoy using me as a footrest, then my affinity for being obedient in such a manner would surge every single time I curled up in front of You. Often I desire intellectual stimulation. So, being caged or sitting quietly as a footrest could seem a bit monotonous. Nevertheless, I know that I would learn to long for the feeling of Your feet on my back/face/or wherever. I also know that, eventually, I would feel every micro-movement of Your feet on me, and I would develop remarkably subtle ways of enhancing the experience for You - and maximizing Your comfort. Additionally, I would develop immense pride in being Your footrest, as well as my ability to make You feel like the Goddess You are. So, ultimately, that is the extent of Your control over me: that, through Your demandingness and sheer Goddessness, You can change me.

At present, do certain perversities have more intrigue than others? Of course! And, admittedly, most of mine revolve around being treated like property and being abused in ways that many people would find very humiliating. However, I know that the allure only exists because, within my consciousness, such acts have become emblematic of being under the control of an astonishing powerful Domina. And, I know that the real intrigue is the feeling of submission that I feel when being utterly dominated... and the remarkable way that (of all things) trust can emerge from such a connection.


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bittengummibear
 
 Age: 21
 United Kingdom