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Hammers and Philosophies: When my granddad showed me the 200 year old hammer that had only had 5 replacement handles and 2 replacement heads I wondered how much of it was really 200 years old. When I see people describe themselves as 'Gorean' I wonder how much is really 'Gorean'. But I do know granddad was very proud of the family heirloom.
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Profundity: Some journal postings while seemingly simple are very profound. This one is the former but not the latter.
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Better late than never: A little while back I noticed a girl whining and moaning about the lack of manners of Doms on CM. I engaged in some brief correspondence with this girl, trying to understand why she said such a thing. It turned out she wasn't very well mannered herself and was in fact, rude and threatening. I've noticed recently that although still a little rude, she has changed her tune and her profile to the point that she is apologising to everyone (well, almost everyone). I know I contributed greatly to this improvement just as I know she won't give Me credit. Still, I'm glad I helped.
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Christmastime in July: All my christmasses have come together and its only July! I've gotten some not so unexpected presents and theres more to come. It's a shame I don't believe in Santa Claus. :(. |
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Opinionated : My word of the day . I hold my opinions strongly because I believe them to be well founded and well formed. Of course I am eager and willing to change them, improve them as I learn more and prove them insufficient or wrong. I am not .. stubborn, mulish, obstinate or bullheaded.
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"C'est la vie" or " There's nowt as quare as folk!": Why do so many CM users populate their journals and profiles with questions and commentary about the alleged bad behaviours of others?. It changes nothing but lordy it feels good to vent ;) !
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Am I unique?: Not only do I NOT want to make every decision for her, I want her to make every decision for me. I also want every breath she takes to be for me, every action, every thought. Of course its for her too, but that's secondary.
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Just another hole in the wall?: It's supposed to feel good when I stop banging My head against a brick wall, but why do I miss it already? Maybe it wasn't just another hole in the wall after all.
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The gift of submission: I'm often asked if submission is a gift (and even sometimes told that it isn't :)
My view is as follows :
In consensual D/s, the submissive partner chooses to give her submission to the Dominant. It is given voluntarily, without duress and without receiving payment or compensation.
Gifts can even be 'exchanged' between parties. For example 'Dominance' is also a gift.
The state of being submissive or Dominant (and having no choice in that) should not be confused with the choice of giving the fruits of that state to another.
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Abrasiveness: One of my treasured possessions is a fine beeswax polished mahogany dildo. In a former life it used to be just another chunk of rough wood with potential. Now its beautifully smooth, hard and gleams and is worthy of the most delicious cunts. It didn't get that way by accident. I took the time and effort to sand down its various little bumps and rough spots before waxing and polishing it up. I made great use of abrasive qualities to do so. Sometimes, it doesn't work out so well with people. I suspect that they don't have enough patience or that I am inadvertently rubbing them up the wrong way.
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On Compromise: Life can be quite full of compromises, even for Me. But I don't set out with compromise as a primary objective. If I did, it would mean that I don't know my own mind, haven't a good foundation for My opinions and beliefs and probably shouldn't be offering Myself as a candidate to take the lead. However just like King Canute I know My powers don't extent too far, so yes, I do compromise once I see thats its for the best.
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On compatibility: I had a complaint from a girl that she couldn't understand half of what I'd written in My journals. I thanked her for taking the trouble to read them and for trying to understand. When in a misguided effort to help her out, I asked her if it was the same half I don't understand, she became unco-operative and slightly abusive. I went to all this trouble and this is the thanks I get !
If only she had asked Me nicely to explain in the first instance or taken up the second chance I offered, between the two of us we might have been able to understand it all.
Opportunities are often missed through incompatible approaches, however the greatest ones are found when the compatibility is there.
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Aiko is as Gynoid does: Bubbles of the permanently suprised look has let Me down once too often. She's very deflated now having failed Me at a critical moment. I suppose she couldn't stand the pressure. I've decided that I'll get myself a nice obedient gynoid. her being bi-lingual is a bonus. This is a hole new twist on fucktoys.
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Sexual Equality and Equal Opportunity: If it's acceptable and right and proper that a Domme can kick her boy in the balls, isn't it equally good, right and proper that a Dom can kick his girl in her cunt?
I ask because I like to provoke thought and discussion, open-mindedness and equality of opportunity
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Indulgences: A wise girl reminded Me that everyone is entitled to try to be happy. I have a weakness for females who are optimistic and positive and I look for opportunities to compliment them. I'm not very good at indulging negativity from complainers, moaners and whiners no matter how much help they may really need. I tend to challenge their behaviours rather than indulge them.
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Seriously though :) I refuse to take Myself too seriously. On the otherhand I refuse to indulge those who don't take Me seriously enough!
what's that all about?
Answers in an email please.
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Consumed: Sometimes I wonder: Does My greed consume more of Me than it does of My potential victim? Should the right one have more to give than I need to take? Is patience really a virtue or just an excuse of the weak? Should that eejit that took the girl to the edge of the abyss and invited her to step over have brought a blindfold and a set of wings along for her too?
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What do do ? Sometimes no matter how hard I try I can't believe everything I'm told. I deserve the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
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Regrets I am not renowned for My humility but when I hurt a lovely and special person I feel very small indeed
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It's not all about Me
It's about you being perceptive enough to see that I earn and deserve precedence. I don't expect that everyone will see it. I don't expect that I can or will want to be seen in that light by everyone. Any relationship should be based on mutual attraction and interest.
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I don't Like Mondays
In fact much as I don't like Mondays, I can't abide misandrists. I do wish that hate filled women would stop sounding off with the oh so obvious penis envy. I have a penis, I'm quite proud of it.
Just for the record, I'm not that keen on mysoginists either.
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"Deluded is as deluded does" I spend hours and hours over weeks and weeks, answering requests for My opinions and advice from a female submissive. I give her direct and succinct feed back and as is My wont, I refrain from sugar-coating when I give counsel on how to make positive changes. I'm seemingly 'nice' when I facilitate by giving her answers she likes but 'nasty' when I say things she doesn't like.
What I say is 95% disputed, 99 % ignored.
This raises some serious questions about competency and of course, Me, being Me, I question her's rather than Mine.
so here's the thing - for balance I'm putting it out there
I need your help here. :- it's another multiple choice opportunity for you to give Me your feedback.
1. she came back again and again even though I was, as so frequently told, just plain wrong - because
a. she is desperate for help but has problems accepting it -
b. she is winding Me up -
c. It's chat - forgetaboutit -
2. Is My advice generally pertinent and not too far off the mark? -
a. Yes -
b. No - I am deluded -
c. It's chat forgetaboutit -
3. Is part of My delusion that it's her life that is in a mess? -
a. yes, I'm so messed up I can't think straight -
b. no. she is deluded -
c. It's chat forgetaboutit -
4. I finally began to wonder about her mental competence, enquired about it and advised her to get professional help with her life issues. was I right to do so? -
a. No. I am deluded that I have any business doing so. -
b Yes, but I am deluded that I have any business doing so -
c. It's chat forgetaboutit -
5. It's all a con job, a leg pull, someone has been yanking My chain -
a. Yes, but I'm not only deluded I'm also paranoid -
b. No, but that doesn't mean I'm not deluded or paranoid. -
c. It's chat, I care but nobody else does -
6. Is this a strange case of counter-transference ? -
a. it could be, even though it's impossible -
b. it couldn't be, because I don't know what it is -
c. thats too stupid a question to answer -
Answers should be submitted by email along with your certificate of mental competence ( I won't be making that mistake again)
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"girls make great bait!" .. Long established hitch-hiking tradition had the girls out on the roadside looking for the lift (ride) while the Male companion hid in the bushes. With the demise of hitch-hiking it's nice to see such a lovely tradition live on in submissive hunting. Unfortunately it's still as spineless and lazy.
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"Accentuate The Positive eliminate the negative" ...
I love to see, converse with or be with a pleasant feminine female. It's a joy for Me when a female has the grace, manners, self esteem, self control and appropriate assertiveness to be the best that she can be and use positive emotions and energies to please or even to attract attention without having to cross the line to negativity. I enjoy, encourage and reward in whatever way I can these attributes and behaviours in female submissives. I don't see any good reason to reward or encourage, bad manners, feistyness, brattiness or challenging behaviour in or from a submissive.
Please help to make My life and yours just a little bit more pleasant everyday. It really really really isn't very difficult.
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Are the girls who don't have web cams : -
a. shy or
b. poor as a church mouse or
c. see no good reason to have one or
d. afraid of where their images might end up or
e. assume that cams are only used for showing off their bits or
f. not as fond of Me as they should be or
g. afraid that hubby will notice it and ask why they are using it or
h. more man than girl and can't fake it like they do with photos or
i. not as gullible as I think or
j. have some other reason (please speicify) or
k. all of the above or
l. none of the above
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When I ask a question, I'm not making an accusation.
If I give you a helpful suggestion it is always at least a suggestion.
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I'm often less than pleased when I see so many profiles giving priority to negativity, lists of things respondents can't do and how jaded the writer is.
I know that the deluge of odious bullshit which provokes this is almost over-whelming but remember that trolls don't pay too much attention to your needs anyway. I'm sure as many if not more genuine respondents as trolls are turned off by profiles that are excessively negative.
girls, please try to stay positive in the face of it all. If you must vent, do so after you've said all the good things you can.
Please also use your profile primarily to show your profile, who you are and what you bring to the party and leave the profiling of who or what you seek as a secondary consideration.
On a light her note : It mite be a good idea to ewes a spell cheque or two butt it isn't all ways a suck cess. If ewe don't no what eye mean just axe.
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I often view profiles for nicknames I don't recognise (or have forgotten|) in a chat room and not as a result of a search So, I probably know nothing about you until I have actually read it.
I may also re-visit it a number of times, mainly because I have attrociuos recall.
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Following on from profile viewing, you may get a 'quick note' from Me if something there strikes a chord with Me. Quick notes by their natures are brief. The brevity isn't in any way proportional to My interest. No matter how interested (or not ) I may be you won't be getting an autobiography in a quick note. I enjoy exploratory dialogue too much.
Any suggestions I make are just that, 'suggestions' and hopefully will be helpful. Do please feel free to write back and exchange views. I don't bite except when up close and personal |
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If I happen to turn up on your "Who's Viewing Me", don't get over-excited or over perturbed. It's no secret that I peruse profiles regularly, mostly before chatting with anyone, but also because I have atrocious recall. Guys, if your gender isn't reasonably obvious from your nickname don't be surprised if I end up on yours but please don't expect anything to come of it, ok? |
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Whatever room 'rules' may suggest you don't need to ask for My permission to PM me, you may do so freely anytime you wish. If you want it to be acknowledged or responded to please keep it polite. Similarly I won't ever ask for permission to PM you. We're all adults here after all, aren't we? However to avoid histrionics and antics I may at My discretion refrain from PMing in certain rooms. In which case I apologise in advance for your frustration, however the solution is above in the first sentence.
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I have been busier than usual with other pursuits. I hope I wasn't missed terribly badly. Whether I am back to torment or delight remains to be seen |
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girls and boys, you'll have to stop coming to check me out under aliases. The game has been fun but it's getting boring. |
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Yes, I am in Ireland, and yes, I am a native. I am a member of the Upanatya sept of the Uí Brían Clan or tribe. We are a fearsome band of warriors, famous for our physical and mental endurance.
No, I haven't kissed the Blarney Stone but I do have a talented tongue. |
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I enjoy most private conversations which I have and pleasant ones are always welcome. To enhance My enjoyment please bear in mind, that technical difficulties aside, it helps if the PM has a beginning, middle part and end aka, a greeting, a conversation and parting salutations (preferably in that order) . I like cliff hangers for entertertainment but prefer My PMs without them. Thank you in advance for your co-operation and company
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I don't like long lists. So all those Experience listed on My profile aren't by any means comprehensive. Besides that, they don't distinguish giving from receiving in a lot of categories. You have to use appropriate judgement when reading them. If you really want to know or are just curious, ask. |
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Sometimes chatting here reminds Me of the good old days when buses had conductors. Its often like an episode of 'On the buses'. Does anyone else ever get those nostalgic feelings? |
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PMs are generally welcome. You don't need to ask to PM but please when you do Pm do so politely and with good intent. I promise to do the same . If you do PM me and the PM turns into something undesirable I'll let you know. |
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