FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
1. Why are so few people on this site "real"?
Answer:
Actually, all people on this site are real. They just may not be entirely honest. You have to learn to weed out and ignore the profiles you are not interested in. Surely you have noticed that many people on this site pretend to be something they are not. Hopefully, those types become easier and easier to recognize the longer you use Collarme. What's highly unattractive, however, is complaining about all the "fakes" to anyone that will listen. No one likes a whiner.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm
2. I am delightful. Why don't women message me?
Answer:
Men on this site grossly outnumber women, and as a consequence the men have to put in more effort. You cannot change that. What you can do is make yourself stand out by making your profile appealing and by writing polite, thoughtful, brief messages to the women that interest you.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4384180/tm.htm
3. What is the proper way to address a dominant woman in an introductory message?
Answer:
Do not write in a submissive tone. Do not include theatrics or cheesy BDSM talk. Do not call her "Mistress" or any other title. Just introduce yourself as though this was a vanilla dating site.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4410914/tm.htm
4. I write nice messages. Why can't I get the courtesy of a response?
Answer:
Women on this site tend to have their inboxes flooded. Unfortunately, they get sick and tired of responding to messages. Moreover, you guys are being penalized, admittedly unfairly, for the fact that an alarming number of men on Collarme feel entitled to call a woman an ugly cunt because she has the audacity to tell them "no thank you." We're all adults here. It should go without saying that no response either means "not interested" or "not interested right now." Let he or she who has never given anyone else the brush-off cast the first stone.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4336410/tm.htm
5. Should I post photos of my penis in my profile? Should I attach photos of my penis to messages?
Answer:
Absolutely not. Generally, women on this site react to unsolicited cock photos the same way they would react to a flasher in a trenchcoat (i.e. "Why the FUCK is this stranger showing me his penis???") Just because this is a site for kinksters does not mean that manners and general rules of civilized society go out the window. A word to the wise: do not show your penis to a woman on Collarme unless she asks to see it.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4205658/tm.htm
6. I don't see myself as a "typical submissive," because I am not a sniveling bootlicker. Will a dominant woman be interested in me?
Answer:
Yes, actually. You may be surprised to learn that the sniveling bootlicker type you've seen in porn is not in any way representative of a "typical submissive." Most real life submissive guys are just like you. This is actually a very good thing, because real life dominant women are nothing like their porn counterparts either. I for one am interested in all the same things that most women want in a man. Submissiveness is just icing on the cake.
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1239975/mpage_1/tm.htm
7. I am really into the idea of being kept in chastity. Is it just me, or is it difficult to find a dominant woman that is equally enthusiastic?
Answer:
Chastity is less about the relationship between you and your dominant and much more about the relationship between you and your penis. The heavy emphasis on genitals is yet another distortion of reality attributable to porn. If your fantasies revolve around chastity, then you are likely to find that women you encounter in real life are far less into it than you are. I honestly couldn't care less about whether you are able to have an erection so long as you get the dishes washed. A man that cleans... now THAT'S a major turn-on!
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4393024/tm.htm
8. I am constantly emphasizing my love and ability for giving oral sex. Why don't women respond to this in a positive way?
Answer:
The culprit here once again is.....
Let's all say it together.....
FEMDOM PORN!!!
That's right, guys. In real life, women aren't ready to even broach the topic of sex, oral or otherwise, until we ***gasp*** actually get to know you! Who do we look like, Bill Clinton? We tend to find a guy with so much cunnilingus on his mind to be, well.... gross. The smart guys just keep the word "oral" out of their profile completely, unless maybe it is preceded by the phrase "I am an" and followed by the word "surgeon."
For more, see
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4384665/mpage_1/tm.htm